Looking back on summer… had any fun lately? If not, it’s about time!

Dr Gary
By Dr GaryCA Latest Reply 2014-09-04 15:49:38 -0500
Started 2014-08-27 21:25:01 -0500

Having fun yet?

I’m sure you’ve been asked that question before, maybe when you’re in the middle of an especially difficult time. It’s usually meant as a joke, but with a message behind it: Life hasn’t been all that easy in awhile. You might even ask yourself the same question when you have hit a rough patch. And the answer is mostly likely pretty clear: no way.

We might also ask ourselves if we’re having fun when we’re coming to the end of the summer, or a vacation, or during the December holidays. You know, those times that are “supposed” to have all kinds of built-in fun.

Having fun adds a lot to your quality of life. When we smile, we produce those positive hormones – endorphins – that help to lower stress. So does having a good laugh. Having fun with people we care about brings us closer. And having fun gives us a break from the pressures of life and helps us maintain our perspective. Having fun reminds us that life is good.

So, one more time: Having fun yet?

If you’re not sure how to answer this question, then let’s start by asking another question: What’s it mean to have fun? Laughing it up with friends or family? Eating/drinking like there’s no tomorrow (and regardless of the consequences)? Running yourself until you drop from exhaustion? Smiles, giggles, guffaws?

Now, another question: How does your chronic condition affect the fun you’re having in life? Have you had to make some adjustments to accommodate the limitations that your chronic has placed on your life, such as your diet or the kinds of activities you can get involved in? Maybe life just seems a whole lot more serious than it did before you were diagnosed. If so, have you decided that your fun days are in the past?

Sure, your chronic condition may mean making some changes in how you have fun. But it doesn’t mean you can’t experience the benefits that having fun can bring to your life.

I recently posted an article about how to bring more fun into your life. Here’s a link:


We all need to let our hair down, as they say, and have a little fun. What do you do to have fun? Need to be persuaded to up the fun quotient in your life? Need some ideas?

38 replies

ReaderReader12 2014-09-02 13:37:19 -0500 Report

I feel like a teenager trapped in my saggy..sweaty…hotter than the sun menopause body. Lol However I have fun every single day. I find something to laugh about and I am happy inside and liking myself. That is huge cause I really didn't like myself much at all. I love to tease my friends about my Denver Broncos (they all pretty much hate the Broncos), I love to beg my partner to watch a few music videos with me. Then I try and slide just one more. Hey I am keeping her hip. I check and see what is going on at the art museum, or other museums that might be free. I am trying to move more and spending time with my partners family is very fun and there is lots of teasing that goes on. I will always choose laughing over crying. I am writing in my journal again and that is really nice. I had put it away for a bunch of years. It is like getting in touch with an old friend. I also love to shop for and send friends and family funny cards for no reason. It makes me laugh thinking of them maybe laughing when they get their mail. I am not letting any condition I have stop me from having fun.

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2014-09-04 15:49:38 -0500 Report

Hey ReaderReader,

Always nice to hear from you! You have a great attitude. We can always find a way to have fun, It starts with having a positive outlook and then being open to the opportunities that come along each day to have a good time, to share joy with others. And yes, we always have a choice to see the positive side.

Thanks for sharing this!


rolly123 2014-08-29 15:14:35 -0500 Report

What part Fl I lived in Clearwater Tampa sun city it is endless summer and hot! I love four season glad I'm in NH again wear raised born in

rolly123 2014-08-29 15:09:45 -0500 Report

I had not fun summer as planned! I let go chronic illness and ate anything exspecially sweets!
I spend four month with my sister everything we were going do out door
We did go ocean for five min she cut her foot on rock after fact I told her wear shoes!!!
We she had ball with me finding every opportunity scarring me and succeeded very well!!it wasn't wasted trip lost 15 pounds !think fun should enjoying time with friends family and be yourself! I'm trying find out who I am person!
I came home had laughs and discovery !
I love NH leaves changing and apple picking and were going in week!! Have not done that in over 20 years!!!!!! Looking forward to that? Laughing and enjoying nature and sitting down with best friend over coffee and talking till next day

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2014-08-29 20:40:30 -0500 Report

Hi rolly,

Sounds like you had some fun this summer, and lost some weight, too. I hope you are taking good care of your diabetes as we move into the fall.

