Has anyone else noticed that as you change that some friends might have issues with you?
What is interesting is that some of my friends seem to think that I will be able to cut back on exercise once I'm off medication. I've tried to explain that this is a lifestyle change and not a diet but they do not understand. I've actually come to enjoy exercising (something I never thought I would say) and don't see myself stopping anytime soon. My friends think that I spend too much time exercising.
A few of my friends seem to have issues with with my weight loss and/or changes in my life. Usually, I wouldn't care what people think but these are/were good friends. I've noticed quite a few snippy remarks and I've been trying to give people a break but now it is starting to hurt my feelings a bit. I know sometimes when changes are made that friendships are affected but I really don't want to find new friends.
I don't think that I as a person have changed but my priorities have definitely changed as I want to be around for my family. I am eating better and taking care of myself. One of my friends told me that because of my eating habits no one in the group is going up for seconds anymore when we have our monthly get togethers. I don't talk about food or say anything about peoples eating habits and I explained that I have had seconds.
Also, I was told I talk about exercising too much. They ask what I do in between our meetings and I talk about hiking with a friend, biking with someone else and entering a bike race with my sister because that is what I am into. Laughingly they tell me that I suck because I have time to exercise and they wish they did. Although, they make these little comments, they laugh and say they are kidding. It does not feel like they are kidding.
In my defense (okay, I guess I am a bit defensive), I do talk about other things such as crafting, quilting, cooking, my grandsons, travel and I listen as my friends talk and ask pertinent questions. My husband has also noticed that my friends are being a bit standoffish and that it may be time to detach myself from this group. The problem is that I started the group and I still like a few of the people but I am starting to feel a bit alienated.
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