VERY Frustrated - Your advice/input please?

blondie0824
By blondie0824 Latest Reply 2009-08-13 22:34:24 -0500
Started 2009-05-05 17:50:08 -0500

I am a 29 year old female. Two years ago I had foot surgery and gained 10lbs. in the aftermath. Since then, I have tried everything I can think of to get this darn 10lbs. off. I'm 5'7" and weigh 146lbs. I wear a size 8 jean. So I understand that I don't have a lot to lose and that it's most difficult when you have only 10 - 20lbs. to lose. That being said, here's what I've tried; For 6 months, I did the acid-alkaline diet. I ate mostly raw fruits and veggies. No meat, dairy or processed food of any kind. I was also working out 6 days/week - treadmill, bike and weight routines. I didn't lose any weight. The last 6 months I've been counting every single calorie that enters my mouth. I eat 1,300 - 1,400 calories per day and I've upped my workouts by running and doing Jillian Michaels workout videos 5 - 6 days a week. I still haven't lost a pound. I have arthritis in my hips and knees and desperately want to get this extra weight off. Today I'm starting Weight Watchers as a last ditch effort. If this doesn't work, I don't know what will. It is so terribly hard on my self esteem and motivation to be trying so hard and having no success. I also started using Symlin, which has reduced my daily insulin usage from 27 units to 21 units and still no results. Short of just not taking my insulin or eating, I don't know what else to do. I am so tired of seeing friends and family who go on Weight Watchers or count calories for a month or 2 and are now super thin and healthy. I work 10 times harder than they do and I get nowhere! Sorry, I just needed to get this off my chest and I know that many of you understand this frustration. PLEASE, any advice you may have on what I can do to lose this weight would be VERY appreciated. Thanks!


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Pat Roth
Pat Roth 2009-08-13 22:34:24 -0500 Report

You know, blondie!! I had always wondered IF I could attack this weight problem of MINE with the same gusto that you have, just count every single little bite, get MEAN about it, I f I would be better off, but, sadly, it sounds like if one tries TOO HARD, it only makes matter worse. I agree with Lynda, relax and have fun, and let it slide offf unexpectedly! Best Wishes! PR

SisterLyn
SisterLyn 2009-08-13 05:49:25 -0500 Report

Listen, stress is a major factor is diabetes. It can raise your sugar levels as well as your weight! I don't care what anyone says. If you keep stressing yourself over the 10 lbs I don't think it will ever come off..

Advice…you need to go easy on yourself. You are only 29 years old. The more you stress the shorter of a life you will lead.

i'd be willing to bet…m'dear..that if you just forget about loosing that extra 10 - 20 lbs and just go about your life in the normal way you usually do, one day you will wake up and notice that ..'hey, you've lost some weight.." do more walking too…that helps also'…but …stop giving yourself so much stress ..the levels of stress you put on your body simply wont allow the natural rhythms to happenin loosing the weight..

So, please…please…stop worrying and BE HAPPY..!!

BE HAPPY…I think that's the key…less stress..more happiness…cut out the butter and margarine…drink more water..use olive oil instead…and stop worrying.. BE HAPPY.

Have you ever met.. BEA HAPPY? She's very nice you know? :) xoxo

Love, Lynda

blondie0824
blondie0824 2009-08-13 20:01:03 -0500 Report

Thanks Lynda, I'm working on doing just that. It's just too hard to beat up on myself and stress out about every single calorie that goes in my mouth all the time. It's exhausting!!! Thanks for your thoughts and support :o)

blondie0824
blondie0824 2009-08-09 18:55:57 -0500 Report

Thanks again :o) I'm starting to get better sleep, so I'm hoping that will help. After 2 weeks off the wagon, I'm finally clawing my way back on and keeping my fingers crossed!

Pat Roth
Pat Roth 2009-08-09 20:25:12 -0500 Report

Amen!! You CAN do it!! I think that the time off, relaxing and resting will help you immensley!! Good Luck and God Bless YOU!! PR

luis buentello
luis buentello 2009-08-04 20:40:33 -0500 Report

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Angelique
Angelique 2009-07-31 05:21:48 -0500 Report

Try to "kick start" your metabolism when you plateau in your weight loss. Only eat greens & protein for 3 days straight as much as you can but having diabetes does restrict this part. This means NO sauce, NO salt, NO dressing, NO dairy, NO juice, etc. JUST anything green & cooked protein. Drink hot lemon water before you eat at least twice & of course DRINK YOUR WATER. This is NOT for a continuous diet, This is JUST to jump your metabolism WHEN your are dieting & loosing weight. Some people who have a lot to loose have to do this 6-7 times after every 10-25 lbs. they loose to get it started again. Four of us in my family lost 200 lbs. all together in 3 months using this Kick Start method.

Pat Roth
Pat Roth 2009-07-31 08:25:35 -0500 Report

wow!! I gained back 2 # last week, so better jump start"!! Thanks!PR

blondie0824
blondie0824 2009-08-03 19:36:04 -0500 Report

Thanks again for the advice… Over the last week and a half I have fallen off the wagon… HARD… My eating problems have snuck back up on me and I have completely neglected both my diet for diabetes and for weight loss. I am now struggling to find my way back to my workouts and eating right. It's a terribly vicious cycle and I'm anxious to break it again and start feeling good about myself. Sigh. Does anyone know of any good books for compulsive/obsessive eating problems? Maybe I'll post a new topic asking that question. I need to do something to fix this issue instead of just trying to get past it every time it rears its ugly head. Thanks to those of you here who have been so supportive. I love the suggestions and input and it's nice to have new ideas to work with!!!

