The Toughest Week of the Year

By VRandy Latest Reply 2014-12-02 23:39:23 -0600
Started 2014-11-23 14:15:29 -0600

This is one of the toughest weeks of the year for me…facing all the food at our annual family Thanksgiving reunion. I truly love my family, and unfortunately, I love the food too! Thanksgiving over the first 52 years of my life were celebrated with Family, Fun, Fellowship and of course FOOD! the last 2 years have been very different. It's hard because if I give in and over eat, I'll suffer for it physically and feel guilty at the same time. If I don't give in, I'll ultimately feel better physically, but I can't help but experience a real sense of loss, not being able to enjoy the holiday as it has always been. Life is just not the same with diabetes. I know I'm not the only one, this site has taught me that as much as anything else. How about you? I've got a plan and I know what I'm going to do. My question is, do you? What will you do to get through Thanksgiving 2014? I hope to hear from you! May you all have a blessed holiday!

35 replies

Michael V Baker
Michael V Baker 2014-12-02 23:39:23 -0600 Report

We can all feel good via disciplined eating vs. historical impulsive grandeous ingestions just for the taste of it… Guarantee you will not regret controlling the intake vs an assured regret.

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2014-11-30 14:30:34 -0600 Report

Hey Randy!

Just checking in on you. How did Thanksgiving go? Sounds like you were focused on the big picture, and not just the food. I hope your Thanksgiving was a good one!


VRandy 2014-11-30 15:48:23 -0600 Report

Hello Dr. Gary - Our Thanksgiving was truly blessed and it went exactly like I thought it would! I went last, and got a taste of everything I was interested in. Some of the dishes were just loaded with sugar…that doesn't appeal to me anymore, but most of the food was OK, so I enjoyed them in moderation and kept the BG in check! I hope your Thanksgiving was a good one too!

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2014-12-01 22:20:40 -0600 Report

Hey Randy, that is really good news! Glad to hear you had the right balance. Sounds like a happy and healthy day. Thanks for letting me know. I had a good Thanksgiving, too. :))

JSJB 2014-11-28 09:28:29 -0600 Report

ENJOY the food and pay for it later. I will not let this problem prevent me from enjoying a holiday with my family. It is for one day like all the other holidays. So enjoy the day but do not over indulge.

VRandy 2014-11-30 15:40:35 -0600 Report

JSJB - that's certainly a way to make the most of a holiday. Enjoy the food without over indulging. Thanks for sharing your plan…hope your Thanksgiving was blessed.

oink66 2014-11-27 18:51:54 -0600 Report

11/27/14 Happy Thanksgiving to everyone, my diabetic connect family. I made (baked) only 4 Cornish Hens with dressing. Made my daughter her Peace Cobbler. So far all day I've only had 1 paper plate sz, serving. I ate lite 1 small leg, half cup dressing, some elbow mac-n-cheese, green beans & 2 dinner rolls. Desert 1 small ice cream scoop sz, peace cobbler.

RosalieM 2014-11-27 06:43:09 -0600 Report

Being a new diabetic is tough. After a while, when you get it figured out, you seem to develop a habit in the brain. Food becomes more about providing the body what you know it needs and less about being denied. At least that is what happened to me. I have learned to like simple foods that are good for me. Food no longer has a big attraction. As the years go by, it does get better as long ay you don't hang on to the idea that you are denied the food you want.
Looking forward to seeing my daughter and family and my sister. Watching my grandson eat. He is thin and has a bottom less pit for a stomach. It makes all my cooking worthwhile. Happy Thanksgiving everyone and remember each year it will get easier if you let it. "we live out what we believe."

RosalieM 2014-11-25 17:42:57 -0600 Report

I am doing the cooking at my house. I am making foods I can eat. I will alter
my own mashed potatoes with Hi maize resistant starch fiber. The pie and cheese cake I am making have a crust that is half Hi maize. I will use
Splenda as sweetener. My family will never know the difference. I have done it before and they were none the wiser.

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2014-11-26 21:56:40 -0600 Report

Roaslie, I have a large family and if you cooked for them and changed the recipes they would run you out of the house. I swear they have unhealthy food radar. The thing is many of them are diabetics and do not eat like it. I won't try my no sugar apple pie trick with them because they will notice it from the very first bite. The other relatives I try it on now buy them because they discovered they don't know the difference. Have a wonderful Thanksgiving.

VRandy 2014-11-26 15:25:02 -0600 Report

Sounds like an excellent plan…and while they may be none the wiser, you certainly have enough wisdom for all of your family! Have a blessed Thanksgiving and thank you for sharing your plan!

suecsdy 2014-11-24 17:39:48 -0600 Report

I think I understand what you are saying. Part of the Fun is the food. The special dishes that we save for just this time of year. It isn't even the food as much as the change. If you're like me , you like things to stay the same and this is a choice you didn't get to make. It was forced on you. One thing I will not change this year is homemade bread. It's been a tradition for years(my husband always made it for holidays…it doesn't seem right not to have it). I've done the best to make my other recipes diabetic friendly. My daughter is on board so I'm looking forward to a good holiday with our little family. Happy Thanksgiving!

