Upset

sweetslover
By sweetslover Latest Reply 2015-04-03 20:26:33 -0500
Started 2015-02-09 13:22:43 -0600

I think I may need to take a break from DC. I am extremely upset that some members think my posts are asking for sympathy and that it makes me a weak person. If you could ask any of my friends, they would tell you that I am probably one of the strongest individuals they know. That does not mean that I do not occasionally need some help and support. I have also been indirectly accused of having no will-power because I have the urge to eat more of something I shouldn't. I am an extremely honest person. If I mess up on my diet I will admit it as I have done in the past. Wanting something without giving in to that want is an entirely different matter.
I am not a weak person, but right now, for many reasons, I feel extremely fragile. People misunderstanding what I post and being judgmental is not what I need.


90 replies

calayx
calayx 2015-04-03 18:52:24 -0500 Report

Please don't leave DC. I value you dearly and I now there are hundreds of us who feel that way about you. When you feel weak, we are here to make you feel stronger. When you want to vent, we're here. When you need a chip, cookie, etc like I do. We all understand, cus we've been there. No ever let anyone ever take your power again. That's what these two idiots did to you. I'll be your main supporter. Love and hugs to you.
Calayx

Mallacai
Mallacai 2015-02-15 06:23:02 -0600 Report

They are the ones to take a break not you. Some of us will be here to support you or anyone else that need it. Hope to "see " you soon and keep at it we all fall off the wagon some time or the other hopping back on is what makes a difference.

Chopstix
Chopstix 2015-02-12 12:41:30 -0600 Report

Whether they want to admit it or not everyone has urges to eat or eat more than they shouldn't be eating. It just means you are human. I always say you have to treat yourself once in awhile or you'd go crazy. There are times I have a taste for something I know shouldn't have but I do it anyway. Everything in moderation is one of my mottos. You are not weak by any means. Not having doing something about that urge can affect your mood. Would you prefer to be in good mood or cranky. People who know me will say "good mood." I'm just saying…

lorider70
lorider70 2015-02-12 10:06:22 -0600 Report

Sometimes a bit of sympathy from others really helps. I have "vented" on this site several times and most of the time people have offered not only a little sympathy; but more often have made suggestions that really have helped.There are times that only the ear of another diabetic will help.

JoleneAL
JoleneAL 2015-02-12 09:15:44 -0600 Report

I am so sorry for the ignorant people. They have issues they would never talk about, so they attack others. We all need to vent, get it off our chest, or just whine and moan and complain. My husband calls it kicking rocks and blowing snot bubbles. But I find if I don't when I need to, the stress is worse and that makes me want to eat. Hang in there!

Edie
Edie 2015-02-12 08:36:00 -0600 Report

Heh if they have a problem here is one just for the whiners out there. I take a sabbatical from Diabetes every year because I feel that people judge me and you know what each year I feel better for it. I eat what I want when I want and how much I want at that time. This past year I over did it so no sabbatical this year. This year I have decided to change up my eating, follow the schudle for meds better and ask for all the help I can. I haven't been on here as much lately as I once was, but that is about to change for good. Hopefully you see me on here daily again in the future. I am also going to repost my Discussion on Diet, Exercise and any thing else you want to talk about. I have only one request don't pick on people that post on it or you will hear from me as I always stick my nose into my friends posts and defend those that say what they want to help themselves get control of this crap we have to live with. That is it for now but you can catch what I have to say more on my Discussion.

Courtier
Courtier 2015-02-12 06:46:41 -0600 Report

Hi, I'm new here and just finding my way, but I read your note and a few comments, enough to get the idea that a few people here are assholes ( excuse my french), I come across idiots everyday. You just be strong, ignore the rude and ignorant people and remember that Karma IS a bitch. They will be in a bad spot someday and they will attract their own assholes to put them down. We all have a weakness and a strength unique to us and other people need to either support you or shut up. I've licked a lot of bowls in my time, I guess that's why I'm here. I'm not looking for sympathy, just trying to learn. When I was a kid, so many decades ago, we used to say "sticks & stones…" you know the rest.. I don't know the people you refer to, and don't want to because I;m sure they are the same people who text & drive. You have a really nice day, and once in a while, lick that frickin' bowl,

handmashed
handmashed 2015-02-11 01:40:33 -0600 Report

Dear Sweetslover,
I have to admit, I am no stronger than you. I HAD to make cupcakes and cookies for a scheduled event.. and yep, I licked the bowl once the cupcakes were in the oven… and then I ate a cupcake at the event. I paid for my "sins' with very high bg numbers. I have no one to blame, not one of us does. I think that it is normal to have some hours and days of higher needs… I think we all do. Not to copy a phrase… but, Shake it off… know that I need you here.. and that together we move forward.
much love to you..
debs

