How often do you say "I Love You.?"

valentine lady
By valentine lady Latest Reply 2015-04-03 10:59:27 -0500
Started 2015-03-17 10:10:32 -0500

I found this discussion awhile back. It's an old one from way back about 3 or 4 years as I remember. Anyway, I thought this would make a good discussion for us today. How often do you say I love you? Do you say it often to your significant
other? How about your parents or Grandchildren. To you children? Oh here's a.
good one to your best forever friend? You name a few and tell us. DO YOU SAY I LOVE YOU and how often.


114 replies

connie1st
connie1st 2015-03-30 00:36:33 -0500 Report

isnt this a diabetes forum?

valentine lady
valentine lady 2015-04-02 23:37:54 -0500 Report

Connie,
Yes this is a diabetic site but we all post several different
Subjects. as to break the mold of living, eating just having
Diabetes stuffed down our throats. It's nice to take a break.
With 97 replies obviously your out voted. Hope to see more of you on site. Word of advice though. Please loose the attitude.

connie1st
connie1st 2015-04-03 01:08:58 -0500 Report

what attitude? if i may my question was jusr a question hmmmm?ok i will leave. i guess only one hem rules the roost. i just only came her to hear new ideas i get so frustrated. you r owner of here? maybe instead of jumping on people they should be given a chance i have asked to be sent this or the newsletter to see about help.i will just go to another place where i dont feel like i am being run over too bad . now i just feel like i cant stay here. having a ummm telling me i haveattitude. which i didnt. but not a place i wanna be now.. smh. sigh.

valentine lady
valentine lady 2015-04-03 03:10:32 -0500 Report

Connie,
First of all no one asked you to leave. That's your choice. Your attitude, you didn't just ask a question you worded it i. a way to be offensive. Since you joined in 2014 you have 1 friend. You have been here before and for reasons only. known to jointly left. We're here to be supportive and loving to one another. I meant what I said when I said hope to see you around the site. Also meant what I said about your attitude. You sound so angry…please don't be. Life is much to. Short to waste it on anger. I honestly don't know who the head of DC is or how to get ahold of them. I apologize if I hurt your feelings. That was not my intention.

wildtigger2
wildtigger2 2015-03-27 01:54:34 -0500 Report

I say AI love you everyday before I leave for work. In my profession I see to many sudden deaths not to.

valentine lady
valentine lady 2015-04-03 02:29:58 -0500 Report

Hi wildtigger,
May I ask what profession your in.? Sounds like your a
police officer. In any event I am so sorry you face such tragedy everyday of your life. How wonderful that you recognize this and keep your family close. Those 3 little words are very powerful in itself.

valentine lady
valentine lady 2015-04-03 02:29:50 -0500 Report

Hi wildtigger,
May I ask what profession your in.? Sounds like your a
police officer. In any event I am so sorry you face such tragedy everyday of your life. How wonderful that you recognize this and keep your family close. Those 3 little words are very powerful in itself.

valentine lady
valentine lady 2015-04-03 02:29:39 -0500 Report

Hi wildtigger,
May I ask what profession your in.? Sounds like your a
police officer. In any event I am so sorry you face such tragedy everyday of your life. How wonderful that you recognize this and keep your family close. Those 3 little words are very powerful in itself.

valentine lady
valentine lady 2015-04-03 02:29:23 -0500 Report

Hi wildtigger,
May I ask what profession your in.? Sounds like your a
police officer. In any event I am so sorry you face such tragedy everyday of your life. How wonderful that you recognize this and keep your family close. Those 3 little words are very powerful in itself.

valentine lady
valentine lady 2015-04-03 02:26:57 -0500 Report

Hi wildtigger,
May I ask what profession your in.? Sounds like your a
police officer. In any event I am so sorry you face such tragedy everyday of your life. How wonderful that you recognize this and keep your family close. Those 3 little words are very powerful in itself.

valentine lady
valentine lady 2015-04-03 02:25:54 -0500 Report

Hi wildtigger,
May I ask what profession your in.? Sounds like your a
police officer. In any event I am so sorry you face such tragedy everyday of your life. How wonderful that you recognize this and keep your family close. Those 3 little words are very powerful in itself.

valentine lady
valentine lady 2015-04-03 02:25:44 -0500 Report

Hi wildtigger,
May I ask what profession your in.? Sounds like your a
police officer. In any event I am so sorry you face such tragedy everyday of your life. How wonderful that you recognize this and keep your family close. Those 3 little words are very powerful in itself.

