Fighting the desire to save the world...

Jibber Jabber
By Jibber Jabber Latest Reply 2015-02-26 15:47:05 -0600
Started 2015-02-23 08:17:06 -0600

Supermarket shopping has become a very upsetting outing for me…not so much my shopping, unless I think about how limited I am at the store because of all the crap that is put in foods, which I sometimes do…but instead looking in other people's carts…there is such a big part of me that wants to shake these people and try to reach them…and when I see children involved they're times I want to scream…I was never a big junk food eater..I DID love my soda…and indulge in sweet treat occasionally…but I always ate whole grain breads..and have always loved my veggies..and I developed diabetes…So when I look in people's carts and see the soda..and the processed foods.the white bread the white rice…the freaking hi-c…no fruit or veggies…when I see all junk it just gets to me…I want to save the world…I am fully aware that I can not…and I would never actually tell someone they shouldn't buy something…but it is just so hard NOT to care…If I see one more young mother buying "fruit juice cocktail" for the child standing next to them I might just flip…

18 replies

Jarney 2015-02-26 15:47:05 -0600 Report

Not to mention cheese food! The only counter measure is to suggest label reading. It seems like less people are doing this any more. I've always been an avid label reader. I feel your anguish. I hope you do meditation (prayer) to relieve your stress. Thanks for sharing.

lilleyheidi 2015-02-24 01:32:41 -0600 Report

I no longer look in other carts, keep my eye on my own, that's where the important stuff is happening. It is hard not to care, but it's harder not to care what is happening in my own cart. If I see those things, I get sad, and I don't have time for sad in my life any more.

sweetslover 2015-02-23 13:52:47 -0600 Report

I especially find it difficult to watch mothers shop when they have obese children with them. Don't they realize their kids are extremely fat? Don't they want to do something about it? Of course, I then have to look at my own cart when I shop for my parents. They are 88 and 89 years old and both have dementia. I make sure they have balanced meals, but they are also ice cream and cookie junkies. I buy them as much as they want, which is a lot.

Jibber Jabber
Jibber Jabber 2015-02-23 13:56:22 -0600 Report

once you reach 89 years old you have earned the right to eat whatever you damn well chose…I dare to say if I make it that long on this earth..I will indulge in some of my off limits foods…just saying..

sweetslover 2015-02-23 20:57:10 -0600 Report

That is exactly what I believe. At this point in their life, their happiness and comfort have to be my major focus.

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2015-02-23 13:03:00 -0600 Report

For over a year, I lived in a Food Desert which meant people didn't have access to fresh meats, fruits an veggies once the supermarket closed. That meant people with personal transportation did not have access to a supermarket on a frequent basis and had to rely on food give away's. Our community made it a number 1 priority to get a supermarket. It opened in August last year.

People at times buy what they can afford. Is it healthy? Not always. There are also people who don't know what to buy or even care. It does not bother me at all because I really don't care what is in someone's shopping cart.

There is nothing anyone can do about how another person chooses to eat. You can't force people to change eating habits and you cannot force them to eat healthy. The media has been educating people for years as does the government and schools. People are still going to eat as healthy or unhealthy as they choose.

I live in a community of middle class, to very poor and even those who can afford to eat healthy do not do so. There are poor people who do even with limited income.

When I go into a grocery store I am spending time with what is going into my cart. I don't bother with what someone else is buying or eating because it really isn't any of my business and I certainly am not going to get upset about it.

GabbyPA 2015-02-23 12:27:00 -0600 Report

If you think that is rough, imagine living in Appalachia, where Mt. Dew is put in baby bottles. Most of those kids rot out their baby teeth. I think it was Diane Sawyer who did that human interest story and it was shocking.

It's funny because I had one of these moments yesterday when I saw a dad with his 32 ounce Coke and his little son with an equally large Mello Yellow. I was sad too.

It is hard not to care, and it's good that you do, because if someone asks (and they will) you can offer good sound advice. I have offered strangers my suggestions on things if they are standing indecisive in front of a row of foods if there is one that I particularly like or use. I have also asked people in the store who have bought a product I have been interested. And my cashiers get to hear of all of my latest things I am trying. They usually ask, and a gladly share. I actually was referred to a great herbal book by a shared moment based on herbs in my cart. So you never know. Don't freak out, just be you and you will find there are people who want to hear.

