By poopsie78 Latest Reply 2014-11-23 14:19:00 -0600
Started 2014-11-16 23:10:14 -0600

I'm having lots of stress in my life. I can't seem to get my blood sugar and blood pressure in control. Last Tuesday I had an episode where my bp was very high and my face went numb. I was admitted to the hospital for test… Thank goodness I didn't have a stroke, but I'm feeling alone, stressed and confused about what to eat… I feel helpless!!! No family close by… But I don't want to burden them as they are sick. My boyfriend and friends can't relate… It hurts to hear my bf say he can't believe he doesn't have diabetes due to his lifestyle… I don't understand how he could say that to someone trying to get ahold of her life of needles and endless meds!!! I'm so sad

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19 replies

K2K 2014-11-19 17:24:46 -0600 Report

I'm sorry. I hope that every minute of every day is better for you as you know you are a strong woman who can do this!!!!! I'm newly diagnosed and struggling with what to eat and am often frustrated. I'm just treating each moment as another chance to learn more about Type 2 and what I can do for myself, by myself. I have to love myself, and you have to love yourself. We often don't put ourselves first, but we must. Take everything a moment at a time and be proud of yourself when you've made it through another day/week/month. Leave your mistakes in the past and move forward to brighter days. You really can do this!

Homely54 2014-11-19 12:01:00 -0600 Report

You are never alone, I feel I can speak for us all and say you have the rest of us and we do understand and I myself feel alone at times. I can no longer enjoy foods with family and friends but someone said something very true to me , that I have had my fun with food now it is time to eat better for my well being.

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2014-11-19 07:57:16 -0600 Report

Hey poopsie78,

It's really good to see you. I'm sorry to hear you had this episode. It must have been scary.

And sorry to hear you are feeling so alone. I can understand why you are feeling helpless, and not getting a lot of support from the people around you. Sounds like your boyfriend and friends may also feel kind of helpless. If people don't know how to help, or even what to say, they can just kind of pretend nothing happened, and even make a joke about it. It's like saying, "don't think or talk about it and it will go away." That certainly doesn't help you.

I hope you will find some people in your life who can give you some support. It might help to say that you need a listener, and that you aren't expecting a solution. Let people know what you need from them. It might also help to make sure your boyfriend knows what to do if you need his help in the future. Have a plan in place.

As for your family, letting people who care about you know what you are dealing with doesn't mean that you are being a burden. If they are facing their own health challenges, they might have some wisdom and encouragement to share. You could use some support, too.

And stay in touch with us. You are not alone. Let us know how you're doing.

Take good care of yourself!


lilleyheidi 2014-11-19 02:59:49 -0600 Report

Hey Poopsie, there is not much more I can say that the others here haven't already said. Your not alone, you may feel it, I understand that, but we here at DC are all in this with you.
Good for you for going back to work, even if everything was out of whack. You tried !
You CAN do this, you've got a lot of support right here, give me a shout if you ever feel like talking.
HUGS, heidi

poopsie78 2014-11-18 17:32:18 -0600 Report

Thanks everyone!!! I tried to go back to work today… But my bp and bs was out of wack and I felt weak all day!

Homely54 2014-11-19 12:14:36 -0600 Report

We are with you poopsie, try breath slowly listen to your heart rhythm slow as you close your eyes and just breath in and out , I do this and it works. Opposite it's a new you now and you gotta take it and make it happy one, be excited about how your gonna be a better you. Make your journey fun and educating.

sandyfrazzini 2014-11-18 12:04:21 -0600 Report

I can relate to how you are feeling, when my blood sugar gets low my husband of 11 years still asks "what do you need more insulin?" I don't need him to be involved in every aspect of my diabetes management, but I would like him to learn a little more so I would be able to talk to someone at home and have them understand what I am going through. I guess it should start with me asking him to attend a class with me. I think what your bf said is a great oppertunity to say with the lifestyle you are currently living it won't be long before you are a diabetic and ask him to go to a class or a dietician with you, for both of you, Good Luck.

Stuart1966 2014-11-18 11:39:11 -0600 Report

You are NOT remotely alone.

There are a bunch of people, on this board, and many others who can not only relate, but have BEEN exactly where you are are physically, emotionally.

Not a diabetic, not having high BP, wanting another person to understand where we are at, and how to help us can be a problem. Give him some time, if he fails repeatedly, perhaps its time to send him forward. However, most in my experience can (and do) make all kinds of dumb statements, mistakes and still love and care for us, despite their occasional verbal/mental diarrhea !!!!

Only you know which is the case. In distress, agony is not the best time to make good decisions. Give yourself some time, things can improve.

Glucerna 2014-11-17 17:14:17 -0600 Report

I'm really glad you're posting here and sharing what's going on with you, and as others have said - you're not alone when you're a part of this group. Perhaps you can talk with your physician about meeting with a certified diabetes educator who can listen to you and help you figure out a plan going forward? ~Lynn @Glucerna

Set apart
Set apart 2014-11-17 15:03:43 -0600 Report

You're not alone, we're all here. I think we all go through this once in a while, at least I know I have. Diabetes is a serious illness, but also can be controlled with diet and exercise. BE strong and know that this community has so much to offer. I've been gone for a while, have been dealing with life issues, and became a bit down with menopause and other things. I realize now that although there can be many factors which affect diabetes control, we still have that option that we can control it to a VERY HIGH DEGREE! This community has so many ideas on what to eat, and low carb eating. You will learn what fits to your lifestyle and your diabetes. We all have so much in common, yet are unique in so many ways.

