Staying Positive

By BeckieJ Latest Reply 2015-01-07 22:34:00 -0600
Started 2014-12-28 21:41:28 -0600

I'm new to DC and I would like to connect with positive people who would like to share the positive things they have done to control their diabetes. Many of the discussions I have read so far have been more scary than helpful. I am new to this site and I don't mean to be offensive. It's important to me to surround myself with people who are managing their Type II Diabetes successfully and are willing to share the things they've done to make that happen. It's also important to me to take a positive approach instead of allowing my diabetes to careen out of control only to be freaked out about the problems that have come due to not managing their diabetes well. I am one of 8 siblings and we have all been diagnosed with Type II diabetes. Although I am not the youngest I was the last to be diagnosed. I am surrounded by family members who's diabetes is out of control and I really need to connect with others who wish to take a more positive proactive approach to diabetes. I have 3 grown boys and I am concerned they will someday have diabetes as well. I am determined to show them their is a way stay positive and to manage diabetes instead of diabetes managing them.
Thanks for listening, BeckieJ

32 replies

ReaderReader12 2015-01-05 12:27:32 -0600 Report

Hi BeckieJ…I do not post a whole bunch, so that is why I am showing up 8 days after you posted this. lol I also have 3 grown boys 2 are married and my youngest is serving in the Navy in Japan. I think it has been about 2 years since I learned I have type ll diabetes. Since last June I have started eating low carb and I love it. I am very proud of myself for the first time in my life. I do not eat bread, pasta, rice, fast food and that includes ordering pizza. I have lost weight and I know I will be dropping more. I no longer eat candy or chips. Or potatoes either. What I crave food wise has changed for sure. I am happier and much more positive than I used to be. I will eat low carb the rest of my life and one of the best things is when my boys tell me they are proud of me also. I have found some really great recipes that we love and I have cooked them for friends and they like them also. The scale does not control me anymore in fact I am not on it much anymore. There has been so much positive I could go on and on.


BeckieJ 2015-01-05 22:14:42 -0600 Report

Hi Pam,
Better late than never :) I appreciate your comments. It's great to know there are so many really nice people on DC. I have three boys all who have served in the Navy. One of them actually in Japan. They are my biggest cheerleaders or guilt givers in a positive way if that's possible, They always encourage me and often remind me I need to stay healthy so I can be around a long time for our grand kids. I have been a sugar bug all of my life and am really working hard to change that. It seems when I add more protein the cravings stopped. It's nice to know you have been able to eliminate bread, pasta and specifically fast food. I have traveled for work for many years and breaking the fast food habit is on the top of my list of changes. Feel free to share your positive with me any time. I cant get enough of knowing that living a healthy life is possible.
Thanks for sharing, Beckie

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2015-01-02 20:10:20 -0600 Report

Hey BeckieJ, nice to meet you! And welcome! I know you what you mean. Staying optimistic can get you a whole lot further in managing your diabetes than focusing on the negative. And you are in really good company here on Diabetic Connect. We are all about support! So I hope you will stay in touch with us, my friend!

BeckieJ 2015-01-05 22:18:59 -0600 Report

Hi Dr. Gary sorry for the late reply, I have been busy re-organizing my pantry and throwing out the food that isn't good for me. I started a new yoga class this week and am walking everyday. Life is good when you stay focused on the positive.
Thanks so much for taking the time to reply to me, Beckie

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2015-01-07 22:34:00 -0600 Report

HI Beckie, wow it sounds like you are doing a lot to stay healthy. Getting rid of the bad food temptations is a great idea. Must have taken some will power. Yes, life is good!

Lakeland 2014-12-29 20:17:09 -0600 Report

The good thing about diabetes is you can control it. you can test whenever you want to know how you are doing. you can't do that with other diseases like cancer. if you keep in mind that diabetes is controllable than you shouldn't experience the horrors of it, & there are horrors, my brother is getting ready to start home dialysis, but he didn't care about doing the little things to help himself & honestly if he couldn't do the little things like, watch carbs & take walks, I'm scared to see how diligent he'll be with cleaning his machines for home dialysis.

when I got my numbers under control, my eyesight came back. I was blurry so keeping watch will help & the biggest help I got was to. pick your carb first. then do the rest of the meal, if you want dessert, skip bread. If you want the bread, then try to get one with a fiber number of 3 or more, it makes the body work harder to break down & your sugar numbers won't spike, then skip dessert or pasta or fruit.

