“You knew that would happen!”
“Can’t you do anything right?”
Or how about:
Who’s saying all those mean things to you? Most likely, your own harshest critic. YOU!
We human beings sure can be tough on ourselves. Pointing out our mistakes. Our misjudgments. Anything we do that falls short of a demand we didn’t meet. All too often demands we created for ourselves and that weren’t realistic in the first place.
If you’re living with a chronic condition, you know about demands. Your condition places all kinds of demands on you, every day, even throughout the day. And with each demand, another reason to be hard on yourself when your performance doesn’t quite measure up.
Let me ask you something: Have you ever thought about the toll it takes on you when the person in the mirror always has a good scolding at the ready, just waiting to unleash it? That’s a lot of pressure to live with. And another question: Is it possible that you might be demanding a little too much of yourself in some areas of your life? And how about this: Is all the scolding the only way you have to keep yourself motivated?
Compassion starts with being kind to yourself.
I recently posted an article about how to be kinder to yourself. Here’s a link:
So, what do you think? Are there times when that tough love and self-discipline veers into being rough on yourself? Do you really have to be your harshest critic?
And what do you do to be kinder to yourself? Any encouraging words you give yourself? If not, are you ready to start showing yourself some kindness?
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