compulsive overeater

By phatgirl Latest Reply 2009-09-03 22:18:39 -0500
Started 2009-08-17 15:55:12 -0500

i hope i can find some help here.i have been diagnosed a compulsive overeater! i eat when im happy,sad,depressed,lonely,i just eat! i always end up hating myself more each time! my husband is 16 yrs older than me. im type 2 dibetic plus ALOT of othe health problem's.he get's so mad or upset if i need help with things. i hate askng. i sit home all day by myself accept my cat(phat girl) which she has helped me alot believe it or not.i just want to give up!!!!! i have been through so much health wize i should have been dead long ago so doctors have told me. but GOD keeps me hear for some reason. i PRAY about it but no answer.

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Me2 2009-09-01 10:07:08 -0500 Report

I hear ya! I too was that way, until I go my lap band surgery. But all that aside, have you thought of going to Overeaters Anonymous? I hear it's a great support group and know of several people that have been very successful in their food control. I will pray that God gives you the strength you need to make good decisions about your eating and health. Hugs…

P2putt 2009-09-01 23:20:25 -0500 Report

Overeaters is a great suggestion. I too have a friend in VA who attended OEA and did quite well. I'm looking to see if there is one in my area.Thanks for the lead. Pete

imsuzie2 2009-09-02 21:48:54 -0500 Report


I used to get emails from weight watchers, so they are on-line. E-diets and others have programs online and support groups as well…and, as you can see, you are developing YOUR OWN support group right here! Reach out to us, PG, I see lots of unconditional love on these pages. Hugs from me too. S2

P2putt 2009-09-03 22:18:39 -0500 Report

S2,you are right on. I found so much support ,caring and concern here. Never have I seen any criticism,except to those who attempt to use this site to "Peddle products". That we do not tolerate at all. Have a good night all,especially you PG. Pete

Bekki Diabetic
Bekki Diabetic 2009-09-01 06:44:32 -0500 Report

It is like Sarguillo stated…you MUST get active. I too am a compulsive overeater and I am still confused on what to eat to stay healthy but, if we don't take responsibility now, to correct the things we can, it will depress us more down the road. I intend to get books to explain what the best things are to eat. Secondly, even if you are unable to leave the house, you can do things there. You can actually get books online from your library and they have websites where you can discuss them with others. You can also get books on art, crafts, and other how-to books to start a hobby. Once you select a hobby, there are also websites where you can get new projects and discuss the hobby. Someone advised you just to walk up and down your driveway. All of these suggestions, do not cost a thing but will really help improve your self-esteem. I love to stay busy and one thing I really get pleasure from are my animals. I have three minature dachshunds who love me unconditionally. They need me but I need them more. It takes your mind off your problems when you can help someone other than yourself. Good luck!

DJ 2009-09-01 10:22:12 -0500 Report

Hi Bekki,
I also have a mini-Doxie(looks just like the one in your pic.), a Min.Pin and a Doxie-Pom mix, and you are so right they are a constant source of enjoyment and need my attention and care, so that does help keep me focused.
Having been a pure-bred dog breeder for more than 35 years I long ago learned the need for proper diet and what over-eating can do not just to our pets but to us as well.I am on the other end of the spectrum…I am an under eater…most of the time I just don't want to eat and have to force myself to eat three meals a day let alone snacks..but just like everyone else I find that sitting in front of the TV causes me to want to snack, and I do..but I snack on Popcorn,(never more than 2 cups), and I eat it very slowly, one piece at a time…out of neccesity really because do to my years of un-controlled diabetes I have lost all my upper teeth, and am awaiting my new dentures…so, popcorn and nuts are a tough chew right now,along with salad and all those healthy chewy snacks. I do manage though, just alot slower and it has actually been healthier eating slower.
Phatgirl…Don't give up,and you have been given sooooo many great ideas here, and you know we are all here for you…and no matter what anyone tells you..YOU are what is important and I know if you take it one moment at a time and one day at a time you will find the answers you seek.You are BEAUTIFUL, we all are and the sooner you see that the sooner you will be on that road to Health and happiness!!

