Has any one recieved critisisum because of weight lose

By mamaoak Latest Reply 2009-08-02 17:34:09 -0500
Started 2009-07-29 18:24:25 -0500

i dont want to be bitcy but i need help to deal with people in my swimm class who are biabetic do not know what to say to them i have for more pounds to lose and i get them saying you have lost to much weight you look anarexic or are you belmic. i have been crying for two days, they say my dr is wrong i am 4'11 inchesall and small boned. 64 years old any suggestions. i need a come back to say to them very hurt feelings hope i can get some help. do not know what i have done excep achave what they don.t semm to be able to i dont critisise them for the way they eat.i jus notice when we go out to eat what they eat. pleas i need your input.

24 replies

GabbyPA 2009-08-01 12:58:49 -0500 Report

You know what. People just don't know how to be genuinely happy for other people. If your doctor is fine with where you are, then you should take great comfort in that. I can almost guarantee you that the most critical ones are the ones who want to loose weight but don't.
It sounds like a good heart to heart is in need or some different friends who are going to be supportive of your efforts and your successes. I have to admit, I am jealous that you get "too skinny" comments, as I still get the "too fat" ones....but one day, I will wear with honor that comment of "too skinny".

mamaoak 2009-08-01 13:18:32 -0500 Report

Oh Gabby dont worry you will make it it is not easy. believe me iknow. know i have the problem of keeping it off. thanks for being on this site and just keep trying that is all we can do. lots of hugs i tried talking but they dont want to listen.

Pat Roth
Pat Roth 2009-08-01 22:59:51 -0500 Report

We ALL KNOW that you can do it!!! hugs!! A sincere FRIEND!! PAT R

Sally 2009-08-02 03:55:44 -0500 Report

Losing weight is hard, and it sounds like these people are insanely jealous of you and your accomplishments. It seems to me that people in general don't want to see a person succeed in reaching their goals. I have experienced that alot lately. The harder you try, the more criticism they throw at you and the harder they try to undermine you. It has even happened within my own family. I have lost 30 pounds since may of 2008, and it gets harder everyday to keep losing and to keep focused, and not pay attention to "people" who keep me feeling like I can't win this or like I will never reach my goal weight. I still have at least another 30 pounds to go, and my dr set the number for me, so I know it is a realistic goal. People who don't have diabetes do not truly understand how difficult day to day things are and how miserable they can make you feel with their comments, especially when it is about something your are doing well at and are proud of. You just have to rise above it and know in your heart and soul you are doing what is best for you and your body. When you close your eyes at night at least then you will be at peace, knowing you have done all that you could to keep yourself healthy. Hang in there.

mamaoak 2009-08-02 09:51:41 -0500 Report

way to go on your weigh lose keep up the good work. and thank you for your understanding hugs

Pat Roth
Pat Roth 2009-08-02 14:44:47 -0500 Report

Me too, Sally and ALL! I am slowly beginning to locate LOCAL folks with diabetis that are willing to open up and discuss different quirks about the disease, which helps me to understand about where I am in this process—-The more I learn the less I worry—A healthy routine is gradually becoming a good habit that I CHOOSE!! I think that the choosing has helped me to learn to accept the dx better, till sweets are beginning to taste, too sweet! My CRAVING for DIET POP is even slowly waning!! And I never thought that that would happen!!! There is so much jealousy for different things, I let it get to me for years until the day that I woke up and realized that there will always be someone out there whose shorts get into a twist, when you excell more than they!! I USED to think that if you were NICE to EVERYONE, they would BE NICE to YOU!

Well, after puliing many arrows and daggers from my aching back, tain't so, Joe! It is OK to be Nice, BUT always be aware of where to draw that line to keep them off of your toes! ETc—In SS this morn, sadly, they still don't get it! But I do now, and that is mostly what counts!! Maybe their day of reckoning and realization is coming! Been there and Done that, but always need to be aware! With God's love to guide you, it gets easier!! Hugs and love, to ALL, PR

Honeydesire2006 2009-07-31 20:13:32 -0500 Report

Never ever let anyone take your accomplishments away from you. People say things about me all the time. But my friends and husband always encourge me and support me in everything I do. If these people were your true classmates they would be there to support you and not put you down. They would be happy for you. It really makes you see who are really there to support you and who are not. Now unfortately you found out in the most hurtful way, but now you know that these swim classmates only care that you look the same as them when your different then what they are use to they want to judge you. I'm happy that you lost the weight because I know how hard it is to be over weight and to struggle to lose it. So I understand alot and I am proud of what you have accomplished. I hope you keep up the good work and always walk with your head held high.

