By lilleyheidi Latest Reply 2014-10-18 20:16:23 -0500
Started 2014-10-14 04:32:45 -0500

This Friday I'm going out for appetizers and dinner and dessert with my family to celebrate my sons 30th birthday, a big day. I'm designated driver, so I don't have to worry about not having a drink, but I am a bit worried as this will be one of the first times I've been out in a big restaurant since I've been on my healthy eating plan. Since I began this eating plan, I vowed I would never banish any food or foods, but that I would plan for them in advance, and make allowances for them in my day.
I'm sure skipping over appetizers won't be any problem for me, and having steak or chicken and double up on vegetable and no potato is no problem for me to ask for, but when it comes to dessert, I'm really stumbling and afraid. I CAN say no to dessert, I know that I can. I know that saying no would be the best thing for my diabetes and for my weight loss, but I'm not entirely sure it would be the best thing for my mental health, which for me is as big if not bigger an issue as diabetes and weight.
Can you suggest what might be a reasonable suggestion for a dessert in a restaurant that won't send my blood sugars into the thousands? I'm happy with splitting a dessert in 1/2 and leaving a portion behind, just to get some.
thanks in advance,

8 replies

lilleyheidi 2014-10-18 02:38:21 -0500 Report

just a quick update on the family celebration. for a number of personal reasons, i did not attend this event, and so i stayed home and had a chicken salad wrap and went to bed early :) thanks everyone for your suggestions, i'll keep them in mind for the next time i have an event to go out to.

ReaderReader12 2014-10-16 17:42:56 -0500 Report

I do well with skipping dessert and having it wen I get home. I make a sugar free fudge and as long as I know I have some at home in the fridge I am happy to just visit with those who are having dessert and I ask for another glass of ice water. It seems to work just fine.


Glucerna 2014-10-14 17:36:52 -0500 Report

I really like the way you're planning ahead and thinking about the choices you'll make in the restaurant, plus making sure to take care of both your emotions as well as diabetes. If you know the restaurant you're going to in advance, you can find out what they offer for dessert and perhaps even get nutrition information. That way you can make a more informed choice. I often find that eating slowly and really tasting every bite helps me enjoy a smaller portion. ~Lynn @Glucerna

clb2014 2014-10-14 16:01:16 -0500 Report

I empathize. I'm pretty new on educating myself with my T2. Of course, it's best to not have dessert at all. For me, it depends on my mood and my bs (which I'm regularly taking now. I can't say no all the time, but I'm getting better. I'm ok with having a few bites and sharing the rest if I have to have it.

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2014-10-14 11:19:30 -0500 Report

I don't think you can plan for dessert. You should excuse yourself and go to the ladies room and test your blood sugar BEFORE you order desert. Depending on your numbers should determine whether or not you can have the dessert. You can also ask if they have something sugar free. If they don't have any sugar free desserts, skip it.

No one can tell you or even suggest what a suggestion for a dessert in a restaurant would be because none of us knows what they are offering. Most of their desserts are very high in carbs. Why not go the the restaurants web site and view the menu and plan your meal? I do it all the time.

I went to dinner with friends and there was nothing on their menu for dessert that wasn't very high in carbs. They did not have anything sugar free. I skipped dessert and sipped a cocktail while they had dessert. I never order anything to split with someone. Most of my friends are not going to eat the other half and I am not going to bring it home to eat later unless it is something I really want.

If you feel you must have something, go for the scoop of ice cream. Odds are it is going to have less carbs than cake or pie. Thankfully, I am to the point where I can eat what I want. Having or not having a dessert is not important to me and I am not going to have it just because everyone else is having dessert.

Type1Lou 2014-10-14 08:20:53 -0500 Report

I went to a Medicare seminar yesterday at Applebees and they offered each one of us one of their "shooter" desserts (smaller versions). My husband got their hot fudge sundae and I ordered their chocolate mousse. After taking a few (3) spoonfuls of the mousse, I passed it over to my husband who was happy to polish it off. (He doesn't have diabetes). That way, I was able to indulge without overindulging. If you are going to a chain restaurant, check out their menu's nutritional values on line as that might help you narrow down the choices to those lower in carbs. (Some of the restaurant desserts alone exceed my daily carb allowance.) Plain cheesecake is to be preferred over frosted layer cake, as a rule and if you don't eat the crust, it's even lower carb. Eating just the pumpkin pie filling and leaving the crust is another option. Some places even have sugar-free desserts although that can often be misleading since they are not always lower carb as Gabby noted. Congratulations Heidi on taking control!

GabbyPA 2014-10-14 05:21:05 -0500 Report

My hubby and I go out a lot but we rarely order dessert. He's always too full and I am not wanting to go down that scary road. However, on the rare occasion he's not stuffed, we have a place we go to get a slice of key lime pie. We share the single slice and it's not a mammoth slice like some places do. So if I have been really good at dinner with protein and veggies (not a salad, because I add dressing to that) a half slice of pie is not going to break me.

Some places even offer sugar free versions of deserts. Perkins has a sugar free berry pie. It's still loaded with carbs though, so don't let the "sugar free" label fool you.

Maybe ordering one of the large ones to share with the whole gang? That way, you get a spoonful of two and you are good. You participated in the festivities and did good for yourself as well.

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