valentine lady
valentine lady 2015-04-03 02:23:46 -0500 Report

Hi wildtigger,
May I ask what profession your in.? Sounds like your a
police officer. In any event I am so sorry you face such tragedy everyday of your life. How wonderful that you recognize this and keep your family close. Those 3 little words are very powerful in itself.

valentine lady
valentine lady 2015-04-03 02:23:36 -0500 Report

Hi wildtigger,
May I ask what profession your in.? Sounds like your a
police officer. In any event I am so sorry you face such tragedy everyday of your life. How wonderful that you recognize this and keep your family close. Those 3 little words are very powerful in itself.

jayabee52
jayabee52 2015-03-26 06:37:29 -0500 Report

UPDATE ON VL
Just got a call from Valentine Lady who went to the Hospital Monday AM. Haven't been able to call her since then. She went in with what seemed to be an appendicitis attack.

What she told me yesterday evening that the doctors told her she had sepsis from a UT! ~ http://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions...

She has been on IV fluids and antibiotics since Dx. She had been pretty much out of it since then but was finally able to get the strength to call me and tell me what had happened.

I plan to talk to her this AM also as now I know which hospital she is in and the PH # at which I can reach her.

James

jayabee52
jayabee52 2015-03-22 21:48:03 -0500 Report

HOWDY TO ALL!
I ask all who pray to lift Valentine Lady up in your prayers. She has been having abdominal pain last night and today and the pain is getting worse. From the symptoms (102.9 fever) it seems likely it is appendicitis. She also said that she has a cyst on her pancreas. They took a portable X-ray of her stomach. The Dr who was supposed to read it hasn't called back. I really think they should have done an ultrasound of her abdominal area but they haven't done that.

So please pray for Peggy as I have been.

Thank you
James

katie222
katie222 2015-03-22 15:29:26 -0500 Report

I tell my family I love them all the time, but in the past i did not know how to feel love and share it with others. I make sure to tell my partner every day at least 4 times a day that I love her. it is important to because I never know when the Lord will take me home. I live and love for today.

valentine lady
valentine lady 2015-04-03 00:03:54 -0500 Report

Hi Katie,
I apologize that this is so long in coming but I've been in the
hospital for the last 9 days. I sure was one sick gal. Hope you understand. You should be proud of yourself for over coming the stigma of not feeling love or how to express it.
I know I'm proud of you. Keep telling your partner you love her and often. Those words can make or break a relationship. In your case I vote for making it.

MAMA10
MAMA10 2015-03-21 16:31:55 -0500 Report

This is something do each and every day! Who knows what to come tomorrow. Saying I LOVE YOU lets your family and friends know how you feel.

valentine lady
valentine lady 2015-03-23 04:27:07 -0500 Report

Hi Mama,
You make a good point. I think it's very wise to make sure you tell family and friends you love them. Not only do we not know what may happen tomorrow but people may know their loved by you. But everyone enjoys hearing the words. It's a
very comforting feeling. Makes one feel secure.

valentine lady
valentine lady 2015-03-23 04:24:18 -0500 Report

Hi Mama,
You make a good point. I think it's very wise to make sure you tell family and friends you love them. Not only do we not know what may happen tomorrow but people may know their loved by you. But everyone enjoys hearing the words. It's a
very comforting feeling. Makes one feel secure.

valentine lady
valentine lady 2015-03-23 04:24:08 -0500 Report

Hi Mama,
You make a good point. I think it's very wise to make sure you tell family and friends you love them. Not only do we not know what may happen tomorrow but people may know their loved by you. But everyone enjoys hearing the words. It's a
very comforting feeling. Makes one feel secure.

valentine lady
valentine lady 2015-03-23 04:23:39 -0500 Report

Hi Mama,
You make a good point. I think it's very wise to make sure you tell family and friends you love them. Not only do we not know what may happen tomorrow but people may know their loved by you. But everyone enjoys hearing the words. It's a
very comforting feeling. Makes one feel secure.

valentine lady
valentine lady 2015-03-23 03:35:26 -0500 Report

Hi Mama,
You make a good point. I think it's very wise to make sure you tell family and friends you love them. Not only do we not know what may happen tomorrow but people may know their loved by you. But everyone enjoys hearing the words. It's a
very comforting feeling. Makes one feel secure.

