You might remember the “strong, silent type” of guy from the movies in the 40’s. He’s the self-reliant guy who with the poker face who never let anyone know how he was feeling. Instead, he was all about taking charge. Well, guess what? A lot of guys are still walking around holding in their emotions. And it’s not helping them, nor is it helping the people who care about them.
What about you? Or for you women, what about the guy in your life?
It’s not easy opening up about your emotions when you’re a guy. I know I’m making a generalization here. Lots of guys have no problem talking about feelings. But it seems to me that most guys do. And I’m not just hearing that from the guys themselves. More often I’m hearing it from the women in their lives – their wives or partners, their children, their parents.
Human beings have emotions. Swallowing them or pretending they aren’t there doesn’t make them go away. And when men won’t talk about emotions, they miss out on the opportunity to connect with their loved ones, to be supportive, and to get support.
What I tell the men I speak with is that holding in their feelings isn’t helpful. It can affect you physically. It can lead to stress. And it can place a wedge between you and the people around them.
Here’s a link to an article I wrote about helping men to open up about their feelings:
So guys, what keeps you from opening up about how you feel? And opening up isn’t hard for you, how did you get to that point?
And ladies, do you have a guy in your life who keeps his emotions to himself? What’s that like for you? Anything you have tried to help him open up more?
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