Getting it off my chest

By DeedahW Latest Reply 2014-11-29 18:57:50 -0600
Started 2014-11-27 00:18:13 -0600

I'm 25 years old, in my first semester of law school, and was diagnosed type 1 almost 3 weeks ago. If I thought the lawyer jokes were bad, it's got nothing on what people say when you've got diabetes.
Between classes, my mothers constant stream of "what's your number" and "did you snack? You need to smack", people giving me "helpful" advice, being treated like an invalid, or having my needs completely disregarded ("you can't take your break, jake was here first and hasn't taken his yet. Your insulin can wait") and finals in the most intense classes I've ever taken (and that's saying a lot because I took several years of Mandarin Chinese) I think I may be losing my mind. There are so many times anymore where I am just overwhelmed or I feel angry. I have to smile and laugh it off, pretend none of it bothers me because that's what everyone expects. One of my classmates told me its "just diabetes" and it's not too serious. Kind of wanted to punch her face. I feel alone and kind of lost right now because it's all still so new, and no matter how supportive my family is they just don't understand. Am I being too sensitive about this?

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Cattaztrophie 2014-11-29 18:57:50 -0600 Report

NO YOU ARE NOT TOO SENSITIVE!!! If someone won't let you take a break, bust out your supplies and take a shot while remaining eye contact with that ass hole!!!! My best friend just graduated law school, and if you are anything like her you are a very independent and motivated person. Now that you have the diabetic stamp written on your forehead, you have everyone who has ever seen an insulin commercial thinking they know how to run your life better than you do. When it comes to your mom (and anyone else you have a close relationship with), you need to have a conversation with her and tell her that your blood sugars are your private medical business. Tell her you love her and that you appreciate her concern, but this is your life challenge, not hers. Seriously, if she's not in the habit of asking you how your period is going, or if you're brushing your teeth before you go to bed, she needs to lay off.
This Thanksgiving, I LITERALLY sat across a table from someone who said that 1. I should just pray to God for healing me from my diabetes, and 2. Since my parents were fat I'm paying for the sin of my father. Trust me, this is just the beginning of the crazies who are going to say "Are you sure you should be eating that?'" (My standard reply is "Type 2 diabetics are the kind that have to control their sugars by what they eat because their bodies still produce insulin, but they are immune to it. Since I'm a Type 1, my pancreas is dead so as long as I know whats in my food and take insulin for it, I'm fine).
As for the person who said "It's just diabetes" they were probably just trying to make you feel comfortable. Since you're newly diagnosed I'm sure you wanted to explode into tears, but a few years down the road you're going to totally agree.

sweetslover 2014-11-27 20:49:12 -0600 Report

I was diagnosed T2 about 6 weeks ago. This was such a shock to me because I am 66 years old and have never had health problems. Do not smile and laugh off the jokes and insensitive remarks because you think that is what everyone expects. Politely inform them and educate them about the seriousness of your condition. It could be that they are making light of things because they are trying to make you feel better about it. You are NOT being too sensitive. Let people know if your feelings are hurt. Hopefully your emotions will begin to settle down as your body adjusts to your meds. Mine are finally starting to level out. Hang in there—you can do it.

GabbyPA 2014-11-27 07:30:03 -0600 Report

New diagnosis is going to put you into overdrive. It did for me and I became obsessed with lots of things. It will mellow out, or you just get a tougher skin.

It is perfectly normal to be angry at it all. It changes your life and it doesn't go away. Anger is part of the process, just like grief. You are grieving the loss of a life you knew, but the cool thing is that you will find a new one that has some really great benefits. Generally, many diabetics find healthier habits to take on and while we may have a diabetic diagnosis, we often improve our overall health.

To help with the overwhelmed feeling, try to focus on just one thing at a time, get it to where you are comfortable and move on. Being here can help a lot. You can vent, ask questions and just be you, no judgement here. Just support and a shoulder or two to cry on if you need.

lilleyheidi 2014-11-27 04:42:09 -0600 Report

Welcome to DC. I'm type 2 dx'd about 5 years ago. There are a lot of type1's in this group who will have a lot better advice than i can give.
I, personally, think at 3 weeks in your going through a lot of stress of just trying to accept this. It is a life altering diagnosis.
Everyone seems to know more about it and have advice. Everyone is "well meaning". You just want to be left alone to go on with your day to day stuff and deal..
I don't think your being too sensitive, I think it takes time to adjust to a new diagnosis not just for you, but for your family and friends. It's new to them too.
Do the things your doc suggests and focus on your health and studies.
You'll be alright :) Hope you have a good thanksgiving !

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