valentine lady
valentine lady 2015-03-23 03:35:21 -0500 Report

Hi Mama,
You make a good point. I think it's very wise to make sure you tell family and friends you love them. Not only do we not know what may happen tomorrow but people may know their loved by you. But everyone enjoys hearing the words. It's a
very comforting feeling. Makes one feel secure.

valentine lady
valentine lady 2015-03-23 03:32:40 -0500 Report

Hi Mama,
You make a good point. I think it's very wise to make sure you tell family and friends you love them. Not only do we not know what may happen tomorrow but people may know their loved by you. But everyone enjoys hearing the words. It's a
very comforting feeling. Makes one feel secure.

valentine lady
valentine lady 2015-03-23 03:32:38 -0500 Report

Hi Mama,
You make a good point. I think it's very wise to make sure you tell family and friends you love them. Not only do we not know what may happen tomorrow but people may know their loved by you. But everyone enjoys hearing the words. It's a
very comforting feeling. Makes one feel secure.

valentine lady
valentine lady 2015-03-23 03:32:35 -0500 Report

Hi Mama,
You make a good point. I think it's very wise to make sure you tell family and friends you love them. Not only do we not know what may happen tomorrow but people may know their loved by you. But everyone enjoys hearing the words. It's a
very comforting feeling. Makes one feel secure.

valentine lady
valentine lady 2015-03-23 03:32:19 -0500 Report

Hi Mama,
You make a good point. I think it's very wise to make sure you tell family and friends you love them. Not only do we not know what may happen tomorrow but people may know their loved by you. But everyone enjoys hearing the words. It's a
very comforting feeling. Makes one feel secure.

valentine lady
valentine lady 2015-03-23 03:31:47 -0500 Report

Hi Mama,
You make a good point. I think it's very wise to make sure you tell family and friends you love them. Not only do we not know what may happen tomorrow but people may know their loved by you. But everyone enjoys hearing the words. It's a
very comforting feeling. Makes one feel secure.

valentine lady
valentine lady 2015-03-23 03:31:23 -0500 Report

Hi Mama,
You make a good point. I think it's very wise to make sure you tell family and friends you love them. Not only do we not know what may happen tomorrow but people may know their loved by you. But everyone enjoys hearing the words. It's a
very comforting feeling. Makes one feel secure.

blonde2014
blonde2014 2015-03-21 13:11:36 -0500 Report

Most of the time

valentine lady
valentine lady 2015-03-21 15:10:24 -0500 Report

Hi blonde,
That's great but try for all the time. To say I love you is the
most sincere form of a compliment. Not to mention like to hear it too. Especially to someone who loves you.

jayabee52
jayabee52 2015-03-21 15:24:06 -0500 Report

Sweetness.
It has been my experience that many ladies do not like when men tell them that they love them especially if a positive relationship has been developed. When I first told you 'I love you" it just slipped out and once it was out I couldn't take those words back. I thought to myself that I had possibly blown it with you because I hadn't felt I had built a relationship with you to that point. Fortunately you had those same feelings too, so you responded positively.

Love ya
J

valentine lady
valentine lady 2015-03-21 18:58:41 -0500 Report

Sweetheart,
You just got lucky…lol. Seriously women don't want to hear the words if she's not
ready to return it. Or she just don't hold
Those feelings. You were just waiting
for me and didn't even know it. But the Lord did…
Love U
P

valentine lady
valentine lady 2015-03-21 18:13:46 -0500 Report

Sweetheart,
You just got lucky…lol. Seriously women don't want to hear the words if she's not
ready to return it. Or she just don't hold
Those feelings. You were just waiting
for me and didn't even know it. But the Lord did…
Love U
P

valentine lady
valentine lady 2015-03-21 18:11:01 -0500 Report

Sweetheart,
You just got lucky…lol. Seriously women don't want to hear the words if she's not
ready to return it. Or she just don't hold
Those feelings. You were just waiting
for me and didn't even know it. But the Lord did…
Love U
P

valentine lady
valentine lady 2015-03-21 18:10:51 -0500 Report

Sweetheart,
You just got lucky…lol. Seriously women don't want to hear the words if she's not
ready to return it. Or she just don't hold
Those feelings. You were just waiting
for me and didn't even know it. But the Lord did…
Love U
P

valentine lady
valentine lady 2015-03-21 16:15:51 -0500 Report

Sweetheart,
You just got lucky…lol. Seriously women don't want to hear the words if she's not
ready to return it. Or she just don't hold
Those feelings. You were just waiting
for me and didn't even know it. But the Lord did…
Love U
P

