Things People Say That Drive Me Crazy!!!

By AB#3 Latest Reply 2015-04-18 19:16:17 -0500
Started 2015-04-04 07:21:55 -0500

First, the things said below are the things that personally bother me. Not meant to offend anyone.
What are some of the ones you hate?

* Do you have the bad kind?
* People who suggest I can reverse my juvenile type 1 diabetes with anything.
* I was sitting in the clinic several weeks ago. Pulled out my meter and the lady next to me said… oh I have diabetes also. Then goes on to say… how was the surgery? I looked at her confused as I have a lot of surgeries in the last 15 months but I didn't know her. She then said … weight loss surgery? No, ma'am I said I've never had that surgery before. She said but you are so thin…Yes ma'am I have always been thin. She said, why do you have diabetes? I then was a little irritated and told her to have her Dr explain it.
* Someone posted on a support group page asking what everyone's blood sugar was… I responded with a 463. Not realizing the response I would get and much like I have seen lots of diff sights…I got … it can't be that high you would be dead, go to the ER now, etc. I know everyone is diff. no one diabetic is the same. what works for me might not for you. I've had diabetes all my life… I don't go into DKA until over 650. I know what to do but thank you all for being concerned.
* Wow that's a lot of complications you must not have taking care of yourself…In fact I HAVE taken care of myself. They have done studies that suggest that no matter what some people do to control their diabetes they will still get complications.
* Your A1C is perfect so you are well controlled…LOL nope but not without trying. When you have lots of lows and highs it equals out to be the perfect A1C so I don't get all worked up or care to much about my A1C.
* They don't do pancreas only transplants.. YES they do cause I had one.
* I don't know why they don't give everyone a pancreas transplant, it is a cure and I want my child to have one…NO it is not a cure and you would not want your kids to get it done. TRUST ME

Just a few.. Thanks for listening

12 replies

aylamarie 2015-04-18 19:16:17 -0500 Report

Oh my! I get a lot of the same things! The latest one that really ticked me off was my coworkers wife telling me I couldn't eat Girl Scout cookies because I have type one diabetes!!!! I gave her a funny look, checked my bg, looked at the box for serving size and carbohydrate counts and proceeded to eat the serving size in front of her after bolusing for what I ate. Oooh boy did that push my buttons!

KnowSweets4Me 2015-04-14 19:25:51 -0500 Report

I am bigger than I was and I have a sister much bigger that doesn't have it and one much smaller that does. It's not a weight thing, it's a people thing. One thing that gets me worse is my husband will by all kind of sweet's and ask do you want some and it hurts ,e so badly. I hate it but he always throws weight in my face gut he did it before the disease he just doesn't like heavy people.

Mando_Lynn 2015-04-06 21:37:10 -0500 Report

The thing that irritated me the most was when I told my sister about my diagnosis. The first words out of her mouth were "you drank coke and ate candy when we were kids!

Um… So did you. And so did/does everyone.

Or when folks at work find out I have it (just started a new job so no one knew me previously) and they look at me wide-eyed and ask "how much weight have you lost? Wow!"

Umm… None. I've always looked this way. Thin folks get it too.

horsewings 2015-04-06 14:31:35 -0500 Report

I am newly diagnosed (type 2), so I haven't yet been driven crazy by the things people say. But one comment from a friend actually made me laugh. There's something wrong with her that the doctors can't figure out, so we commiserated when I was in the same boat. Once I was positively diagnosed, she slapped me on the back and said, "Congratulations! That's gotta be the best news you've gotten all year!" Well, yeah…knowing is better than not knowing…but still…

AB#3 2015-04-04 18:14:29 -0500 Report

I'm always educating others and I love it as that was my job for a while. I wrote this after I read 2 diff. Comments on 2 diff . support groups. Both comments were written by someone who had diabetes and were giving advice to someone else even though they were wrong. So just got caught up for a moment and maybe a little carried away.

