Work stress, life stress, can throw your self-care way off track. How do you avoid the cycle?

Dr Gary
By Dr GaryCA Latest Reply 2015-02-06 22:26:19 -0600
Started 2015-01-20 16:35:48 -0600

Stress at work… stress at home… and ignoring your self-care routine. Does this cycle sound familiar?

It seems that we humans have a way of putting ourselves on a treadmill as we try to react to all the demands around us, often starting with the job. As a result, our own needs can end up in last place. We forget that only by managing our self-care can we be truly effective in our jobs and in our home life. And so the negative cycle begins.

It also seems to me that once you let your self-care sit up on the shelf while you scramble around trying to respond to all those competing demands, it’s all too easy to leave it sitting there. Operating in stress mode can start to feel normal. But whether you’re aware of it or not, operating in stress mode, and neglecting self-care, can lead to feeling more and more depleted, which can lead to burnout. If you are feeling burned out, you may be even more likely to neglect your self-care. Your emotional and physical health is at risk!

Another consequence: When your self-care routine is off the rails, it may seem that much harder to start up again. The cycle continues…

Here’s the bottom line. If you let work stress get in the way of taking good care of yourself, you run the risk of being less able to cope effectively. As a result, stress leads to more stress.

I posted an article about this awhile back. Here’s a link:

So what do you do to avoid the work stress, home stress, life stress cycle?

How do you keep stress from getting in the way of taking care of yourself?

Any ideas to share?

I’m all ears (eyes)!

114 replies

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2015-02-01 16:56:46 -0600 Report

Hi Dr. Gary, part of my regrowth many years ago was to reduce stress in my life.

I don't stress over anything that is not in my total control. I don't view co-workers and my boss as friends. They are people I work with. I am friendly but I really don't care what is going on in their lives. I listen if I have to but very rarely get involved.

I got rid of whiners, complainers and people who always have some kind of drama out of my life. I am not going to sit down and listen to people whine and complain about problems which they created 99% of the time. My neighbor has serious problems with her diabetes because she won't listen to her doctor or tell him the problems she is having. I asked her what did she want me to do about it? She said help her. I asked her why would I help her if she won't listen to her doctor, her daughters who learned everything they could about diabetes to help her. She now gets it that she is on her own and her daughter said the doctor told her if she doesn't listen and talk to him diabetes will kill her. Nothing we have not told her.

Also in my growth change was developing a thick skin. You have to have that when you work with the public. I get so sick and tired of people whining because some one offended them. Just because you were offended does not mean you were right in what ever was said to you. The fact of the matter is you have to grow up. Whining is cute when you are 2 years old.

It is what it is. If you lose your job, look for another, if someone walks out of your life, they didn't want to be there, move on. You have a chronic disease, learn to live with it as best you can. Get out and meet people and try new things.

I look back at all of the things that use to stress me out. Today I actually cannot believe that I stressed out over things that didn't matter. I find that facing life and the problems that come with living is much better than being stressed out and depressed. I choose to live a much happier life with very little stress. I don't live up to anyone's expectations but my own and I learned a long time ago not to care what people think of me. It really isn't all that important.

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2015-02-06 22:26:19 -0600 Report

Hi Joyce,

I appreciate that you shared your wisdom here. I am a big fan of recognizing what I have control over and don't have control over. It makes living with potentially stressful events a whole lot easier. And I agree that it's important to not get caught up in other people's drama. It's not helping them and it certainly isn't helping you. Life on life's terms, as they say.

Sounds like you have learned from your experiences. I try to do that, too.

Thank you!


BreC 2015-01-24 20:39:32 -0600 Report

I can get stressed over minor things. I do have a short temper. I get defensive and my mouth sometimes gets me into bad situations. I take on the "I could care less" attitude. I became this way after some people hurt me to the core. I built up a wall and shut out a lot of people. Now if I start to get stressed I try to walk away before it gets too bad. I have my Chiweenie that I can go on walks with and am about to get another furbaby. A Chihuahua due in the middle of February. Unconditional love. My husband has also helped me tremendously. He knows when I get that look and can steer me to a better state.