Take care,
Amber

Pat Roth
Pat Roth 2009-08-03 22:31:08 -0500 Report

If you can make a modest schedule in diet and exercise, it might help you to avoid the extremes of that pendulum swinging——I am finally forming a better pattern—habit—then when it's tricky, ugly head syndrome, rears up, it become easier for the sensible eating to becomes a good habit, every time that you can get over that hump, the next time it is easier to stick to your plan! Good Luck!! PR

blondie0824
blondie0824 2009-08-04 19:54:34 -0500 Report

Thanks Pat :o) I'm definitely struggling to find that happy medium. One thing that I'm doing is trying to get to bed at the same time each night so I can get some decent sleep. I think that helps my mood a TON, which in turn, I'm hoping will help me with the urges to eat. I've also ordered a couple of books which I'm hoping will have some helpful tips. It's nice to know I'm not alone, though I wouldn't wish diabetes or food issues on anyone else… Thanks again for your support!

Pat Roth
Pat Roth 2009-08-04 20:03:09 -0500 Report

You are so Welcome, Blondie!! I have been ridiculed so much in the past I had about given up on finding ANYHONE who would listen and understand!!! We will lick this weight thing together—sooner or later!!! It sure is NOT EASY! I have been struggling for over 40 years to lose, and am finally getting started, but only because, I think , of others caring and helping me to feel that I , too, am not alone!! Best wishes and hope you can sleep tonight too!!! It really does help—-when you can get relaxed enough to let it happen!!! PR

blondie0824
blondie0824 2009-07-19 12:08:01 -0500 Report

Yes, I'm both doing weight and measurements. Neither one has changed much and I've become extremely frustrated. Overall in 6 weeks, I'm down 2.5lbs now (I went up 2 pounds this past week) and I haven't lost anything in my measurements, so I'm beginning to feel like all of this time and effort is a complete waste of my time. I'm very excited that you had lost inches, that's wonderful! I hope you're able to get to whatever your goal may be. I'm not sure how I'm going to proceed. I know I need to keep going, but it is so frustrating to see my boyfriend's mom and sister losing a ton of weight and inches and they're not nearly as diligent with it and they don't work out half as hard as I do. I'm just so sick of having to try twice as hard to get even 1/4 the results that the average person does. Sorry, I'm in a bad way today… Tomorrow will be better I hope. Thanks to you all for your kind words and support. You really keep me going. :o)

Pat Roth
Pat Roth 2009-07-19 13:34:59 -0500 Report

Oh, Bless your heart, how discouraging for you as you are doing ALL of the things recommended in our Tops group, BUT you are so much more diligent, I don't understand it either!

But don't give up! In Tops we reach what we call plateaus, so maybe that is where you are right now! One day more weight may just fall off, and you will be so pleasantly shocked! How, Why?? Who knows, our bodies are so tricky and independent!! Best of LUCK and hang in there!! PR

blondie0824
blondie0824 2009-07-20 10:49:59 -0500 Report

Thanks for the words of encouragement Pat, I really appreciated it. I'm still hammering away at it. I'm going to keep up the workouts and stay on Points for at least another month. I'm just praying to lose some of this weight! Take care :o)
Amber

Vicrgreen
Vicrgreen 2009-07-18 00:41:42 -0500 Report

You have weighted but have you measured? Your regime should have added muscle and muscle is heavier than fat.

My doctor sent me to a "Lifestyle" place (The Black Hills Health and Education Center) and they wouldn't let any of us near a scale for 3 weeks. When we did weigh we were also measured. I'd lost a lot of inches, all over, in my arms and legs as well as hips, waist, etc. I had lost very few pounds. And the reason was as I stated above. I had exchanged fat for muscle.

blondie0824
blondie0824 2009-07-11 20:07:27 -0500 Report

Hello everyone,

I finally seem to be moving in the right direction - I'm down 1.4lbs. this week! I've been working out 5 days a week and eating my 20 points per day plus my 35 weekly points. I think maybe I wasn't eating enough and my body was in starvation mode before. I'm surprised but because I really only eat whole foods, I find myself being full even when it's time for my next meal, which is a pleasant surprise. I thought I'd be hungry all the time. I've got 8.8lbs. to go and I know that now is when it's going to get really difficult. The last few pounds always are. But, I'm going to try to stay focused, hopeful and positive, even if it doesn't come off as quickly as I'd like or it plateau's along the way.

A big THANK YOU to all of you who have been supporting me along this long, arduous journey. Please let me know how you're doing :o) I'm going to keep posting here each week with an update to keep myself accountable and stay in touch with you all…

Take care!
Amber

Pat Roth
Pat Roth 2009-07-11 20:21:44 -0500 Report

Oh, you bet!! losing weight, let alone the added chore of the diabetis, leaves us all whimpering like babies, at times—well, at least me, if I get overly tired of trying!! I try to act like I don't really care—OK, be that way! (my body) then try to sneak up on it indirectly by actually enjoying myself with a different diet plan (LOOSE THE WORD DIET, too) eating sensibly! And enjoying exercising with FRIENDS< SUre helped me anyway! Lots of sweet feeliings!!! PR

blondie0824
blondie0824 2009-07-11 20:07:21 -0500 Report

Hello everyone,

I finally seem to be moving in the right direction - I'm down 1.4lbs. this week! I've been working out 5 days a week and eating my 20 points per day plus my 35 weekly points. I think maybe I wasn't eating enough and my body was in starvation mode before. I'm surprised but because I really only eat whole foods, I find myself being full even when it's time for my next meal, which is a pleasant surprise. I thought I'd be hungry all the time. I've got 8.8lbs. to go and I know that now is when it's going to get really difficult. The last few pounds always are. But, I'm going to try to stay focused, hopeful and positive, even if it doesn't come off as quickly as I'd like or it plateau's along the way.