Anonymous 2009-08-21 22:44:03 -0500 Report

Who "diagnosed" you as a compulsive overeater? I ask because out of control blood sugars can result in me "compulsivly overeating" and then there are times when I truly am eating compulsively (selecting my binge food, eating until I am sick (vomiting) and then feeling remorseful and guilty). These are two very different problems and I am learning I need to do different things to help myself. I also ask because whoever "diagnosed" you might be a resouce as you continue on your journey of recovery. Take care (of yourself)…

P2putt 2009-08-22 14:53:23 -0500 Report

Hi,Anonymous this is P2putt aka Pete.I have been Dx as OCD and I was theorizing that my excessive eating was a trait related to OCD. You mentioned you tend to overeat when your bs is out of control.Is that when it's high,low or either? What seems to help you? Your reply has sparked my interest and hope. Anything you can share I would be so grateful. Thank you, Pete

Anonymous 2009-08-23 01:52:25 -0500 Report

For what it is worth, my eating is triggered when my blood sugar is very high, very low or headed in the direction of a very high or low. Picture a ramp - when my blood sugar is rapidly changing in either direction on that ramp, I will experience the drive to binge on food. Not sure if that makes sense, but that has been my experience. Keeping my blood sugar as steady state as possible within a range of 90 - 140 really helps avoid bingeing.

roger 2009-08-23 11:00:47 -0500 Report

i to eat weather i am high or low i have just changed what i eat in june to help with every thing and have put things in my diet to both fill me and to just give me somthing to chew becouse i felt it was the act of chewing that made me feel better becouse i was doing something my body did not want to stop this has helped in the past i could eat and 20 min later i had to have some thing to chew on becous god knows i was not hungry agan nuts , celery,frute, and finding somthing to pass the time helps alot sitting in frount of tv is my worst time inow it is bad but beef jurkey helps lots of chewing few carbs and you get tired of it fast hope this helped

P2putt 2009-08-23 22:56:57 -0500 Report

Thank you,Annonious. I appreciate your reply. I'll track my bs's, see if they are on the up or down swing. It seems that very highs or lows result in glocose not getting into the cells. Maybe,just mabe that conributes. Thanks again.Pete

phatgirl 2009-08-24 11:34:50 -0500 Report

well, when i get depressed i eat, when im happy ieat, when im bored i eat,i can be so full and feel like a beached whale and i eat.i have recently bought all healthy foods, fruit veggies,fish,chicken. but yeah when my sugar goes low ——look out i really eat evrything in site.i can tell no difference when its high. i feel worse when itb goes low i've had it highest at 1,200-lowest—my machine olnly said LOW so below 20 that was a scary feeling! and i ate a whole half gallon of ice cream.and it actually did not help it went up alittle but i ended up eating a baked potatoe. but now when i want ice cream i buy and freeze cool-whip —-chocolate,strwaberry,french vanilla. its very good and i satisfy my ice cream hunger!

KarenH 2009-08-29 23:30:03 -0500 Report

I'm new to this site and really glad I stumbled upon it. I have hard times in the evening with too much snacking. My most recent A1C was higher than before so I'm really trying to watch my carbs. I just wanted to say good luck to you! Karen

imsuzie2 2009-09-01 04:44:09 -0500 Report

Hi Ms "PG". I cannot get over all these wonderful people who are reaching out to you. Everyone has great ideas! I thought, one way to keep your hands busy :) would be to add everyone as a friend, AND write to them every day! That could take an hour or two, no fair copying responses from one to another! I also like the idea of helping in an animal shelter. Couldn't we all just sit in a chair and play with a kitten, cat, puppy or dog? Same would go for sitting in a nursery school or library reading to kids. Visiting shut-ins or patients in a hospital. None of them would care if you were in a wheel chair. And crafting or knitting would really get your hands involved, and if you are a bit obsessive, you might not want to stop until you finished your project! :)

As for snacks, don't we all begin to tire of carrots, celery, cukes, cheeses, fruits? But, so much better than candy, cookies or chips (sigh)…lately I have been freezing a juice glass of Tropicana OJ (50% less sugar), and eating it at night. Takes a long time to chip away at the frozen juice, but it keeps the hands and mouth busy for not a lot of carbs. Could probably freeze Crystal Lite as well.

Best of luck, sweetie, we are all pulling for you.