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2015-01-24 22:04:30 -0600 Report

Hey BreC! Thanks for checking in. I know how being hurt can cause you to develop a wall against other people. It's hard to trust when you have been disappointed. I am glad to hear you have so much love surrounding you. That's great!

GeekonBoard 2015-01-24 18:52:14 -0600 Report

I'm a newbie on this website & thought I would dive right in with a few discussions. Confession: I'm not great at staying on top of self-care. As an introvert with few friends…depression & anxiety on top of being newly diagnosed with type 2 diabetes — things were most definitely slipping. But, I have a wonderful therapist that has helped me cope. And, thanks to The Affordable Care Act - I've been able to obtain health & dental insurance for the first time in years. I've been able to start aggressively addressing health issues that were being neglected. As far as tackling stress…my therapist has introduced me to EMDR therapy & mediation over the past several years that has helped significantly. I work with animals & most days it is also a HUGE stress buster. My cats help melt stress away at the end of a stressful day. Music & movies are a great way for me to escape for a moment or two. I feel hopeful for the first time in quite a while that I'm headed in the right direction & am able to address many health problems that were being neglected like my diabetes. I feel like this has started my journey & I know it won't be a smooth road, but I'm more ready to try than I was a year ago. I'm also hoping this website might be a place to find support on this journey.

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2015-01-24 22:01:59 -0600 Report

Hey GeekonBoard! Welcome to Diabetic Connect! I am really glad you are here. Thanks for diving in here! Sounds like you have had a lot to deal with. I am happy to hear you are working with a therapist who is helping you to develop coping skills. I've heard great things about EMDR. I encourage my own clients to meditate as well. Sounds like you are taking good care of yourself. That's excellent! And you have found a really supportive group of people here on Diabetic Connect, so I hope you will stay in touch with us! Gary

Patsy451 2015-01-24 13:50:24 -0600 Report

Stress is great in my life as well. I have a mother in hospice who is declining. I am the only one who cares about her she had lived with us for four years until mid August. We could no longer care for her she wouldn't get up for us and we couldn't lift her. I put her in a nursing home however I try to see her everyday. It hurts me deeply that I could no longer care for her. I also work full time.

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2015-01-24 21:58:42 -0600 Report

Hi Patsy, I am really sorry to hear about your mom. I have been through this myself. I know how hard it is. You are doing the best you can, and I am sure your mom appreciates all you do for her. I hope you are getting lots of love and support during this difficult time. Take care of yourself!

Docjjb 2015-01-23 22:32:35 -0600 Report

I found myself in a situation where my beloved dad passes on dec 10 & mom on jan 31. To boot I found my mother in laws corpse @ her home and that just added to the stress and depression mightily. My doc gave. Me. Lexapro and it made a big difference in my life. Good luck and keep fighting!

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2015-01-24 21:57:18 -0600 Report

Hi Docjjb, so sorry to hear this. That is a lot of loss to deal with at once. I hope you are taking good care of yourself. Glad you talked to your doctor about what was going on and how you were feeling. And glad to hear you are feeling better. Keep us posted on how you're doing!

Fefe12 2015-01-23 19:58:08 -0600 Report

I also have that type of personality that can get easily stressed. I have to be watchful. Remember to take my bl surgars. ( I do forget, but i keep my A1C perfect) Be more loving, slow down, have a glass of wine, hold hands with my husband, enjoy the grandkids, take lots of walks. Do whatever it takes to keep going but to know how important you are to not only those around you but to yourself. Sometimes we feel we've been dealt a heavy hand. But there are so many out there much worse then us. We ALL have some kind of cross to bear weather we see it or not. Make the decision to move on. It's ok! Would you rather miss out on love, grandchildren, flowers, coffee!!? Decide and " Just do it"

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2015-01-24 21:55:17 -0600 Report

Hey Fefe! I appreciate that you shared your experience and wisdom with us. Sounds like you are telling us to be grateful, to enjoy the moment, to spend time with the people we really care about. And stay optimistic! And when we take good care of ourselves, and make our health a priority, we are able to be there for the people in our life that we care about. Yes, just do it!

