I'm Gone

By sparkysmom Latest Reply 2010-09-06 09:11:14 -0500
Started 2009-06-24 19:20:35 -0500

As some may have notice I have left the site. When I posted about my live in MIL's alzheimers I was told this was not the place to discuss it. When I was trying to talk about my depression and other medical problems, I once again received emails telling me I wasn't appropriate for the site. I left to find a place where I could discuss whatever I needed to. Anyway I made many friends here and miss a lot of you. If you want to contact me I am on Twitter(sparkysmom54) and Facebook(JBear). Feel free to contact me. Good Luck with the site. It really was helpful at first I just feltt like I was saying all the wrong things and wasn't wanted here..

40 replies

Mama Dee
Mama Dee 2010-09-06 09:11:14 -0500 Report

Happy day,
God has given you this place so let no man/woman take it from you. When I first heard the saying as a child sticks & stones may hurt my bones but words don't harm me. I thought that's not true for what people say stays i your memory bank. Where the pain of the hit goes way. You had the right to feel the way that you do now it's over & done. Come back to the family so we can love on you & you can love on us. Here is a bunch of (((((((HUGS)))))) whenever you need more let your request be know. Remember that you are highly favored in the name of Jesus. God is not looking @ the situation that we are in (4 He is w/us) He is looking @ how we react to the situation. Stay blessed, peace to you & yours.

Working 4 Jesus, & Loving it.
Mama Dee

gregsteele 2010-09-05 09:56:38 -0500 Report

Never let one or two insecure people push you to do anything when im here im with family i hope you will feel the same it would be a shame to lose you over some foolish people love to all GREG

Pam from KCMO
Pam from KCMO 2010-08-29 06:01:12 -0500 Report

I left the site for awhile myself - not due to bullying but to someone who was extremely deceptive. Got drawn into their drama and eventually found out it was all a pack of lies. The result? I had to leave because I started not to believe what anyone wrote here. I was suspicious of new posters and any tale of woe.

That is SO not my nature - to be suspicious and harsh - so I left for awhile. Healing takes time.

So, yeah, there are evil people out there who elevate themselves by bullying or deceiving others. Fooey on them.

Glad you're staying. Glad I'm (sorta) back. Some final wisdom from one of my favorite bumper stickers: Mean People Suck.

Jipwhip 2009-08-02 15:31:24 -0500 Report

I am glad that you have decided to stay. What you have to say is important because it will help someone else out going through some of the same stuff or close to it. What all the people have replied to your message is true. You are a valued member and friend to many don't forget that. Look forward to hearing from you in the future.

P2putt 2009-08-02 13:08:52 -0500 Report

I just caught this Discussion. You are a friend of mine and you are important to me and all at dc. There will always be those who believe what and what not is apprppriate. They do this in all of their relationships. It is a control issue. Please let it be their problem, not yours. I am happy to hear that you have returned,as that has established your right,worth as well as an affirmation that you will not be BULLIED,CONTROLLED OR INTIMIDATED. CONGRADULATIONS,GOOD FOR YOU, WE'RE SO PROUD OF YOU. Stay focused and in touch. God Bless,Pete

Ashalka 2009-08-02 12:35:04 -0500 Report

I just read all the posts and was livid that someone could be so cruel to a family member. By the time I finished reading I was very uplifted by all the positiveness of the majority of our family. I am so glad you decided to stay as we would all be less without your input. Oh and when you're diabetic…everything is about diabetes!!

Harlen 2009-08-01 13:44:03 -0500 Report

no need to go

Pat Roth
Pat Roth 2009-08-01 22:55:39 -0500 Report

Amen!! I am still here and MUD was slung at me——I cried for 3 days, figured out that the other person was in worse shape than I and needed to be pitied—finally got so I could forgive her! It wasn't easy for me as she managed to hit every sore spot I had—almost!! Hugs, PAt R

sparkysmom 2009-08-02 09:01:24 -0500 Report

I'm still here. Right now things are crazy. My Brother is sick and Hubby and I are home searching. I'll be around

Judi62 2009-06-29 09:20:19 -0500 Report

I am so glad that you changed your mind about leaving. How could anyone leave all this love behind? It's good to step back for a while. It helps a person to gather a better perspective of the situation. It seems that there are more people that care about you than the bullies that almost made you go. We are all happy you are staying.

Scoreboard=== Jackie 1
Bullies 0

Pat Roth
Pat Roth 2009-06-28 15:08:32 -0500 Report

My goodness! I hadn't realized that anyone would bully anyone on this site, so guess it is the same as dealing with life anywhere. I am just learning to stand up for myself in life—in general. All I can say is, it has helped me become a stronger person!! I DO have the right to discuse stressful topics, and THEY DO apply to diabetis! This world is made up of all kinds of characters. Our church group is NOT understanding of anything—they think that with prayer and denial of a problem, that will make it all better! Well, I am HERE to say, that that method of coping sent me into the blackest dispair I have ever had to endur—-55 years of it before I could get my thoughts and feelings sorted out so I could SEE where my suicidal thoughts were coming from—-and it WAS FROM DENYING AND BURYING hurts and pains from the past! That is one reason I was concerned when I read this topic of being bullied, or feelings hurt! They are just narrow minded people who don't have a clue, and we ALL are here to stress (a good meaning) otherwise!