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2014-11-26 21:50:21 -0600 Report

Sue, the only thing we have that we save for the holiday are the Ginger Cookies. Our recipe is probably 100 years old because it was my grandmothers. There is no way on the planet I would make it diabetic friendly because everyone in the family would notice it with one bite. We are having homemade rolls also. For some reason it doesn't seem right not to have them.

VRandy 2014-11-25 09:24:29 -0600 Report

Hey Sue - I liked the way you put it - and I like your plan - one of my aunts does homemade rolls - so good and it's the one time of the year for them and so many other dishes! One of my tactics is to go last because most of the really rich dishes are gone (we have a bunch of folks)! As others have posted, only get a small portion - great advice and you still get a taste that way! How wonderful that your daughter is on board too! That's a big help! Have a blessed time on Thanksgiving!

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2014-11-24 13:20:38 -0600 Report

So rather than enjoy being with your family and Fellowship, you choose to look at the holiday as a loss because you can't eat all kinds of food.

Why is not eating all the food you use to eat more important than being with your family? Is that food going to make you smile, feel warm when a family member hugs or shares fond memories with you. If it does, I want to ks now what is in the food your family is eating.

Thanksgiving is one day. I CHOOSE to spend the time enjoying being with my family. I .don't CHOOSE to view it as a loss because I can't share in all of the goodies.

If you want to indulge use a teaspoon to fill your plate of the bad things and load up on the good things. The way I see it is if I spike so be it. I will be back on track the next day. My downfall is Mac and Cheese. I use a fork for that. I use a fork. I stick it in and what sticks to the fork, I eat even if it is only fpieces of macaroni. Family is far more important than food.

VRandy 2014-11-25 09:16:02 -0600 Report

Hello Joyce - family is big to me, I mentioned them first in my post! I merely bring up how things changed for me now that I'm diabetic. But, to be real, I don't load up my plate like I did just 3 years ago, and to say that I don't think about it or sense loss because I can't, is to be insincere. But I don't mope around all day because of food. The key is to have a plan going into the day! I love your plan, it's very practical! I wish you a blessed holiday!

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2014-11-26 21:11:04 -0600 Report

VRandy, I came up with that idea my first Thanksgiving. I dreaded it because I knew I would not have enough to eat. So I did the teaspoon and tablespoon thing and found I had more than enough to eat. My cousin was going to buy a special dessert just for me and I would not let him do that. I made sugar free Strawberry Mousse and he tasted it and loved it. I now take No Sugar Added Apple Pie. I take that little label off and there is never any left over. I don't tell them that it has no sugar until it is all gone.

Now I can basically eat anything i want and I do it in moderation. However, we have Sweet Potato Cheesecake that is simply divine. I plan on having some of that. So I will have cut out something to have it.

Enjoy the time with your family and friends and have a very blessed Thanksgiving.

VRandy 2014-11-26 21:27:33 -0600 Report

Great plan and solid advice…thanks for adding to the conversation! I wish you a blessed and happy Thanksgiving too!

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2014-11-26 21:53:24 -0600 Report

Hey Randy thanks. I am looking forward to spending time with the family. Our family is 6 generations so I will probably see at least 50-75 of them at some point tomorrow. They won't be at my cousins house at one time but a lot will be passing through. Gotta love the holidays and family. There is nothing better.

Stuart1966 2014-11-24 10:59:35 -0600 Report

A sense of loss? Why are you eating that dinner ALONE?

I have been a diabetic since I was literally barely out of diapers. I suffer no "loss", and never have. But I literally never learned to like the garbage foods, so many "love". As a grown up, I have finally tasted many of those foods, and am perplexed why anybody finds them enjoyable, or delicious. Most, I frankly would prefer fresh fruit to them.

But I have no emotional attachment toward any food(s). The concept I do not get. Comfort food, nooooo.

Eat whatever your heart desires, just be a sentient, grown up about whatever you eat. We are doing ZERO differently than anybody else at our tables. We are all watching our weight, trying not to over eat. There is no real difference between us, SAVE, whatever we eat, we must pay a price for it far more quickly than most. If we do not,acknowledge/address
the portion issue our dragon awakens and says "hello" in some unpleasant ways. Not a fan of fire, I do not eat platefuls of anything. A little here, a spoonful there. Most I do not eat, as I never learned to like em

Others experiences may vary ;~ )

VRandy 2014-11-25 09:05:31 -0600 Report

Count your blessings! It sounds as if you've been spared from 'bad, indulgent' eating all of your life! Your focus on family is a good key as well as portion size! All in all, another plan that will bring success on Thanksgiving! Enjoy your holiday!