Edie
Edie 2015-02-12 09:28:09 -0600 Report

I have gotten hungry for cake, cookies, fudge and such well I make them what is placed in sandwich bags is for Bill's lunch pail and the rest is given to Family, friends, and Neighbors as well as my Garbage Man on Tuesday Mornings. That way I get my sweet fix and the rest as they say is History. So far it has helped me to have high days not so often.

sweetslover
sweetslover 2015-02-11 06:49:56 -0600 Report

I am glad to know that I am not the only one who licks the bowl. If it's not cooked yet, it's not a cookie or cupcake, right? LOL. I don't do it very often, but when I do "indulge" I try to make up by exercising a little more and cutting out another carb somewhere. Doesn't always work, but I try.

kimfing
kimfing 2015-02-11 21:36:38 -0600 Report

It's all I can do n not like the bowls. I try mightily to scrape most of it out so maybe only one lick is left. Lol :-)

kimfing
kimfing 2015-02-11 21:36:26 -0600 Report

It's all I can do n not like the bowls. I try mightily to scrape most of it out so maybe only one lick is left. Lol :-)

kimfing
kimfing 2015-02-11 21:36:18 -0600 Report

It's all I can do n not like the bowls. I try mightily to scrape most of it out so maybe only one lick is left. Lol :-)

rhett t
rhett t 2015-02-10 16:27:36 -0600 Report

Everyone of us mess up. that's what this sight is for to vent. I love your post so please don't take a break

Baking4ever
Baking4ever 2015-02-10 13:12:04 -0600 Report

Hi Sweetslover…I hope your having a better day today…you have a lot of support on this site…I would hate to see you give it all up; especially when you need the comfort and support the most…hugs…

sweetslover
sweetslover 2015-02-10 13:58:22 -0600 Report

Today is much better, thanks to all the support I was given yesterday. I was able to make some time to just enjoy myself this morning (not easy to do) and I feel much better. Thank you.

Sopies Grandma
Sopies Grandma 2015-02-10 16:11:30 -0600 Report

hey Sweetslover, I was thinking about you yesterday, and what you went through here, It made me stop and think about how I act and react to others. I hope you are doing better today.

Baking4ever
Baking4ever 2015-02-10 14:08:02 -0600 Report

I'm so glad to hear that…I don't think any of us takes enough time for ourselves first…but we need to remember we are the most important person in our own lives and if we don't take time for ourselves we will not be the best person we can be for those we care about…

Edie
Edie 2015-02-12 09:33:52 -0600 Report

As soon as I get home from taking my Daughter Pam to School and get her Son off to his School I take most of the day for myself every day after I get my chores done if I do them that is. I have spent most of this past week on Quilting. And am making 4 Memorial Wall Hangings for Family Members for our 4 Year old that Died on the 5th from an Asthma Attack we Buried her this past Monday. This is my way of moving on and being able to handle Death of any kind. The next Stage for me is Baking all the Goodies and sharing them with everyone around me even those I don't know.

Mallacai
Mallacai 2015-02-15 06:32:50 -0600 Report

My condolences for your loss. Know that you are a strong person as i know lots of people who cannot deal with it the way you are. I admire you.

Mallacai
Mallacai 2015-02-15 06:32:49 -0600 Report

My condolences for your loss. Know that you are a strong person as i know lots of people who cannot deal with it the way you are. I admire you.

Mallacai
Mallacai 2015-02-15 06:32:48 -0600 Report

My condolences for your loss. Know that you are a strong person as i know lots of people who cannot deal with it the way you are. I admire you.

Mallacai
Mallacai 2015-02-15 06:32:45 -0600 Report

My condolences for your loss. Know that you are a strong person as i know lots of people who cannot deal with it the way you are. I admire you.

Mallacai
Mallacai 2015-02-15 06:32:42 -0600 Report

My condolences for your loss. Know that you are a strong person as i know lots of people who cannot deal with it the way you are. I admire you.

Mallacai
Mallacai 2015-02-15 06:32:40 -0600 Report

My condolences for your loss. Know that you are a strong person as i know lots of people who cannot deal with it the way you are. I admire you.

