Nothing Served That I Could Eat - What do you do?

Pegsy
By Pegsy Latest Reply 2014-09-26 14:27:59 -0500
Started 2014-08-17 15:12:24 -0500

Today my husband and I attended a group luncheon at a friend's home. This was not a potluck. All food served was provided by our hosts. There was not one item served that was diabetic friendly! Shredded BBQ beef swimming in sweet BBQ sauce, Baked beans loaded with sugar, salad already doused in a sugary dressing, potato salad, sweet chicken salad served on crescent rolls, potato chips and three kinds of cake. Again, there was not a single item served that wasn't starchy or doused with added sugar. As a type 2 diabetic I just die inside at events like these. I don't know what to do other than not attend. Would it be horribly rude to bring my own food? Do I consume this food anyway, knowing how it will make me feel and what it will do to my glucose numbers? How do you handle these situations? This time, I ate the food and tested at 243 two hours later. :~(


15 replies

Pegsy
Pegsy 2014-08-21 12:09:00 -0500 Report

Hey folks, thank you all for your reply's to my post. I appreciate all the input. Unfortunately I am unable to reply or like any of the individual responses. I know the tech people are working on it.

TLTanner
TLTanner 2014-08-20 15:39:33 -0500 Report

Being on an insulin pump has it's advantages in that situation, but even still, I use moderation. If it means only have a taste of each item, then that's what I do, trying to stay in control of the carbs. Should I go over my carb count, I can, and have, bolused a little more insulin to cover it. That works for me, but may not be the best solution for everyone else.

If I know the host/hostess and feel comfortable doing so, I do let them know about my dietary restrictions and ask if they could serve something I could eat. I have found out recently that I am lactose intolerant and that has become more of a challenge to me than the diabetes itself.

I do, however, like the idea of bringing protein bars and eating them along the way and will put some in my purse for just such an occasion now. Thanks for the good ideas everyone! I learned something today too! :-)

wraithmb
wraithmb 2014-08-19 08:30:01 -0500 Report

I've actually been invited to a friends place for a BBQ to find almost the exact same thing. Being type 1 and carb counting allowed me to actually eat, but I took my shot about 20-30 minutes early to keep the spike as low as possible. I even had my friend help write down all the carb content when we went through his fridge to read all the labels. He says next time the salad dressings, croutons, BBQ sauces, and the high carb extras are going to be left on the side for everyone to use as they like!

Sometimes education is the best thing. My friend was good enough to help figure out what I needed to do to be able to eat, and in doing do learned a little about how complicated (comparatively) something like a BBQ at someone else's house can be when you're diabetic.

Glucerna
Glucerna 2014-08-19 09:56:35 -0500 Report

You turned a difficult situation into a learning experience from your friend, and gave him new appreciation about diabetes. Good for you! ~Lynn @Glucerna

Graylin Bee
Graylin Bee 2014-08-17 21:15:52 -0500 Report

Good ideas from the other posters.
Your meal sounds like my Tuesday Night with Mom (AKA The Cake Lady) and Family. Since I know the meal will most likely be a carb nightmare, I eat protein before I go. Then can get by with small servings of the safest food. I mean we are talking pizza, marshmallows in every fruit salad, and usually cake. Of course in this instance I can pass marshmallows over to a sister, eat the toppings off of the pizza, etc.
I usually try to have an emergency protein bar or two with me at all times. That why if I am going from one event to another where the food choices might be iffy I can eat on the way. Helped me during the 6 months of three nieces' and one nephew's marriages, eldest sister's 60th birthday bash, The Cake Lady's big birthday (uncertain as to her age since she claims to be younger than her eldest daughter, and also possibly the youngest one as well).
Saved me during the Rose Parade week with Mom and two sisters. The diabetic breakfast to go sack and the box lunch after the parade were both very high carb. I had some cheese and protein bars handy with the breakfast so I could eat a small amount of the high carb yogurt and found some one who wanted an extra box of rice crispies and orange juice. Then for lunch skipped the bread on the sandwich, added a protein bar. Unfortunately I did eat the potato chips…and the chocolate chip cookie…but my BG survived as I nibbled on the cookie during the long bus ride back to the hotel.
A friend of my sister who is a fellow person with Diabetes always brings something safe for her to eat when we attend meal eating events. Every Easter she shows up with a shrimp appetizer to share. I usually bring a diabetic friendly dessert.

Glucerna
Glucerna 2014-08-18 17:59:33 -0500 Report

I really like the way you accept that foods choices will probably not be diabetes-friendly and plan ahead by eating protein before you go and bringing food with you that you know you can eat. These situations are never easy, and I don't think there's one right way to go about them. The best way is probably what feels best to you: talking to the hostess ahead of time, bringing your own food, or skipping the meal. When there aren't any perfect choices, choosing what feels best to you at that time is often the best you can do. ~Lynn @Glucerna

kimfing
kimfing 2014-08-17 21:05:26 -0500 Report

I always bring a bag with food i can eat just in case. I don't believe it's rude to want to keep control of your health. If i know the hosts really well, i ask what they are serving before i leave home

Gabby
GabbyPA 2014-08-17 16:15:02 -0500 Report

You can always offer to bring a veggie tray. Even if they say don't worry about it, you can still show up with one to share with everyone. That way it's not "your" food. Then when you have some barbeque without the bun next to your fresh veggies, it's not such a bad deal. It's rough with that menu for sure. Did they at least offer water or unsweet tea?

The other thing you can do is eat before you go. I know, it kind of kills the mood, but then once you have eaten a balanced meal, maybe leave a little room in the carb count for a small piece of cake or maybe some chicken salad without the crescent.

Pegsy
Pegsy 2014-08-17 18:07:32 -0500 Report

I love the idea of bringing a veggie tray and may do that if the future if circumstances allow. Eating before going wasn't an option in this case as we all arrived immediately following another event where food was not an option. This case was extremely rare but could happen again and I just need to learn how to be prepared in the future.

Type1Lou
Type1Lou 2014-08-17 15:55:44 -0500 Report

Depending upon how good that friend is, you might talk to him/her ahead of time and ask them to set aside a salad for you without dressing and/or a piece of chicken or, if possible, some chicken salad before all the taboo stuff is added. Explain that you need to follow a strict diet for health reasons. If the friend cares about you, they'll be happy to accommodate you. I have a friend who is allergic to everything in the onion family and she is more challenged about eating out than I am as a diabetic. When I invite her to dinner, I will make a special serving for her that includes nothing in the onion family (garlic, leeks, chives, onion powder…do you know how many products have onion powder!) The only time I remember being in the same predicament you were was when I was on vacation in Buenos Aires. Our tour included an in-home dinner at the home of a local family. I ate none of the appetizers and the entree was a sauce with meat over noodles. I picked out and ate the small pieces of meat, leaving all the rest and explained to the hostess that, because of health reasons, I was unable to eat much of the meal…and forget about dessert!

Pegsy
Pegsy 2014-08-17 18:12:07 -0500 Report

Unfortunately our hostess is not a close friend and I would have felt very uncomfortable asking to be accommodated. I almost did ask for some of the salad before I saw the dressing going into it but I just felt it would be rude as I didn't know very well most of the people in attendance. Next time though, if there is a next time, I think I will ask for the salad without the dressing and risk being rude. It would be better than eating all that sugar or going hungry!