I bet fall in New Hampshire is beautiful!


rolly123 2014-08-30 06:59:43 -0500 Report

Yes it is!! Leaves changing now early was two weeks ago!! Yes I'm taking care diabetes having trouble with sugar cut down

elizag1 2014-08-29 15:08:37 -0500 Report

I did lots of walking to start my days, looking for a job, going to see Mom and, lately house work keeps me busy..no pool this year..they don't have aerobics anymore.

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2014-08-29 20:38:09 -0500 Report

Hey elizag, sounds like you found some great ways to pass the time and to enjoy yourself. Sorry to hear about no water aerobics. I've heard that's a lot of fun.

tabby9146 2014-08-29 08:04:26 -0500 Report

I have not had as much fun this summer as I have previously, but it was okay and had some fun days. It was fun to go to the beach a few times, swim at friend's pools (we used to have an in-ground pool) and go places with friends and their daughers, my daughter's friends .

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2014-08-29 11:50:52 -0500 Report

Hi tabby,

That's great. So often I hear clients talk about fun as if it was all or nothing: Either I am able to do this -- whatever it is -- or I didn't have any fun at all. But usually there are lots of options between doing it all and doing nothing. We just have to accept the limitations that life throws in our direction and look for the possibilities.


Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2014-08-29 07:44:30 -0500 Report

Fun is relative to good health. I have had some fun this summer. I still have a problem swallowing , had an allergic reaction to medication and I still slur words when tired.

Through all of that I have had fun. I missed a family reunion and I missed our cousins Love Fest because I was sick. The officers picked me up and escorted me to a Crab Feast a community had for them. We had a lot of fun. I went to a cousins birthday party and had a blast..

on National Night out the officers in our Neighborhood Services Unit and I went to events in the District. One community had a photo booth. We went in and took goofy photos. We were going to get air brushed tattoos but the line was too long.

Being sick slowed me down some. However, I managed to do small things to have fun. My sister and I vended at festivals and I spent time talking to people and looking at their crafts.

All in all it was a really nice summer. I am now gearing up for Fall.

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2014-08-29 11:48:42 -0500 Report

HI Joyce,

Thanks for checking in and for the update on your swallowing problem. It sounds like you are doing better. I certainly hope so.

I am glad to hear you have been able to have some fun, even if not everything you wanted to do. Having people in your life who were there to do things with you makes life that much more fun, whatever it is you do together.

It's those small moments of enjoyment that to me are what having fun is all about.

I hope you are healing well!


Type1Lou 2014-08-28 11:46:33 -0500 Report

From a retiree perspective living in Florida, my life is an "Endless Summer" (remember that movie?) For me having fun is being with people I'm comfortable with and doing the things I like to do and feeling free to be my zany, irreverent self. At age 65 I'm comfortable in my own skin. I spent 2 glorious weeks in Canada, earlier this month, visiting family (and getting away from the oppressive Florida heat). I long ago gave up(mostly) eating all the things that are bad for me, have re-educated my palate and eat a much healthier diet. I feel better than ever and life is good…in spite of having a hearing evaluation this morning and confirming that I need hearing aids. I'm a "glass half full" person.

rolly123 2014-08-29 15:13:21 -0500 Report

What part Fl I lived in Clearwater Tampa sun city it is endless summer and hot! I love four season glad I'm in NH again wear raised born in

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2014-08-29 11:43:50 -0500 Report

Hey Lou,

Thanks for this. Glass half full is one of the key to happiness. Accepting that life brings change and learning to live with it, instead of fighting it, frees up your energy to focus on what's possible. As you are doing so well. Those two weeks in Canada must have been incredible. I have lived in Florida myself, and those summers can indeed be grueling.

Glad to hear you found out what's going on with your hearing so that you can get it remedied. Take care of yourself!


RebDee 2014-08-28 10:21:38 -0500 Report

As a widow, I don't do all the things that I used to do with my husband, such as major trips and cruises. However, I do have a nice group of lady friends with whom I dine, go to movies, events, and have fun and they also are my support system to "walk me", drive me, take care of me post surgery. I guess you could say that I am lucky and grateful. But I think I could have more fun if there were a man in my life. Anyone know any of the good ones, single, over 70-82 years, handsome, understanding, and for me — Jewish. LOL

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2014-08-29 11:29:43 -0500 Report

Hey RebDee,

What a great post! Sounds like life on life's terms, making the best of things, finding ways to enjoy yourself and feel supported. Even if not the way you would like things to be. That is a very good attitude.