roxanne bohnnow
roxanne bohnnow 2015-01-23 19:33:53 -0600 Report

At the moment I am under more stress then I have ever been under. My husband of almost 33 years is in the hospital, they will be sending him to a nursing home for rehab. The township fire chief says our home is not safe to live in. I have asked for help from family members for two years now and not one has come to help me. I am not asking for money, just some strong hands to help me clear out all the clutter from hoarding over the past 22 years. And maybe some help cleaning what is under all that clutter. Now I have been told that if it is not cleaned up Adult Protective Services will come and pull me out of my home. So I am having to go to all these different places and ask them for help. I have forgotten to take my meds a number of time. Plus my BG is either to high or it drops to low. I have cry into my pillow every night for the past week. Today I started to get phone calls from people who are will to help me, even the township fire department has said that they want to help me get our home de-cluttered so that my husband will have a safe place to come home to. Now I am crying for a different reason.

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2015-01-24 21:52:35 -0600 Report

Hi Roxanne, thanks a lot for letting us know what's going on in your life, my friend. Wow, sorry to hear about your husband and what's going on with you at home. That's really sad. But it looks like there is a silver lining in those dark clouds, and that you are going to be getting some help in getting your home back in shape. I wish you all the best as you move forward with this project. It's good to know there are people out there who are willing to lend a hand! Please keep us posted on how you and your husband are doing, my friend!

RebDee 2015-01-23 10:27:58 -0600 Report

I received this quote in the e-mail today and thought it perfect for us at DC.

"The kindest way of helping yourself is to find a friend," (Ann Kaiser Stearns, author)

needanickname 2015-01-23 00:13:11 -0600 Report

It may seem too simple… But no matter what I am far too important not to put myself first. Without my health nothing else exists. I take the time to workout daily. I take the time to read something to help me relax and grow as a person daily. And I take the time to talks to my friends and husband daily.

I set alarms to check sugars. If I find myself getting tired or stressed I take a walk. You have to make the time.

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2015-01-24 21:48:36 -0600 Report

Hey needanickname! Great to see you. And I totally agree. Your health is the foundation, and taking good care of yourself makes everything else possible. Glad to see you have a regular workout routine and a way to relax and grow. Excellent!

Edie 2015-01-22 21:09:50 -0600 Report

We had all of my Records and Record Player in Storage for over 3 Years when we finally moved our Mobile Home out of the Trailer Park and onto our own Lot I got them out and started listening to them again. During the past 3 Months I have started going thru them listening to them one by one. There are a few I loved as a teenager when I listened to them last week I asked my Husband what did I love about that music back then. Kiss was the one that blew me away they are all sitting off to the side to be given away later after I listen to them one more time to see if I feel the same way yet. LOL Tonight I was listening to a Record on Jazz Dancing got to listen to that one again when I am not pinning the binding around my quilts. This one needs a washing when I am done. enough blood to do my testing tonight, Over 275 again. I only ate half of my supper and gave the rest to my husband, Grandson and Chloe my puppy. They ate most of it why was my BG so high again. I ate half a piece of Chicken, all of my peas and carrots, and only 6 of my fries. Still not hungry and that was 5 hours ago.

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2015-01-24 21:46:28 -0600 Report

Hi Edie, nice to see you. Music is a really good way to reduce stress, and those old records also have a lot of great memories. Glad you got them out and enjoyed yourself. Take good care of yourself. Keep in touch with your doctor, especially if you are having trouble keeping your blood sugar under control. And stay in touch!

Edie 2015-01-26 09:43:58 -0600 Report

I have found so many old records that they are bringing all kinds of memories back some really good ones and some not so good. Yesterday I found a Statler Brother Record that I had bought for my Mother the year she died and it made me remember those last days with her the pain she was in and the happiness that the record brought her there at the end. I also found one box set of music that I didn't think was Christmas but it is so it is now in the pile of Christmas Music, I didn't know I had so many Christmas Songs on hand just think of the Party I can throw this year with nothing but Christmas Music there is over 30 records of just it. LOL will divide the rest into singers when done listening to the others. I have a stand that has 6 sections one shelf under the sections and then the floor below and all 6 sections are full with some standing on end in front of the unit with the Steryo on top. I am thinking of replacing this system with a new one and give this one to the Grandson up in Tawas, Michigan after I get my new one. Well have to change my record and start cleaning so will talk more later.