P2putt 2009-09-01 09:28:28 -0500 Report

Thank you,Annonymous. Your ramp idea may be behind my over eating. I usually over eat, after I exercise vigorously.My bs is on the downside of your ramp.I will track these readings and episodes of over eating.Thanks,Pete

phatgirl 2009-08-20 03:24:49 -0500 Report

it's me again! i had just went into a wal mart supercenter sat down to wait for a electric scooter and i notice dthis prerry young THIN woman watching me after she checked out she came over to me. (i knew why) she noticed obviously my size im 390+ and that i was out of breath. she showed me her drivers license and the picture was her "75" pounds heavier! she told me how pretty i am and she felt for me becuase she knows what it's like.she had gastric bypass surgery 2 yrs ago. i told i would to if i had the insurance. i only have medicaide because i have never worked.she told me to never give upon pushing the surgery. but see my doctors wont even take out the tumor because of my heART AND…i get tired of being stopped by people and told how im unhealthy i know this more than anyone. dont get me wrong i appreciate people caring. but it hurts all the same.

apanda 2009-08-20 14:16:48 -0500 Report

Don't feel bad. It sounds like her intentions were good and she was trying to suggest some alternatives for you. She is right, never give up.

phatgirl 2009-08-21 11:31:43 -0500 Report

yes AMY i would love to talk. im always up for suggestions and friends! i need all i can get! i couldnt find you on my friends list,so please get in touch with me.i know the lady at wal mart had good intentions and it touched my heart i wanted to cry you know.but if think ive cried myself dry. i bought a book THE BIGGEST LOSER last season. it has exercises and a healthier way of cooking and low calorie.i hope i can do it. my dad use to tell me i had enough lard on me to keep me alive without eating for a year.

steely 2009-08-21 13:03:13 -0500 Report

You and I could have the same father. It amazes me that the people who "love" you, can say such hurtful things. I finally told my Dad to knock it off. He looked like I'd slapped him but I don't get comments about my weight anymore. It was worth it, I just wish I'd done it 20 years ago.

roger 2009-08-23 10:53:00 -0500 Report

you must! accept your self before others will accept you! dont try to be some one you arnt i was over 300 lb in high school and was every ones joke even at my family biss i was called fat babby while tending bar. but that is ok becouse i new i was fat and was doing my best to change it bottom line agan accept your self and make up your minde to do something about it and it will happen

Bekki Diabetic
Bekki Diabetic 2009-09-02 10:22:20 -0500 Report

Just because you are on Medicaid does not prevent you from having by-pass surgery. Do you currently have anyone from Medicaid come out to your house to monitor you BS, BP, etc? I have a friend who is on Medicaid who had by-pass surgery (over 600 lb.) and they paid for it. You have to go through quite alot evaluations. He had to go to their psychiatrist for 1 year to determine what type of problems he had and whether or not the surgery would be beneficial for him. He got his determination approved, had the surgery 2 years ago and just this month had his saddlebags removed. He is down about 300 lbs. You should contact Medicaid and let them know you would like a social worker to come out and speak with you. Let them know all the things you have told us, i.e., no support, childhood, depression, etc. I believe they would rather you get healthy than having more health problems. You have nothing to lose! You can actually get alot of information off the computer b4 you contact them. Good luck and let me know if you find anything out.

phatgirl 2009-08-18 22:19:41 -0500 Report

well i was never alowwed to date when i was at home. no phone calls from friends.and always run down about my weight. i only nwish i was that size again! i had my first kiss when i was 22 yrs old.and not living at home.anyway i'm getting to where i can walk (a little) but it's better than husband is 16 yrs older than me. and he loves me (i guess) the only thing that keeps me going is( dont think im crazy) my cat PHAT GIRL! i have never had a pet before and i love it! i dont want to give up because i feel there is more to life than this. i need all the sugestions i can get. i appreeciate all of your help! i means so much!

P2putt 2009-08-18 21:47:07 -0500 Report

I just came upon this discussion and let me tell you there are many impressive suggestions here .I don't think I can improve on any already mentioned .Do take heed of the advice given. I can only say that my thoughts are with you, I too eat compulsively. I believe it is an aspect of my OCD. I struggle with it daily. I am most successful when I am out of the house doing something,anything. Activity for me is a time filler. When home, if I'm not on dc ,food is my filler. Know that someone shares in your struggle .Message me anytime Pete

Sarguillo 2009-08-18 19:16:13 -0500 Report

Hello, Infiromation is king. Ok, now we know you cant walk very much. Ok, Can you get around? Can you make the food not so accessable? Can you get help for your situation that does not involve your husband? Almost sounds like you are stuck in the house with an uncaring husband.
Make out a list of what you want to do.
Make it specific.
Like, make first item, walk to end of drive way (no matter how long it takes, if you can do that, if not something else).
Next item. Watch a favorite TV show without any snacks.
See, you reward yourself by watching the show (the reward) but make it better by not eating during the show.
Write a letter to a friend, sister, companion.
Cross them off the list as you do them.
Make sure to reward yourself for each item that you can complete each day.
Make sure the reward is not a food item.
Make sure each item is doable but not so easy that you could do it in your sleep.

