When do you get caught up to deal with stress?

By Jim1954 Latest Reply 2015-01-28 22:13:00 -0600
Started 2015-01-23 10:51:06 -0600

I think I need to give more info on my wife and myself so you can better understand my stress level.
4 years ago I found out I had diabetes, with an A1C of 12.8 and BG of 582. Then almost to the date one year later I find I have fatty liver disease, and one year later I have a pacemaker due to right side heart failure. And for my topper, I go back into the hospital this past August with A Fib and sent home with o2. So before I get myself organized for one problem I get smacked again and all this has limited my activity level, but I made myself go and tried my best not to give up. I’ve also had, over the past 15 years, 7 back surgeries with a fusion and a spinal cord stimulator to deal with the pain.
Then 2 years ago my wife was forced into retirement from a company she had worked for for 30 years. It hit her hard and she became withdrawn. Finally to the point of causing health problems due to non exercise. Fluid in her legs started to build up and we would go to the doctor and they would say, you’re over weight and just need to lose weight and would give her water pills, even though I would try to explain that she would pass out for hours at a time. This happened for several months until she developed sores on her legs from the edema and was referred to a wound clinic. The wound clinic took one look and admitted her to the hospital where they found her co2 level was 76.8% and had congestive heart failure. They knocked her out with drugs and placed her on life support for 4.5 weeks. They asked me if I wanted her resuscitated and if her affairs were in order. After her tracheotomy she got better and another 2.5 weeks in the hospital she got to come home. She does not remember much from the past year. She has lost some brain function due to the high co2 levels and at times becomes very mean verbally.
AND the day she was admitted to the hospital the first time, my dad of 93 was admitted to another hospital and then died the next day.
I’ve had my limits pushed, I might be too sensitive trying to catch up with everything that has happened. I'm ready to quit and run away.

9 replies

Stuart1966 2015-01-28 10:48:37 -0600 Report

How can we be of help to your hideous burdens? What help can we be for you?

Where will you run away to find peace? Leave a map would ya…?

Jim1954 2015-01-28 11:17:46 -0600 Report

I think I just needed to unload somewhere and sorry y'all were it. If my space friends come to get me I will leave a forwarding email addy.

Stuart1966 2015-01-28 22:11:22 -0600 Report

Sorry for what… gently chuckling?

We are diabetics, we do not fear the words of friends and peers. Merely wish there was something simple to help…

lilleyheidi 2015-01-24 02:32:14 -0600 Report

I'm so very sorry that your going through this shitstorm. I said half jokingly to y friend the other day "I give up", and she came back with this saying that I say to you "you can scream, you can cry, but you can't give up on life". There are days we'd all like to run away to the circus, and if you manage to do it, please give me a call, I'll join you.
Just remember, no matter what, DC is here with sympathetic ears and shoulders should you ever need someone to listen. I will be praying and thinking of you. Best to you. Heidi

sweetslover 2015-01-23 20:07:41 -0600 Report

All I can say is, I'm sorry for all your pain. You have been up against a lot and have survived. Want to or not, you can do it.

suecsdy 2015-01-23 11:19:13 -0600 Report

Jim, I am so sorry for all that has happened to you. Life can be shitty sometimes and you've been dealing with a lot. I understand wanting to quit and run away. I wouldn't mind running away myself sometimes. Unfortunately, It won't change things any. I don't have any magic words of comfort for you…I don't think there are any. It just is what it is. At least you can always come here to DC for some sympathetic ears. Hang in there and we'll be sending good thoughts and prayers your way