mamaoak 2009-08-01 12:35:54 -0500 Report

thank you so much for your reply it is nice to have good friends without all of your coments i woul not have the courage to go back to this claa and go it alone. take care and hugs your all agreat bunch to have on this site.hugs my friend take care

Pat Roth
Pat Roth 2009-07-31 19:44:27 -0500 Report

Boy, it is heck if you do, and heck if you don't!! Jealousy comes to mind! Some begrudge any loss weight as they usually can't do it themselves! If your Dr is pleased with your weight, so be it! When others are used to looking at us all filled out, it takes some adjusting to change their perception of us as we shrink! (Hope I can get there someday too!!!) All of a sudden, you become a threat to them in being able to stick to what you know is the right track for YOU!!

And as for the swimming, I was busy with Bible School 2 days, was stabbed a few times in the back—YOW, right in church!! I slipped and ate a milk shake, forgot my Metformin, and my BS was 168, not too bad but later it was 156, then another hour it was 175! Crumb, but I was on my way to the swimming pool,swam one hour, then my BS was 96!!!! I now know that I am a believer in SWIMMING! As for the pool, I was the ONLY ONE IN IT for the adult hour, so I finally had peace in my day, and got my BS down too! haha—

Yeah for ALL of US, who at least TRY to stick to what is best for us! You can believe your booties that no one else cares for us like we at this site do, because WE KNOW BETTER and anyone else's good progress, encourages the rest of us as we know how difficult it is!! hang in there, my dear, mamaoak,—We are all standing WITH YOU!!! hugs and love, PR

mamaoak 2009-08-01 12:31:15 -0500 Report

thanks so much with out all of your encouragement on this site i would be a basketcase thanks so much. take care my friend. hugs

hbkunkel 2009-07-31 12:10:01 -0500 Report

Be proud that you have lost the weight. It is a greata and very difficult accomplishment. As for the nerds that have unkind comments, well, try to respond with something very kind that will catch them off guard and let them know that you are doing so much better for this accomplishment. Good luck and know that others are very happy for you.

mamaoak 2009-07-31 13:33:12 -0500 Report

thank you so much his is helpping me to get the courage to go back to swimm class was going to quit.

hbkunkel 2009-07-31 18:34:14 -0500 Report

don't you dare quit!!! Swimming is great and helps with diabetes sooooo much. let me know how you make out!

caragypsy 2009-07-30 22:55:11 -0500 Report

In my late 20 I lost over 100lb and I was told that I was to thin and looked old. Some people can not be happy for you. I am very happy for you.

mamaoak 2009-07-31 09:44:13 -0500 Report

thanks Cara i am glad for your weight lose as well.

caragypsy 2009-08-01 12:58:35 -0500 Report

That loss was a long time ago. I'm 58 now and 300lbs that is very hard on my body. Cara

mamaoak 2009-08-02 17:34:09 -0500 Report

well cara it could be some meds. i do go up and down like a yoyo. so i hope i can stay with in the limits now but ho knows any thing can happen. somes times we get throwen a curve ball. hope thing workout for you.

Goddess 2009-07-30 04:49:04 -0500 Report

The same thing happened to me 3 years ago. The person that put down the most was my own son. I told him about what my doc said and my son said that the doc was wrong. I haven't had any contact at all with my son since then.

mamaoak 2009-07-30 10:11:17 -0500 Report

sorry to hear that your son and you dont talk. well that is family cant get any worse then that how hurt you must be. i guess i should not comeplain these are just swimm mates.may be i am just feeling sorry for myself .

Robert C. H.
Robert C. H. 2009-07-30 10:27:42 -0500 Report

Instead of being hurt, you should be very proud of what you have done, Let them know you have lost weight on your Doctops reconmadation, for health reasons, maybe it will sink in that some of them should do the same,Good for you,Robert

Harlen 2009-08-01 12:50:23 -0500 Report

I am sorry
We never know how long we will be here
try to pach things up
I lost my mom 4 years ago and I am glad we worked thigs out befor she passed.
You only live once
Good luck

lipsie 2009-07-30 04:28:01 -0500 Report

I just wanted to say I am here for you!! And yeah…you need to let them know they hurt your feelings otherwise it'll be difficult every time you go there. You are just following doctors orders right? Good luck, keep me updated…hugs hun! Sheila