Jim1954 2015-01-22 11:56:03 -0600 Report

I use to be known as having the patients of Job. Now all I feel is stress and a quick breaking point. At this point I do not know what to do. As the way things look right now, my wife and I of 24 years are headed to a split.

Fefe12 2015-01-23 19:47:51 -0600 Report

I'm so sorry to hear about all the trouble you are having. Sometimes the best answer is to do nothing. It may sound crazy, but sometimes we have to step back, relax regroup and breath. Ask why these things are happening. If you have to, write it down on paper. It may be a long list, but keep going, you can always scratch things off. Then start from the beginning and put a line through everything that's not necessary. Think about what's missing in your life. Downtime, taking your wife out to dinner, how about a walk. WE are important, sometimes we forget and take others along our path. Slow down, sit still, and ask yourself, what do you want? Then go for it. Good luck

Edie 2015-01-22 20:14:02 -0600 Report

Jim when was the last time you and your Wife did something just for the 2 of you. We now have Date night which is Saturday Night if he don't have to work on Sunday, other wise he takes me out on Sunday, even if it is only a drive for the 2 of us. If your Wife and you want to talk send me a note in my mail and I will gladly give you both our Phone Number. We live in Bunker Hill, Indiana. Hope to hear from you soon.

sweetslover 2015-01-23 19:55:55 -0600 Report

My husband and I try to have a date at least twice a week. It might be to go to the grocery store together, but we call it a date because we are doing it together. It helps to do normal things together.

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2015-01-22 15:14:02 -0600 Report

Hey Jim,

I am so sorry to hear this. Sounds like the stress is getting to you. Have you reached out for help? I am wondering if it might be useful for you and your wife to sit down with a couples counselor and talk things out. Couples counseling have helped lots of couples in your situation. Why not give it a try?

Stay in touch with us, my friend!


RebDee 2015-01-22 14:47:27 -0600 Report

If you don't want that split, then it is time for you to be able to count to 10 or 20 or more before you say anything that will antagonize her. And if you think you are going to be angry at something, then give her a hug, a kiss, stroke her back, anything to make physical contact (not sexual) to relieve your stress.

rangerlina 2015-01-22 22:08:36 -0600 Report

Taking the moment to do something like RebDee said will also give you that moment to calm down, and I would think put you in a better mood, and help get through the stress easier! Best wishes!

rangerlina 2015-01-22 02:03:45 -0600 Report

I was not doing well at all with this! But the VA has finally put together a team to work with me - endo, primary, diabetes nurse and nurse practitioner and nutritionist and now a diabetes stress psychologist to help deal with diabetic fatigue and burn out. So far so good!

Edie 2015-01-22 20:18:15 -0600 Report

I go for walks with my puppy which will be a year old on Valentines Day. I told the kids I get to enjoy my Valentine everyday of the year. She is such a joy to be around I have found that since the kids have given her to me my stress level is down a lot.

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2015-01-22 15:10:35 -0600 Report

Hi rangerlina, really glad you got some help from a mental health professional. A valuable addition to your team! And really glad it's helping you. Thanks for letting us know!

rangerlina 2015-01-22 22:02:51 -0600 Report

I was skeptical at first, but she did her thesis on diabetes management (never had heard of such) and she really gets it, and has already made a difference. The smaller stuff don't bother me as much, and the numbers, while they still make me angry/annoyed/ completely ticked off/ ready to throw hands in the air - I find that I remember the things we have discussed and to not be so hard on myself. It makes a big difference!