A big THANK YOU to all of you who have been supporting me along this long, arduous journey. Please let me know how you're doing :o) I'm going to keep posting here each week with an update to keep myself accountable and stay in touch with you all…

Take care!
Amber

blondie0824
blondie0824 2009-07-06 14:09:54 -0500 Report

Thank you SO MUCH everyone for your support, kind words and advice. I have disconnected from my CGMS for the forseeable future. I plan to make dinner for the boyfriend and I (a rare occasion as of late), do a light workout and hit the sack early tonight. I'm in a better place today mentally, and I have to attribute that to a fantastic boyfriend who is amazing and to you here on this site who have really helped me stay inspired or find the inspiration when I am lost. I'm going to forge ahead and pray that the scale will budge at WW on Saturday. I think maybe we'll go shoot some hoops or play some tennis tonight instead of killing myself doing Jillian Michaels video and a 45 minute cardio workout. Thanks to you all and congrats to those of you who are winning this crazy weight loss battle!!! I'll keep you updated!

Amber

BeckyJ
BeckyJ 2009-07-06 11:59:48 -0500 Report

Don't get discouraged. When I first started on this journey I was only loosing about 1/2 to 1 lb a week. My body was resatarting it's metabolism. After about 3mo I was starting to see better results. I recently went through another plateau and was getting very frustrated. I started to gain back and my Diet had not changed! I was sooooo mad. Well I continued with my program and am glad to say that over the weekend I started loosing again. Yes even with the holiday. I am back down to 143. YEAH!. Now I just have to maintain. Remember this is a constant battle without the added stress of diabetes. You really need to be in the right emotional state to succeed…and sleep is a HUGE part of it. I may suggest you take a couple days off your heavy workout. Go with a lighter workout and try and get a good nights rest. Best of luck!

Pat Roth
Pat Roth 2009-07-06 13:33:05 -0500 Report

Amen! In Tops we read where if you work too hard, too long, your body thinks it is starving, to alternate your exercising programs, do not do the same-o-every day, surprise your body, it seems like it comes off easier so like Becky said, rest, lighten up your routine, SURPRISE your body—-"What in the world is she up to NOW??!!" ha It also helps you to relax and "let it go"! PR

arenk
arenk 2009-07-06 09:04:02 -0500 Report

I don't know if anybody told you this already, but after about six months, your body homeostasis (balance) readjusts, so that the new weight becomes the normal. To begin to lose weight, you must jumpstart your metabolism again. If your body feels it is starving, it will slow down, as earlier stated.

blondie0824
blondie0824 2009-07-05 18:39:20 -0500 Report

Hello all,

Another frustrating weigh in today. Overall in the last 4 weeks, I've lost only a couple pounds. Now, I know that's a good thing, but still I am so frustrated! I've been counting points as though my life depends on it with little result. I've also been working out like a fiend. Sigh. The lady at WW said maybe I'm not eating enough. I'm not sure how that's possible, since I'm eating a ton and I'm full all the time, but what do I know? Sorry, I'm full of spit an vinegar today. My continuous glucose monitoring system has seen to it that I have gotten little to no sleep every night except 2 in the last 3 weeks and I'm so frustrated that I'm not sure if I want to scream or cry. Plus, the last few days the darned thing hasn't even been accurate! It woke me up 3 times last night and each time I did a finger stick and my sugar was beautiful - 111, 118, etc… While my glucose montior was reading 64, 68, etc… Seriously, I'm beginning to feel like I just threw away $180 on something that's only accurate 1/2 the time. I think I'm going to take it out and be done with it for a while. At least until I can get caught up on some sleep. I'm becoming an over emotional walking zombie! Thanks to all of you for offering your support. I'm definitely struggling not to go on an emotional eating binge, as has always been my pattern in the past. I think maybe I just need to hit the sack super early tonight and give myself a workout free pass… Hope all is well with you all. I also hope to have better news to post at my weigh in this coming Saturday. **Hugs**

Judimar
Judimar 2009-07-05 23:34:05 -0500 Report

Hey Amber!

Get some rest and cut back on the workouts maybe. Y ou could be building muscle like someone suggested earlier. I know you're frustrated but don't give up! Just try eating healthy. We're always here for you!

*hugs*

Judi

lipsie
lipsie 2009-07-06 02:31:48 -0500 Report

Well I still give you lots of credit for putting you butt out there and WORKING IT! But yes…don't overdo yourself either, and I think have HIGH expectations right off…it takes time, its not easy…FRUSTRATING..as you said in the beginning, but one thing I think you can count on is you have friends t help you thru it, that care, and we ARE routing for you. GREAT JOB!!!! *HugS* Sheila

Splender
Splender 2009-07-06 05:34:22 -0500 Report

Hi Blondie,

As Sheila said,you have those of us who understand your problem,we will be here for you. Don't give up,just take a break and see what happens. You really need to get a good nights sleep to really be able to look at your problem and try to find out what it is that is not going right. You can always ask at the WW meeting or online counselor to find out what you can do to start loosing the way you would like to. Don't set your goal too high that it's going to be hard to reach,make a goal that will be somewhat easy to reach and then set another one just as soon as you reach to old one. As with anything you set goals for you set a short term goal with a long term goal in the background.

Sorry if I sound like I'm a know it all,but I've had these problems myself and this is the way I solved some of them. I feel if I can do that and it was fairly easy,then those who want to accomplish something can do it to.

Well Blondie, I have to go for now. Take care and write me if you need to talk to me.