Type1Lou 2015-04-04 10:06:43 -0500 Report

I use those comments as opportunities to educate the ignorant. There is much ignorance about diabetes out there and many misconceptions…both about Type 1 and Type 2. Yesterday, an educated friend (retired teacher with a master's degree) of mine asked me did I have to eat food if my BG's were high? She just didn't know but she knew I had to do something. I explained that when BG's are high, I either take extra insulin or increase my exercise level to bring BG back to normal. If my BG is too low, then I have to eat something to get my BG back into "normal" ranges, or I might also use my pump's temporary basal function to reduce or suspend my basal insulin delivery. So many people think that just because I use a pump, insulin delivery is automatic and I'm back to "normal". They are surprised when I mention that I have to provide much input to my pump to be certain I stay in control. I mention that while pumping insulin has some automatic features ( e.g. basal insulin delivery) I still test my BG's 8 times a day and for meal-times, I have to accurately count my carbs, test my sugar and input the carbs amount into the pump so that it can calculate my insulin dose for me, then, I have to tell it to give me that bolus dose. I've adjusted to my diabetes and control it. Diabetes has never defined who I am nor stopped me from achieving what I wanted.

Jibber Jabber
Jibber Jabber 2015-04-04 08:52:26 -0500 Report

I know people can be very annoying…but it must be much worse for type 1s than it is for type 2s…Most of what people know (and that is not much) about diabetes ,they know about type 2…because so many more people have it…I am not a dumb chicky by any stretch of the imagination, but even I was ignorant to many things regarding diabetes before I was diagnosed and was forced to educate myself…and even I am guilty of making some of those stupid comments. I think we all live in our own reality. For the first two mos or so after I was diagnosed diabetes meant type 2 to me…because I was type 2..It wasn't till I came to diabetic connect that I began to learn about type 1. Till This day I tend not to answer any post regarding type 1…I feel like I should leave that to the experts..others with type 1…and thank God for DC, because just a couple short mos later my sister's son was diagnosed type 1…MOST of the time when people make stupid comments they do so out of ignorance…So next time someone makes a stupid comment…close your eyes and think of me…The college educated fool..( My nickname for myself when I realize I am ignorant in regards to something)..and realize the ONLY reason they are making the comment is because they have been blessed with NOT being sick and don't have a clue.or are just stuck in their own type 2 reality…huggles…and keep on trucking…

AB#3 2015-04-06 08:03:05 -0500 Report

I wrote the original comment after I read 2 diff comments on another site. It was another type 1 giving advice that was in correct. So then I just typed all the ones I have heard before. I'm sorry sometimes I get carried away. I never mind anyone asking questions or even saying things they don't understand because I am always happy to give some insight. I have had patients and others tell me I am wrong about for example pancreas only transplants.

Type1Lou 2015-04-04 10:12:12 -0500 Report

Hey JibJab…I think too much is made about the differences between Type 1 and Type 2. We are both faced with a life-altering condition and much of the decisions we need to make about control revolve around food and activity. As a Type 1, I think, in some ways, it is easier for me to control my diabetes because I have to use insulin. Because I pump and only use a fast-acting insulin, I am not tied to the clock about when I eat. I have more flexibility for dosing myself to accommodate what I eat. The key for all of us is to learn as much as we can about what we need to do to properly manage our condition and then to make those hard decisions to do it.

Jibber Jabber
Jibber Jabber 2015-04-06 07:17:02 -0500 Report

They're things I just have no knowledge of…or at least only limited knowledge of when it comes to type 1…and I hope and strive daily to make sure I never have to obtain this knowledge…I don't know a darn thing about measuring or injecting insulin…or pumps…or dealing with lows…I have no knowledge of what it is like to grow up with diabetes..or have my teenaged years disrupted with a diagnosis…and although I have extreme empathy for those who do..I also understand that their experiences have been very different than mine because the soul of THEIR beast is different from the soul of mine.. It is my belief that although we share many of the same struggles..and even many of the same symptoms…the differences between type 1s and type 2s make me inadequately prepared to deal with many of the issues/experiences/emotions that type 1s have to deal with on a daily basis…just one chicks opinion…

Type1Lou 2015-04-06 07:33:22 -0500 Report

…which is why it's great that we have a forum like Diabetic Connect so we can all gain insight into one another's struggles and challenges. Thanks for helping me gain some insight into what it means to be diagnosed and deal with Type 2.