By sweetslover Latest Reply 2015-02-23 21:06:15 -0600
Started 2015-01-28 20:51:36 -0600

I'm not doing very well tonight. I ran into a total jerk at the pool today. When I politely asked him to swim his laps on the swimmers side of the pool and not the walkers side, he became verbally abusive and told me he never takes orders from a woman. He went on to say I should be ashamed to come out around men in a bathing suit, and that I should learn my place in the world. I stood up for myself, but I was shaking so bad one of the trainers jumped in the pool with his clothes on and stood by me until they got this person over to where he was supposed to be. I hate any kind of confrontation. It really upsets me. My BG has been high all afternoon and is still high tonight. I have tried some relaxation techniques and have even done some exercises, but they don't seem to be working. I don't know how to get my BG back down.

23 replies

MrsCDogg 2015-02-23 15:51:17 -0600 Report

There is something I use when I have panic attacks that really seems to help. It helps me to relax and get over it. It's called EFT Tapping. Look it up on YouTube. I was surprised at how well it works.

TammyMSW 2015-02-02 07:49:03 -0600 Report

I'm sorry you experienced this. Thanks for sharing it here. You are safe here and appreciated for just being you.

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2015-01-29 16:27:13 -0600 Report

Hey sweetslover,

I am so sorry to hear about this. Wow, there are some really troubled people in the world. Encounters like these are a reminder.

I am glad to hear you got some support from the trainer. He was your guardian angel in this one. And a reminder that there are also lots of nice people in the world.

And I know how hard it can be to not let go of an occurrence like this. I don't like confrontation, either. It brings up a lot of emotions that aren't easy to let go of. It might help to remind yourself that he is a troubled guy, that it wasn't personal, you just happened to be there at the wrong time. But you did get support and you won!

It might help to talk this out with someone. Do some venting. And maybe even have a good laugh if you can. Life is too good to let this poor troubled guy get any more of your attention.


sweetslover 2015-01-29 21:08:41 -0600 Report

Thanks, Dr. Gary. I was a little nervous about going back to the pool today, but I went and everything was fine. My guardian angel/trainer joked when he saw me and asked if he needed to change into his swim suit to be ready to come to my rescue again. I'm a big girl—I'll be fine—it just really shook me up for a while. It is just a little frightening how quick a normal situation can turn into something threatening.

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2015-02-03 22:15:30 -0600 Report

Thanks for following up with me, sweetslover. Really glad you went back to the pool! That's great. But also glad you have someone ready to jump in -- literally -- and give you a hand. I know how awful it can be when people become so confrontational. After all, I live in New York City! :))

denipink57 2015-01-29 10:12:55 -0600 Report

i hate confrontation too so i know how you might have felt. i am sorry that you had to go thru that and good for you for standing up for yourself. that guy was a real jerk!

when your bg is too high drink lots of water. drinking lots of water will help to bring it back down along with your relaxation techniques and exercising.try your best to relax and your bg will right itself in good time.

good luck!

Type1Lou 2015-01-29 09:59:14 -0600 Report

You did well to stand up for yourself. That man was a bully who obviously felt he had to denigrate you to make himself feel important…so sad. I was happy that someone interceded for you as well. I understand your being rattled and the stressful effect it can have. When I'm involved in a confrontation (that I attempt to avoid) I seem to replay it in my mind for several days .There is nothing you did wrong and you were completely proper in your request. Unfortunately, there will always be JERKS in this world. Hoping that you're feeling more comfortable with yourself.

NewSong53 2015-01-29 06:30:54 -0600 Report

So sorry that happened. I know how you feel because it happens to me sometimes (rarely). At my age, I've had things like this happen so much, it hardly phases me anymore. Always consider the source. What a bully and how selfish and abusive can one person be?!! You did nothing to deserve that type of treatment and I'm happy that the trainer stepped in to assist you and put the guy in his place. He is to be commended!

