Diabetes Discussion

Just Joyce
By Just Joyce Latest Reply 2014-12-21 11:00:14 -0600
Started 2014-12-18 21:45:52 -0600

Tonight I was at a monthly board meeting. One of the board members graduated from college in 1946 and diagnosed with diabetes in the 1950's. has been married to his wife who he met in college. He went into the military and married his wife when he was 30 years old. He has never been on insulin and turned 90 years old several months ago. I never knew that he is diabetic. Since retiring he and his wife have traveled all over the world and has been to every state in the country except for Alaska.

He is very active, does a lot of traveling and has been married 60 years to his college sweetheart. What was interesting when we ate dinner, we had the same food on our plate. There was a choice of fried or bbq party wings, salad, baked potato wedges with garlic and rosemary, Crab Cakes that he made, rolls and salad dressing. Everyone was raving about the salad and asked him why he wasn't eating it. He said he does not eat salad dressing unless he makes it because he is diabetic. I said same here.

One of the members on the board is a nurse and she asked him what was the differences he saw in being a diabetic today as opposed to when he was diagnosed. He said the difference is better treatment for the disease. He said there was no one to teach him about the disease other than to tell him not to eat sugar. He said as treatment progressed so did he.

This man should be the poster child for Diabetes. He still does everything he enjoys in life. He said what makes him mad with people who have diabetes is they either won't accept it, look for quick cures, won't call their doctor when they have medical problems and most of all think ignoring it will make it disappear. He has had friends who died from the disease and have lost limbs. He said most of them were diagnosed in the 80's and 90's.

He said he does not eat vegetable from a can and only eats frozen if he can't get it fresh. He makes his own dressings for salads from fresh herbs that he grows. He exercises everyday and has managed to keep his A1C at 5.0 for the past 20 years. He isn't on medication these days. He said that if you are diabetic you can still enjoy life with the choices you make. He is as feisty as ever and loves having fun. He is taking his wife out dancing tomorrow night for their date night. She is 89 years old. I asked what he was doing for New Years Eve. He said he is making his sweetheart a candle light dinner and then he is going to have his first dance of the year with her at midnight. He is a self taught gourmet cook.

I keep saying just because you are diabetic does not mean your life is over. You can still do all that you want to do. It is all about the choices you make. I plan to live a long life and enjoy every minute of it.

19 replies

valentine lady
valentine lady 2014-12-20 17:22:40 -0600 Report

Hi Joyce,
such a heart warming story, really made me smile and reinforced
,my belief that I can live a normal life with just a few adjustments.
Thanks for sharing…one more thing Joyce, the exact samething happened to me as to you. I was written up for something I did not do. I never got a response either. Please don't leave over something like this. Your input is to great for us to loose you over this. I chose to stay for my friends as well as for future friends..
Just something to think about
Happy Holidays to both you and you sister as well as well as your 4 legged spoiled rotten child. ;-) valentine lady

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2014-12-20 20:43:02 -0600 Report

Val, it is all about choices and wanting to live a happy life. Diabetes is not the focal point in my life.

I hate it when some whiner reports people for no reason. Then DC doesn't respond to you at all. Very poor customer service. I figured out who reported me. I immediately unfriended that person even though I was begged to friend them. I refused the first request then was asked a second time. I am thinking about it. I will miss my long time friends here.

We went to the pet store for his food. He is only allowed gluten free and grain free food. He got new toys for Christmas. He got a nice bed when we brought him home an just got another one for his birthday. My sister bought him a huge throw for the sofa. He loves it. He gets on it to watch tv and nap with the throw over him. He is so spoiled but is so sweet. Happy Holidays to you Hugggggs

valentine lady
valentine lady 2014-12-21 11:00:14 -0600 Report

Joyce, sounds like your baby has a very Merry Christmas. It's okay to spoil them, that's what their for. No matter how big or small.

I know who turned me in as well. I've not seen him on line since. I hope he got into trouble as wel. He called me a coiuple of real choice names.
Just think hard beforehand, please. I'd miss you terribly, so would James. I know he would. HHUGGGS back to you too. VL

Jibber Jabber
Jibber Jabber 2014-12-19 13:39:25 -0600 Report

What a wonderful story..Thank you so much for sharing it..it only goes to show that we are in fact in control of our lives…and we don't have to ever give in to diabetes…just learn to manage it…you put a smile on my face,,

Glucerna 2014-12-19 13:16:38 -0600 Report

Thanks for sharing this story with us Joyce. I love his zest for life and enthusiasm for taking care of his health. ~Lynn @Glucerna

Type1Lou 2014-12-19 10:08:56 -0600 Report

Amen Joyce! Living well with diabetes is very possible with the right choices as your colleague has demonstrated.

