Emotional reactions

Mcamk
By Mcamk Latest Reply 2017-02-16 21:57:25 -0600
Started 2017-02-13 20:02:20 -0600

Four months ago my brother committed suicide. Yes I have help and therapy but I must tell you it destroyed much of the progress I was making in my diabetes treatment. After technical difficulties with this site, I found my way back and am trying so hard to care about my own health again. Reading everyone's earnest hard work to stay healthy motivates me a little more each week. Slowly but surely I think I'm turning the corner. I really thought I had this disease under control but now know it's a daily effort and can be affected badly by the emotional hurdles life throws. I just had to mention how hard I fell. Up again now and beginning again.


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Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2017-02-16 21:57:25 -0600 Report

Hi Mcamk, I am glad you found your way back to us. I am so sorry to hear about your brother, a tragedy. I can understand why you would be so overcome with emotions, and how this could effect your compliance. I hope you will be patient with yourself, get lots of support, and take things one day at a time. You're right, diabetes self-care is a daily effort. But we also get through the grief process one day at a time. A hard fall, I know. Take really good care of yourself, you are turning the corner. Keep up the good work. My thoughts are with you. I hope you will stay in touch with us, my friend.

cmr55
cmr55 2017-02-15 13:35:34 -0600 Report

I am so sorry for your loss and struggles. My prayers are with you. Take each day one at a time. Your emotions are on an emotional roller coaster and I am sure dealing with your diabetes has its ups and downs too. We are here to help. Its going to take some time with your grieve. We all handle grieve differently so there is no time limit. Maybe waking up in the morning and just thinking what you are great full for in your life will help you get through that day. My brother and sister in law will be gone 5 years this year. I miss the Carol/

Pegsy
Pegsy 2017-02-14 12:47:28 -0600 Report

My thoughts and prayers are with you. Dealing with the death of a sibling is so difficult. I went through that around this time last year. Dealing with death by suicide is even more devastating. You really need to treat yourself with TLC and be patient with yourself as your grieve. It takes time. Lots of it. Hugs to you.

suecsdy
suecsdy 2017-02-14 08:12:40 -0600 Report

So sorry for your loss. Dealing with a suicide is not easy. I've been there. But his choice is not your choice. You chose life, and if you want a good one, you need to control again. Beat that nasty little diabeast back into his little black hole and put a big rock on top. You did this once and you can do it again. You are strong.
Please don't stress yourself thinking you could have changed things. You couldn't. Don't beat yourself up trying to figure out what he was thinking. You'll never know. And that kind of stuff will only make you sick. Pray that he's found the peace he so desperately needed. And no matter what anyone says, know that he is with God. He was lost, and God always welcomes the lost children home.

Gabby
GabbyPA 2017-02-14 06:17:24 -0600 Report

I am so sorry for your loss and can empathize with how it affects our control of this disease. That emotional roller coaster can through us for a loop. I am glad you are back and have a purpose again. There are going to be days when it falls apart again, but just keep on plugging. It took me about 9 months after my husband died to get really back on board with consistency. You will find your way. I am here if you want to talk.

KarmannGhiaChristy
KarmannGhiaChristy 2017-02-13 22:33:55 -0600 Report

I'm sorry for your loss. I'm sure that is a very hard thing to go through. There are rough patches in life, but it's never too late to start over and keep trying… tomorrow is a new day, make it count.
There's a line in Finding Nemo that I've repeated to myself many times in the recent years… Dory says "keep swimming, just keep swimming" and that's what we have to do too (((HUGS)))

WASHED OUT
WASHED OUT 2017-02-13 21:20:02 -0600 Report

It is always a daily effort for each of us as well, just keep you commitment to yourself to live healthier and you will always gain confidence and be closer to your goals. So sorry about your loss, but we and those around you still have you and you can do this.

Scared ****less
Scared ****less 2017-02-13 21:02:28 -0600 Report

Jus keep trying my friend i know it must be hard but your health is the most important thing right now. So keep trying to stay on track may god bless you my condolences.

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