YOUR FRIEND,
Helene

Pat Roth
Pat Roth 2009-07-06 08:55:44 -0500 Report

I am slowly losing too, but I have MORE to lose, but one or two pounds a week is good. I have lost 8 pounds in 2 months, nothing to rave about BUT, I am trying to develop better eating habits, quit this emotional eating as that is what has done me so much harm! Trying too hard can cause all sorts of cranky, deprived, resentful, feelings, that one can't lose faster, be perfect! For myself, I have found that when I get all tensed up into wanting to lose faster, the day I do relax, I can't eat enough! It is like trying to make up for all the days I tried so hard.
I was on Medifast for months, NO food, just the Protein drink, lost 50 pounds, BUT my dad was dying with cancer, I had to care for him and my aging mom, had no access to walking (I could then) started eating at the hospital snack bar, and who-la, I strted gaining it back, and then I got to the point when I gave up and gained it all back. I know, excuses, excuses, BUT when one is emotional and physically exhausted, one resorts to the old, familiar pattern of "I will eat just this bite and it will be OK, but it gradually increases, bite by bite—at least that is how it has been with me. But with your exercise routine, MAN!!!I NEVER got that involved in losing weight, so YOURS just has to gradually peel off!! You are so DETERMINED, I have no doubt that you will get those few pounds off!

And they say that muscles weigh more than fat, BUT also they BURN more calories than fat, so I would say that you are almost THERE! GOOD LUCK!! Pat Roth

Pat Roth
Pat Roth 2009-07-05 13:41:01 -0500 Report

You know, it is interesting that since I am watching my BS closer and trying to eat accordingly, I am gradually losing weight too, with no thought applied! Just doing what my system seems to require! I started eating whether I was mad, sad or glad, 35 years ago, when I found that SWEETS seemed to stroke my feelings, making me feel more loved—thus —from 135 pounds, 5 ft 6 in. to 240 pounds before I knew it, BUT IT STUCK As the eating was so soothing I could NOT force myself to quit, or cut back, felt like I was sabotaging myself, emotionally! When I couldn't depend on love and sympathy from people, I "self medicated" with food. I worked at a hospital and folks would like to shoot arrows at me, I felt, guess it was cause I was nice and would not fight back——tried to absorb the pain, DOES NOT WORK, my friends! Vent to SOMEONE< HERE on this site, I am finding, and know that you are NOT ALONE, that seems to be helping me to cut back without much thought!! TO FEEL LOVED AND ACCEPTED, no matter what, our size or our disposition, works wonders, I think! hugs to all—PR

P2putt
P2putt 2009-07-05 13:03:47 -0500 Report

It has been awhile since I checked in on you. How is the weight issue coming? Let us know. Best to you and hang in there. We all have our struggles. Wish you the best.:o) Pete

blondie0824
blondie0824 2009-07-01 19:01:20 -0500 Report

Thanks for sharing your struggles Becky and Christine. Although I wouldn't wish weight or eating problems on anyone, it is nice to know that I'm not in this fight alone. Becky, I think it's great that you've been doing so well on your own! If I didn't already have an infusion site for my pump and another site for my glucose sensor, I would seriously consider using the patch. BUT, the thought of another thing stuck to my body makes me cringe! LOL I'm trying something a bit new with WW this week. I'm eating my daily points and my flex points. What I'm not doing is eating any of the points I've earned for my workouts. My goal is to earn 35 - 40 workout points a week and not eat them. That means I have to do a high intensity workout 60 - 70 minutes a day 5 days a week. I really love the workouts now that they've become routine, so it works out well. I'm struggling right now though b/c I'm trying to start working out right after work so that my blood sugar doesn't drop in the middle of the night. My natural inclination is to workout at 8:00 or so, so it's been difficult. Also, since I gained weight last week, I'm feeling very frustrated and demotivated. I so appreciate you sharing your stories with me, it helps me to know that there are others out there fighting this fight along with me and going through some of the same troubles. Christine, I hope that you're able to find a plan that works for you. WW says that even if you lose 10% of your weight, you should feel immensely better, so start small… Shoot for 5% :o) Please take care and let me know how you're doing as well. I'm going to weigh in Sunday this week because of the 4th, so I'll post and let you know what happens!

Take care,
Amber

christine s
christine s 2009-06-28 22:02:18 -0500 Report

You know what I am a constant eater. I eat what I want when I want but it has taken a toll on my body. I seem to notice when my sugar is high I am exhausted and all I want to do is sleep, but when my sugar is low I am energenic. Not sure why that is. My BMI is over 30 and I am miserable. I weigh 239 a year ago I was at 175 I am 5' only and I am reading that I should be on the average of 115. I just started the low carb diet with low calories and some yoga added. I am still trying to find a good diet for me. Blondie I understand your frustration and I am sorry you are feeling this way. Trying to find a new diet that works for you then that is wonderful. Please let us all know how it is working for you. GOOD LUCK and being here you have lots of resources around you .

christine s
christine s 2009-06-28 22:02:08 -0500 Report

You know what I am a constant eater. I eat what I want when I want but it has taken a toll on my body. I seem to notice when my sugar is high I am exhausted and all I want to do is sleep, but when my sugar is low I am energenic. Not sure why that is. My BMI is over 30 and I am miserable. I weigh 239 a year ago I was at 175 I am 5' only and I am reading that I should be on the average of 115. I just started the low carb diet with low calories and some yoga added. I am still trying to find a good diet for me. Blondie I understand your frustration and I am sorry you are feeling this way. Trying to find a new diet that works for you then that is wonderful. Please let us all know how it is working for you. GOOD LUCK and being here you have lots of resources around you .