RebDee 2014-12-19 09:10:59 -0600 Report

I hope you invited him to join Diabetes Connect as he could teach us a lot. I am in awe of him. Thanks for writing about him.

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2014-12-19 10:14:19 -0600 Report

Reb I will never ever in life invite any of my friends to join this community. I did that about a year after I joined. A friend and her husband joined. He described what he was going through and got some great responses. He had friend request and then the boom dropped on his head. He asked a question about something an someone told him something and he respectfully disagreed with her. She blasted him with emails to the point I told him to report her. They sent me the emails he was getting from this person. They reported her and never heard a word. The emails were awful. They never returned.

The same person did the same thing to me and I reported her and nothing happened. They defended her behavior. I am considering leaving at the end of the year. I got reported for something I never did and I contacted DC by phone and email and never got a response.

This man was diagnose with diabetes long before I was born and it never slowed him down. To this day he is still very active in his community and he volunteers for Meals On Wheels. He even befriend some of the shut in's and goes to read to them. He was just honored by his former University for his Track and Field record. He said he is in better shape than his doctor. He has more information in his head than you can find in a book. I have known him for about 13 years and he always enters and leaves a room with a smile. I told him I want to be just like him when I grow up. He gets the biggest kick out of that. I picked his brain last night about diabetes and got some great tips.

karen7t2 2014-12-19 11:25:43 -0600 Report

I would love to hear some of his great tips. He sounds like he would be very valuable to the group.
Sorry to hear of your problems Reb. Many people on the various groups on Facebook etc tend to get nasty or pushy. Personally, instead of me taking it to heart, I try and learn something because, if they are chatting with me, specifically, I know I have a lot to learn.

RebDee 2014-12-19 18:06:10 -0600 Report

Karen, it was not me. It was Joyce that had the problem with someone. I have never had a problem with anyone in this group. I have enjoyed everyone that I have met via this group and all the advice and information that has been forthcoming from DC.

lilleyheidi 2014-12-19 02:31:03 -0600 Report

What a beautiful story. So much progression in medicine and technology. Your right, we have to be in control of our own lives, we make it or we break it.
So inspirational. Thanks for sharing. HUGS, Heidi

Fefe12 2014-12-18 22:16:15 -0600 Report

Thanks for sharing such a wonderful story. I have something to strive for. Merry Christmas!

Fefe12 2014-12-18 22:14:01 -0600 Report

Wow, what a testimony. I so agree with everything he said. I've kept my A1C perfect for 3yrs now, I am on meds since I only have a part of my pancreas but I watch what I eat, stay active. I have grandchildren to run after I have to stay on top of things. Are there foods I miss, of course. If I cant figure out a way to get it and share I just dont eat it. But if I want it bad enough I will find a way that doesn't compromise my health . We all have to find out what works for us then go for it. Life is too short, and we don't get another chance. What we have requires work on our part. How we take care of ourselves effects how we live now and into the future. Its all a choice. Funny, I have a disease I could live or die, its my choice. My friend has cancer, she has no choice. I'm so grateful I have this disease, I'm alive and I have a choice. Live, love, be happy, always share, and give better then you get.

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2014-12-18 22:34:10 -0600 Report

Fefe, life is short. I am not going to spend it being depressed, hateful or ashamed of a disease. All of that wasted energy can be spent on better things. If you hate something in the end you will be the most miserable person there is.

Just because something is thrown in your path does not mean that it is going to be something you can't get around. I don't need support from others, I don't need someone to motivate me. I learned to do this on my own. This is my disease and I am not making anyone responsible for it but myself. I am not going to rely on anyone to remind me to take my medications or test. They have lives of their own. Live, Love, Laugh.

Merry Christmas to you.

RebDee 2014-12-19 09:15:54 -0600 Report

I don't need support or motivation from others, but I sure like having it. I agree, it is my responsibility. However, each one of us is different, unique, and our Diabetes is also different from one to another of us. I take information from each of you and adapt it to make it my own. I too believe in Live, Love, Laugh. Happy Chanukah, Merry Christmas, and Happy New Year. I enjoy having you as my friends.