I did have a lady one time tell me, unsolicited, that I should not be buying candy as we stood in the candy aisle (which was not for me but for a family member) So I have been on that receiving end in that way, and it's not fun.

valentine lady
valentine lady 2015-02-23 09:25:41 -0600 Report

Hi Jib Jab,
I can honestly say I know exactly how you feel. Especially the young mothers with their very young children.. Or as Pegsy said the extremely obese people that have to ride in carts because they can not walk. I'm trying hard to train myself not to look, not even a glance. Because more after than.not I will strick up a conversation just to bring their food choices into it. For obese persons… I take them back to 80 lbs ago and before diabetes. I've been told off before, that's when I chose to quit. Change the world. I wish I could. Can I? No… Hugs,VL

Sopies Grandma
Sopies Grandma 2015-02-23 08:37:44 -0600 Report

I have a question for you, You seem to have a good understanding of counting carbs and nutrition. I made a big salad and it has cucumber, One apple and 2 eggs and a tomatoe, celery and carrots, and shredded cheese. I do this so I don't have to make salads all the time, I just grab a bowl and I'm ready to eat. but what I don't know is how many carbs in each bowl, I have insulin pump and need to imput the carbs, I just don't know how many carbs a salad is,
and also, when you count carbs do you subtract the fiber from the carb count?

Type1Lou 2015-02-23 10:21:44 -0600 Report

I eat an apple with peanut butter nearly every day for lunch. Apples vary greatly in size and can range from maybe 23 grams of carb to nearly 40 grams of carb depending upon how big it is. I've been using a Digital nutrition scale to weigh my apples. When you input the code for raw apples and weigh it, the scale will tell you the nutritional values, including calories and carbs. It's an essential tool for me. Mine came from Target many years ago but it can be purchased on-line through Amazon and maybe other outlets as well. Here's the link to the one I use which is sold on Amazon: It comes with a booklet listing many many foods and their codes. I'd be lost without it. I, personally don't deduct the fiber grams when I input the carb grams into my pump for my bolus insulin.

Jibber Jabber
Jibber Jabber 2015-02-23 08:50:04 -0600 Report

Oh sweetie that becomes very hard for me the minute you mentioned the apple…apples come in different sizes and have a considerable amount of carbs…and I do not use I don't want to give you any kind of guess…if you are that concerned what I do recommend is getting a good food scale..if you weigh the apple you can figure out how many grams of carbs are in it..then cut the apple into as many pieces as you want to make salads…this way you can figure out how many grams of carbs are in your salad..I know it is an expense…and if you can not buy a scale right now..weigh the apples one at a time at the store..try to get apples that weigh just about the same…this way if you are eating a quarter of an apple at a time you can figure 25% of those carbs are in each salad …I hope I didn't confuse you more.

Sopies Grandma
Sopies Grandma 2015-02-23 09:46:01 -0600 Report

Thank you so much for the help, and no you didn't confuse me, you did get me to stop and really think about it though. I usually use the smallest apples I can find, so I can count them as 15 carbs, So I decided to count my salads as 15 carbs, and then I have to of course count the dressing I put on it. I really need to learn more about nutrition, its just so boring…LOL Something else you got my attention on is how I shop and so the next grocery shopping trip I will make an effort to keep an eye on my shopping cart, Thanks again…

Pegsy 2015-02-23 08:32:08 -0600 Report

I notice these things too and I just cringe. There is literally no REAL food in their cart. My heart also breaks for the obese shoppers who can barely walk. Or they are in a riding cart, barely able to stand in order to reach their junk food on the top shelf. (This was my mother.) Sometimes I want to approach these people and show them my "before" photo, LOL. Eating healthy really is a simple thing and it shocks me how available that information is but people really don't know. They really don't get it. I have actually been in line at the checkout and people in line with me will see what is in my cart and look at me with a strange expression. Even the cashiers comment about my purchases sometimes. It is sad.

lilleyheidi 2015-02-24 01:30:06 -0600 Report

I am obese, morbid obese, I use one of the electric carts, but not because of my weight. I know I get looks a lot and people probably judge that I am using it because of my weight. I use it because I have had five knee surgeries that went bad on my knee and i can barely walk thru the produce aisle before my knee is gone and I can't walk further. It is not always because people are fat that they use those carts. just saying. my cart is filled with produce and chicken and yogurt, no prepacked stuff, all healthy stuff.

Pegsy 2015-02-24 08:47:51 -0600 Report

I did not mean to say that only the lazy and obese use those carts. My mother-in-law used one due to severe arthritis in her spine. She was neither obese or lazy. I myself was obese and had pain in my ankles, knees and hips because of it.

Hang in there and keep on with your weight loss. Even though you have existing joint issues, getting those pounds off can only help.

Jibber Jabber
Jibber Jabber 2015-02-23 09:33:42 -0600 Report

Been there…and I usually go to the same market..have been going there for three when the cashiers see all my full fat cheese, my cream, my fatty meats…they get perplexed…a few even asked me how I am losing weight "eating such unhealthy foods"…but I like when they opens the door for conversation..and god willing the 300 pound lady with the cart full of skim milk and low fat cheese is listening…