5 Stages of Diabetes Acceptance

By Type1Lou Latest Reply 2015-01-25 06:59:07 -0600
Started 2015-01-22 17:19:52 -0600

Here is a link to a blog article I saw on Facebook. Rick Phillips put into words what many of us have experienced or are experiencing. I thought it worth sharing.


20 replies

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Patsy451 2015-01-24 13:03:49 -0600 Report

I get so upset to think this is for the rest of my life. I am trying to do the best I can and sometimes I get very frustrated. However I am still learning.

Type1Lou 2015-01-24 13:07:25 -0600 Report

Patsy, you are not alone in this. Will telling you that it may become easier with time make it easier for you to deal with it now?…probably not… Learning as much as you can about what you can do to manage your diabetes is a positive step in regaining control of your life.

GabbyPA 2015-01-23 22:48:46 -0600 Report

Just like grief over the loss of a loved one...we grieve over the loss of our lifestyle and the things we face in the future. These are always good reminders that many of us are in different stages of dealing with our diabetes.

valentine lady
valentine lady 2015-01-23 04:19:21 -0600 Report

Dear Lou
Thank you so much for sharing this with us. It is very good. I had never considered the 5 stages of grief to be associated
to diabetes. For so long I was stuck in acceptance. I couldn't'
go anywhere but be stuck where I was. I finally relied on my
Faith and was able to move on to where I am today. Thank you again for sharing. Hugs. VL

Type1Lou 2015-01-23 14:31:05 -0600 Report

We read so many posts about people who are angry that they have diabetes or ignore it for a while; I'm always at a loss as to how to lead them to acceptance. Because I watched my Dad deal with his diabetes when I was growing up, I think it made it easier for me to accept my diagnosis at age 27 as something I just had to deal with. I'm glad you liked it and thanks for sharing what you've gone through.

lilleyheidi 2015-01-22 22:48:40 -0600 Report

I got stuck. I spent the first 4 1/2 years going thru the stages. Mostly in denial. I spent most of that time just eating and burying myself under my covers in depression and anger. It took a great shock to my system (the death of a friend) to come out of it and wake up to reality. I've now accepted this and embraced my reality. I have a disease I can live with. I don't have to love it, but I can live with it. I'm pretty okay with it now. Thanks for the link. Heidi

Stuart1966 2015-01-22 22:30:56 -0600 Report

1969, Elisabeth K├╝bler-Ross proposed these ideas.

With respect they are no more "fact" or true today, than they were then, unfortunately. Others will find better explanations of/for their experiences… or at least surely different ones

robertoj 2015-01-22 22:05:49 -0600 Report

I wasn't told by my doctor first. I picked up other meds and was shocked to be handed testing supplies along with metformin and glyburide. I refused the items. When I got home I received a message from my doctor. I returned to the pharmacy and picked them up. That was the extent of denial. Having already had a serious dx and knowing that the quicker I get to acceptance the quicker I can take the problem head on. I completely bypassed anger and bargaining. The next day I watched a program about diabetes and went on their site to research diabetes. It was during the holidays so I was well armed with tips..

Jibber Jabber
Jibber Jabber 2015-01-22 22:39:38 -0600 Report

I skipped denial completely as well…I don't do denial…never have…I just thought I have diabetes I better learn to deal…women in my family live a long time…not a one has gone under 90..most well into their 90's…I am NOT going to have that streak broken because I refuse to deal with my health issues…

Type1Lou 2015-01-23 14:37:09 -0600 Report

I was blessed to have my Mom til she was nearly 98. (She did not have diabetes.) My Dad, who was dx'd at age 61 with diabetes, lived until age 81. He was a good role model for me in dealing with diabetes and, I think made it easier for me to accept my diagnosis. The longevity in our families is added incentive to keep our BG's in good control to avoid those nasty complications that impede quality of life, particularly as we age.

haoleboy 2015-01-22 19:22:44 -0600 Report

I seem to stuck in the "Mad As Hell And Not Going To Take It Any More" stage

In all seriousness, I did not go through this with my diabetes diagnosis … but did BIG TIME after my stroke.


Pegsy 2015-01-22 19:20:12 -0600 Report

I can surely attest to all of these stages personally. I actually diagnosed myself via a home test. The denial was immediate. Then I was very angry with myself because I felt I could have prevented it had I just taken better care of myself sooner. I immediately changed my lifestyle. I ate right. I exercised. I lost a lot of weight. The bargain was that if I did these things I would reverse the diabetes. That didn't happen. After losing over 70 lbs and my glucose not coming down enough I saw my doctor and got on meds. That really felt like defeat to me. Still does. After losing over 90 lbs. by dramatically changing my eating habits, exercising like a maniac and doing everything possible to reduce my stress and still ending up on meds,,,that's when the depression set in. I feel as though I am only just now coming out of that. I accept that diabetes is here for the rest of my life. It is the driving force behind living a healthier lifestyle for the rest of my life. In a way, I am grateful for that. Prior to learning that I had diabetes, I had no motivation to improve my health. Now it motivates me daily. It may be what I need to live a longer healthier life. I don't know. I hope to some day be off meds but I accept that may never happen and I am prepared to live with that. But acceptance doesn't mean you have to like it. I am just learning not to hate it.

jayabee52 2015-01-22 19:35:01 -0600 Report

"acceptance doesn't mean you have to like it."
That is so true! I just call it my "new normal"

jayabee52 2015-01-22 19:00:48 -0600 Report

Thanks for sharing that Lou

The one thing which is true (as I have experienced it firsthand) that I don't remember Rick writing about is those stages of grief do not always proceed in a linear fashion. The grieving person may skip a stage and later come back to it. Also one can return to the grieving process once they're "over" it for a while. Generally, however the grief is not as intense as at first and not as long lasting.

So folks, do not despair if you find yourself back into the stages. It is normal for that to happen.


Type1Lou 2015-01-23 14:40:49 -0600 Report

Although I haven't experience each of the stages he noted, I thought it was an interesting way to break down what we might experience and help some better cope with their diagnosis . Glad you liked it James!

Jibber Jabber
Jibber Jabber 2015-01-22 17:30:47 -0600 Report

I think I was relieved for about a day..when my doctor told me…he had scared the crap out of me…he called the day after I did bloodwork and told me "COME IN RIGHT NOW"…yeah…lmao I thought I was dying…so when he told me I had diabetes I was like "whoooosh dodged a bullet there"…then I got a little scared…then mostly pissed…pissed at myself for allowing my doctor to intimidate me ten years ago into going off my keto diet…then pissed at the ADA for feeding me a line of hogwash with their "diabetic dietary guildlines"…then after I figured out how to take the bull by the horns and ignore all the "white noise" that is out there on diabetes…I was fine…was about 4-5 weeks where I was in a state of WTF!!!!…but since then I am all good in the hood…(sorry I am a Brooklyn Girl and that's just how I say I am doing well)