I was never told to avoid anything I was told to watch portion & eat more often. Yeah!!! snacking between meals, like carrots, or a glucena bar, keeps blood sugar levels more even & avoids highs & lows.

I also made diabetes a game. I'd take my sugar & walk then take it again, I've learned I can drop my sugar numbers 30 point by a long walk, so that frees me up tremendously especially around these holidays.

If you can keep decent control you can avoid the horrors & remember diabetes is only as bad as you make it. I've posted some scary questions lately but my brother left his go & laughed it off. it's such a shame since he could have controlled this & not put himself in this situation.

BeckieJ 2014-12-29 23:33:47 -0600 Report

I am sad to hear of your brother’s journey. I too have several family members who haven’t done well with even the simplest things and are dealing with the problems that occur by not paying attention to their diabetes. Hearing your story and knowing you have a family member in a similar situation to mine and hearing you are managing your diabetes well is encouraging to me. I think what was happening to me because there are so many of my family members doing poorly I was beginning to feel a bit hopeless and scared. I have always been super a positive person so I decided to give myself a swift kick in the tail and change things around and just focus on the positive things I could do for myself. Finding DC is part of that.
Thanks so much for sharing some of your story, I feel more determined than ever, Beckie

Pegsy 2014-12-29 18:37:22 -0600 Report

This sounds crazy but being diagnosed as diabetic was a blessing in disguise for me. It was the kick in the pants that I needed to restore my health and take care of myself. I made immediate changes to my diet and began exercising immediately. Over two years I lost over 80 pounds. I was not able to avoid medication but I hope to eventually gain control through lifestyle well enough to get off of it. We'll see. If I can't get off the meds, I will accept that but nothing is going to stop me from trying. I am healthier and feel better than I have in years. I am not glad to be diabetic but I am glad that it has changed my life habits for the better and I will never turn back from that. My best wishes to you and your family as you embark on this diabetes adventure.

BeckieJ 2014-12-29 23:10:35 -0600 Report

Kick in the pants is what I had this week when I went to my doctor and for the first time in 5 years my A1C was 9.5 after being 6.1 for 5 years. I knew I hadn't been feeling well but I have a few other things going on that I thought was the cause. I looked my doctor in the eye and told her things were going to be different and I meant it. I am excited to see what the next few months and year will bring but I know this for sure I am going to make it a great journey surrounded by positive people. I bought new walking shoes and began walking again yesterday. This was day two and I had many excuses why I didn’t have the time including a 4 hour dentist appointment. I am pleased to say after reading many of the responses to my original post I put my shoes on braved the cold and walked for 30 minutes. I feel so energized
Thanks so much for sharing, Beckie

Pegsy 2014-12-30 12:23:00 -0600 Report

When I don't feel like exercising I tell myself "Just do it anyway." I always feel good after I do and it brings my glucose down like nothing else. If I don't feel up to the full workout I will at least get in 20 - 30 minutes of walking. Even if it has to be on a treadmill in front of the TV, LOL.

valentine lady
valentine lady 2014-12-29 18:36:53 -0600 Report

Hi Beckie.,
Welcome to DC, glad you are looking for positive prople to surround yourself with . That is an excellent way to get started. I am positive about one thing for sure , I may have diabetes, but it trurly don't hav me.. I have learned to live with diabetes, not for diabetes to make me live for it. I have learned to follow my eating plan. I've lost 75 lbs. and. no longer take insulin 4 times a day. I no longer take any diabetes medications anymore. My last A1C was 5.1. I do have a problem with my BG (blood glucose) from dropping. It's quite bit less now. I stopped drinking tea and coffee anf upped my water intake. As it stands today, ! Haven't had a drop of caffeine in 10 days. I think my research has paid off.I haven't dropped in 10 days as well. Well enough about me, I would like to know more about you. I am positive that I keep positive people around me too. Have wonderful New Years. Let's mske 2015 "our" year. VL