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2015-01-22 22:58:13 -0600 Report

rangerina, no worries. I have done multiple posts, too. Sounds like you got some help in changing your perspective. As you said, not sweating the small stuff. A valuable perspective for all of us! Thanks for sharing this.

rangerlina 2015-01-22 22:05:49 -0600 Report

Crapola! Did NOT mean to post multiples - sorry!! Oddly it does not snow me that it has posted. Oops and sorry!

rangerlina 2015-01-22 22:01:39 -0600 Report

I was skeptical at first, but she did her thesis on diabetes management (never had heard of such) and she really gets it, and has already made a difference. The smaller stuff don't bother me as much, and the numbers, while they still make me angry/annoyed/ completely ticked off/ ready to throw hands in the air - I find that I remember the things we have discussed and to not be so hard on myself. It makes a big difference!

rangerlina 2015-01-22 22:01:21 -0600 Report

I was skeptical at first, but she did her thesis on diabetes management (never had heard of such) and she really gets it, and has already made a difference. The smaller stuff don't bother me as much, and the numbers, while they still make me angry/annoyed/ completely ticked off/ ready to throw hands in the air - I find that I remember the things we have discussed and to not be so hard on myself. It makes a big difference!

sweetslover 2015-01-21 18:45:23 -0600 Report

I let the stress win tonight. I totally ate too much for dinner, along with too many carbs. I knew what I was doing as I ate, but I just couldn't seem to stop myself. I am so ashamed of my lack of control. I have been doing so well with controlling my diet until today. I'm afraid of what my BG will be tonight before I go to bed. I feel terrible—physically, mentally, and emotionally. The operative words are "I LET the stress win." I am too intelligent a person to do this to myself.

Edie 2015-01-22 20:27:29 -0600 Report

Sweetslover I have days like that about 4-6 times a year. I know when the days are getting close so I find something I can do to get thru the days when they get here. My bad days are Dec. 20th, March 3rd, Oct 18th,Feb.5, April 29th and August 6th. These are my Parents Birthdays, Grandma Jones' Birthday and the day each passed away. When I was working I always asked if I could work to stay busy and not think about it now I just get my meals and snacks made ahead and start laying out new Quilts and planning who I am going to give them to. In the past 9 years I have made and just given away a total of maybe 35 quilts on these dates. Most of them are lap quilts, some baby quilts right now I am almost done with another baby quilt she is only a month old. I am going to take a picture of it and post it on here.

Edie 2015-01-26 09:46:46 -0600 Report

Picture coming today gave it to the baby and mother on Friday evening. She loved it she said made me feel real good.

Baking4ever 2015-01-22 18:21:03 -0600 Report

sorry to hear you had such a bad day…think of it as a bump in the road…don't stress over it and start over tomorrow…good luck…stay positive

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2015-01-22 15:09:38 -0600 Report

Hi sweetslover,

I appreciate your honesty here. But I hope you won't be too tough on yourself. We all have those times when we give into the stress and just kind of collapse. Letting your diet slip one day doesn't mean you have to do it the next. Just dust yourself off and get back up on the horse.

This can be a wake-up call for you. A lesson in terms of how you might be feeling kind of vulnerable, and an opportunity to make sure you have some coping skills in place to help you the next time you are feeling this way.

You are not alone! Thanks for sharing this.


RebDee 2015-01-22 14:49:38 -0600 Report

OK, so now start over. You can do it. Take the word LET out of your vocabulary. Change the size of your plate. Eat a little of what you want to eat even if it is not exactly right for you but at least it will get you past the eating too much. Then start over.

sweetslover 2015-01-22 15:14:26 -0600 Report

I know what you are saying makes sense, but I am still so terribly down right now about many things. I've got to pull out of my "pity party" and handle everything properly. I have too much responsibility to fall apart right now.

Edie 2015-01-22 20:30:53 -0600 Report

Make a list of what needs to be done and mark them off as you finish the item off of your list. As for the "pity party" we all have them every now and then. I know I do. you can do it I just know you can. Let me know if I can help you at all.