I as you're out in the world with your friends, you never know who you might run into. Life is random that way.


RebDee 2014-08-29 22:51:33 -0500 Report

Thanks for the compliment Dr. Gary. I truly believe in the randomness of life and try to look attractive at all times (one of the reasons I had surgery but not the main one as the main one was Diabetes) so that someday, somewhere, some smart man will say, "That's the woman for me."

GabbyPA 2014-08-28 08:39:58 -0500 Report

It is so funny because my husband I were talking about this in the wee hours of the morning today. I have been overwhelmed with work and I don't want to complain because I had so many years without. He sees my stress and is even doing things on his own to lighten my house responsibilities. We talked about how my parents were able to work full time jobs and still get away almost every weekend camping or on a family road trip. What happened to that?

My garden is weeds, my weekends are work, the house needs a deep clean, the bees are on their own, and the only time I get a way is walking the dog in the mornings.

So we decided (still in the wee hours of the morning) to do more camping, to enjoy the company of friends more often (dirty house and all) and to clear up some old jobs that are sapping our desire to start new ones. We actually have some of the most fun going to Lowe's and coming home to do a house project. Creating something together is always fun....you can tell from my photos of rabbit hutches and bird houses. Cornice boards and packing up the van for a trip. We have not done any that for a long time.

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2014-08-29 11:26:13 -0500 Report

HI Gabby,

I totally understand about the work thing. I think we both work a lot. I have also had some lean years. Not only having work but having work you value and enjoy is one of life's greatest blessings. Having said that, I remind myself that just as I schedule time for work, I also have to schedule time to have some balance, even if only a little bit of balance.

It's the little simple pleasures that are what fun is all about. The trips to Lowe's, the times when you lose yourself in a project and enjoy looking at the results. Along with a weekend trip.

A friend once said to me, "we will someday leave this earth and God will say to us, 'you had all that time. Why didn't you have any fun?'" Coming up with an answer to that question will be interesting.

Have a great weekend!


GabbyPA 2014-08-29 19:48:01 -0500 Report

I do enjoy what I do. I tell people that I get paid to color, what's better than that? LOL. Actually I make other people's dreams come true, and that is fun when a house or an addition gives them that sparkle in their eye. So I do have a great job. Things are picking up and what I used to be able to do alone is becoming a two man job....so we will see.

Yeah, I think if I tallied up my work and play hours, the balance would not be there. I may have to look at it that way.

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2014-08-30 21:35:15 -0500 Report

Now I will think of you when I see those home improvement shows on cable. That is a fantastic service to perform for people, especially people like me who have no decorating sense. I'm happy to hear you are so busy! Excellent!

I think for most of us, work/life balance means more work than play but making sure we squeeze in some downtime on a regular basis.

robertoj 2014-08-27 21:53:46 -0500 Report

Fun comes in bits and pieces. which helps with balance. Next month we go camping. That is heaven for us. That is if we don't have a huge earthquake. Lol.

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2014-08-28 11:32:00 -0500 Report

Hi Roberto, nice to see you. That sounds like a lot of fun. September is a perfect month to be outside. Yes, let's hope for no more earthquakes. Gary

s l k
s l k 2014-08-27 21:38:56 -0500 Report

Hi there! Been away quite a while. Had some eye issues that thankfully were caught early and then had a vitreol hemorrhage. THEN I broke my ankle just got the boot off yesterday!

So no, I'm not having fun yet. BUT, in spite of feeling my age finally, I did get to spend a great amount of time with my college age boys this summer. We laughed talked and I really got acquainted with the young men they are becoming.

So every cloud has that silver lining right?

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2014-08-28 11:30:22 -0500 Report

Hey s l k,

Great to see you! Wow, sounds like you have really been through it lately. Glad to hear you are doing better.

And yes, you found a way to have some fun. Maybe not at your usual activity level, but spending time with people you care about is time well spent.

Thanks for checking in!


kimfing 2014-08-27 21:29:08 -0500 Report

Went to Vegas last weekend to visit family. Kinda nice not to think about our monetary issues for at least a very little while

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2014-08-28 11:24:38 -0500 Report

Hi kimfing, that sounds like fun. Vegas is all about enjoying yourself and not thinking about your problems.

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