Mallacai
Mallacai 2015-02-15 06:32:37 -0600 Report

My condolences for your loss. Know that you are a strong person as i know lots of people who cannot deal with it the way you are. I admire you.

sweetslover
sweetslover 2015-02-12 12:06:37 -0600 Report

Please know I am extremely sorry for your loss. It sounds like you have a plan for dealing with it. Keep us informed on how you are doing.

sweetslover
sweetslover 2015-02-12 12:04:10 -0600 Report

My condolences on your terrible loss. It sounds like you have a plan to help you deal with it. Let everyone on DC know if we can support you in any way. My heart goes out to you.

MarkS
MarkS 2015-02-10 09:56:48 -0600 Report

Hey Sweetslover, Hang in there and don't let the bashers control you. There are some individuals on here that think they know everything and are all that and then some. And, they are actually ignorant and know very little. Just so you know, I am with you on the eating urges. I typically eat probably more than I should but hey, its my life and I have insulin to take care of my blood sugar! I'll friend you and if you'd like, I'll lend you an ear. Take care and enjoy each day.

sweetslover
sweetslover 2015-02-10 14:00:26 -0600 Report

Thank you Mark. I sometimes wish I could take insulin to take care of my BG, but diet and exercise have to do it for me. Drat—I would love a banana split right now. LOL

Edie
Edie 2015-02-12 09:35:47 -0600 Report

I take insulin and some times even that is not enough. I'm glad you can control it with Diet and Exercise. Wish I could yet but not happening.

Sopies Grandma
Sopies Grandma 2015-02-10 16:13:00 -0600 Report

Root beer float for me please

MarkS
MarkS 2015-02-11 14:42:02 -0600 Report

Do you know at fast food places such as Burger King, where there is a Coke soda machine where you can mix your own soda, if you go to Barq's diet root beer, you can select Barq's vanilla soda in a root beer base - and it tastes just like a root beer float!

BreC
BreC 2015-02-10 08:32:29 -0600 Report

Found these quotes that have helped me.

Don’t let someone dim your light simply because it’s shining in their eyes

“I rest in the knowledge that I don’t have to prove myself in anyone’s eyes but my own.”

Edie
Edie 2015-02-12 10:41:40 -0600 Report

I LOVE these quotes too and am saving them to my Computer so I can Embroidery them to hang in my Home for all to See. Thanks for sharing.

BreC
BreC 2015-02-10 06:38:24 -0600 Report

So sorry this has happened to you. Hope you reconsider and stay. There are some here that I have chosen not to interact with and skip over their comments. Hang in there. Blessings. Hugs

rangerlina
rangerlina 2015-02-10 00:55:30 -0600 Report

I am so sorry you have had to deal with judgmental people. Those are the people I would like to see leave the forum, NOT you!! This is such a difficult disease to deal with, and we are all human. I really doubt any of those people can throw the first stone, as no one can do this perfectly! I also admit to making huge mistakes, having diabetic fatigue and eating less than perfect as well - and that does not make me weak. If anything this disease can make us very strong - but we do still need some sort of support system big time!! You are not a weak person, not at all, and I admire you very much! I hope if you do decide to take a break from this group that you can come back soon, as you are very appreciated and you are a very important part of it!

lilleyheidi
lilleyheidi 2015-02-09 23:33:05 -0600 Report

Dear Sweets, I'm sorry your feeling this way. Please take a minute to reconsider. Your a great asset to this community and if you leave you will be missed by many, myself especially. I enjoy your comments a lot, they are smart and insightful and often make me smile. I'm sorry your down right now, if there is any way I can support you let me know. Heidi

oink66
oink66 2015-02-09 21:48:02 -0600 Report

02/09/15 Dear Ms. SweetLovers, I'm so sorry to hear about your emotional melt-down. I too have days that I can barely put one foot in front of the other. I have seasonal depression (meaning to mny cold, rainy, derriere, snow days in a row causes me to spiral down)
I know what it feels like to be physically & emotionally challanged!
Sometimes I think I should ask my physician to ani-up the dosage on my daily dosage of Cymbalta, because being diabetic brings on bouts of depression .
I give SO much of myself Monday-Friday @ work. I sometimes struggle just to take my TWO 15 minute walks some days. I even take a day off from my karate classes. There's nothing wrong with taking out time for
**YOURSELF ** Go pamper yourself. Get a pedicure or a $25.00 shoulder message
I like to garage & thrift store shopping, or go to grocery store or Walmart find me a cheep Ivy . Works for me.

sweetslover
sweetslover 2015-02-09 22:16:42 -0600 Report

Thanks. Those are great relaxation ideas. I'm sorry to hear you have seasonal depression but keep heart, winter can't last that much longer—I hope.