valentine lady
valentine lady 2015-03-21 16:15:12 -0500 Report

Sweetheart,
You just got lucky…lol. Seriously women don't want to hear the words if she's not
ready to return it. Or she just don't hold
Those feelings. You were just waiting
for me and didn't even know it. But the Lord did…
Love U
P

valentine lady
valentine lady 2015-03-21 16:14:56 -0500 Report

Sweetheart,
You just got lucky…lol. Seriously women don't want to hear the words if she's not
ready to return it. Or she just don't hold
Those feelings. You were just waiting
for me and didn't even know it. But the Lord did…
Love U
P

valentine lady
valentine lady 2015-03-21 16:14:39 -0500 Report

Sweetheart,
You just got lucky…lol. Seriously women don't want to hear the words if she's not
ready to return it. Or she just don't hold
Those feelings. You were just waiting
for me and didn't even know it. But the Lord did…
Love U
P

valentine lady
valentine lady 2015-03-21 16:14:10 -0500 Report

Sweetheart,
You just got lucky…lol. Seriously women don't want to hear the words if she's not
ready to return it. Or she just don't hold
Those feelings. You were just waiting
for me and didn't even know it. But the Lord did…

Purple Butterflies
Purple Butterflies 2015-03-21 03:18:43 -0500 Report

I always make it a point to say "I love you" to friends and family when saying good bye on the phone or when I or they are leaving after a visit. You never know if you'll ever see each other again in this lifetime.

valentine lady
valentine lady 2015-03-21 10:12:12 -0500 Report

Hi Butterfly,
To say I love you is the most sincere form of letting your. Family and Friends know how you feel about.them. Keep
saying it and often. As you said you may never know what happens.

valentine lady
valentine lady 2015-03-21 08:34:10 -0500 Report

Hi Butterfly,
To say I love you is the most sincere form of letting your. Family and Friends know how you feel about.them. Keep
saying it and often. As you said you may never know what happens.

valentine lady
valentine lady 2015-03-21 08:33:55 -0500 Report

Hi Butterfly,
To say I love you is the most sincere form of letting your. Family and Friends know how you feel about.them. Keep
saying it and often. As you said you may never know what happens.

valentine lady
valentine lady 2015-03-21 08:33:51 -0500 Report

Hi Butterfly,
To say I love you is the most sincere form of letting your. Family and Friends know how you feel about.them. Keep
saying it and often. As you said you may never know what happens.

valentine lady
valentine lady 2015-03-21 08:33:17 -0500 Report

Hi Butterfly,
To say I love you is the most sincere form of letting your. Family and Friends know how you feel about.them. Keep
saying it and often. As you said you may never know what happens.

valentine lady
valentine lady 2015-03-21 08:33:06 -0500 Report

Hi Butterfly,
To say I love you is the most sincere form of letting your. Family and Friends know how you feel about.them. Keep
saying it and often. As you said you may never know what happens.

valentine lady
valentine lady 2015-03-21 08:32:55 -0500 Report

Hi Butterfly,
To say I love you is the most sincere form of letting your. Family and Friends know how you feel about.them. Keep
saying it and often. As you said you may never know what happens.

RebDee
RebDee 2015-03-18 18:49:05 -0500 Report

I say I LOVE YOU to my sister, cousins and aunts; to my significant other, daughters, grandchildren, and dogs; to my BFF when she lets me, and any other friends.
When talking to my SO, Sam, we must say I LOVE YOU about 100 times a day. Except from my daughter, I had not heard it for almost 5 years. I enjoy hearing that someone loves me,

valentine lady
valentine lady 2015-03-18 19:49:21 -0500 Report

Hi RebDee,
You sound like a very affectionate lady much like me. I love to be told I'm loved and in return to say. I love you. From James I can't hear it enough or say it enough. It's to bad the whole world can't share in that love. Just think, world peace.

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2015-03-18 16:31:04 -0500 Report

Hey valentine lady, as others have said, I often look back with regret at the times when I could have said I love you and didn't. These are healing words, for others and for ourselves. I really think saying I love you promotes health and wellness, certainly emotionally.