Pegsy 2015-01-29 05:44:49 -0600 Report

I'm sorry that happened to you. So many mean people in this world these days. I know when I get stressed like that my glucose soars and it just doesn't come back down until those stress hormones subside. Hang in there. I'm glad that one of the trainers came to your aid and that they dealt with the man by getting him back to the side of the pool where he belonged. I am disappointed though, that they didn't escort him out of the facility and ban him from returning because of his aggression.

GabbyPA 2015-01-29 05:15:27 -0600 Report

I am horrified that someone would act that way. Jerk is putting it mildly. If you are like me, you relive those kinds of things for a while and that doesn't help with the stress part of it. What helps me is finding a way to laugh at it. I mean seriously laugh out loud and what a small minded person he is. When I talk about it and can finally laugh about those kinds of things, it relieves a lot of my stress.

If that is not working, maybe drinking some extra water and finding a relaxing activity you enjoy doing. It gets your mind off the indecent and helps you calm down.

valentine lady
valentine lady 2015-01-29 04:20:35 -0600 Report

Hi. Sweets,
I don't do well with confrontation either. However, after years of abuse
I did learn how to stand up for myself and even look brave. But believe you me inside I'm shaking like a leaf. I'm sure my BG goes up high too. You did did so well by sticking up for yourself and I'm so sorry this had to happen to you.

Suzanne Poole
Suzanne Poole 2015-01-29 03:43:30 -0600 Report

Jerk? You are very kind. He was a flipping neanderthal moron! NEVER be ashamed of being what you are. Woman or man, you were born that way and that is what you were meant to be. He obviously has an inferiority complex and had to lash out at someone to make himself feel better. You just happened to be unfortunate enough to get caught in his line of fire.

debcox 2015-01-29 01:21:49 -0600 Report

Oh no, what a terrible thing to happen. I'm so sorry that you are having a difficult time getting your BG back down.

jayabee52 2015-01-29 01:10:33 -0600 Report

Sorry sweets that this man gives all the rest of us men a horrible name. I am so very sorry that this happened to you. I wish there was something which I could do to make it better for you,

BTW I hate confrontations too, but someone cannot usually tell from the outside.

God's best to you

lilleyheidi 2015-01-28 23:17:55 -0600 Report

That is horrible that someone would say something so outrageous. I'm sorry it got aimed at you. Please stop fretting about your BG, try to remember that this is just one day, in the grand scheme of things it isn't going to make that big of a difference. Your A1c is averaged over 3 months, one day isn't going to make a bad A1c reading. Just write it down in your log book "high stress" so you know why it was high, and let it go. Do things you enjoy doing.
That guy really needs to go back to wherever he came from. HUGS, Heidi

oink66 2015-01-28 22:57:01 -0600 Report

So sorry to hear about your bad day, I hope that you'll have a better day tomorrow.
First off, You should have asked him what Ancient Corroded can did he just crawl out of ? Good for you - You stood up for yourself. You took the controling power away from him.

RebDee 2015-01-28 22:04:15 -0600 Report

Take a hot bath. Read a sexy book. Watch a funny tv program. Do anything that you think will relax you. If you have a dog, pat him - you will both enjoy it. Eat a fruit (apple? orange? peach? but not banana). And stop taking your BS as it is stressing you out.

As for the jerk in the pool, thanks to the trainer, he was put in his place. But I sure am glad that I was not there as a swift kick in the you know what while still wearing my heavy shoes would have shut him up. I hate bullies.

Jibber Jabber
Jibber Jabber 2015-01-28 21:29:20 -0600 Report

Seriously…WARNING I AM ABOUT TO CURSE…what a flipping douchbag!!!…Dude needs to get back in his time machine and go back to the 1800's…I am sorry he upset you…I probably would of busted out laughing and flashed him a boob…but that's just me…unfortunately there are still cultures in this world that treat women like garbage..I am sorry you had to be exposed to it…and I am glad you had a trainer there to assist you…In the grand scheme of life one run in with a jerk is not that bad…I feel sorry for his wife and daughters…breaks my heart..

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