By Latest Reply 2009-04-30 22:08:05 -0500
Started 2009-04-22 21:06:14 -0500

I thought this would be a great topic to address, and I tried to title it so people would know it was an adult theme.

Having diabetes interferes with our sex lives, and perhaps we can all give each other moral support, and possibly help each other with tips, and such. For some, this topic is maddening, because diabetes impacts this very private aspect of our lives. I know the people of this site have the tact to address this sensitive subject with the class they have shown in the past!

22 replies

cakeybakes 2009-04-30 22:08:05 -0500 Report

I'm not sure why, but I can't complain for the past 3 months. I was having really bad issues with this and I have been put on a new medication that tends to keep my BS more steady than it was. I think that is what has helped an enormous amount. I also am under the firm belief that the more you have the more you want. Sometimes you just get things started (even if you're not that thrilled with the idea at the moment) and it just takes off. I've also found being the one who starts things has helped with MY libido. My hubby has been a VERY happy man! Not to say how happy I've been! Three months and still going strong!!! Good luck! By the way, we've been married 20 years and I'm still madly in love with him!

Anonymous 2009-04-27 09:00:26 -0500 Report

I went to a GYN last year to try to find a solution for my lack of libido. I was told "Go see a psychiatrist"- no testing, no questions, no empathy. I'm menopausal- diabetic- there is a physical cause for at least some of this. I was so humiliated- I don't think I'll ever go back to a GYN again.
Maybe it'll happen to him someday, and someone will be just as short with his concerns.

2009-04-27 19:45:23 -0500 Report

I saw a GYN ONE time, and he was like that, I didn't go back to that one, and later he was brought up on sex abuse charges to do with his patients, so I guess he got his!!!

CurlyT 2009-04-28 04:34:34 -0500 Report

I am sorry to read of your bad experiences :( I had quite a different experience especially since I have been a patient at this office since I was 15 and they have delivered my children, both were high risk due to my diabetes.

CurlyT 2009-04-26 22:43:35 -0500 Report

I use Mirena and a contraceptive film in order to prevent pregnancy. I have 2 children from a previous marriage and am going to remarry next summer.
I have noticed a problem on occasion, when my BS is up. The film helps on two fronts, not just for the previously mentioned use but as it dissolves it provides lubrication. Other than that, it is unnoticable. You may want to discuss other options with your PCP or OB/GYB.

I hope this helps and is not offensive to anyone. Good luck.

Randy42 2009-04-25 20:54:53 -0500 Report

Hey legs well I don't have a partner now since last summer and haven't had no problem in this department yet but I do worry about it alot. My dad years ago became impediment years ago from the cause of his diabetes. I jest count my blessing that I am still going on.

Bear69 2009-04-24 21:53:00 -0500 Report

Leggs, Im 45 and i couldnt agree more. I have problems but if my wife would 4 play longer and b patient with me, well, wala !! but as it is she dont like sex. And this dont help me either for when she does get in the mood and thats once in a blue moom. Happy SEX life?? Dont know what that means. i have got to the piont where i can get ummmm erect now. Just have trouble keeping it. So i dream alot. wish she cared. but men need sex. well write me

Deng Xio Ping
Deng Xio Ping 2009-04-23 16:26:42 -0500 Report

My type II comes from my service in Viet Nam. It really hit hard. In order to participate in a married sex life first, I had to get my wife to buy into that it was not her!, second, I had to experiment to find the correct and effective ED medicine. Cialis had a product that is taken everyday. Thus you are not trying to guess when you will have sex or not. My wife has to be impromptu not scheduled or planned. Cialis works so far.

Lisa Ann
Lisa Ann 2009-04-23 15:38:08 -0500 Report

I'm 42 and I can't get enough. Time is the main problem here. My husband works 2nd and I work 1st. Plus we have an 8 years old who doesn't like us to be alone together even just sitting on the couch.

freddyg2u 2009-04-25 21:20:44 -0500 Report

The time has come to put the 8 year old to bed early and get down to business. Who's the adults in this house, you or your child.

Lisa Ann
Lisa Ann 2009-04-27 17:17:41 -0500 Report

My husband works 2nd shift and dosen't get home until 11:30 pm and I have to be up at 4:30 am so there is no time during the workweek. Trust me when I find the alone time I take every advantage of it. Anyway our house is really small and our daughters room is attached to ours, so I gotta be real quiet. LOL

freddyg2u 2009-04-25 21:21:26 -0500 Report

The time has come to put the 8 year old to bed early and get down to business. Who's the adults in this house, you or your child.

Frustrated mom
Frustrated mom 2009-04-23 15:29:00 -0500 Report

Legs, I know that when my son was first diagnoised his Dr. told him that in time things might not work right for him in that field. He is young now, but I am sure it could happen one day..i am not even a diabetic and well…It happens to the best of us…Good luck!!!

Sarguillo 2009-04-23 14:20:53 -0500 Report

legs, what are you doing, writing a thread at 2:30 am. You should be asleep. or in bad atleast. LOL. cant speak for the female perpective but from a male. im only 44. Every thing works now. But a few years ago, not under doctors care. Had ED issues. It was harder to get up as it was almost impossible to keep. Under doctors care. with BS under control. that went away. As a European male, Uncut, While not under doctors care, also had a yeast infection. Bet you didnt realize men could get them also? Doctor told me to use Athletes Foot cream for that one. Also, check any other meds anyone is taking. Some meds tend to deplete the drive. Wife is on meds that dropped her drive to below zero. I dont remember what a good healthy sex life is like. I can fantisize, I can hope. I can look to the furture and wish it gets better.

2009-04-22 23:35:37 -0500 Report

Ok, I won't beat it like a dead horse. I just thought the title would be safer, because everyone always mentions the young ones who read the posts. I was just trying to give a warning of subject matter, that's all, I meant no harm.

silver.lily 2009-04-22 23:43:25 -0500 Report

You are a sweetie for trying to help.
- I wish I could assist with this but I have been widowed for over 3 years now. I go to the few singles activities I can arround here to no avail. (one time there were 6 girls and 4 guys and all the guys were over 50… nothing against older guys but I'm only 33 :)
- I really wish the best of luck to everyone on this subject.

ewskis 2009-04-22 23:55:13 -0500 Report

I just need to say I'm diabetic and a pumper. I'm am surviving Prostrate Cancer and 62. Everything is working quite well thank you very much

bigjrm45 2009-04-23 15:24:10 -0500 Report

I'm 49 and it all works fine ,just got tried of giving it away so I am on a short break for now,

lois hutchins
lois hutchins 2009-04-22 22:34:28 -0500 Report

what the heck is that? i'm doig that from memory and that's fading fast, plus no sex pardner.
sorry i couldn't be more helpful
i just wrote a discussion encluding tthis very subject

Bear69 2009-04-25 20:00:46 -0500 Report

I know the feeling !! but sad part is im married. Its hard when u do have a pardner, but wont understand ur needs. I just have my fantasies. And hope.

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