Just in time for the holidays from Spark People: "11 nice ways to say 'no' to food pushers"

jayabee52
By jayabee52 Latest Reply 2015-04-03 15:56:16 -0500
Started 2014-11-07 10:41:46 -0600

How to Politely Turn Down Food at Parties and Gatherings:

At holiday gatherings people may take two different attitudes toward you and your diabetes. They can become the "food police" or they can become "food pushers". This article, while not written directly to People with Diabetes, can be used by us to politely decline to eat or drink what they're trying to push on us.~ http://www.sparkpeople.com/resource/nutrition...
God's best to you for a stress reduced holiday season.

James


52 replies

RebDee
RebDee 2015-04-03 15:42:27 -0500 Report

Starting tonight is Passover and I am invited tonight and tomorrow night to seders by friends. I plan to eat everything just not as much. In fact, a spoonful of most of the different things is plenty for me. I am even going to taste (one bite) of the dessert as it is something only made for Passover.

Knowing that I am going to eat at the seder, I had a protein drink for breakfast, 1/4 cup of cottage cheese for lunch with some grapes.

Of course I will be drinking water instead of wine at the seder (I plan to color the water with grape juice).

Luckily I don't get to eat my favorite Cadbury Easter egg this year because Easter falls during Passover.

Everyone, please have a great Passover and Easter.

BreC
BreC 2014-11-26 17:39:27 -0600 Report

I am a picky eater and have learned to politely say "no, but thank you for offering". Most of my family eats the same things so it hasn't been an issue. I am also a sight eater. If it doesn't look good to me, I won't eat it.

MaxieFo
MaxieFo 2014-11-17 09:39:13 -0600 Report

I'm sorry, but I am a straight forward person and most people that know me know this so I doubt that I will make excuses or put something on my plate simply to appease others. I think the best approach is to say I don't want any or I can't have that and move on. No one should have to explain why they are not eating or drinking certain foods or drinks, and I refuse to let others make me feel as though I have to explain.

Joelelliotthudson
Joelelliotthudson 2014-11-16 21:10:48 -0600 Report

When offered "dangerous" food I usually say something like "That looks really Yummy, it's too bad I am so full right now!", also I am coming back from a (Financially forced) starvation event, and I can tell people that I have to take it easy caloricly, or I'll gain (More) weight & I'm trying to get down to a healthy 190 from 250

haynes_valerie@yahoo.com
haynes_valerie@yahoo.com 2014-11-11 10:54:21 -0600 Report

I don't like to eat around family and friends for the Holiday's because they are so judge mental. They tell you that you can't have this or that, my question is why did you invite me anyway.

Stuart1966
Stuart1966 2014-11-11 10:30:58 -0600 Report

The pop up ads were killing me…

Did it include just putting whatever on your plate, and merely NOT eating it??? How about the hiding it under the peas game?

johio
johio 2014-11-09 02:22:57 -0600 Report

don't run into the problem much. then again, I don't go to too many parties where it can come up!

NewSong53
NewSong53 2014-11-16 15:40:08 -0600 Report

I'm not either — but we have lots of well-meaning "pushers" at work where goodies abound during the holidays! (Maybe a good idea to take goodies that are "gifted" and "re-gift" them!)

Chopstix
Chopstix 2014-11-08 22:09:22 -0600 Report

So far I have not had that problem. I know what I can not eat, or don't like,and I tell people that if they ask. Once I had someone try to get me to eat something I did not want and I simply said, "some people have to watch what they eat and I'm one of them." Then I walked off and not another word was said…

jayabee52
jayabee52 2014-11-08 22:41:11 -0600 Report

good for you chopstix. How is your relatonship with that food pusher now?

Chopstix
Chopstix 2014-11-09 17:35:04 -0600 Report

Have not seen them in quite some time. We don't go out much and rotate the cooking duties. I've had two surprises this week where my wife went back for seconds. First my stroganoff and then the baked chicken…

D. Jon
D. Jon 2014-11-08 20:17:11 -0600 Report

There is one thing, I am not sure if most people already know, can replace bedtime snack, is 4AmGlucose tablets, which can avoid hypo- and hyper- blood sugar over night.

jayabee52
jayabee52 2014-11-08 22:39:41 -0600 Report

Is there anything special about the AmGlucose tablets? If they are like other glucose tabs I would think that 4 tabs would create a hyperglycemia situation.
I am intrigued, tell me more.

