To Vent, or not to vent?!

Pat Roth
By Pat Roth Latest Reply 2009-07-18 15:57:46 -0500
Started 2009-07-12 20:41:08 -0500

That is the question, and what do you think is the answer! Oh, my! Consider that I have already contributed a LOT of STUFF!! The best thing that I KNOW PERSONALY and could give some hope to others, just by LISTENING, no JUDGEMENT!! PR

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Bro. John
Bro. John 2009-07-14 10:11:44 -0500 Report

I'm new here…Hi all! I am Native American, was raised Southern Baptist, and currently (16 yrs) pastor an Indian (?) church in W. Oklahoma. However, we don't turn any away and no one is left out or left behind.
I learned the value of venting many years ago. It is like a pressure valve on any kind of tank. There are several forms of venting. One of those forms is pouring out your emotions by telling what you think and feel to someone else (friend, God, Higher Power, etc.) I recommend "The Listner" by Taylor Caldwell. Another form is letting off steam when you can't find a place to pour out your emotions. Some have raised their eye brows when I have resorted to swearing (commonly called profanity). I have always said this is only a steam valve. Others have labeled it "SIN" and further condemned those who are already about to explode from the disparity of life.
Too often Biblical translators have cleaned-up or adjusted Greek or Hebrew words when they translated. There many examples of "The Saints" swearing (cussing) when they were angry. MY personal favorite is 1 Kings 14, 16, 21, where King David said "The Lord do so to me, and more if I donl't…" While that looks rather mild, it is the equivelant to our: "I'll be damned if I don't [do so and so]". I hope this will help some who were taught to feel guilty for "letting off steam" when they needed to. I is better if you can get alone to do it…sometimes you can't.
Good to be on board. Hope I don't scare the Hell out of you…AAaaaeee! (It's a Indian thang.) Nohoobe3en. (Later)

Pat Roth
Pat Roth 2009-07-14 19:49:20 -0500 Report

Ha, are you kidding??! You sound like my inner self trying to burst out, may give a few HOOTS of my own! I liked your writing on venting, lots of good, sensible stuff—I was cussing right and left before I could find someone who would listen —helpfully—-now that I have gotten the pain and anger out of my soul, I FEEL nicer, more like the kind of person I THOUGHT that I could become!! I don't even say bad words anymore for I FEEL no NEED! ha—Welcome Aboard!! Your new friend, Pat Roth

roger 2009-07-15 18:09:02 -0500 Report

if you cant vent to your friends then who?

roger 2009-07-16 17:22:29 -0500 Report

well any time you or any one needs to vent i can sit with my fingers away from the key board and just read and i will not get up set at any of it.

Pat Roth
Pat Roth 2009-07-16 21:50:04 -0500 Report

Oh, Roger! You are so funny! My venting stems from many years ago of KEEPING MY MOUTH SHUT TOO TIGHT!! haha—Now don't laugh, guess that is why I have been coming off like gang busters! Sorry, no offense intended!! When I suggested venting, I didn't mean shooting ME down, but—am OK now! Thanks for your humor, we might as well all laugh!! And my BS have been 108 ALL DAY! A FIRST, so feel impowered that I can get upset and nOT trigger the old BS!! Good night ALL< PatR

roger 2009-07-18 09:03:04 -0500 Report

and i thought i was going to hear somthing way out ther. but i gess i will just have a boring day . thanks for nothing lol

Pat Roth
Pat Roth 2009-07-18 12:49:38 -0500 Report

Ha, oh, Roger, you are so welcome—glad that I can contribute to your boring day! ha—Frankly, a non-boring day takes too much energy out of me, and I had better fire up the old vaccuum and make the dust fly!Now THAT is boring!! hah—have a GREAT DAY!! Pat ROth