Winnniepooh 373
Winnniepooh 373 2015-03-19 21:32:06 -0500 Report

Hello Gabby I do agree about saying I love you I grew up with saying I love you I lost my husband 10years ago an those were my last words just before he pass I feel so good knowing that he left here with that in his heart.

jayabee52
jayabee52 2015-03-20 00:33:41 -0500 Report

Howdy Winnie
WELCOME to DC!
Sorry to hear of your loss. My 2nd wife passed in july of 20i0 in he sleep and one of the things I regret is I wasn't able to say those words to her before she passed.

God's comfort and consolation to you
James

Winnniepooh 373
Winnniepooh 373 2015-03-20 17:43:53 -0500 Report

Hello Jayabee52 Im so sorry of your loss. I believe she knew you loved her I pray that God would comfort youre heart. An I thank you for sharing your story we all love you. Have great weekend.

valentine lady
valentine lady 2015-03-18 19:59:37 -0500 Report

Hi Dr.Gary,
What a wonderful sentiment. I agree it does promote health,
wellness and certain emotions. I am so glad you can look
back and recognize where and when you should have said
I love you and didn't. That shows emotional growth and that's
important regardless of our jobs. Especially your job… ;-)

haoleboy
haoleboy 2015-03-18 10:39:13 -0500 Report

Both my parents died relatively young … one of my biggest regrets is that I seldom told my Mom I loved her and not sure I ever told my Dad. This is a mistake I have corrected and everyone in my life that is close will hear an I love you at least daily (or when we talk on the phone). This includes several of my closest male friends … opting for the "I love you man" … which does garner some strange looks from others, but screw them, life is short and we need to hold those special people in our lives close to our hearts at all times.

namaste
Steve

valentine lady
valentine lady 2015-03-18 20:38:56 -0500 Report

Hi Steve,
I'm so in awe of you. Your one man who is not afraid of his feelings. In our society men aren't' taught to allow their feelings out. I suppose I shouldn't say our society today. Today little boys are taught to say I love you and own their
feelings. I should have said back in our day boys were told not to cry, not to have emotions of any kind. Suck it up and be a man. Obviously you didn't pay attention. Either that
or you learned from past mistakes as you stated. I've only had the pleasure of knowing one man that is that open. That's. James…now from this discussion. you wonderful men are coming out of the wood work so to speak. I couldn't' be
more delighted. Thanks for sharing Steve. It takes quite a man to speak up as you have.

haoleboy
haoleboy 2015-03-18 22:31:47 -0500 Report

Thanks VL. I have made massive amounts of huge mistakes in my life, but my saving grace (perhaps) is that I have learned from them and manage to not repeat them. My last major life lesson came after my stroke when I realized how much my family loved me and indeed how much I loved and needed them. It's a real shame that we sometimes have to just miss death's calling for some of life's most meaningful epiphanies.

Jibber Jabber
Jibber Jabber 2015-03-18 12:13:53 -0500 Report

Men, even in this day and age have been conditioned not to show emotion..Very unfortunate…this not only comes from what happens in the home but also from society..I have three sons…two have no problem with the "i love you thing" and publically showing affection…kisses and hugs in the street and such…but my oldest son…will only do the I love you thing if he is around family or close friends..and the public kiss goodbye to his mama is just not happening,,he will tell me I love you ma before he leaves BUT lord forbid someone down the block sees him kiss me goodbye…cyber high five for your change of behavior…hopefully it will spill over to a man or two watching and listening to you..

valentine lady
valentine lady 2015-03-18 20:58:44 -0500 Report

Hi Jib Jab,
You are so right how boys are conditioned to hide

their feeling. To help you see not all men pay that much thought please read through this discussion and pick out the guys in particular. You'll see they walk to a different drummer. Please don' t miss
James down at the bottom. I am so proud of our men here. Their just wonderful. Be proud of yourself. Jib Jab…sounds to me that you raised 3 wonderful boys that own their feelings and are not
the least bit afraid to show or speak those 3 lovely words, I love you. You should be proud…

rhett t
rhett t 2015-03-18 04:48:46 -0500 Report

I tell my husband ''I LOVE YOU '' all the time. I have some people I talk to over the phone before we hang up that I love them and in return I get I love you back. That's just me . I love you too.

Fefe12
Fefe12 2015-03-18 01:44:00 -0500 Report

Probably not often enough. Is it ever enough? Thanks For The reminder, I Will Do better.

valentine lady
valentine lady 2015-03-18 05:09:38 -0500 Report

Hi Fife,
No, it is never enough…everyone wants to hear those words.
Especially from someone they love. Your very welcomed for the reminder.

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