valentine lady
valentine lady 2015-02-09 21:44:10 -0600 Report

Hi Sweetlover
I've read your discussion post and read through your ribbon of
answers. Here's what I think. I know of the discussion with what you refer and the 2 persons who posted to you. It upset me for you. I think especially after a post here today you should have them blocked.
The bullying has not stopped nor will it. Please don't leave DC. I enjoy you and your discussions very much. I have never thought of you as weak. Quite the opposite, you faced adversity head on and
you are fighting it. Diabetes I mean. You should not be forced to fight
an invisible force who only faces you to embarrass and hurt you. Your a valuable part of our community. I would sincerely miss you. Remember, these are my thoughts and opinions. Don't you let anyone
give you flack for me. Hugs, Peggy

Anonymous
Anonymous 2015-02-12 10:49:08 -0600 Report

Let John Crowley know what is being said he can't moniter all Discussions but if we let him know he can fix the problems for us.

Anonymous
Anonymous 2015-02-12 10:49:08 -0600 Report

Let John Crowley know what is being said he can't moniter all Discussions but if we let him know he can fix the problems for us.

sweetslover
sweetslover 2015-02-09 22:03:03 -0600 Report

Thank you so very much. Others as well as you have suggested I block these members. That might be the best thing for me to do. I really do not want to leave DC. Can you please tell me how to block these individuals?

Pegsy
Pegsy 2015-02-11 10:05:02 -0600 Report

Go to your profile page and click on "Connections". Look for the offending members name on your list of friends. Click on that members' name. When you get to their profile page, scroll to the bottom and you will see Report/Block [Member Name]. Click on that. Just doing this with ONE person has made my life on DC much more enjoyable and relaxed!

valentine lady
valentine lady 2015-02-09 22:22:48 -0600 Report

Sweetlover,
You start by reporting them for bullying and you request a block on that person. Administration
should be able to take it from there. Also talk to Gabby. She's the one to deal with. You sound so tired…let others help you now. Hugs, Peggy

valentine lady
valentine lady 2015-02-09 22:16:57 -0600 Report

Sweetlover,
You start by reporting them for bullying and you request a block on that person. Administration
should be able to take it from there. Also talk to Gabby. She's the one to deal with. You sound so tired…let others help you now. Hugs, Peggy

sweetslover
sweetslover 2015-02-09 22:24:36 -0600 Report

Thank you, Peggy. You are such a caring person. Yes, I am very tired right now, but there is not much I can do about that for the immediate future. Your support helps tremendously.

GeekonBoard
GeekonBoard 2015-02-09 19:56:29 -0600 Report

I think I just read the thread where you felt judged. I'm so sorry that you might be taking a break from DC. I'm really new to the website & am still making my way around & taking it all in. I've been posting more & more as I start to get the lay of the land. I hope you find the peace you need. I hope this is a website where people can come & share their opinions openly & honestly. That's what I was hoping for when I came across this website.

sweetslover
sweetslover 2015-02-09 20:21:52 -0600 Report

I think you will find this to be a great web site for you. It has really helped me a tremendous bit. I have got to learn not to let a couple of people get me so upset.

debcox
debcox 2015-02-09 16:39:13 -0600 Report

I'm sorry that this is happening to you. I do not think that you are a weak person and we all have our difficulties. I hope that you will stay because most of us will miss you. Personally, I would unfriend those that are not understanding.

suecsdy
suecsdy 2015-02-09 16:34:34 -0600 Report

I know what you mean and you are not alone. Sometimes I feel the same. Wanting something and not giving in is not a weakness, it is a strength. Just because we live with this horrible beast doesn't mean we have to like every aspect of dealing with it. I crave bread every single day. Do I eat it? Sadly , no. There's this wonderful bakery in the neighborhood that makes wonderful cupcakes piled high with buttercream frosting. Can't go there anymore.
For some of the same reasons you mentioned, that is why I have only been lurking for a while. That and I don't want my bad attitude to infect anyone else. Have not been in a good frame of mind lately and know people will tell me just get over it . I would if I could. Stay. Many of us would miss you.

Pegsy
Pegsy 2015-02-09 16:08:38 -0600 Report

I find you to be an encouraging person and I hope I am an encouragement to you. Please don't leave DC! I need your friendship. Did you know that you can block certain individuals from being able to post comments to you? I have already done this with one person and may need to do so with another. Hang in there and don't allow someone else's know-it-all or ugly attitude get to you. There are too many good people here that want to encourage and be encouraged. It's OK to be fragile sometimes. That is NOT the same as being weak. Porcelain is very strong but it is also very fragile. It is possible to be both at the same time. It's also OK.

sweetslover
sweetslover 2015-02-09 16:17:08 -0600 Report

Thank you Pegsy. I like your porcelain analogy. I do not want to leave DC, but I am so tired of people assuming I lack will-power, or am weak, or not following my diet. I think many misunderstandings could be avoided if people would carefully read what is being written and not jump to inaccurate conclusions.