I was a nurse aide in a hospital, also ward clerk, took care of my aging mother, cared for others in the home after I retired in 1997, for 72 hours a week, and got TIRED!! SO TIRED I could barely get out of bed for 4 years! Don't tell me that caring for others isn't stressful and won't play havoc with blood pressure and blood sugar! I had NO problems with either one until I RETIRED! They call it "Battle Fatigue" . Just let anyone try to cope with an ill person in their home 24-7!!!! And expecially, Alzheimers! My, oh my!!It was rough in a hospital setting with only 8 or 12 hour shifts!!!!

I have found that the ones who yell at you the loudest, are the very ones who have NOT walked a STEP in your mocasins! Support groups are here to LISTEN, maybe offer some advice, BUT NOT TO BELITTLE! For as Jesus said, "forgive them for they know now what they do"! How could they undermine someone who is already 5 1/2 ft under! No sport in that!

Hang in there and KNOW that your friends are here beside you and SUPPORTING you! Ignore the rest and send up a prayer for them as they may have something similar waiting in their world! Hugs, Pat Roth

cyncyn 2009-06-28 13:15:35 -0500 Report

Just saw you post. I was sorry to see you go, but now I am so happy, you are staying. We all talk about other personal things in our life. All these things have on bearing on your BS. Stress can raise those numbers! I am so glad, you didn't listen to the handful of people, who apparentlly, do not know what affects their diabetes!
Good for you.


2009-06-28 07:50:03 -0500 Report

I'm glad to hear that you have decided to stay around. You would have been missed very much if you had left us.

2009-06-28 02:03:47 -0500 Report

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Anonymous 2009-06-28 05:54:39 -0500 Report

Ok, this is the 2nd discussion trying to have us look at products. This discussion is about something totally different. I hope in the future these discussions to help the friends with question and not keep telling us to look at their websites to buy producys on every discussion this is a turn off to me. You already have this discussion up on your own here, but had to add it on this discussion. I don't see the theory on this.

sparkysmom 2009-06-26 20:56:07 -0500 Report

Thanks everyone. I feel so much better. I think I'll stick around for awhile. Maybe not as much as I did. I'll ease up for awhile but be here. Y'all make me feel so much better. Thanks you my friends.

Charish 2009-06-26 21:18:42 -0500 Report

Hi Jackie,

Now that's what I'm talking about kid, I'm glad you are staying, and if you have to step back a little then that's okay. I did the same thing and it worked out well and now I'm back full time.

Glad that you are staying.

Hugs and Kisses


Debe Pendice
Debe Pendice 2009-06-26 21:41:28 -0500 Report

I am so happy. I too take breathers here and there…Debe

aunt.tina3339@yahoo.com 2009-06-26 21:55:58 -0500 Report

That'a Girl!!! Good for you!!! And Good for us!!! I personally do not spend a whole lot of time, at the community myself, but the time that I do spend here has been enjoyable. And I thank everyone for that!!! We must support one another through thick and thin!!! Have a great one everyone!!! Tina!!!

Judimar 2009-06-27 13:15:18 -0500 Report

WOO HOO! Glad you'll be around!


Robert C. H.
Robert C. H. 2009-06-27 16:36:50 -0500 Report

I'm so glad you are giving us another chance, I for one would really miss your responses, as I have had great support from you. Like You I write about things that are not always diabetic related, but things that are affecting me at the moment, and you have always been very supportive, I have been off a lot lately but due to health and hospitalizations.but I come back because I need the support of the friends Like you.I'm so glad your back. Robert

aunt.tina3339@yahoo.com 2009-06-25 18:13:26 -0500 Report

Hello Jackie, I am so very sorry for the way that you have been treated by the so called "KNOW IT ALLS". You know if they have a problem with the things that we discuss on this community site, then maybe they should be the ones to leave the community site. As you were told by many others, you are family here! I have not, as of yet, ran into any of the Bullys, or the Know it alls, and I truly hope that I don't! Because their not going to chase me away!!! I have always been a real shy person all of my life, but since I have joined this community, I have started to get a little bolder, and to have more self confidence. I do not like Bullys and I do not think that they belong here!!! I feel like we all have a strong family connection here. And we all share one thing in common we all have Diabetes. And sometimes we all need someone to lean on. ( By the way that is my favorite song: Lean on me,By Bill Whiethers). You should listen to it sometime. But anyway, PLEASE, do not let those people run you off!!! Their not worth a second thought!!! HOLD YOUR GROUND!!! And stay please!!! Your Friend, Tina!!!

