Not dealing with stress well! Way too many things happening at once!

By margokittycat Latest Reply 2014-12-28 09:55:28 -0600
Started 2014-12-27 00:27:16 -0600

Hello to all my DC friends. I am having a lot of issues and having a really hard time dealing with everything going on it is like once something's starts getting better something else happens. This post may take awhile so pleas read all of it before replying!

2014 started out good and normal and then in March went to hell in a hand basket!!!

My oldest sons wife was caught cheating on him said she needed space to think and left my son and grandson and moved to an apartment where she then made my sone pay all of her bills rent car insurance food utilities you name she made him pay for this after we found out when going in to renew our sons farm operating loan that we consigned on his wife had taken over $30,000 that was to have gone to the bank and that looks an and did God knows what with it.

In August my daughter who is still in high school decided after getting bust by dad and mom drunk off her ass ans spoken pot did not like house rules so she goes to grandparents and says she was kicked out of the house and they believer her and then she starts posting things on her Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, snapchat and whatever other sights she is on like I am posting them so I start getting mean nasty phone calls on my phones from her friends and boyfriend calling me names and threatening me.

In June we had a tornado that did a lot of damage to our house and the contractor hired homeless people to come do the work which did not last long because we fired them but not before they robbed us blind and we started finding all the missing property being gone on Christmas Eve. $35,000 of stolen property so far. My house has had none of the work done on it because when they were suppose to be her working they did not show up tell 11 am and left by 2:30. I have had no front porch of any kind to get in and out of my house with for 6 weeks now because the took our off because of the siding and dry rot behind it that was being replace and they were to build our new deck and mother fuckers had the supply company come back out and pick up all the patio supplies I bought and paid for, I have a mound of dirt with a piece of plywood over it and I have to step 2 feet up to get in or 2 feet down to get out of my house. Could not do Christmas because my daughter in law is 4.5 month pregnant and no way to get her in the house. Could not put up a tree because well our windows were to be in anytime so I needed to wait so we did not have to move the tree guess what no windows yet.

Last but not least I was diagnosed with Breast Cancer and am under going Chemo and my insurance company dropped me so I have to pay for my treatments out of pocket until new insurance kicks in!


9 replies

GabbyPA 2014-12-28 09:55:28 -0600 Report

I have a friend who has gone though some very similar things. Daughter has cancer that they have been fighting for over a year. Her husband cheated and lied with a mutual friend. She had to move to NY to be with sick daughter and since she cannot work from up there, her money is rapidly being depleted. She herself has been in the hospital twice with rare lung fungus issues and more.

People like you and her amaze me because you come out fighting and go for it all. Sure, you guys cry and hurt and scream and even get angry about it all, but there is something that keeps you going. It's very neat when you focus on that. Kind of like despite all the adversity, you will come out on top.

I know it's very hard to take focus off the bad things that are going on. But what can help is to take some time to find even the smallest of things that make you smile. Those are the things that will bring you strength when you cannot must another moment of tolerance. May 2015 be what you need.

justputtering 2014-12-27 19:13:04 -0600 Report

Bad Bad all the way around just think how great 2015 should be now that you have gotten all this out of the way. Stand up - they can't walk on you if you don't lay down - be strong - heart goes out to you

valentine lady
valentine lady 2014-12-27 18:25:48 -0600 Report

Dear Margo,
We've been friends for a long time, so I hope you understand what
I 'm about to say. Yes, 2014 has not been your year. To top it off with breast cancer snd and no insurnce is the worse case senario.. But God is still on your side as I am to. My thought a and prayers are with you always,
hugs, VL

ferm 2014-12-27 14:21:07 -0600 Report

Sorry to hear about all that bad news! Just put your mind on getting better, take care of yourself. Hit the reset button and start over more smarter and experienced.
Good luck in 2015

rhett t
rhett t 2014-12-27 11:32:03 -0600 Report

So sorry about the year you and your family have had. God will not put more on you than you can handle. Maybe he's wanting you to look up and let him guide you through all these things that you've have gone through and are going through now. I have gone through a lot of things before and could not have .made it without the good Lord. sometimes we don't think he's there but he is. you still have a life that you can pick up and go on and have a good new year.

Jibber Jabber
Jibber Jabber 2014-12-27 10:05:32 -0600 Report

But you're still here…You are still breathing…your house is a mess and you have been robbed…but you have a many others do not…You have been diagnosed with cancer but you express concern about paying for treatments until your insurance kicks in..My brother's best friend was diagnosed with stomach cancer too late to do anything this year..he will NOT live to see the summer of 2015…the Tornado did damage to your home..but you were not killed..just the other day several people died in a Tornado…My point is…that believe it or the grand scheme of the world..and all the things and misfortunes that happen in it…you are blessed…I know this is hard to believe..but it is true..yes you have been through a lot…but so have many other's…Inbox me and I will share my story..don't let the bad things, no matter how many of them exist steal your soul and make you bitter…even at my lowest point..and if you inbox me you will understand just how low it was..I never let it destroy my joy…

RebDee 2014-12-27 00:40:52 -0600 Report

Good grief!! You have certainly had the year from hell. But how has your diabetes been? Any problems with it? Sounds like you probably had a bout with high blood pressure from the stress. Hope that 2015 is better for you and for all of us at DC.