Presser of Diabetes and the Marrieg

By sisson Latest Reply 2009-11-19 22:03:13 -0600
Started 2009-08-31 09:35:55 -0500

As you all know last week I was just in the hospitla for my diabetes and this is the first time that I had to stay over night. It has done something to myself and to my husbsand I know what I need to do but I just can't make myself to do what I need to do to make my husbsand happy and that is keeping our home clean I know that's not so hard to do I just don't know why I just don't do it do's any one have any advice for me?

10 replies

Turtle 2009-11-19 22:03:13 -0600 Report

I agree with everyone here. There is so much support here I am crying and this is not my original post.
God Bless everyone,

rankearl 2009-11-19 10:25:06 -0600 Report

i read this and my not so prefect brain kept giving me the words of this song dont laugh at me dont call me names someday we all have prefect wings dont be so hard on yourself just do the best you can do today tomrrow may be better my husband and i have had alot of adjustment in the last year ask foer help if you need it oo hugs julie

BIRDY 2009-11-19 09:15:04 -0600 Report

Don't worry Sisson.You are not alone with this never ending housecleaning trouble.It never ends even you clean all day long.I'm suspecting about some dirt&dust dwarfs who are visiting the houses while we are sleeping :) I'm thinking that they are coming with dust&dirt bags on their backs and throwing them everywhere in the house , hehe.
I do major cleaning weekly and minor cleaning daily basis but what is the result ? Still many dusts&dirts.
So that don't worry. Take care yourself first.I'm very sure that you will again do them very well after you start feeling better yourself.For now I can suggest you to go with baby-steps.Easier things first (maybe washing the clothes , cooking) , then you go for the heavier things when you feel strong enough.

Pls be well and update us about your health.

annann 2009-11-19 05:50:43 -0600 Report

since when did it become your job to keep the house clean? check out Liza Lou on the internet..if your house needs cleaning..bead it!! a home belongs to everyone that lives in it there are no certain jobs for any one individual..when you are down, someone else takes over and vice versa…don't take everything on your shoulders…take care of you first..

flores 2009-11-18 20:49:04 -0600 Report

hello Sisson.I have been very sick and so has my wife but we try to take care of each other and do whatever we can to the house only if we can because God would want us to take care of our temples{our bodies} first so we can be healthy to do the other things later.My blood count is too high and they are taking out pints of blood a little at a time and they finally took a CT.So I hope I will know why I have serious headaches.My wife is still getting shots for her back problems and they are helping out but it makes her blood count stay too high many times.But the novolog and other insulin helps her out.God Bless you and I hope you get better but it does take time.have faith your friend always Roger.write back soon.11/18/09

Vicrgreen 2009-08-31 23:46:14 -0500 Report

When I was taking care of my husband after his disabling accident I was driving myself nuts trying to do it all. My doctor sat me down and said "Take care of yourself first. If you don't take care of you, you will have nothing left with which to take care of anyone else." Might just apply in your case, too.

Once you get you back on track you can do all the other stuff. Maybe he needs to think about which is more important to him;; a clean house or a healthy wife.

In any event, good luck with the problem. And give some thought to what Beadmom said. It sure sounds like depression. I've fought it for years and know how it saps both your strength and your will.

May God bless you and keep you.

Anonymous 2009-08-31 23:15:09 -0500 Report

My husband taught me that if you dust there won't be a place to write "I love you" on the coffee table!!! (A home filled with love is more important than a house devoid of dust.)

Harlen 2009-08-31 19:10:49 -0500 Report

When I have to much for me to handel I stop doing anny then I get mad at myself for letting it all go and I loook at and go what the @#$%^& and get madder lol
then I pick just one little thing like take the londry to the washer just that 30 min later I sey the dishes need to be dun Ok I can clean just one pot and when thats dune I look at the suds and well I can do one more and when thats dune well I mite as well do the rest then Im on a roil and keep going till I am tired sometimes that till its dune sometimes not but ever dent I put in it is one less thing to do and I can rest knowing I did something mybe not all but thats ok and if your man dosent know your having a hard time then hun he dont care as much as he needs too
pease and love gose out to you

beadmom 2009-08-31 15:04:23 -0500 Report

It is possible that depression is an issue. Please get checked. I know when it was for me I didn't care if the dust bunnies were chasing my husband…frankly I think I was hoping for that…


hbkunkel 2009-08-31 11:40:53 -0500 Report

I care more about you than your husband right now. Get yourself under control and then you will have the time and energy for your husband. As my mom always told me, if need be set the dinner table after your husband leaves for work and it shows when he walks in the door that you have been thinking of him. Then try only one little task towards housekeeping daily so litlle by little he can see that you are trying.
Hugs, Betsie