D. Jon
D. Jon 2014-11-10 13:07:52 -0600 Report

It's maybe confusion to many. Actually the product name is 4AmGLucose. Here 4 means "for" and close to 4AM or early morning. The product is designed to prevent the beginning hours hyper and later sleeping hours hypo. It's very thoughtful.

Sly Kitty
Sly Kitty 2014-11-08 12:29:03 -0600 Report

I guess I am the only one who doesn't experience this. I get the diabetes police who only try to shove meat down my throat and think I cannot eat anything else. It is all the same ignorance about diabetes.

JenCo28
JenCo28 2014-11-08 10:46:10 -0600 Report

hahahha… funny, I was heavy before being diabetic and they used to starve me… now that I'm diabetic they feel sorry for me and feel the need to shove food down my throat saying "one bite won't kill you" if they only knew :(

jayabee52
jayabee52 2014-11-08 12:15:45 -0600 Report

I wonder why the change?

My answer to "one bite won't kill you" would be: "but many bites add up over time and they WILL kill me"

stonehedge
stonehedge 2014-11-08 06:28:47 -0600 Report

I have people say…oh you can cheat some…I explain. It's like marriage my friend if you cheat on your wife a little later you will cheat a lot…later on.simple common sense…so if I cheat any with food it's all ways with good diabetic food…now while I hunt I pick and eat more persimmons than I should just my thinking

lilleyheidi
lilleyheidi 2014-11-08 04:10:20 -0600 Report

I am very fortunate, I don't have many pushy people in my life (at least in the area of food). My problem area is ME. When I'm in the vicinity of my old favorites, I have a tough time saying no to them. I do my best to avoid them altogether. I'm not doing Thanksgivng this year, instead I'm just getting together with my best friend, she is bringing her diet lunch, I'm making a chicken salad wrap, and we are watching chick fliks all afternoon. Sometimes simple avoidance is the only answer.

debcox
debcox 2014-11-07 22:59:59 -0600 Report

Great article, James. Thank you for sharing. I actually have something coming up tomorrow. We're going to a quiz meet and everyone is stopping for ice cream afterwards. We're taking the boys for ice cream but I'm thinking I'll skip the ice cream and walk around a bit. I may have some time to walk earlier while waiting for our quiz meet to start or while watching the kids before lunch. If so, I may have a small cone.

TooSweet60
TooSweet60 2014-11-07 22:29:13 -0600 Report

Great post, Most people around me wont offer things they know I cant eat, but when I get a pusher, I just say, I m diabetic and my diabetes is unique to me so No Thank you Im sure its good but I cannot take even a bite, if I could I would have already.
Other diabetics eat things their not suppose to as a treat now and then and you dont look sick, Well I tell the pusher, that is their choice, not mine. No thank you, but I pass because its my choice to say no to this and yes to health,
As far as not looking sick, Thank you for the compliment but I am see this medic alert bracelet its here for a reason. Diabetes is no joke, And I just tell them I will pray for them that they are never touched by it.
Peopke cn be rude! But stand strong, let no one push you, polite, yet strong

jayabee52
jayabee52 2014-11-08 12:17:37 -0600 Report

Thanks for sharing TooSweet

Yes people certainly can be rude and they sometimes don't know they are.

Kats49
Kats49 2014-11-07 17:50:53 -0600 Report

I am very blessed…my daughter in law also has diabetes, so the rest of the family has been educated for the past 10 years. Our cooking has changed dramatically for the better. Better nutrition and less salt or sugars, no GMO etc…more vegetables/fruits than meat. a win win for all of us

Grandmama16
Grandmama16 2014-11-09 00:21:39 -0600 Report

More Veg and fruit play havoc on my intestines. What's wrong with lean meats? No carbs. Also cheeses, even butter. I've found that I just have to eat regularly and not a lot. If I don't, or eat too many carbs, my BG spikes. I don't have a problem with food police or pushers in my family. I'm 70… No one pushes granny around. :)