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2014-11-17 12:11:58 -0600 Report

Sometimes people allow their emotions to get in their own way. When that happens clear thinking can go out the window. In my opinion, your boyfriend didn't say what he said to hurt you. He was expressing a thought of his lifestyle which was not done to hurt you but as a means of saying something about himself. He has every right to feel that way. Odds are he may have said something aloud that he has been thinking for some time. In saying it aloud he might change his lifestyle. You can't fault him for that.

Until I became diabetic, I could not relate to other diabetics. I didn't understand how they could handle that because due to lack of knowledge on the subject I could not phantom how anyone could not eat the things everyone else was eating. I actually believed diabetes was caused by eating too much sugar. Boy was I wrong. More than likely this is why your friends can't relate. It isn't their fault. As a diabetic you can help them understand what happens with diabetics. Do not force the issue if they don't care to learn about diabetes. They may be facing the fear that they too can become diabetic or have other things going on and diabetes is not at the top of their list.

I lived like you for years, lots of stress and feeling alone. One morning I got up and decided today is the last day I am going to feel this way. My main focus was fixing my life. You can vent all you want but no one can fix you but you.

First meet with a certified dietitian who can clear up the confusion of what to eat. He/She can help you come up with meal plans that are going to help lower your Blood Glucose and blood pressure.

Ask your doctor to refer you to a therapist who can help you with the stress issues. My way of dealing with stress is by not stressing over anything I don't control. I do not control other people, the economy, the problems in the world or things going on around me. I can't fix those problems and I certainly am not going to stress myself out over it. I also don't take on other peoples problems and make them my own. I got rid of all the drama queens both men and women in my life. These are people who do nothing but whine and complain or continuously have problems. These kinds of people can suck up all of your energy if you spend too much time listening to them. Stop focusing on or worrying about things you do not control.

Attend a diabetes education class. You will meet other diabetics and have people who will understand some of what you are going through. Join a support group. If there isn't one in your area, start one. That will take the focus off of some of what you are going through.

Keeping a journal helps. Make a list of everything you feel is going wrong in your life. Then go back and write down how you can fix them. Feeling alone is a perception you have even in a room filled with people. The reality is you are not alone. You just feel that way. The one thing that helped me was taping on my mirror the following sentence: "Just for today, I am going to____________" and I filled in the blank. My therapist loved it and he helped me fix my life.

You have to get involved in something you like doing, For me it is working in my community and with the police department. Twenty years ago, I would never have believed I would ever believed that I would be called on by the Mayor, been one of 12 people the Governor selected to attend a Mass Transit Class, been interviewed several times by the media, asked to participate in a radio discussion panel, have a dinner meeting with the Mayor or work with the Community side of the police department in helping to design a class that will be taught at the Police Academy or have a project become a teaching tool for police officers. I have met so many wonderful people. Some will be friends for life. I found my niche. Find yours and you will find out that you really are an amazing person. Best of luck to you.

lilleyheidi 2014-11-19 02:56:30 -0600 Report

I really like this, I've been really trying to educate people, and been thinking of trying to get a diabetes support group started locally. You have inspired me to start talking to the local diabetes educator (only one locally) and see if she will help me to get started. Thanks.

poopsie78 2014-11-17 00:40:53 -0600 Report

My kidney function is ok… I lost my mom dad and sister to kidney failure/ complications of diabetes… It's just been a yr since my sister passed away… I'm trying to take action now.. Better late than never???

poopsie78 2014-11-17 00:15:21 -0600 Report

Thanks!!! I have a great deal of stress weighing on me. My bp was something like 250/110 when the fighter men took it… BG was 301… I think everything just built up that day… I feel that my bf loves me but as far as supporting my lifestyle he doesn't help. He's an EMT who works three days a week and spends his time drinking and playing video games the other days. I don't think he had the ability to support me right now… And I don't have the energy to beg him.

jayabee52 2014-11-17 00:29:51 -0600 Report

wow that BP was really something serious. Since I have Kidney disease for which I need dialysis, my mind goes to worrying about kidney problems for you since 49% of folks on dialysis are there due to Hypertension and . 49% are there due to diabetes.

About your BF, you say he doesn't help your lifestyle. Does he hinder you from living like you need to control your diabetes?

Praying for improving health for you

jayabee52 2014-11-17 00:07:39 -0600 Report

Howdy Poopsie

I am sorry to learn of your distress. My late wife had to go to the ER for BG (blood glucose) levels over 600 mg/dl. In her case we knew what did it: steroid injections to manage her Lupis (SLE).

Do you have any idea of what may have caused your hyper event?

Please cut your BF a little slack as I read what he said as trying to be supportive but not really knowing how to be supportive. What I hear him saying is that he could easily be in your situation himself. So please cut him some slack. I really think that he IS in your corner, and he seems to me to be concerned (unless he said some things you hadn't shared with us).

Know Poopsie that you do have a lot of folks who are in your corner too.

Come to vent anytime you need

Praying for improving health for you