Fat Acceptance

haoleboy
By haoleboy Latest Reply 2014-12-31 02:06:46 -0600
Started 2014-12-24 10:54:35 -0600

Having been overweight all my life (and morbidly obese for a few years) I found this article on "Fat acceptance" very interesting http://tcat.tc/13ELt2w
I found the article to be pretty much spot on … but had I read this 10 years ago when I weighed 325 pounds I am positive my take on it would have been much different,
I'd be interested to hear your take

Steve

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12 replies

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2014-12-25 21:40:54 -0600 Report

Hey haoleboy, this is a pretty interesting article. It seems to me people who are obese should not be made to feel judged, or that they are somehow "less than" others because of their weight. And I feel that someone who doesn't struggle with weight issues cannot understand what it is like for someone who does. At the same time, we can all benefit from doing everything we can to stay healthy, and that means watching what we put into our mouths, and teaching children good eating habits. I think that what every situation we are in, we can accept ourselves for who we are but at the same time strive to be better, and healthier.

sweetslover
sweetslover 2014-12-26 11:21:55 -0600 Report

You are correct. Anyone who does not struggle with weight issues has no idea what it is like for someone who does. Also, accepting yourself as being fat is just fine as long as you are working on improvement. Ten years ago, I weighed 265 pounds. I am now down to 165 pounds, and only 10 of those pounds have come off after if was diagnosed T2. I worked hard to lose every ounce. My doctor says to take off 10 more—I would be happier at 20 more. Did I like myself when I was fat?—yes. Did I feel self-conscious because I was fat?—yes. Do I like my body better now? Definitely and without a doubt—YES! I have always liked myself, but I have not always liked my body.

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2014-12-30 17:53:28 -0600 Report

Hi sweetslover, thanks a lot for following up to my post. I really appreciate it. Congratulations on this tremendous weight loss. Incredible accomplishment! And I like your attitude. We don't have to like everything about ourselves. But it's so important to have a basic foundation of self-love and acceptance of your gifts and our struggles. That can motivate us to take care of ourselves and improve ourselves. Thank you for your wise words.

lilleyheidi
lilleyheidi 2014-12-25 02:56:49 -0600 Report

Let me start this by saying I am fat, no getting around it. When I was first diagnosed with diabetes in 2010 I weighed 340lbs, today I weigh between 240 and 250 depending on what scale I step on. (personally, I like the one that says 240 best LOL).
For the most part I agree with what this woman has to say, she has some very valid points. I'm all about being accepting of oneself as one is, but lets face some realities at the same time. I am a beautiful woman. I have a pretty face and a wonderful personality. These are facts. I also have a large stomach that hangs out over most jeans, and has stretch marks and is unappealing to 95% of the population, that is also fact.
The thing is people who are in the FAM don't really accept the facts of life. They want to make things all pretty and fluffy and while that is nice. it's not factual. I hate the fact that my fat lifestyle will probably take 20 years off my life, but that is fact. It's not pretty and it's not fluffy. It's medical fact. Fat people do not live as long as their more slender counterparts. Sorry folks, truth.
Worse yet, is what America does to our children, as she said, they have no choice in the matter. They go to school and are fed carbohydrate rich diets. They go to the local convenience store and given the choice between a 99 cent 2 litre bottle of sugar laden coke or pepsi or a 1.99 20 ounce bottle of water, they choose the soda, I would too, heck, save a dollar and buy a candy bar too !
Just my ramblings. I hope everyone has a beautiful Christmas. HUGS, Heidi

sweetslover
sweetslover 2014-12-26 11:14:54 -0600 Report

I agree that we are not doing our children any favors. I am proud to say that I have a 7 year old granddaughter that has never had food from a McDonalds. I am so proud of her mother.

lilleyheidi
lilleyheidi 2014-12-31 02:06:46 -0600 Report

that is awesome sweets, I wish my son hadn't seen a mcD's, but I worked there when my son was growing up so he got a lot of the food he ate from McD's. As an adult, he chooses much more wisely not, although he does like it once in a while as a treat.

RebDee
RebDee 2014-12-24 15:23:54 -0600 Report

There is a new show to start in January on TLC about a girl who gained a lot of weight during her college days and how she is coping.

RebDee
RebDee 2014-12-24 15:22:38 -0600 Report

I was considered obese at 209 and my BS was always high even though I was using an insulin pump. After surgery (bariatric sleeve), my weight started going down, the pump and insulin were stopped, and I started to get compliments on how good I looked. Compliments that I had not had in many years. I am still trying to lose weight as I hope to have another surgery in about 6 more months to remove the "apron"/pannus which hangs down. So I am still considered fat but my face, arms, and legs don't look it. Its only my stomach that makes me look about 5 months pregnant now (I looked at least 9 months pregnant before surgery). Its that change in what I do and how I do it: less food, more exercise, more energy, and feeling more attractive.

Pegsy
Pegsy 2014-12-24 15:13:34 -0600 Report

Interesting article. I think the "fat acceptance" in American is simply because there are so many who are fat and that population continues to grow. This is what drives the junk food industry and even a large part of the pharmaceutical industry. I have lost most of the excess weight and I am shocked at how much different I feel. I wouldn't go back to my old eating habits if you paid me a million dollars! Having been fat, I don't accept it now. When I am out and I see an obese person who can barely move because of all the excess weight they are carrying on their body, my heart breaks for them. Been there, done that. I see them for the victims of a horrible food culture, that they are.

sweetslover
sweetslover 2014-12-24 22:49:43 -0600 Report

I'm not so sure that "acceptance" is the correct word. The percentage of overweight people keeps increasing, and it is becoming "normal" to see morbidly obese people. It no longer shocks us.

Glucerna
Glucerna 2014-12-24 14:25:51 -0600 Report

Thanks for sharing this article Steve. I find her first statement, that America is very accepting of overweight people, surprising. I'm not so sure 'accepting' is the right word, since there's a national effort to encourage people to lose weight. ~Lynn @Glucerna

Gabby
GabbyPA 2014-12-24 12:07:26 -0600 Report

Very good article. I think we have entered a "fat acceptance" because so many of us are, well....fat. We demand acceptance, even if we cannot accept ourselves.

I especially was keen on point #5 as food addiction is just as serious as drug addictions. The problem is, it's out there, legal and cheap to eat crappy food. You can live without drug or cigarettes. But you have to eat food, so every day of this addiction is a start over. And when parents eat poorly, the kids follow suit, not by choice, but by what we teach them.