Pegsy
Pegsy 2015-02-09 16:26:30 -0600 Report

People also need to remember that what may work beautifully for one person doesn't necessarily work for everyone. That's why sharing our experiences with one another is so valuable. I try a few things that work for others and if it works for me, great. If it doesn't, I move on from there and learn from the experience. Gradually I am putting together a program that works for me. And once in a while, I allow myself to deviate from the program for a special occasion or just because I need a little break. I don't need someone else correcting me for that. There needs to be simple pleasures in life sometimes or we rob ourselves of the joys of living. Granted, I don't enjoy those things as much or as often as I used to but I don't completely deny myself either.

sweetslover
sweetslover 2015-02-09 17:07:34 -0600 Report

I am finally getting to the point in my BG control where I can occasionally allow myself a small indulgence. I wait until I think I have been exceptionally good for a while and use it as a reward. I'm bad! LOL

Pegsy
Pegsy 2015-02-09 17:16:18 -0600 Report

I'm glad that works for you. I can't reward myself with food anymore. That's what got me into trouble in the first place. I would pig out to reward myself and I would pig out to comfort myself. I make a point or rewarding and comforting myself with other things now. But I do indulge on special occasions, especially when others are too. Better to join in (a little) than to feel left out and deprived. Thanksgiving, Christmas and birthdays are the biggies for me.

Baking4ever
Baking4ever 2015-02-09 15:53:57 -0600 Report

Hi Sweetslover, please don't let others dictatate how you are feeling…If I've ever made a comment that upset you, I'm sorry…this is suppose to be a support group to help everyone, not to make someone feel worse…and the way I see it is that you are a strong preson because you will admit to everyone if you had a bad day. We all need support and help or none of us would be here and for the most part we are all struggling with our will-power to some degree or another. You may feel like your fragile right now but I think it take a really strong person to admit that they faultered with something and we all can use some support and help at times. So what if you mess up on your diet today, it's a 24 hour period of your life; and a small bump in your journey to be healthy. Tomorrow is a new fresh day to start the first day of the rest of your life, motivated and happy…I'm glad you are part of this support group; tomorrow will be a better day for all of us…the negative nellies needs to look closely at their own lives because obviously they are miserable and trying to bring others down to where their at. Please stay on this site I look forward to getting to know you better.

sweetslover
sweetslover 2015-02-09 15:59:36 -0600 Report

Thank you. I appreciate your kind words. I will think about everything you said.

Baking4ever
Baking4ever 2015-02-09 16:29:09 -0600 Report

Sweetslover try to remember when we are feeling down, and fragile that's when we need the support of others the most; I know I haven't been on this site very long but I joined because it looked like it was very supportive to people when they needed it the most…

Baking4ever
Baking4ever 2015-02-09 16:20:11 -0600 Report

I just looked at the photos you have posted and your horses are beautiful, your interests are very similar to mine…I have been doing crafts most of my life. I have found when I'm having issues that if I can keep busy and concentrate on doing a new craft or something it really helps…have a nice long soak in a hot bath and try and relax a bit…or think about a nice long horseback ride…where I live we have had 3 major blizzards in a week and there is snow everywhere (165 cm+ of it) but I seen the most beautiful thing the other morning after the fresh new snow…a bright red male cardinal at my bird feeders. It was the first one I have ever seen and it was so beautiful and since then when I'm stressed I just think about how please I felt to have had the opportunity to have seen one…I know it's only a little thing and means nothing to most people but sometimes we have to look at the smallest little bright things in our life to help us through our bumps along the way…

oink66
oink66 2015-02-09 22:51:36 -0600 Report

02/09/15, I agree with you
Baking4Ever. Having someone to just (@ @) listen to your obsticals, concerns, thoughts, feelings & fears. **COMFORT ** , **SUPPORT** are powerful words and tools we can't live without them.

sweetslover
sweetslover 2015-02-09 17:13:17 -0600 Report

I love nature and enjoying all of God's creatures (except for Spiders out on the trail). We have a pair of bluebirds that come down every winter and stay a couple of weeks in one of our trees. I don't know why they don't stay longer, but I love seeing them when they are here.

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