Help! Newly Diagnosed

By Noelani Latest Reply 2010-12-01 06:30:58 -0600
Started 2009-04-16 19:06:31 -0500

Okay, both of my parents and oldest sister were all diagnosed with Type 2 when they were in there early forties. I was diagnosed with T2 a few months ago. I started doing everything right, monitoring my blood, taking meds and even spoke with a dietician. I am more confused than ever. I have now convinced myself if I don't check my blood sugar, then it is okay. I do not think that my diabetes is that bad and that I don't really need to worry about it. My parents do not diet properly, take their meds or monitor their blood sugar. I think that is why I am not taking this diagnoses seriously. Heck I cannot even stick to a regular diet to lose weight, how am I going to learn to eat properly for diabetes? Does anyone else have these same feelings?

17 replies

DJ 2009-04-20 10:57:42 -0500 Report

Hi Noelani,
Welcome to DC!!
Denial,Now that is one thing I think many of us can speak to!!I know I can, and I can also speak to the results of Denial..Frustration,Pain,Confusion,Neuropathy,Heart problems,Eye problems..feeling sick all the time..and it is soooo not worth it, and not neccesary. It is not about going on a diet, it is about your Life and how you choose to live it or Not live it as the case will be if you continue to deny this condition!!
When I was diagnosed my Dr. said to me,"Welcome to Diabetes,and a new way of Life!!" He also told me he would rather have Cancer than Diabetes, because they can cure most forms of cancer now..but not Diabetes(Yet).This condition is a real learning experiance, and just because your relatives had it..doesn't mean you have learned what it can do to you or how you need to deal with it…if I have learned nothing I have learned that all Diabetecs are different, in that what works for some doesn't always work for all, so you need to be Pro-active and find what works for you…but I can tell you that…doing nothing will kill you!! can not just sit back and say "It's not that bad, or I will be Ok, if I continue the way I am going!! won't!!
You will get some amazing advise on this site, and you will get some advise that won't work for you, but you need to weed through it and find what works for you, and what won't. Your Dr. can be your first line of defense, but ultimately it is You who must decide how important your life is to you,and make the changes necessary to live your life to the fullest. Take this Condition Seriously…Do Not let it Take You!!

blazerny 2010-12-01 06:30:58 -0600 Report

Thanks. I have just found out that I may be a T2 and it hasn't really sunk in yet. I haven't changed anything about my life style; but, I know I should. What you have written is totally true. However, at this time I don't feel sick. Tired and achy most of the time, just not down for the count. Yet, after reading this post, I don't want to get sick and will start taking care of myself. Thanks!

Laurajthf 2009-04-20 09:55:10 -0500 Report

I was diagnosed with type 2 and immediately went on metaformin. It made me sick all of time. I do have my diabetes under control. I do not eat anything white and very little sugar. I control my blood sugar with cinamon pills. It is a natural inhibitor on blood sugar. Be very careful of what you eat. Carbs are your biggest enemies. Read labels. Corn syrup is in veggies, and in things you would not imagine. Eat fresh as much as possible. Stay away from all soft drinks. Drink tea. Please take this more seriously. It can cause blindness,cause you several health problems. I felt the same way you did not wanting to believe and ignoring it for awhile until I started having problems with my legs. Read everything you can find on diabetes and do not take anyones word on how to control. Your body will react differently than your families or mine. Get educated more but take care of yourself. Good Luck

P2putt 2009-04-17 18:52:11 -0500 Report

I am a diabetic 4 26 yrs. I was in denial until 3 years ago/ I thought I could eat all the PIZZA ,PASTA HOGGIES, HAMBERGERS, FRENCH FRIES AND DESEARTS I wanted . Never thought it would catch up with me(DENIAL) Well it just about cost me my vision. Please begin what u need to do NOW!!!Try to cut down on food made with white flour, whute rice,white potatoes and,natually,sugar products. Make some great salads,lots of veggies.Add chic peas, black beans cottage(fat free)cheese to your diet.Poltry minus the skin, fish Lean red meat-in moderation- is a good start also. Please take of yourself. Check your b.s. take your meds and get back to any exercise u enjoy. Pete