BeckyJ
BeckyJ 2009-06-28 20:57:46 -0500 Report

Just saw this discussion and thought I'd drop a line. I've have been a compulsive eater and emotional eater my whole life. It took a serious upper GI infection and diagnosis of GERD and IBS to convince me I needed to change how I ate. My journey started 2 years ago. I am 5'5" and was weighing in at an amazing 243lbs, ugh! I started out slowly with the plate diet, eating of a 6" plate and allowing myself enough time to really digest my food. I found that a lot of times I was eating when I wasn't really hungry. I was also very frustrated because I was unable to exercise. I have hip displasia and back/neck problems so exercise has to be light and low-impact. I started Tai-Chi and at first was a little embarassed because I had to take the course for the elderly. I was the only one under 50 there!I found a support group through church that helps me with the emotional reasons for why I overeat and see a counselor for my other emotional/psychological struggles. Fast forward to today, I am still a little overweight at 173 but by God I can sure move better. I am on a fairly restrictive diet because of my stomach but not really carb/calorie controlled. I just stay away from fatty foods that iritate and also have to stay away from whole grains and pasta. I get lots of fruits, vegetable and I LIVE on chicken and turkey, with the occasional fish. I'm not big on seafood so that helps. Also I watch my sodium very closely. My Mom is in end stage liver failure so it's a strict 2000mg sodium diet in our house. Since I started watching the salt and have kept myself hydrated alot of my weight just poured off, was mostly water weight. I also changed birth-control to the patch when I found that was a huge part of my weight gain. Still working on it but I'm still loosing about 1lb a week. Slow and steady. A lot of my medications cause weight gain so the fact that I am still loosing a little bit is a huge accomplishment. Please remember that the weight did not come on quickly, it will not come off quickly either. Better to do it the healthy way…I think WW is a great option for you..than to try and starve it off. Also remember that Diabetes will make it harder to loose weight as it changes your metabolism in tricky ways. Best of Luck to you…it's sounds like you're doing a great job so far. If you have any questions or need advise I am always happy to share what's worked for me.

blondie0824
blondie0824 2009-06-26 14:32:48 -0500 Report

Thanks dj and congrats on your weight loss - that's amazing! I'm anxious to weigh in tomorrow. I'm driving to PA to see a friend, but I found a WW center very close to her house so I'm going to stop and get myself weighed. I made a promise to myself to stay on track and I'm going to make sure I do just that. I'll give you and update soon!

Pat Roth
Pat Roth 2009-06-28 16:28:54 -0500 Report

My Dear, with your DETERMINATION, I have no doubt that you will succeed in your weight loss. If I tried just HALF of your own efforts, no one would recognize me!hugs, Pat roth

blondie0824
blondie0824 2009-06-21 19:23:51 -0500 Report

Hello, me again. OK so I'm into my third week on WW. The first week I lost 3.2lbs. and last week I only lost 0.2lbs. So I remain cautiously optimistic that this will be the tool that will finally help me lose some weight. I'm eating 95% from the filling foods list. Mainly only whole foods with a little fish and chicken. I've really kicked the workouts into high gear - at least an hour 5-6 days a week with 1/2 an hour doing my Jillian Michael's DVD and another 1/2 hour to 45 minutes doing cardio on the treadmill or bike. I'm hoping that even if the pounds don't drop that the inches will. Again, thanks for your support and I'm open to any new ideas for sticking to a healthy diet while going low carb. :o)

dj7110
dj7110 2009-06-23 02:40:14 -0500 Report

good news it's going in the right direction. unfortuanatly it always takes twice as long at least to loose than put on. Ive shed 75 lbs myself so far since i was diagnosed yrs ago. have gained once in awhile but generally kept taking off. even got a complement on my weight loss today from someone i haven't seen in a couple yrs. so guess it shows. I did loose a bit though last week, but was sick and not the way i wanted to loose.. keep up the good work. congrats

blondie0824
blondie0824 2009-06-14 18:23:12 -0500 Report

Thanks for your support! I can't wait until my weigh in next week. I'm just praying that I continue to go in the right direction :o)

blondie0824
blondie0824 2009-06-12 13:33:50 -0500 Report

Thank you all for your words of inspiration. Tomorrow is my first weigh-in at Weight Watchers and I'm feeling optimistic. Since starting WW, I've dropped my daily insulin usage from about 28 units to 20! I've been sticking to my points, working out like a feind and staying true to eatin 90% whole foods. I can't tell you how many strawberries, grapes, blueberries and pea pods I've eaten this week! But I think that this plan might really work for me. I've also been trying to eat the lower carb fruits and staying away from starchy veggies. I get one whole wheat min bagel with breakfast and that's my "bread treat" for the day. It's been a challenge, but a necessary one. I think maybe my biggest hurdle was cutting out the fat! Ultimately, thus far I've been happy with the plan. I'm not hungry, I'm still in control of what I eat and I have something to hold myself accountable to. Good stuff!

Following points has also helped to quell the obsession with eating. Every time I start to feel that "need" to binge, I simply talk myself through it and remind myself that if I binge and this diet doesn't work, I will have no one to blame but myself. I'm going to try some of the ball ideas. I've done squats using the ball against the wall and that is great for both core and legs. I'll have to look into the smaller balls with the instructions. Thanks again everyone, and keep the good stuff coming!

dj7110
dj7110 2009-06-12 10:48:32 -0500 Report

just want to add that about the best snack food to eat when trying to loose weight is celery. It produces a negative calorie amount. Takes more calories in eating it than you get from it. So great snack food to eat when you have high hunger cravings. David

blondie0824
blondie0824 2009-06-12 13:28:59 -0500 Report

That's a great tip, thanks! Sadly, I'll have to wait until the braces come off (yes, I'm almost 30 and strapped into braces) until I can eat celery. The ortho said it's a no-no unless it's cooked. But soon enough!

