Hope for the future!

By andy1979 Latest Reply 2014-12-14 02:16:12 -0600
Started 2014-12-13 11:37:53 -0600

In life we are sometimes asked the radomist of questions. This week not being the exception, question asked by a friend was : Were do i see myself in 5 years time? My honest answer was aged 40 with less hair and a slimmer frame, maybe a better job and house and more holidays, considering my holiday count for this year is zero. Answering questions about the future has stirred in me the need to ask why 10 years down the line the things i originally planned amounted to nothing. I could blame the path i took or the friendships invested in or even the loss of those cared about along the way, however in many ways life experience has taught me to be thankful for each and every day. You can grieve for what is lost but the experiences gained throughout the years have made us all stronger or in some cases slightly cynical. What in my own way i'm trying to say is maybe we all need to grab life by nuts more!

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Brenin 2014-12-13 14:47:53 -0600 Report

I don't know what it says about me that I have no long term goals… I don't know if that's good or bad. I tend to live day to day and I enjoy what I have in that moment. Hmmmm… maybe I should have goals. Without goals does that mean I live aimlessly never to accomplish anything??

andy1979 2014-12-14 02:08:28 -0600 Report

nah we are similar , the term is to muddle through life, fact is your family are the main achievement so far, having a farm with animals and being creative is your gift to the world. wish i was more with it creatively.

RebDee 2014-12-13 13:39:01 -0600 Report

Truthfully, my 5 year goal was to find a man to marry. When my husband was on his death bed, in front of the whole family, he told me that I had been such a great wife (and I was his third so he knew what it was to have a wife) and that I should marry again to give some man a great wife. Anyway, the five years are up in January and I still have not dated. Perhaps I am too picky. Perhaps it is because I became obese and have Diabetes (which I had when I was thin). Perhaps I don't think of myself as beautiful or worthy or something else. I don't know. I just know that this year I woke up and decided to do for myself. I took classes. I had bariatric surgery. I am dieting and losing weight by leaps and bounds and look much beter to myself and my friends (I get compliments now). I don't even need medication or my insulin pump since surgery in August. So I will start over, change how I think of myself and not how others think of me (my friends love me), and become the new me.

andy1979 2014-12-14 02:16:12 -0600 Report

your response to what was written really put a lump in my throat at the things you have done to help yourself. what can i say about being single it over a decade since i have dated anyone, use to being single and maintaining good friendships, it only upsets me when friends have their time with their respective partners. im male equivelant of bridget jones- very fussy! good luck with the changes

GabbyPA 2014-12-13 13:15:29 -0600 Report

Better to have a goal and reach only a fraction of it than to have no goals and go no where at all.

I have never been a big fan of the 5 year question. It's a business question to see if you want to advance in a company. It's a question we ask of our youth to encourage direction. But so much can happen in just one year. let alone 5 or even more so, in 10.

While I do think having goals is good and healthy for people, having realistic ones is good too. We all have those dreams and if they pull at us hard enough, we make our decisions and choices to get there. However, if we are not flexible enough to bend when needed and maybe even consider a different outcome for our lives, we get in a world of hurt. Or worse, we hurt others to get what we want.

So like you, I do believe that you should take advantage of the opportunities that present themselves along the way. Kind of like a vacation where you drive and stop at the amazing, goofy and inspiring places along the way that make memories unexpected but often far more precious.

I would hate to be so focused on anything in my life that would cause me to miss those moments. Maybe there were other plans in our futures, not dictated by our desires, but by the needs we didn't know we had.

Glucerna 2014-12-13 17:31:09 -0600 Report

I love your first sentence Gabby: Better to have a goal and reach only a fraction of it than to have no goals and go nowhere at all. Looking ahead 5 years allows us to develop a vision for what we want our life to be like, and working toward that vision is bound to bring us benefits. ~Lynn @Glucerna