GabbyPA 2014-11-24 05:30:38 -0600 Report

My plan is to do the cooking. I'm a control freak. LOL

Seriously, I do the cooking, and have for almost every Thanksgiving in my adult life. I enjoy giving to my family and friends in this way. I have changed my menu (we always have turkey and stuffing) but everything else is up for grabs. So I get the opportunity to share things that are okay for me to eat and they don't even realize I don't have rolls and candied yams on the table.

Things like sausage stuffed mushrooms, sauteed green beans with almonds, and of course a big garden salad. I do have to make my husband a pecan pie and the stuffing is for my step daughter. But there is no reason you cannot have a healthy and diabetic friendly meal that tastes great. Now how much you eat....well, that is up to you.

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2014-11-26 22:02:27 -0600 Report

ROFL. why didn't I know you were a control freak. I use to love green beans with almonds but can no longer have them since I developed my nut allergy. What kind of Sausage are you stuffing into the mushrooms. I don't like mushrooms but will try just about any kind of sausage.

I am having dinner with a different set of cousins tomorrow. I am going to miss not having the spare ribs with sauerkraut and apples.One of my other cousins mother in law makes it. However, I am going to enjoy the fried hard crabs and gravy. I am also going to have some sweet potato cheesecake. I might spike tomorrow but I am not going to worry about it because I will be back on track Friday. Going to cook the rest of my Thanksgiving Dinner. I do hope you and your family have a very blessed Thanksgiving Day.

GabbyPA 2014-11-27 05:21:17 -0600 Report

I have used a sage pork sausage with diced mushrooms, onions and garlic and a little parm on top. They don't last in our house. I did just find a homemade recipe for a chicken sausage I might try. It has some apple in it.and sounds yummy.

VRandy 2014-11-25 09:00:23 -0600 Report

Another great plan! When it comes to eating, we all need to be 'under-control freaks"! Have a blessed holiday my friend!

lilleyheidi 2014-11-24 03:15:57 -0600 Report

I've made the choice this year to be with my best friend and not celebrate with food. We are watching movies and spending quality girl time together. Later in the evening I will go to my son's house and have a small slice of pumpkin pie, but it will only be a small piece as I don't want to disturb my BG numbers or my caloric intake for the day. It's not been an easy choice to make to avoid all the food traditions for this holiday, but it's what I need to do for me this year.
I'm really looking forward to spending a great day with my bestie. Heidi

VRandy 2014-11-25 08:57:43 -0600 Report

Sounds like you have a good plan and that's the key! Have a great holiday and be blessed!

jayabee52 2014-11-23 21:03:20 -0600 Report

Howdy Randy
I just found out that my son will be picking me up at 4 pm on Thur and will be taking us to the Cheesecake factory. It will be good to be with my son, DIL and her parents.

The main thing for me will be being with family and thanking God for the blessings He has showered upon us throughout this past year. The food is only secondary to that. When we operate from an attitude of gratitude it is the reason for this particular holiday.

I may overindulge a bit (especially due to the cheesecake offerings) I intend to enjoy a low carb meal as possible in such a venue. I also have to consider my dialysis when ordering, which makes eating out quite interesting at times.

Praising God from whom all blessings flow!

James .

VRandy 2014-11-25 08:54:32 -0600 Report

Hello Friend - I so appreciate your post! (As usual)! Family, fun & fellowship certainly come before food and I love how you added Faith to the mix! We all have much to be thankful for! Enjoy your time!

GabbyPA 2014-11-24 05:32:45 -0600 Report

I really do think family and friends are the best part of it all. We usually clean up the table shortly after we eat so it's all put away. Less temptation to keep picking at it. Then we either go to a movie or play board games. Of course, I watch the parade while I'm cooking.

VRandy 2014-11-25 08:51:40 -0600 Report

Excellent point - the all day grazing is dangerous! The cleanup idea works for me! Thanks Gabby!

Type1Lou 2014-11-23 17:22:18 -0600 Report

We're visiting friends for Thanksgiving because our families all live far away. I will be bringing a diabetic-friendly dessert (maybe 2 pies, one pumpkin made with Splenda and a Chocolate Chiffon in a nut crust, also sweetened with Splenda.) I won't be having any potatoes or stuffing or candied yams but I will load up on the meat and "safe" veggies and maybe, I'll indulge in one roll.
Have a happy holiday!

VRandy 2014-11-25 08:47:10 -0600 Report

Sounds like a plan that will work! The key is to have a plan - at least it is for me…and obviously it is for you too! Have a blessed Thanksgiving!

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