Baking4ever 2015-01-22 18:24:19 -0600 Report

I've had a lot of struggles lately also…your doing the right thing by asking to support…this website seems to be a very supportive and helpful one…tomorrow will be a better day for both of us…

MewElla 2015-01-21 15:46:20 -0600 Report

When I first was diagnosed, five years ago, I decided to make my health a priority. I did not, and have never taken any medications or insulin since my diagnosis. I am diet/exercise controlled diabetic. The first thing every morning before my busy day starts, I get my trusted pedometer and start my daily walk of 10,005 steps. Not only have I lost a lot of weigh, kept my A1C great, no meds/insulin, this is a major de-stressor for me. As I walk I get out all of the cobwebs out of my head making me happy and healthier.

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2015-01-22 15:05:08 -0600 Report

Mew Ella!

Hi! It's been a long time since we were in touch. Thanks for jumping in. I think it's fantastic that you are able to control your diabetes this way. Amazing. And it sounds like you have a routine in place to say on the path. That morning walk is a great idea. I could benefit from that myself. What a great way to start the day.


RebDee 2015-01-22 14:53:16 -0600 Report

I respect you MewElla for the way you took charge of your life. I certainly didn't until I started taking classes at Kaiser Permanente toward the goal of having bariatric surgery. I learned what I was doing to myself was wrong. I had an epiphany and started doing what was right for me. Now the only thing that I wish I could have is an occasional diet soda but I know that it is totally verboten for me. So I go on to the computer and DC, and try to learn something new that will help me and will also be something new for me.

valentine lady
valentine lady 2015-01-21 13:44:22 -0600 Report

Hi Dr Gary
First of all I avoid negative people as much as possible. I'm medically retired but where I currently live that's not such an easy task. I meditate when things get rough. It's a pleasure
for me to take care of myself. Am not bragging but I enjoy
finally taking responsibility for myself. I went to the primary Dr
Monday. My A1C was 5.2…and I had lost 10 more lbs. I was as thrilled as 2 kids in a candy shop. Stress has a place in my life but not in my heart. I don't dwell there. I keep my mind busy. My hands too. I just don't stress out. I don't like being
There. Thanks for such a good discussion. Hugs, VL

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2015-01-22 14:57:28 -0600 Report

Hey Valentine Lady,

I agree. Negative people can just pull you into their web of anger and make you even more stressed out.

There are a lot of benefits to taking care of yourself, and one of them is just feeling more in control of life, more self-confident. And that weight loss certainly adds to the picture! Positive distractions are a great way to manage stress by not dwelling on it.



Baking4ever 2015-01-22 18:29:09 -0600 Report

Dr. Gary I agree that negative people really bring you down…I'm having so many issue with this at work and would appreciate it if you have any suggestions on coping with them and not letting them bring me down with them…I try to be positive and I hate to be brought down but sometimes I just can't seem to avoid it…

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2015-01-22 23:03:01 -0600 Report

Hey Baking4ever. Believe me, I know how negative people can be in the workplace. I sure do. I just think that when you are in this situation, you have to try to stay above it all. Focus on getting the work done, and stay positive. Avoid people who are unkind and negative beyond standard work communication when you need to. I think staying focused on the work always wins in the end.

Baking4ever 2015-01-23 17:09:53 -0600 Report

Thank you Dr. Gary…I try to put myself into my work…but it is so hard sometimes to focus…there is a couple of my co-workers that I'm afraid to talk to because they constantly try to get me in trouble with the boss, by saying I did something or said something that never happened…the hard part is they are believed not me…Positive is hard to maintain but I keep trying…

Edie 2015-01-22 20:45:03 -0600 Report

What kind of job are you in? When we lived in Michigan before I injured myself on the Job I asked my Boss to move me to a different section so as not to blow one day at a coworker who just would not shut up and let me get my job done. When asked what the problem was I told him to stand up stairs and watch what she was doing. This had been going on for over 6 Months and I had finally had my fill. Just 10 mins and he called me into the Office asked me if I would go to a different Department and different hours if need be I said sure what else could I say. I ended up on Night Stock and in Produce and Dairy when I was working Days. He moved her to the other side of the Store and had her work Afternoons only. Found out nobody wanted to work with her she would pull them down every chance she got and laugh about it. I worked there just over 8 years and hurt my back real bad couldn't work for almost a year because of it. They told me I would be in a wheelchair by 97 that was back in 91 and hear it is 2015 and I am still walking some days are harder than others but I am not ready to give up just yet. I try to walk every day, but not in this cold right now. To cold to walk so am Quilting more at this time. LOL Very restful and it makes others happy when they get a quilt made just for them.

