For Support? For advice? Maybe a place to come where you can vent and not be judged? There are a lot of reasons we come to this site. I come because I know there are people here who will encourage me, teach me something and offer their support in finding my way though the daily trudge of a chronic illness. You guys inspire me, give me a smile, make me laugh and even sometimes make me cry those good tears.
We also come here to encourage others and to let them know they are not alone. To reach out and touch someone with our words and maybe a hug or a high five. Sometimes we even give that gentle nudge to move in a better direction.
The hidden things that drive us are not always in full view and since few of us actually know each other to the depths that we would a face to face friend, we have to be aware that there are many complex things that make us tick. Most of us are not just dealing with diabetes and though that is what we share here, there is much more to each of us.
Perhaps we have a back ground that could be very fragile and sensitive. We might have a crummy upbringing that makes us harsh and lack empathy. We can be just so carefree, nothing gets us down. Or maybe we are just having a really, really bad day and anything we say comes out wrong. These are the pitfalls of online socializing. We don't get to feel the hug when our words heal. We don't get that "look" that tells us we are off base. Nor do we get to see the face when our words hurt someone.
No one should ever have to leave here feeling angry or under attack. We can get that from anywhere on any given topic. Here, we come for betterment. Not that we should lie or just say what people want to hear, but our words need to be measured carefully, because we do not know the background of someone we reply to has, nor how detrimental or healing our words could be.
It seems this time of year it is especially hard on many people. Chalk it up to any of the 100's of reasons we get more emotional or have more stress. Because I may not struggle with those things doesn't mean others don't. If I don't see it as a big deal, doesn't mean that a member here shouldn't. True giving comes from being able to give to the person what they need and that doesn't always mean we just tell them to get over it or move on. Giving comes from the process of helping them through, not telling them that what they feel or do is silly or foolish because we might think so.
Why do you come here? Answer that, and then realize that is what you can also give when you are here. You get back what you give, it's an amazing process that can really work.
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