BeckieJ 2014-12-29 22:55:54 -0600 Report

Valentine lady,
I love your attitude, you may have diabetes but it doesn’t have you. I’m so happy that you replied to my original post. What a great community of positive cheerleaders I am finding since I originally posted and I am so happy I took the leap and decided to write my post. As I read your reply to my post and the replies from others I found myself smiling and wanting to clap. I have been told for so many years that it isn’t possible for me to fine tune my diet and my exercise program enough to be medication free. You have inspired me to prove all the naysayers wrong and to set a great example for my family. I feel energized and happy to have found such great people who have had success and are willing to share how they got there.
Thanks so much for taking the time to share and encourage, Beckie

valentine lady
valentine lady 2014-12-30 11:03:08 -0600 Report

Hi Beckie,
you tell those people many of us have gone off medication for diabetics
with our Dr's blessing as he/she is the one who took ud off. Remember
Beckie, your not cured. Your still a diabetic, you controll it by the foods you
eat and excersise of course. If I mislead you in anyway I am sorry.

Glucerna 2014-12-29 17:11:02 -0600 Report

Welcome to this supportive and positive group Beckie! I love your idea to surround yourself with people who are looking at the positive choices they can make instead of focusing on negatives. There's a recent article that focuses on this topic: ~Lynn @Glucerna

BeckieJ 2014-12-29 22:40:39 -0600 Report

Great article, thanks so much for sharing it. As I begin to change my life style my family has been amazing. The article states that they encourage family members to ask daily or weekly "Is there anything I can do to help with your diabetes care today" I feel blessed because as I share more of my journey with my family the more support I receive. It’s simple really when you think about it. It makes me wonder how I missed the importance of sharing information with them for so long. I have always been the rock and the giver to my family. Learning to accept help and encouragement is new for me but the love I have received by being open and accepting of their offers of encouragement and help is priceless
Thanks so much for your great response, Beckie

Glucerna 2014-12-30 21:08:06 -0600 Report

How wonderful that you're receiving so much from your family, and it all started by asking for help. I'm so glad you started this discussion! ~Lynn @Glucerna

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2014-12-29 10:57:08 -0600 Report

The first thing I did was gain control of my diabetes. I have diabetes, it does not have me. I control my diabetes, it does not control me. I don't spend my time focused on diabetes.

I have been positive since the day I was diagnosed when a friend who diabetic said "so you have diabetes, what are you going to do about it?" best thing anyone could have said to me. Instead of "freaking out" I educated myself. I have a friend and neighbor who is also a registered dietitian who does my meal plan. It works perfectly for me.

You will have both good and bad days and if you freak out when something happens, it is because you chose to freak out. I am not one to freak out over anything. I learned to be self supporting an self motivating. I don't depend or rely on anyone to do that for me.

I understand what you are saying about reading things on this site. I see people who hate diabetes, don't take care of themselves and don't communicate with their medical team. I have seen people ask for medical advise from people who are not doctors. I have seen people who believe the scams spread all over the internet about curing diabetes. There is no cure and even if you get off the medications, you are still diabetic and have to monitor what you eat.

I choose to live my life to the fullest. I changed my eating habits and added exercise. I have never stopped doing any activities that I was doing prior to being diagnosed. I bang my own drum and do what i want to do with my life. I got rid of the drama queens and the negative people. I keep a positive outlook regardless of what people say or do.

BeckieJ 2014-12-29 11:09:30 -0600 Report

Just Joyce,
Such great advise and just the type of person and attitude I was hoping to connect with. Thanks so much for responding. I look forward to connecting with you.

Nick1962 2014-12-29 10:48:07 -0600 Report

I’ll say ditto to what Kimberly posted. Same situation here – overweight/obese all my life and just never took things seriously. Getting diagnosed is probably the best thing that could have happened to me. I’m now healthier than many people half my age, and I’m no longer “treated” for diabetes by my doctor. No need to stress over what you’ve got control of - I live a normal life.