Baking4ever 2015-01-23 17:14:30 -0600 Report

Hi Edie, I'm a department leader and to transfer to another section would require a pay cut…which I can't afford…I'm really sorry to hear about your accident but you sound like a determined person who won't give up and that's what is keeping you out of the wheelchair…good for you…and thank you I don't feel so alone in this situation…

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2015-01-22 23:01:05 -0600 Report

Edie, that's a great attitude you have. And quite a story. Amazing how negative and miserable people can be.

TammyMSW 2015-01-21 11:48:36 -0600 Report

I love the pool idea! Thanks for reminding me! We have three hotel pools in town that charge a minimal fee for use. Just moving in water is just the ticket for sunless snowy Wisconsin days!!

Edie 2015-01-22 20:46:13 -0600 Report

I am going to see if any of the Hotels around us have that here. I love to swim and used to be very good at it.

RebDee 2015-01-21 04:05:51 -0600 Report

I believe that I have stress all the time so it is my norm. So I just go blithely along trying my darnest to "do my thing" by eating healthier, doing exercises, walking more (dogs love this one), and writing on DC,

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2015-01-22 14:34:52 -0600 Report

HI RebDee! You are doing some good things to manage your stress. Good ways to cope with stress! Getting on DC is a really great way to die-stress. I always feel better after hanging out here for awhile myself.

Stuart1966 2015-01-21 00:10:28 -0600 Report

I'm not entirely "certain" stress is always bad…? Makes us do things without which, we might just ignore entirely, if it wasn't biting our ankles, you know?

Some stress is a hungry tiger, and nothing to be done with it. Life requires serious work… money needs to be earned, relationships engaged in… Some things must not be avoided. We do, ignore them, and it does not disappear, it just waits to mug us.

Do not believe many things are avoidable… most, unsure they should be… what do I do about it… I'm turning grey… and often weary. Unaware it alters my treatment though, do not believe it does.

My outcome pre-written, perhaps? I do not forecast a positive or good one. It will come regardless.

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2015-01-22 12:17:06 -0600 Report

HI Stuart, I agree with you. Not all stress is bad. A little stress can keep us motivated, pushing ourselves forward. And as I always tell my clients, if your standing in the middle of the street with traffic coming at you, that's not a time to relax. The rush of stress hormones can activate you to get moving. But stress that just continues on and on can do damage over time, in more ways than one. Yes, stress is not going away. It's all in how we handle it. Thanks for checking in.

Stuart1966 2015-01-22 22:41:56 -0600 Report

Don't stop in the middle of the street to contemplate… you sir are a rebel… LOL.

Some day IT WILL KILL ME, as long as that's not today… I'm content!

robertoj 2015-01-21 19:38:51 -0600 Report

Good point. Lack of stress can be bad too. A certain amount of stress is like a workout for the psyche.

Stuart1966 2015-01-22 11:04:14 -0600 Report

Wonder what that looks like… an "absence" of stress????? Think we'd recognize ourselves?

Type1Lou 2015-01-22 12:47:25 -0600 Report

Lack of stress = death…stress is a fact of life, the key is to deal with the stress without distress.

Stuart1966 2015-01-22 22:44:06 -0600 Report

I'll bite, what does DISTRESS present as…prey tell?

Intellectually, philosophically I can paint a picture of its lack, but not in the real world so much… don't know that I've seen it, honestly ever encountered it before…

A lack or stress?

Type1Lou 2015-01-23 10:43:48 -0600 Report

This concept was introduced by Dr Hans Selye…He called negative stress "distress". He was an endocrinologist and wrote several books: "Stress Without Distress" in 1974 and "The Stress of Life" in 1956.

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