PAT L 2009-07-18 13:00:26 -0500 Report


Pat Roth
Pat Roth 2009-07-18 15:57:46 -0500 Report

I realize that venting is so important to our health, BUT what gets me, is if I HURT someone else in the process—that tears me up!! I did not mean to be so harsh on the other lady, but honestly it was 2 days before I could think without shaking as her words were so close to the very issues that I have been fighting all of my life, and diabeits was not an issue at that time, but my LOW thyroid, and a borderline for over 50 years, MAY have played a part in my moodines, and if so, maybe that is a large part of HER problems as her BS was SO HIGH! IF I can't forgive her, I can't forgive myself, and I FINALLY have!
I love the humor I find on this site, helps me to feel NORMAL!! Keep it coming!! ha—Best Wishes, Pat Roth

Wendy Mac
Wendy Mac 2009-07-13 13:56:05 -0500 Report

Pat, I LOVE to vent! It does get me in trouble from time to time, and my kids try to run the other way. I try to keep it at a minimum with certain ppl, not always successful. But the next time I feel a session comin' on I will be sure to check my BS and BP before and after! LOL Wendy

Pat Roth
Pat Roth 2009-07-13 15:46:28 -0500 Report

Hey, that is an EXCELLENT IDEA!! It is surprising how our bodies can respond to the turmoil inside us all. What is so funny—I tried so HARD to stuff it all inside, with it ripping out at times! I seemed to scare people and really, I was just concerned—-Now that I am FEELING better inside, my kids still respond like I am really serious!!! I had to laugh as I was so pooped at the time, I did NOT notice—-have decided that just must be my NATURAL being. At least I seldom have to say things twice—-except those with hoh—-(my hubby especially!) ha—Vent to me I bet that I have heard it before and can probably empathize! I have tried to practice calmer answers ahead of time so when NEEDED, I can sometimes resort to just being kind but firm! Time to check out my BS and BP too—-ha- —Your new friend, Pat Roth

Pat Roth
Pat Roth 2009-07-13 10:49:45 -0500 Report

Thank you, Aunt Tina! Since I am settling down, after VENTING MY FEELINGS on our downtown fire that destroyed so many busineses, affected so many lives—I watched my BS expecting them to sky-rocket! And they did NOT! I paid closer attention than I ususally do, and I found, for me, that after my expressing how I really felt re- some people's attitudes re—the fire, they were right for later, but to me, NOT while it was burning—-I was all churned up inside, you know the feeling, but just excused myself from that particular conversation, and came here to really express myself.

I found that AFTER venting, BUT REMEMBERED to take my Metformin, went swimming and watched what I ate (I FINALLY am getting into a better HABIT of eating appropriately for ME—my BS stayed around 108, even dropping to 87 one morning! So I think that a COMBINATION of all the facts mentioned, can help to get a hold on those fickle BS> I forgot my Metformin one day and it went up to 151, SO the pill was still needed, but the fact that it could drop as low as it did, when I did take it, after venting—surprised me!

I was trained as a child to keep my mouth shut,mind, which I overdid that—ha—- Not stir up anything as my folks were so emotionally challenged—Now is the time to break free—-even if I never "outgrow" this diabetic diagnosis, at least I have a more comfortable approach and attitude for it, with reading, becoming better informed with all of yOUR help—-You get the picture!

Then this morn, my fasting is 120—- hmmm, so no let up for me, I would deduct, in trying to follow the rules recommended. I have held stuff inside for so long, that I must continue my regime. But since I caught a glimpse of a possible break in this BS pattern, I will continue to find my voice, in a socially acceptable way—I HOPE!! I can be rather EXCITED—haha—when given an emotional problem! Well, that is how I see it and I am sticking to it! Ha- Best of Luck to all of you in your own quest for helpful answers to ease this disease! -PR 2009-07-13 00:02:55 -0500 Report

Pat, That is great, I try to always tell my new friends, that I'm here to help, and support them, in anyway that I can even if that means, to just be here for them while they vent. So therefore I agree with you, it is a good ideal.