Have you any hobies?
Anyway to get out of the house each day?

Is there a local bus that can come pick you up?

try to think outsideof the box.

The box is your current life style.

What can you do differently?

Please beleive in yourself.

Is there a self esteem isssue here?

Please dont take this wrong, but look at your handle.

I hope that you mean, Pretty Hot and Tasty, not FAT.

Have I told you today that you look hot in that outfit???

Good luck.

phatgirl 2009-08-18 11:31:32 -0500 Report

i am so touched that so many people care. i cannot believe it! thank you all soooo much it really touches my heart. i didn,t think i would get any response. i feel better already! i do have a best friend and a sister i am very close to but i live so far away i live 75 miles from both if them. EUCHA,OK. has no town just a few dozen homes. and i can barely walk. but i HAVE FRIENDS now. it's a blessing. THANK YOU ALL!!!!!!

Inkaddiction 2009-08-18 16:15:39 -0500 Report

Even if you have no place to go, get out and walk down the diveway when you really want to head to the fridge…I take my dogs out when I want to go to the fridge, by the time I come back in I have forgotten that I wanted to eat…I have BAD complusions, if I start thinking about a PB & J at 3 am, I can not sleep until I have gotten up and eaten it, and of course I put it off and try so hard not to, so then at 5 am I am up eating…so to fight it then I will log on the computer, check mail, anything to get my mind onto something else long enough to make the food thoughts go away…good luck, and we are here for you

sita - 57604
sita - 57604 2009-08-18 17:28:22 -0500 Report

Maybe it would help you if you saw your doctor. After reading your post it seems your depressed. I don't advocate medications, but maybe just talking to someone you trust. I struggled for years, isolating myself. I have trust issues, just talking online is hard for me. But as you realize from the response, there are people out there listening to you. Change your profile name first of all, start to love yourself and who you are. Think of all the positive things you have accomplished in your life and then go out and walk. Volunteer, do whatever it takes to get out. Realize there are people out there that are in so much worse condition then you and realize how lucky you are. Appreciate each day.
End of lecture. Start by loving yourself enough to take care of yourself.

north_coastr 2009-08-18 10:11:39 -0500 Report

I hear that you're feeling really bad. And there is some satisfaction in helping others. But I think you need to help YOU now. Even in these awful economic times, there are probably some counseling options available to you. Your county, churches, a low-cost community clinic, also Overeaters Anonymous, which has online support groups as well as face-to-face meetings. Having a spouse who feels threatened by your disease is reason enough to feel depressed, and depression can be a vicious cycle — the worse you feel the less you do, the less you do the worse you feel.



dyanne 2009-08-18 01:57:49 -0500 Report

I know how hard it is and you need to find a group where you can get positive support. Are you able to walk, or drive?? I understand what it is like to need help from someone else for your needs and it can make you feel very trapped. Remember there is always hope, so please don't give up. You still have time to turn things around and make positive changes in your life.Take small steps, like for example don't allow yourself to eat in your room. The next day add something else. Let me know how you are doing.

Darly 2009-08-18 08:59:41 -0500 Report

I am so sorry you are having such a hard time. You say that your husband gets upset if you need help doing something? Well, you need to rely on someone else for help,do you have a best friend or family member who will support you and not get upset when you need help? I hope so. You were given great advice about not being around food and doing something that will keep your mind off of it.
I know this is not much help,but wanted to try and to say HI as I am fairly new here also…Take care of yourself…*HUGS* Darlene

Sarguillo 2009-08-17 16:00:35 -0500 Report

Get active. Go to library, Think about volenteering your self to those in need. Can you help out at a food kitchen or at the local animal shelter. Get out of the house. Take a walk. Start a book club. Get your self moving. If you stay at home with full access to food, you will tend to eat. So go away from where the food is at.
Good luck.

SkipT 2009-08-17 18:56:00 -0500 Report

You have said it all. If I am home all day, I will eat until the pantry is empty. I make sure to stay busy, and out of the house.

Debe Pendice
Debe Pendice 2009-08-21 22:50:49 -0500 Report

Your right there Skip. But being wheelchair bound I just can't get up and go. But your absolutely right about keeping busy. I scrapebook and can't pick food up with my hands because I would have to wash them after everything I consume. So when you keep busy make sure it something using your hands…

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