Pat Roth
Pat Roth 2009-06-28 16:26:02 -0500 Report

I agree—-that celery seems to fit my evening craving of wanting , no, NEEDING to chew on SOMETHING! I put a dab of Peanut butter in it too, and it seemed to satisfy that CRAVING at bedtime! Pat Roth

grandma4
grandma4 2009-06-11 18:10:23 -0500 Report

i have been lossing weight. i have been cutting everthing i eat in half. i do not eat anything white. and try for 2 times the fiber. and because i have so many health problems most joint pain the big A the doctors cant find something for me to do so i got one of those balls and i do sit up and leg lifts and it helped me a lot.. i do it will i watch TV i also cut out almost all cokes and drink water i drink coffee in the morring to help me go. and i put lemon in the water to help take the water out of my cells.. all i know is what i am doing is working.. i lost 40lbs. i also sit on the ball when i am at the computer..

lipsie
lipsie 2009-06-12 06:33:28 -0500 Report

You sound like you are doing awesome!!! I am impressed! Great job! I need to start doing the same kind of things too. Hmmm but quitting smoking is my first challenge…and I will work hard of that alone first…and hope to apply other great habits in with it at the same time. Thanks for the inspiration, cuz that's what it is to me! *Smiles* Sheila

michaeldbarnett
michaeldbarnett 2009-06-09 19:23:06 -0500 Report

I now have diet control of my diabetes.
Use to wiegh 220 now 180.
Did following instead eating from 8" plates
now use 6" plates. I also make myself eat
one serving, no more seconds.
Made myself not eat like a truck driver.
Still losing weight and happy with new me.
h

RaleTrail
RaleTrail 2009-06-06 14:34:46 -0500 Report

I have another suggestion. Everyday I eat…Breakfast 1/2 cup of oatmeal (cooked a cup). Oh, I also put a tbs. of crunchy peanut butter in the oatmeal. Lunch a sandwich with three meat exchanges, plus yogurt, Dinner I usually have a Smart One Dinner, or Lean Cuisine. I try to only eat 300 calories at dinner. At bedtime, I have yogurt, or peanut butter on a slice of bread.

blondie0824
blondie0824 2009-06-06 19:27:58 -0500 Report

Thanks for your input! I just started Weight Watchers and my first goal is to drop 5% of my weight, which translates to 7lbs. I'm going to try to keep my points on the lower carb side, which is very difficult because proteins tend to be higher in fat. I will let you know how it goes and what I find works for me or doesn't work. I love oatmeal and I might try to work that in since it's only 2 points, but we'll see how it goes, since it is higher in carbs. It's very difficult to balance everything - calories, carbs, fats, proteins. As far as working out goes, that I can say I do frequently. I shoot for 5 days a week an hour a day. It's all a lot of work, but I'm hoping to lose my 14lbs. by my birthday - August 24th. OY!

RaleTrail
RaleTrail 2009-06-06 14:15:41 -0500 Report

I am 5'8" and weigh about the same as you. I am thin, and although I would like to lose a few pounds, it is not a priority. Rather than change your diet…try going to a gym a few times a week. When I was on a diet years ago, I think I ate 1200 calories a day. Also, less carbs, and more protein.

blondie0824
blondie0824 2009-06-05 15:31:33 -0500 Report

Thanks all. I just joined Weight Watchers. I figure I'll go for a month and see if they have anything valuable to teach me… I've got to get this in check. I'd love to lose 8 - 10 lbs. by my birthday in late August. We'll see how it goes.

Fmlbndit
Fmlbndit 2009-06-06 13:26:24 -0500 Report

Blondie I want to extend my deepest apologizes to you for your recent weight gain but for some reason I believe you are not as bad as I am. I am a type 2 diabetic and I love to eat all the time. 24/7 that being said 9 years ago I had 4 strokes and gained more than a 100 plus pounds going from 115 to 236 now. I find it very hard to do the exercises now with what all I have wrong with me. My own mother told me I needed to go have Gastric Bypass Surgery.

blondie0824
blondie0824 2009-06-06 19:25:33 -0500 Report

I'm sorry to hear that. I'm sure that you can lose the weight with the support of the amazing people here. Please let me know if there is any advice, input or support that I could give to help you. It's a long road, I know, but I have faith that you can get there!

Awedree - 48945
Awedree - 48945 2009-05-30 17:39:52 -0500 Report

I feel for you as I have struggled with my weight forever. You sure are doing all the right things. Have you actually put on the clothes you wore before your surgery? With all that toning and aerobics you have been doing you probably lost fat but ALSO added muscle mass which weighs more than fat but takes up less room. I am sure you will get there. Just don't do what a HS buddy of mine did when she took extra insulin to burn off the weight. She died in her 20's after one too many times of that mistake

blondie0824
blondie0824 2009-05-31 11:03:10 -0500 Report

Thanks Awedree :o) I never mess with my insulin to lose weight, that's for sure, so no worries there. I've actually found some books through the library that I'm hoping will help me to find a way to at least stop this obsessive eating issue, if not to also lose some weight. I'll let you all know if I find any that I think are particularly enlightnening! Thanks for your concern and input :o)

blondie0824
blondie0824 2009-05-28 19:24:12 -0500 Report

Thanks all for your support. Although I wouldn't wish this obession with food on anyone, it is nice to know that I'm not crazy and I'm not alone. It seems so insane to me that while part of me totally recognizes that what I'm doing is wrong and self-sabotage, I seem unable to stop myself. I've ordered some books from the library by Geneen Roth, who is supposed to be an expert in this sort of thing. I'm desperately hopeful that she can help me gain some insight on what is going on with me and how to deal with it. Right now I'm feeling fat and defeated. I've got to find a way back to being able to stick to my food plan and nothing else. I think the number one problem is that I've started eating processed foods again. This means that there are tasty packaged treats ripe for the picking in my cabinet. I think that once I get through what I've bought, because it is all healthy stuff, I'm going to have to go back to a whole foods diet. I think that's the only way I can keep myself from binge eating at night. Anyone who has insight on how they beat their food obsessions, your input would be most appreciated. I also need to get back to the point where I can just stop eating when I'm full. And for that matter, eating more slowly so that I KNOW when I'm full before I've way over done it. I was so disciplined for a while. I just hope that I can get back to that point. Even if I don't lose any weight, I'll feel a lot better about myself if I can just conquer this food problem. Thanks again for your support all. I can't tell you how glad I am to have found you!

