Type 1 and sick

By Kait.reeves0213 Latest Reply 2014-09-15 22:52:42 -0500
Started 2014-09-15 06:38:04 -0500

Okay first let me say I am not a diabetic but my best friend was diagnosed a year ago. There are high and low extremes and drastic mood swings. As her roommate and best friend, how do I help with this? We've already been to the icu once this month and she's getting extremely sick again. Can anyone give me advice on how to help her get this under control?!!

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jayabee52 2014-09-15 16:24:13 -0500 Report

Howdy Kalt
I hate to say it but there's not a whole lot you really can do.

Iron's suggestion is about the best you can do as a friend. Especially if she wants to continue her former lifestyle, there's nothing which can be done.

You can try to reason with her and get her to see what she is chancing by contimuing on her current course. She is chancing her health, and possibly the chance to have a child of her own.

For me, I messed up my life and was in denial for some time in my life and I eventually ended up with burning neuropathy, where every step i take burns like walking on fire. My kidneys are also trashed and I must go to dialysis 3 days a week for 4 hrs per session, till I get a transplant, otherwise for the rest of my life. That takes quite a bit of time out of my week to do that, but it is necessary unless I want to vomit soon after I eat, and have zero energy. No fun at all!

I don't know your friend and how a "scared straight" approach might work, but it may be worth a try. Eventually if she refuses to see the importance of good self care, you might have to tell her you're walking away because you don't want to see her crash and burn. .

My wife said something like that to me when I was in denial, (threatened divorce, actually) and that got my attention and I started caring for myself better.

I am praying for you and your friend that she sees the light and starts taking better care of herself


IronOre 2014-09-15 13:37:24 -0500 Report

yea the mood swing thing happens with the highs and lows . . . and there is a learning curve with diabetes.
I guess my best suggestions is to see what kind of doctor she is seeing ~ in my opinion I have done the best with an endocrinologist associated with a good diabetes clinic.
And then hopefully the clinic with have her speak with a diabetes educator; for me it was the best thing ever and she made diabetes so much easier to manage.
btw, I have been T1 for 39 years

Kait.reeves0213 2014-09-15 13:58:06 -0500 Report

Yeah she has some pretty amazing doctors but you have to take care of yourself also the drs and meds can't do it all for you. She's only 21 and has been diagnosed for about a year now but she wants to continue her lifestyle that she was living before she found out she had it. Eating fast food not exercising drinking alcohol forgetting her insulin, and the mood swings are just insane. She's been really sick and just sleeping for three days now.

IronOre 2014-09-15 22:52:42 -0500 Report

I can see why you feel the way you do.
Even tho there is a lot that needs to be addressed it is probably best to work with her in baby-steps, with taking her insulin as a top priority. Maybe when you are around her, just make sure she takes it.

In my opinion it is the extreme negativity about diabetes that the newly diagnosed must bear listening to that may bring them down, and give up without even trying. I have been T! for 39 years, taken OK of myself but far from ideal, and still have no complications what so ever because of it ~ so there is room to play around, but within reason.

There really is nothing that she shouldn't be able to eat, drink, or accomplish (I have two college degrees) in her lifetime; so with some relatively simple rules that need to be followed she will live happily ever after.

Those mood swings that you mention are something that many people who are close to diabetics must bear, and they are so dang hard to live with, and because the diabetic really has little control what is going on (what she is saying or doing)it is even more confusing, so never break up your friendship because of that; as time goes on I think you will understand them more.

I guess one thing that you could learn to do it the finger prick test on her, so when she is sleeping (like she is now) you can see more clearly what is going on.

Like I initially said, just do things in baby-steps and I think eventually the both of you will get there.

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