Kats49
Kats49 2014-11-09 17:56:12 -0600 Report

And meat plays havoc with my arthritis so what works for me might not work for you…but we would try to accommodate anyone who ate at our table. Every year it keeps growing…38 last year

valentine lady
valentine lady 2014-11-07 17:39:53 -0600 Report

Hi Stonehedge,
where I agree with you 100% you have to agree thst there are plenty who need help with their voice to say no and mean it. This is a grreat tool for them. Evev helped me if no on thank you I 'm
a diabetic doesn't work..you know some people are just plain rude about our bounddries.. Me. ? I have no problem with saying
No thank,you. I am diabetic. For people like us that's easy for some others impossible. Just a thought… ;-)

stonehedge
stonehedge 2014-11-07 16:23:49 -0600 Report

I have no proublem telling people…I'm diabetic I can't eat that…if they insist I eat it…Grin…I tell them they don't have a clue…yep it can get worse…if so …I can hold my own

jayabee52
jayabee52 2014-11-07 23:16:34 -0600 Report

when people push me hard I tend to dig in my heels and maybe then I will even get rather rude. If you eat it, they get what they want and you're only doing damage to yourself. and not only to yourself, but to them cause they got what they wanted and will do it to you and to others again.

Karyn Seiders
Karyn Seiders 2014-11-07 16:02:02 -0600 Report

All of our family meals are potluck, which makes this even easier to make sure there are dishes that are diabetes friendly.

unojay
unojay 2014-11-07 15:50:58 -0600 Report

lol its a good article.
but I let everyone know before we sit down that I cant eat this or that because of my diabetes. not to rude or want nut. .they understand and they don't push but…sometimes I don't push either lol. so people watch yourself, know your diet and enjoy the holidays and be happy…
thank james…jay

Gabby
GabbyPA 2014-11-07 14:19:42 -0600 Report

I have to say I have never been forced to eat anything. Those types of pushes are not on my radar for the most part, thank goodness. Some people can be quite annoying. LOL

I am not good at the "just one bite" deal. I fall down almost every time. So I just have to avoid and if my plate is full of good things, there is no room for the bad.

jayabee52
jayabee52 2014-11-07 23:12:24 -0600 Report

That is the same with me Gabby.

Not long after I lost my Jem to death I bought a half gallon of mint chip ice cream. I opened it the night I got it home and scooped out a bowl. DARN that was SOOOO GOOD I had to get another and another until it was all gone. I learned I had to set up a limit to my eating. So when I wanted mint chip icecream I went down to to a dairy barn where they had cones of mint chip ice cream. The 1 dip cones cost nearly as much as that half gal. did, but it limited my intake because I didn't want to pay for another cone.

More recently (about 3 yrs ago) I also used to love "drumstick" ice cream cones. I would buy a 12 pack and would end up eating them all in 1 or 2 evenings. So I made a deal with a friend from the apartment complex. He would hold on to my drumsticks and only give them out to me once a day.

God's blessings to you ahd yours
James

valentine lady
valentine lady 2014-11-07 12:42:13 -0600 Report

Hi James,
Great article! Nice ways to say no. Sometimes I think I need nice ways to
to say no. After a while one gets tired of saying "no thank.you" especially
If they don't want to take that as an answer a final answer. I'm sure you

know the kind. Or even "no thank you, I am a diabetic." Thanks for the input

diamond359
diamond359 2014-11-07 12:40:41 -0600 Report

We will be fine being afraid to eat makes you not enjoy the holidays or life. Don't glut just eat and be sensible. Take Care!!

jayabee52
jayabee52 2014-11-07 22:59:40 -0600 Report

Howdy Diamond
If you can eat just a bite or maybe two that is great for you. However each person must know themself and I know that one bite will make me want more and more. I will eat until there is nothing left. I know myself and must say no thanks I cannot eat that. It will do damage to my body (which it will when i eat too much of it).

God's best to you
James

RebDee
RebDee 2015-04-03 15:56:16 -0500 Report

Wanting and eating are two different things. I want cookies, cake, ice cream, desserts, sauces, but don't EAT them. Occasionally, at a special meal such as Thanksgiving, Passover, or another holiday, I may (if I want to or feel like it) try a BITE of dessert. It satisfies me. Allows me to understand why everyone likes it. Gives me a chance to add to the conversation (Oh, this is so good!!!) but doesn't up my BS too much. I also limit my eating between 7AM and 8PM.

valentine lady
valentine lady 2014-11-07 13:05:00 -0600 Report

Diamond, I disagree with you. For a lot of diabetics it's hard to find the right words to decline sweets, or some carbs other than sweets.. This helps them to get their voice. Also why work hard all year to "JUST EAT" in the holidays…some just can't handle it.