BeckieJ 2014-12-29 11:03:38 -0600 Report

Hi Nick,
I am hoping to do exactly what you have done. I really want to reverse my path and become free of my oral medication completely. My family members say because of our strong history with diabetes it cant be done. I am determined to show them it can and help them move into a more positive life. Do you mind sharing what your workout and eating program looked like when you first started to heal yourself. I have recently retired and decided my new job is me. At 60 years old its probably about time. :)
Make it an amazing day, Beckie

Nick1962 2014-12-29 14:14:13 -0600 Report

Hey Beckie,
It’s never too late! I’m not too far behind you age wise, and if I can do it after a lifetime of treating my body like a garbage dump rather than a temple, I’m pretty sure you can.

Due to a list of previous injuries, my exercise has been pretty limited to walking. I had to fit it in daily, which was a real challenge at first, but being newly retired (congrats!), you should have no excuse. I’m a music freak so that keeps my mind occupied for a good hour. I also have used the local city rec center pool and swim fins. Nothing too drastic or aerobic, but combined with diet I did take off over 100 lbs.

Diet was the big thing, and it was just as much mental as it was physical. I had to retrain myself. I started (like most here did) with a food journal, and when I saw just how much I was taking in versus the calories I was burning, it really opened my eyes. One day we just threw out all the junk and processed foods, the pastas, rice, breads (carbs in general) and a lot of sugars like catsup and BBQ sauce. I then learned how to best feed myself on basic proteins (meats) and vegetables. It was tough at first, but once you go without some things for a while, you really don’t miss them anymore. More importantly, you don’t miss the way they made you FEEL, and I never knew just how bloated and achy food can make you feel. That’s not to say I NEVER eat certain things, but I make sure I’ve earned them first, and they don’t sneak their way back into my daily diet.

I like the statement “my new job is me” because that’s exactly how I looked at it. I scrutinized everything I did and ate. I looked at what I ate and asked myself “what will I do to burn that off?” Sure that Girl Scout cookie or mac and cheese is tasty, but you’ll feel guilty about it, and won’t stop at one. Who needs that stress? Pass it up and pat yourself on the back for doing something good for yourself. Hungry - go ahead and eat, but no law says it has to be a whole serving of anything. In fact you’ll be surprised at just how little you have to eat to feel full and satisfied.

I could go on but this should be enough for now. Buckle up Beckie, this can be a fun ride once you get over the first hill!

Oh, and P.S…don't make the mistake of making yourself a "victim". It's diabetes, not something far worse.

BeckieJ 2014-12-29 22:17:35 -0600 Report

Wow 100 lbs is amazing! No meds is my dream and personal goal using food and exercise in the right way to make this possible. I am happy to hear you didn't have to live in the gym to accomplish your goal. It seems as though most people I’ve met who reached their goal say they pretty much live in the gym for 4 or 5 hours a day. I love to walk so I I'm excited that walking was part of your success formula.
I'm in the process of refining my diet and tomorrow’s project is to clean out my pantry and throw all the simple carbohydrates (cookies, sugary cereal etc) away. I’m looking for new recipes and feel like I am on a mission to change the way I manage food.
I have felt so much fatigue and aches and pains for the last several months and I never really equated it to my diet. It will be interesting for me to see how much better I feel when I’ve been eating better for a month or so.
Wow I’m excited  Thanks for the encouragement and great insight.

Nick1962 2014-12-30 09:15:45 -0600 Report

Sounds like you’re on the right track. I won’t say it’s a constant “battle” because honestly, each little improvement you make is a reward no matter how hard earned. Those rewards tend to snowball and not only make you feel good (mentally and physically), but act as an incentive to push on. I never realized how good I could feel, and even now can’t believe I spent so long in so much pain.
The diet is an ever evolving thing. I know as my numbers and weight got better, my metabolism changed as well as my liver, kidney, and pancreatic functions (I pay close attention to my lab work), so my tolerances and reactions to foods changed and I could reintroduce some things back into my diet.
Good luck on your exciting new journey and hopefully you can become one of us proving it can be overcome.

