My husband is 39 , were do we start?

By Reyrey39 Latest Reply 2017-06-20 16:00:43 -0500
Started 2017-06-05 07:10:11 -0500

We go back to dr today to find out the type amd any otjer information we need. He went to the Dr last week after a while of feeling not great, then the thirst and bathroom runs became just to much. I finally got him to go. They tested his urine and whatever they were looking for was there. Dr told him it was diabetes, they sent him for blood work and Friday afternoon they called and said his numbers were not good. His liver , triglycerides, and sugar numbers were not good. So we go back today they said to get him started on medication for diabetes and talk to us.

Does anyone have any advice on talking to our children? They are all teens. What do they need to know?

Any good sites for recipes?

Any advice for a newbie?


6 replies

Katzgar 2017-06-20 16:00:43 -0500 Report

I was diagnosed last December and now am at goal(below 140). telling the kids should be a simple declarative sentence its not like he is on his death bed. Expect a long learning curve. Eat 5 small meals a day so the food can be processed in smaller loads. Drink lots of water. Rice, wheat, sugar (in all its myriad forms) and potatoes are bad. I strategize to eat none of that knowing full well I cant totally avoid it. Testing BS is job one, as often as 5 times a day to determine what foods he tolerates as everyone is different and testing is the only way to find out. Think in terms of analogy. replace carb/sugar with none GI foods. Mashed cauliflower subs for mashed potatoes, almond or flax flour instead of wheat flour. stevia or somesuch for sugar. riced cauliflower instead of actual rice. You damage your body (bilndness, amputations, nerve damage, hearing loss) when your BS is over 140 so keep it below that. The best advice is read labels and learn all the different names for sugar.

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2017-06-08 17:19:34 -0500 Report

HI ReyRey,

It is great to meet you. So glad you found your way to Diabetic Connect. Welcome!

Your husband is fortunate to have a partner who wants to team up with him on the road ahead. I am a therapist and often talk to my clients about coping their their own emotions as well as how to talk to family members. I always encourage them to be honest, but also sensitive to what their kids may be ready to understand and what may be difficult for them to grasp. Here is an article I wrote awhile back that you might find helpful:

I hope you will continue to keep getting yourself educated. Knowledge is power. And that you will get emotional support. Support is power, too!

Stay in touch with us, okay? You are not alone.


Mallacai 2017-06-08 07:42:19 -0500 Report

Hi, i would like to add to what has been already said here. No matter what your children's ages the entire family should start a healthy lifestyle ( if you are not already ). In addition to improving everyone's lives the moral support will give your husband tons of help. My wife eats horrible and pushes me to do the same, she buys stuff i should not be eating so you can imaging the additional challenge i have. Think how much easier it would be for him if everyone ate healthy, exercised together etc ( sorry for being repetitive, it's just to reinforce my point).

cmr55 2017-06-07 18:17:49 -0500 Report

Read and learn about diabetes. I was on insulin and metformin. I got out of the hospital had a 24 hour pity party and then took control I would eat 3 healthy meals and 30 minutes after a meal would walk 10 minutes starting out and then slowly increased exercise to 30 minute. I had three doctors tell me I would never get off insulin. a lot of hard work and research. I have now been off insulin 41 months. I came to this site 2 years ago. Here I learned about Doctor Jason Fung about fasting. I wish I learned about him 5 years earlier when first diagnosed. Fasting LCHF and exercise really helps me keep BS in check. In the beginning I followed the standard ADA diet for three years. I found that the diet did not work for me. They want a women to eat 35-45 carbs per meal and two 15 carb snacks a day. A man they say for him to have 65 -75 carbs a meal and two 30 carb snacks. Many of us here have, found that this diet does not work. Keep a log of what your husband eats per meal and see how the Blood sugar numbers reacts to what he eats. Every ones body is different and foods react differently. I can eat oatmeal as long as I have it with protein and fruit. Just by itself would make it run high. We are here to help wish you both the best of luck

Type1Lou 2017-06-06 10:52:53 -0500 Report

Learn as much as you can about diabetes and how to gain control of it. A good starting point would be be to learn how many carbohydrate grams your husband eats each day and gradually decrease that carbohydrate amount until he achieves the blood sugar levels desired. Carbohydrates are the main reason our blood sugar rises. Read all of the food labels to determine both serving size and carb content. Get a guide or app that will give you that info for foods not having labels. With the right knowledge and determination to make some lifestyle changes, diabetes can be well managed. Welcome to DC. This is a great site with lots of good information and support.

GabbyPA 2017-06-05 11:43:39 -0500 Report

This is a great place to start. Lots of good info here and if you want, you can just type your search in our search bar and I know you will find all kinds of good information.

It is overwhelming at first and maybe take some time get your heads wrapped around it before talking to the kids. You want to present it in a confident way and sometimes that can take some time. It is NOT a death sentence as some may make it feel. I know getting diagnosed was crappy for me, but it was the best thing. I have changed my lifestyle so much and can't even imagine going back and it's all for the better. I did not have little kids, so I did not face that personally.

Starting on meds out of the gate is something I wish I didn't do. Exercise and diet truly are your most potent tools. Unless his numbers don't come down at all with some adjustments, I would ask the doctor to allow you to make diet and exercise changes first for at least 3-6 months and see how that goes.

Take it in baby steps and tackle what you can manage at a time. I changed a lot at first and did some cold turkey stuff, but for the most part, I try to change only 1-2 things at a time and get them to become habits before I move on to more. You will find there is a lot to change and for me, when I do too much at once, I tend to get frustrated, overwhelmed and want to give up. So do what is manageable and keep a goal sheet in mind for things to try when you are ready.

We have some great recipes here. Just talk to the doctor about carb intake for the day and gauge it that way. Counting carbs is going to be part of everyday life now, and it seems big at first, but it will get easier as you go. Read the labels of food on everything, even things that you think are safe foods. They might surprise you. It takes a few trips to the store to sort those things out, but once you establish what is a quaity food for gets easier.

My best advice is to do research for yourself and find out what works for your husband. Not all diabetics are the same and while starting with what is recommended by your doctors, don't be afraid to look into other ways. There are so many different things that affect each of us and no one way works for everyone. If you find something, type it in our search here and you will see how it worked or didn't work for members here. If you can't find it, just ask. We'll be glad to chime in.

I always see it as an adventure. I explore and try new things and bring the family along in my journey as much as I can. I cook one way for everyone and the the whole family benefits when they eat a balanced healthy and low carb diet. I try to not make a "big deal" out of it, but still take is serious enough that they understand why I make the choices I do. It's a balancing act, but you are in charge.

Welcome to our family here.