Trouble Adjusting

Anonymous
By Anonymous Latest Reply 2015-03-08 01:19:04 -0600
Started 2015-03-04 13:32:02 -0600

I have been a diabetic for 10 years, I was diagnosed at 19 & never accepted it. I have been very careless these last 10 years and never worried. Thank God I don't have any issues from that but recently had a scare that I have not been able to shake like other times. My blood sugar went above 600, I was out of it for days…headaches, nausea etc. since that day I haven't had any pop, alcohol or really any fast food.

I'm having a hard time adjusting to life after all that 'fun' stuff. Does anyone have any advice? I'm feeling really lost.

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7 replies

Fefe12
Fefe12 2015-03-08 01:19:04 -0600 Report

Wow. I'm so sorry, please forgive me, but i don't understand. This lifestyle you have will either kill or maime you. Why? Do you really wish death? Do you really want to loose body parts, or be stuck in a wheel chair? Why? Because you don't have issues now doesn't mean some can't show up later. You need to love yourself enough to want to live. To live with all that life has to offer, not this half crap stuff. So many of us have lied to ourselves about ''fun''. That is why we have a nation full of people killing themselves with food. Food, really? I love food just like the next guy but to kill myself over? Nope. I'm too important. Your too important. We are ALL too important to just throw our lives away over food. We honor people who protect us with their bodys, those that fight our wars, protect our children, our streets. We don't feel the same for those who loose their life over food. Oh, we will party with them, eat with them, have ''fun'' with them. But honor them if they die for eating and partying too much? Nope. Please change your thinking, your family needs you, the world needs you. Enough said.

Gabby
GabbyPA 2015-03-05 13:36:51 -0600 Report

I had to adjust my thinking on "fun" stuff. If fun stuff is going to make me feel sicker, then it's not really so fun. It takes time to get that thinking on straight, but once you do, it's a huge help. Find other fun stuff to look forward to. It can be foods, but it can also be doing something you like to do. Rewarding myself with things other than food is really helpful to me. But I do both, I have to admit.

Something I have been doing of late when hubby and I go out is making sure I eat healthy and if he has something like french fries on his plate, I eat one or two. Then I'm good and I don't blow everything I am trying to do.

Also, as you find foods that you do like you may be able to create some treats for yourself that don't sabotage your numbers. Like I discovered that eating a frozen half of a banana rolled in dark chocolate and chopped peanuts helps my numbers over night. Who knew! It's something in the combination of it that just works for me. You will find those little treasures if you look and those things make the rest of it not as hard.

Type1Lou
Type1Lou 2015-03-05 08:46:25 -0600 Report

A DX of diabetes IS life-changing…sooner or later Sounds like you were in denial and just got a wake-up call. Life with diabetes can be good…if you make the right decisions about your diet, exercise and medications…but, it's entirely up to you. I was dx'd at age 27 and am now 65 and thoroughly enjoying my retirement. I didn't always take really good care of myself but finally buckled down about 15 years ago. I have mild neuropathy in my feet and have been advised about the beginnings of diabetic retinopathy (for the last 20 years) but nothing that has affected my quality of life so far…added incentive to keep those BG's under control. I had a successful career and never felt diabetes limited me. On road trips for work, I was often selected as the designated driver because I did not drink as much as the others in my work party…I still had fun but without feeling like crap the next morning. Dig down deep and find the strength to make those sometimes difficult decisions to better take care of yourself…you can do it and you are the one who will benefit, long-term. Wishing you well!

CassieEllen
CassieEllen 2015-03-05 08:28:06 -0600 Report

I know have been careless and I understand that issues could still come up from my poor decisions. This is the hardest thing I've ever done and it is a lonely path…I'm just looking for people to talk to since I have no one in my life who understands.

jayabee52
jayabee52 2015-03-05 12:16:31 -0600 Report

Well, Cassie, WELCOME to DC!
You have more people here who understands what you have gone through "than you can shake a stick at". Please continue to come back to DC and ask loads of questions. IMHO the only question which is foolish, stupid or dumb is a HONEST question which is not asked.

God's best to you
James

jayabee52
jayabee52 2015-03-05 07:53:42 -0600 Report

Howdy Anon
You write "Thank God I don't have any issues from that [carelessness in diabetes care]". To which I say: "Yet! — they still may be coming, especially if you don't get your act together" But that is hopefully in the past for you and one can't change them anyway.

So how does one go about adjusting to the "new normal"? One thing which pops into my mind is to get checked out thoroughly by your GP, or preferrably an endo. Get a recommendation from Dr about what and how much to eat per meal or per day, or get a referral to a Registered dietician (RD) to find those things out.

IMHO you need to pay more attention to what you eat and don't eat. Stopping consumption of soda, alcohol and fast foods is a good start, but I have found that avoiding starchy foods helps me to manage my BG (blood glucose) levels much better. I am type 2, but even if you are T 1 it will help keep the BG down so one does not need to bolus.

In fact I have written up a discussion which tells of my meal plan whereby I have been able to keep my BG in the 80 to 130 mg/dl range, have an A1c of 5.5%, lose 65 lbs over the course of 5 mo. I make it available to anyone who requests it.

God's best to you
James

lilleyheidi
lilleyheidi 2015-03-05 04:10:35 -0600 Report

You didn't say if you are type one or type two, but either way it really doesn't matter. I'm sorry you had such a horrible high wake up call, but some of us need such a bad thing to wake us up to what diabetes can do to us. This disease, as I'm sure you know, is progressive and is deadly. You were lucky.
The fun stuff is just beginning now. You are going to learn how to live a life without drinking on a regular basis and find what real life is about. I know, I know, that sounds like "old folk" talk, and in a way it is, but it's also real. Your going to learn how to take care of yourself, and your disease. Eating healthy is not hard, but it's not going to be a piece of cake (pardon the pun) in the beginning either, it takes a while to get used to reading labels and saying no to fast foods and soda and such. It's gonna take a while to get used to going into the clubs with your friends and asking for seltzer water instead of alcohol but your strong, you can do it. If you need or want any additional supports reach out here, or give me a private message. Best of health to you.

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