Newly Diagnosed - and depressed

By av8tr Latest Reply 2015-03-30 13:21:20 -0500
Started 2015-03-30 09:33:07 -0500

Hello everyone! My husband was just diagnosed two weeks ago with Type 2. Although he "accepted" his diagnosis at the time, he is now depressed. His sugar levels are all over the place, but they are not coming down (between 160 and 237); he is taking oral meds. I cannot convince him to get off the couch and start moving! I certainly can understand the depression - he said he feels like this is a death sentence - but I reminded him than in the broader scope, he could have something much worse. I am trying to be empathetic, but at the same time, he's got to get his levels down and only he can do that.

Is there anyone out there who can relate, either personally or through a spouse? Thank you!

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greatcanadian 2015-03-30 13:05:51 -0500 Report

There is often a correlation between depression and diabetes. They kind of go hand and hand for some people. When he gets his sugar more balanced he will feel better…

It os going to take some time to get organized and adjust to lifestyle changes. His feelings are normal. You might want to read up on the grieving process because it fits with major lifestyle changes… Might help him understand that "this right here and now" is not forever.

Some things he could consider without getting off the couch is to start a food log of what he eats and his feelings.

A cheap blood glucose reader at Walmart about 20 dollar investment that is often covered by insurance would also help. Lots of sites to learn when and how to use it.

Walking even 15 minutes will make him feel better… Gentle soft movements for 30 minutes will make him feel better… What about a family walk or silly dance times? 5 push-ups will make him feel better…

My point is that small changes will make long term changes…literally, one step at a time.

Might search Chinese medical acupressure points for diabetes. Focus on liver and kidney meridians. Also something he can do and share with you too…

There are lots of sites he can lurk and read without participating. Education is key as is experimentation to what is going to work for him.

Anyhow, advice worth every penny paid for it.

Best of luck.

av8tr 2015-03-30 13:21:20 -0500 Report

Thank you! Everything you said are things I have said to him. It will take some time for us/him for find the "new" normal. I think the change in weather will help. It was brutal here this winter. He's already started talking about the gardens, new deck, etc. That depression roller coaster is always moving! Your comments are much appreciated!

Jibber Jabber
Jibber Jabber 2015-03-30 10:51:43 -0500 Report

No I am sorry…I can not relate…but I do know from personal experience that finding out you are diabetic can be very overwhelming even if you don't fall into a "funk" about the diagnosis itself…there is just so much to learn…and some people thrive on things like that and some people when overwhelmed shut down. Did you find DC searching for a way to help him??? Does HE know we exist????…Tell him about us..we are very varied here…at different places in our approaches and feelings about diabetes..I feel diabetes has been a blessing in my life because I am losing weight and eating/feeling healthier than I had been previously…Other's curse the existence of diabetes..(which I do understand)…tell him about us…DC is a safe place to talk and learn…and the best part is if he doesn't want to post he can just read…and he if needs a place to rant…he can do that here as well…

av8tr 2015-03-30 11:04:32 -0500 Report

Thanks Jibber Jabber! He isn't one for forums and such - that's why I'm here instead. I told him I've joined and have already found some great recipes. I am trying to remain on the positive side for the whole family. I think his diagnosis will help us all. I am not a diabetic, but I am overweight. We have a 10-year old and she's been helping with meal planning. I'm hoping she can get him off the couch. He's definitely in the "funk" to which you referred. It's scary to get a life-long diagnosis, and I agree with you 100% that it is overwhelming (my head is still spinning!). I'm glad I found DC!!!

Jibber Jabber
Jibber Jabber 2015-03-30 12:15:18 -0500 Report

Yes it can be very scary…and it has only been two weeks…give him time to absorb…I think as time passes he will realize he has plenty of life left to live…maybe suggesting an activity he enjoys…bowling…tossing a football with his daughter, even if it just gets him off the sofa for 10-15 minutes…I don't know him, so you will have to chew on that one for yourself…and don't push too hard…the one thing most adults hate most is being treated like a child and being told what to do…be supportive..let him know you are there..and come here often if you have questions related to how you can help him…I will keep you in my prayers…BTW a big cyber high five for finding something positive in your husbands diagnosis…I always say in everything there is something to learn…and wouldn't it be wonderful if you and your daughter become healthier, along with your husband because of a change of diet and lifestlye..

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