Sarguillo 2009-04-17 18:31:35 -0500 Report

Hello, been T2 for about 12 years now. for about 10 of those years, I didnt care and didnt take care of myself right. Got back under a doctors care juat at the end of 2008. My A1c was 12.6 at the time, My last A1C was 7.2 Not that great for me as I know I can do better, but alot better compared to the 12.6 which come out to about 240 averaged. I find myself going through phases. I will control my eating and med schedule like mad and really have good numbers then I will go through a phase where I dont take my meds evey night, skip an injection or so. Then when I do test, am surprised to see a high number. Like the bowl of chips I had last night, Yeah, Im going through one of my dont care phases. Know what, Im only hruthing myself. What I do or do not do, does not affect anyone else. It happens. Pull yourself up by your bootstaps. Get back on track. Of course, while I am telling you this, I am also telling myself to do the same. By sharing this with you, it gives me a glimpse of what I have to do. It theriputic I think. Good luck. Dont get down. Live your life, and take care of yourself so you can live a longer more fruitfull life. Bless be.

Noelani 2009-04-17 16:21:10 -0500 Report

I just wanted to say :THANK YOU ALL!!! I have read all of your replys and it is nice to know that many of you have went through the same emotions. You all are very thoughtful and full of great advice. I now have the desire to get back on the wagon, I want to teach my kids how important taking care of myself is, because they are likely to end up with T2 also. Thanks a million!

silver.lily 2009-04-17 13:39:46 -0500 Report

I am also in denial, I know it is there and I make the occasional stab at trying to reduce my carb intake but I keep saying well I am going to have desert today and I will be better tomorrow and then when tomorrow comes up and the temptation arrises I can't deny myself and say well tomorrow I will start. Now that 3 years of tomorrows have gone by I think I need to take things seriously…haha with that said I just finished a Hostess Cupcake.
- When I was first told I was in the pre-diabetic stage I went all out buying expensive foods and eatting healthy. I had never been on a diet before and my life had no structure. I failed before I got started because it was to much to handle all at once.
- The first thing I am going to try now that I have a meter and strips is to start testing 5 or 6 times a day without chaning my diet and then I will see what my numbers are hopefully they aren't too bad but at least it gives me a small jumping off point.
- from there just taking note of the readings I will start slowly adjusting my diet hopefully it won't take to long to figure out what foods affect me the most and which foods seem to be ok.
-then all I have to change are the bad habits and leave the good ones instead of trying to completly restructure my entire life all at once.

bigjrm45 2009-04-17 12:34:55 -0500 Report

take control do not let it control you,you are young and have alot to live for taking a few min. a day to check your BG is just a drop of time in the bucket of life, some times I feel like you but I look at a picture of my grand kids and I want to be healthier so I can be around for them, we all have hard times but here you have freinds that will be right there with you,I for one do not want to give up so I take the time to eat right and test4 or more times a day. good luck your friend James.

Antique-Dave 2009-04-17 12:27:49 -0500 Report

I've only been at this for a month, one of my big motivators is that I'm really attached to my feet.

I've also known people who were diabetic who did not take care of themselves and they died because of it. You can't control the decisions your family makes but you can control what you choose to do for yourself.

I've been making changes and learning everything I can since the day I was diagnosed, I know its going to take a lot more effort in the begining to establish new habits but you have to ask yourself what are the consequences if you don't.

I already feel better then I have in years and I'm not feeling like I'm deprived since most everything I like can be worked into the plan. The choices in foods that I've had to make in the past month are really choices that would benefit almost everyone whether you are diabetic or not.

It drives me a little crazy to eat on a schedule, I don't like the finger pricking, I don't like having to think about what I'm eating or planning ahead, certainly I'm not excited about exercizing everyday but again what are the alternatives? I have to figure out how to take ownership of this disease and make it work for me, I tell myself I have to adapt or die.