Judimar
Judimar 2009-05-28 21:51:37 -0500 Report

It sounds like you have accepted and faced that you have a problem… that is half the battle. The next step is to try and find a counselor who you feel comfortable with so you can figure out what is causing you to compulsively eat. Blondie, there is nothing wrong with going to counseling. I know that for some people they think others will label them as "crazy" or that something is wrong with them. I was hesitant to go to counseling at one point in my life, but now I am glad I did! All of us need an unbiased third party to talk things through at certain times in our life. Friends are great for venting but because they love us or so close to us, it is hard for them to step back and help you find the answers that are there inside of you. A good counselor doesn't judge you or tell you what to do or how you should feel. Instead they will listen and ask you questions to help guide you to finding the answers you need.

I am not sure if this is something you had given any thought to, but please consider it. You are precious to so many people… to me and the rest of the people here at DC, to your family and friends. And remember, don't beat yourself up for your shortcomings. We are all human and we all have them. They are part of what make us special and unique.

*hugs*

Judi

blondie0824
blondie0824 2009-05-29 16:44:16 -0500 Report

Thanks Judi. Yes, I actually am a big believer in counseling. It's the one thing that got me through a very difficult point in my life and I'm grateful to have had the option then. Unfortunately, my new insurance doesn't cover counseling, so that isn't an option for me right now. I actually had a counselor that I really connected with, but it was $135 a session! When my insurance covered it 90/10, it wasn't a problem, but once they switched us, it became way too expensive. Sigh. But, I'm hoping that they'll modify our plan to include counseling next year. Doubtful, but I'm remaining hopeful! Thanks for your kind words.

Judimar
Judimar 2009-05-29 23:41:30 -0500 Report

You're welcome hon :)

I so understand where you're coming from on the insurance thing. My husband and I had to switch insurances and it's been pretty rough. I'm pulling for you :)

*hugs*

blondie0824
blondie0824 2009-05-30 17:16:04 -0500 Report

Thanks :o) It's definitely a struggle, trying to stay healthy when it comes down to the money aspect. But having found you all here definitely makes this whole thing easier!!!

Pat Roth
Pat Roth 2009-06-28 16:15:04 -0500 Report

I am almost embarrassed to share that I am77 yrs and have Medicare, which pays for most of my expenses. BUT, I have been in counseling over 45 years so it wasn't always that way! NO INSURANCE at all, and had 4 young children and a husband that worked hard for a farmer, BUT no insurance or other benefits.

I finally got so I could work as a nurse-aide, and went up from there. It was rough, meds were high even then accordingly. I was on Mellaril and Elavil, and still was deeply drpressed. BUT in helping others, it seemed to give me the emotional boost I so desparately needed! I had a strict food budget, NO weight gain in our family at THAT time—-no pop, no fast foods, but lots of POTATOES, casseroles etc. beans—thank heavens that I wasn't diabetic THEN, just border-line! It seems to help if you can do a little something to apply to the expenses! I am just now getting down to the CORE of my own problems—-too numerous to mention, a 2 ft. colon resection because of too many spells of divertivulitis, (for one result of NERVES-CONSTIPATION—-.) BEST OF LUCK, and may you find your own solutions!! Pat Roth

Momto3
Momto3 2009-06-02 08:04:29 -0500 Report

Hi blondie! You stated that there are "tasty packaged treats" in your cabinet that you have to go through before you go back on a whole foods diet again. No you don't!!! If you think these processed foods are a problem, no matter how "healthy" you think they are, you DO NOT HAVE TO EAT THEM! Maybe throw them out, give them to a local food pantry if they are unopened, or if you positively cannot do either and feel you must consume them, take a bite or 2 then immediately throw them in the garbage…or the litter box, or the toilet…or spray it with Lysol - anyhting to make it less appealing. I know you don't want to waste food, but your health and mental well-being are much more important! Good luck!!

P2putt
P2putt 2009-05-27 10:01:57 -0500 Report

I can really empathize with you. I'm at a plateau myself. Reading what others have suggested is quite helpful. I stongly recommend that you reduce your carbs.the luttuce rap is a great idea. Reminds me of the Atkin days. You date your weight gain with leg surgery? Is it posible that this is an association in time but not a causative factor. Give it some thought.I agree with all the suggestions that were given and find it difficuly to provide anything new.Know that you are not alone. Many of us are struggling with the same or similar obsticles. Stay on track and Good luck Pete

blondie0824
blondie0824 2009-05-28 19:26:00 -0500 Report

Hi Pete, thanks for your insight. The weight gain was definitely associated with the foot surgery. I was pretty much off my feet and wearing running pants for a month. When I went back to work clothes, they no longer fit. Sadly, I think because I was immobile and not wearing clothes that really fit, I didn't even realize I was putting on weight until it was too late. Thanks very much for your support and letting me know I'm not alone. It really does help!

Pat Roth
Pat Roth 2009-06-28 16:05:02 -0500 Report

Knee surgery? Were you an athlete? I am 77 yrs and have now had both knees replaced in the past 3 years. How young to start down that path! Hope it lasts a LONG TIME! I am onery, but, just have your husband cook for you that month that you recuperate, and that would help ME Lose! ha PR

blondie0824
blondie0824 2009-05-23 14:06:27 -0500 Report

This week has been rough. I admit it, part of my challenge is that I am a closet compulsive eater. It's strange how it seems to come and go. For the last 8 months or so, I haven't had the compulsion to eat, but lately it's come back. Now granted, I'm still eating healthy stuff, but that doesn't mean that I'm not eating waaay too many carbs and calories when I can't get a handle on my compulsion to eat. I'm stuffed, but I still eat. It's like I need to feel that fullness. It's so strange and I don't understand it at all. It frustrates me and makes me feel even worse about myself and I don't know what to do about it. I saw a counselor once upon a time who told me to just stay busy and do things to keep my mind off of it. But it's a compulsion. No matter what else I'm doing, the back of my mind is continually telling me that I need to have whatever the food is that I'm focused on. Does anyone else experience this? I feel like it's sabotaging my weight loss efforts.