Charish 2009-06-25 16:55:34 -0500 Report

Hi Jackie,

Its ashame that you had to be subjected to this type of behavior and I would like to extend and apology to you on the behave of those who are not concerned of that small group of people who have issues that go beyond there own circumstances and fail to value you for your desire to share and assist others here. But I certainly understand what you feel and why you feel that leaving was or is the answer. So forget the rule of them thinking that they know everything and not put out others down for they don't understand what you go through and having to share it and find all you can to help.

Each person here has their own situations and unique in their own way, for you to have this happen to you is unfortunate. I left the site briefly for two reason 1. The Call on my Life and 2. because of the opinion of one person who felt that my reviews were pointless. And for my efforts of expressing my opinion of that I thought, well I was getting hit for it. I fianlly decided to go and I erased myself from the discussion too because it was no one longer important for me to see any of the responses nor the hits I suffered because of my expression.

I'm sharig that experience with you because I want you to see and understand that you aren't the only one that had this to happen to them. And I feel that you are valued here and don't allow those who have nothing good to say get in your way here. I didn't allow it to happen and don't you. The Call that I now walk has taken me to a higher demention in Christ and it also helped me to see that I am vauled here and HE not me made room here for the gifts given. So sweetheart don't allow those who don't truly understand your situation and talking about what you face and have gone through make you leave what you value and treasure here. You do have friends who you have touched their lives and we are not just that but we're family. Square your shoulders and say I will not allow anyone to take this from me now, not ever and come back to what you love. I had to because God wouldn't allow me peace until I did. I hope to see you back here soon.

But remember this above all that has been said Jackie, JUST STAY IN THE RACE and know that you are valued and loved always.

Take care … Hugs and Kisses


Judimar 2009-06-25 15:27:26 -0500 Report


I wondered where you had gone. I hate the idea of you leaving, but I understand if you feel you need to go. Like others have said, it's our loss. I don't know who's been sending you the crap messages…it's their problem. I don't understand this kind of behavior. They are the minority I hope and pray.

Wherever you go know that I am thinking of you and yours. Please check in from time to time and let us know how you are. Your presence will be missed.



mamaoak 2009-06-25 13:57:11 -0500 Report

sorry about this do not go don't give up just don't pay any attention to this some people have a lack of understanding.

John Crowley
John Crowley 2009-06-25 09:55:04 -0500 Report

I'm so sorry to read this. You need to know that from the standpoint of those of us who run the site, talking about stressful things in your life—especially stressful health issues—is considered directly related to our purpose and topic here. Anyone who doesn't understand the way stress can affect your blood sugars doesn't understand diabetes.

I'm not sure who's been trying to correct you or "bully" you, but I'd be happy to discuss with you your experience here. And I'll do all I can to straighten out the situation. You can answer me here or send me an inbox message—whatever you're more comfortable with.

sparkysmom 2009-06-27 14:22:31 -0500 Report

John I don't need any more points. I am refilling my profile.

Judi62 2009-06-25 09:26:08 -0500 Report

I would hate to lose the chance to read your comments anymore. I'm sure there are plenty to agree with me. There are plenty of us who want you to stay. I am one. I know it's hard to ignore what others have to say. So, don't ignore US. Those others are intitled to their opinion but that doesn't mean it has to count.

I've never used Twitter, but I will have to learn so that I can still read what you are talking about.

I hope you change your mind and stay here with those that need you,

lipsie 2009-06-25 08:51:32 -0500 Report

I have been wondering where you have been, hate to see you go…please let me know how to get a hold of you. You seem to be a great person. *HugS* Sheila

GabbyPA 2009-06-25 08:50:02 -0500 Report

Hey Jackie,
Don't let the loosers win! There are always a few who feel they have to spoil the lot. This is a discussion board, not a research board on diabetes. We all discuss a lot of things and unless you are being vulgar or hateful, there is no need to feel unwanted.

I HATE it when people get like this with other members. If John and Amy are okay with your posts, then that is all there is to it. I wondered where you had gone and I hope that you will hang around and hang in there. I have twitter. I am GetReadyNow. I don't do facebook, so I will look for you on the bird, tough I don't really like that site too much.

I know there were a lot of "fights" for a while, but they seem to have settled down and I know several of the trouble starters are gone now. Thank goodness! I hope you stick around...I always enjoyed the things you shared.

Lisa Ann
Lisa Ann 2009-06-25 06:40:07 -0500 Report

Like everyone has said you shouldn't leave because of a few people, but you gotta do what you gotta do. Best of luck. I looked for you on facebook and couldn't find you. You can find me as Lisa Sutherland Clark. Good Luck, Lisa Ann

2009-06-24 20:31:19 -0500 Report

I am sorry to see you go and wish you wouldn't. However, I am not in your shoes, so I do not understand what you are going thru. My thoughts and prayers are with you. Good luck in the future.

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