I was relying on family genes to get me to 100, now I've got to work at it.

lipsie 2009-04-17 12:10:15 -0500 Report

Well I think somewhere there you do realize you need to change your ways for sure and want to, just seeking help, support and you surely have it here. We all support you here that's for sure. And its gonna bite someone in the rear if they don't get it together whether its you or your family, and I don't think you want to watch anyone or yourself get that right? So be a example like someone suggested!! You can't change them mind you but just maybe it could help somehow and you are new so its best if you did get started now, than later yanno? I sure wish you luck!! *Hugs* Sheila

John Crowley
John Crowley 2009-04-17 11:46:20 -0500 Report

One thing I think can be helpful is to learn how to make really great tasting, healthy food. If you spend every day wishing that you could be eating something else, then diabetes feels like torture.

But if you can find things that you love to eat AND are good for you, then suddenly it doesn't seem as hard.

Here are a couple of my favorite recipes and a list of food tips I wrote a while ago.

LadyDi - 26259Miller
LadyDi - 26259Miller 2009-04-16 20:04:54 -0500 Report

Welcome to DC. Your story and your family history sound so familiar to many of us. Unfortunately it's very common to go through that denial stage, and to "fall off the wagon" occasionally. But do try to keep in mind the terrible complications that occur when we don't make that extra effort to control ourselves. Don't give up - keep on trying to do better each day. You won't be perfect. If you do find a way to be perfect at it, PLEASE let us all now the secret!

2009-04-16 19:55:32 -0500 Report

Well, I am a Type 1 pumper, and have been diabetic since 1992. Until recently, I was like you, evidently in TOTAL denial for all these years! Eating right isn't to lose weight, it's eating the right foods to control your sugar. If you don't test, then go to the doctor, he'll bust you. I have a endo appt tomorrow, and I'm hating life right about now, because this will be the first A1C test I've had in a long time. I keep bargaining with him for more time. TIME IS UP!! I'm sure I'll get my butt chewed REALLY good when the results come back, but I am the only one to blame this time. So please consider getting back on the wagon, being in denial is only going to hurt you badly in the long run, and who knows, maybe by you getting back on, your parents will follow suit!

Welcome to the group, hugs!!

LadyDi - 26259Miller
LadyDi - 26259Miller 2009-04-16 20:01:18 -0500 Report

I have an endo appointment tomorrow as well, and, like you, I'm not too excited about it. I had an A1c last Friday. We'll see how it goes. I have not been a good girl every day, so I'm sure that will show tomorrow.

Good luck with your appointment - and with doing a better job. I'm going to keep on trying.

2009-04-16 20:09:41 -0500 Report

Good luck with your appt too! Heck, I had totally forgotten about this one!! I only remembered cause there was a reminder message on my phone when I got home from school today!! Keep me posted on your number, and I'll do the same! Hugs

Mom and boys
Mom and boys 2009-04-16 19:51:42 -0500 Report

Some times I wonder why I couldn’t be just a little bit diabetic. You know maybe with a little “time out” every once in a while !!

I recently (Nov. 2008) went on meds for T2. The 11 years before that I was diet controlled. But I only strayed away from carbs, did not check my bs and ran an hba1c twice a year. Like you both parents diabetic, but mine were poorly controlled. I saw what poor control does to your body and it is just not good. I think I could deal with most complications except for the kidney failure – then I am sure I would if I had to.

With that said, most days I do well, take my meds, exercise and stay in control but the past two week have been difficult and I have been a back slider. We were on spring break with the kid at the beach. So we did a lot of walking, we ate ok, drank a bit of red wine and no routine. This week I am eating ok but just can’t get back into that routine so AM sugars have been high. I think I am having a pity party in my head because the weather is nice, I would like to be having cocktails on the deck or fluffy drinks by the pool. And my goodness the chicken nuggets at our pool’s deli are to die for!

The truth is I feel much better when I follow a diet and a routine. I know it is better for my body to try.

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