BeckieJ 2014-12-30 11:35:14 -0600 Report

Your positive attitude is infectious. I'm more hopeful than I thought possible that I can also accomplish freedom from medications through diet and exercise.
I'm off for my walk.
Thanks again for all the positive encouragement, Beckie

kimfing 2014-12-29 10:06:32 -0600 Report

I hear ya about being positive. Very important. I agree w everyone who responded. There is a "negative" side of being D. Can't put your head in the sand about them tho. I was dx almost 2 years ago w t1 @ 45. I have been married to one since 92. So the negative side i have seen and experienced w my hubby. This is the healthiest i have been my entire life, that is the most positive thing. I feel great and intend to do my best to be that way. I did have my first real set back yesterday. Positive thing about it is i learned from it and moved on. Previously, i would have dwelled on it and beaten myself up over it. I have grown and matured so much about being D in the last six months. Learned i cannot change the past, just pick up and move forward in a positive way.

Good luck keep smiling.

BeckieJ 2014-12-29 12:34:26 -0600 Report

Good morning
great advice. Having both you and your husband working together is probably helpful. My sweet husband is a great supporter and encourages me to do all the right things so we can live a long and healthy life together. I find his support so helpful. I know I cant put my head in the sand, I tried that and it didn't work out so great but don't want to focus on the negative either. Living healthy is what I need to keep my eye on and dealing with things as they arise. Living positive is the only path I want to follow. Recently in conversation with my dietician I was whining about the potential of handing diabetes to my boys. She explained all families pass something. In her case it was heart disease and she is the role model for healthy living in her family, so now more than ever I see myself in the role of positive energy and living healthy for my family.
Thanks so much for your post, Beckie

kimfing 2014-12-29 13:57:46 -0600 Report

Having support is what gets us thru the tough times and keeps our head in the game. My husband has gotten a lot better since my dx. So its a plus for both of us. You have a great dietician. That's great. We also attend insulin pump support meetings. They are a great group of people.

Type1Lou 2014-12-29 09:57:30 -0600 Report

Although I'm a Type 1, we share many of the same challenges. My solution, after reading Dr Richard Bernstein's "Diabetes Solution" was to become aware of all of the carbohydrates that I am eating and to cut back to no more than 120 grams per day. A low-carb diet can help one to lose weight and gain better control of their BG's, forestalling development of those nasty complications. I was diagnosed in 1976 and am relatively healthy, except for my diabetes. I am now enjoying my retirement but never felt diabetes limited me in my work, my hopes and my aspirations. Stay positive, learn as much as you can about how to manage your condition and make the right choices. Wishing you the best for 2015.

GabbyPA 2014-12-29 08:41:57 -0600 Report

There is always a silver lining to things and keeping that in mind helps get us through the tough times. Negativity will just bring on more negativity, that is very true.

There does have to be a balance though, and there are some scary things about being a diabetic, well controlled or not. It's what you do with those times that makes all the difference. Overcoming things is vital and those victories will build into more victories. Members come here for a no judgement zone, good or bad. I hope that you will share your positive outlooks in any situation, but not be turned away because others share in a different way.

sweetslover 2014-12-29 05:32:57 -0600 Report

Being positive is one of the most important attributes in managing any medical condition, especially diabetes. I find that a positive attitude helps me to handle the routine of diet and exercise. I have also found that through this web site, there is tremendous support and information for diabetics. Some of the information is scary, but knowledge helps you to know how to deal with the complications of diabetes. The helpful words and support I received when I first joined made a huge difference in my ability to emotionally control my disease. Without their help, I'm not sure where I would be right now. My DC family allows me a place to vent, cry, find help, and hopefully give help. I hope it will do the same for you.

lilleyheidi 2014-12-29 02:39:15 -0600 Report

Welcome to DC. I have taken on a positive attitude in the past 5-6 months and found that that along with my faith and a lot of work has been the key to managing my diabetes. I really think staying positive when the things and people around you are being negative is the only way to get through life. You can either choose to be unhealthy physically and mentally or healthy, i'm choosing healthy, I wish you the best. Have a happy healthy 2015 add me if you'd like as a friend. HUGS, Heidi

BeckieJ 2014-12-29 10:37:37 -0600 Report

Thanks so much for your encouragement. I will send you a friend request shortly.
Happy New Year, BeckieJ

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