Sarguillo
Sarguillo 2009-05-26 15:16:37 -0500 Report

Been there. Used to think that I had to get my moneys worth at a buffet so I would skip eating early meals and pig out, then not eat dinner. Not the correct way to eat for me. I also notice that if it was somthing I liked, I could eat and eat and eat, even when I was full, and continue to eat. Have you ever been to a crab feed? All the pasta, Garlic bread you want then they bring out the crab. All the crab you can eat. Have you ever sat down and ate crab for 3 hours straight? I have. Was way full at the end of hour 1, but you have to get your moneys worth since you paid $35.00 for that ticket so you eat for another 2 hours. I always ate more than $35.00 worth of crab. Now I know batter. I know that I can go to one of those and eat just the right amount. No bread. No pasta, only one glass of wine, Savor the crab I do eat. DOnt allow others to force you to eat more. Get up from the table when I am finished. ITs hard, I want to sit back down and chow down on more food. Its a journey. Its hard. You and I will be tempted and tried. We will win some, loose some. Learn some. And eat some.
Good luck with your journey.

blondie0824
blondie0824 2009-05-28 19:28:46 -0500 Report

I'll say it again… Thank you for your insight - it's nice to know that others understand! You're right, knowing when to say "when" is half the battle and is certainly something I struggle with. In my family, I grew up racing my dad to be the first one done with my meal and I've never been able to quite kick the speed eating habit. Of course, that means I'm stuffed long before I even know it and believe me, I can pack it in with the best of them when the food is tasty and available! I'm really trying to condition myself to put half of my meal in a to-go container when I eat out. Or at least to eat more slowly and ask the waiter to take my plate away when I'm full so I can't continue to eat. I guess this will always be a battle, but I hope that I can win the war. Thanks again for your support :o)

Judimar
Judimar 2009-05-28 21:38:02 -0500 Report

One thing my husband taught me is that it takes 20 minutes for your brain to realize your full. That's why it seems if you eat slower you feel full faster. He can't remember where he learned this fact, but I find it's pretty accurate.

Pat Roth
Pat Roth 2009-06-28 16:00:10 -0500 Report

Eating SLOW! Well, I do, simply because I have GURD etc, and if I eat too much , too fast, it starts backing up, and that HURTS! But I still WANT more!!I am 5'3"and am finally down to 214#, which is way too much, BUT a new beginning. You still have to watch what you put into your mouth, and I HATE that! I feel rebellious, resentful, "I will eat whatever I like, and when I like it, thank you!!"

But I am trying to adopt a new attitude, "I will eat so much, then stop, because I CHOOSE TO" Somehow that puts me back in the driver's seat! Did I mention that I hate to be told what to do? At 77 years I feel, "where are the perks??" hahah OK, so there are rules here too, if only for our own health!! CHEEZZ, but I sure am glad to hear that I am not ALONE!! I hate to be the only one that has to struggle! when I was young, I was malnourished, a Dr told me so—— What hoppened??!! ha Pat Roth

lipsie
lipsie 2009-05-27 08:12:53 -0500 Report

I feel for you for I face the same problem. Though I am NOT eating all the healthy foods like you are. I have just started checking out different things/ways of eating but its not getting me very far and then the worst is I eat even when I am not hungry or when full, I know it, I disgust in myself for it at the same darn time even yet I still do it…I dunno I wish I knew the answer for both of us. *Hugs* Just wanted you to know you are NOT alone! Love yasssssss Sheila

blondie0824
blondie0824 2009-05-28 19:29:52 -0500 Report

It's awful isn't it? You know you're stuffed but somehow you just can't help yourself. I feel like I should be in Food Addicts Anonymous. The problem is, you can't quit food cold turkey. Best of luck to you. Maybe we can help eachother find a way out of this terrible cycle.

Pat Roth
Pat Roth 2009-07-20 11:24:53 -0500 Report

Ha—To show you how addicted I am to food, I read that "You can't quit eating, cold turkey!" and my mouth started watering, looking for the TURKEY!! ha—Chheeez, Pat!

I am finding if I set out a certain amount, then STOP, DO NOT TAKE that ONE EXTRA BITE, somehow it is easier to NOT eat more. But if I think, "oh, just one more bite won't hurt!" It sure does, then I am off running and telling myself, well, maybe next time I can control it—start over, but with that frame of mind-that is why I have been overweight for 40 years!! USED to be skinny, but was always hungry then, NOT a choice, I think that that is one reason I have so much trouble, I DO NOT WANT TO FEEL HUNGRY AGAIN!! BUT—-am practising a better eating habit so maybe that issue won't pop up so often!! I will be armed with a good habit—AM TRYING TOO!! PR

blondie0824
blondie0824 2009-07-21 12:00:15 -0500 Report

Wow, I'm amazed by how closely your feelings and thoughts mirror mine… And here I thought I was the only one. I'll have to try that trick and see if it helps. Thanks Pat! I hope that you're able to conquer the voice in your head and I hope that I can too. I wish it was more like an alcohol addiction. At least you CAN quit that cold turkey!

Amber

Pat Roth
Pat Roth 2009-07-22 23:19:19 -0500 Report

Thank you, Amber! I really try to not get ticked at those who eat a certain amount, THEN QUIT, Never tempted to take that extra bite. (My husband is one of them —holds to a certain weight, and proud of it, as he should be==BUT—ha It is refreshing to read your post too!!! Your Friend Pat roth

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