Just Joyce
By Just Joyce Latest Reply 2014-08-09 09:07:05 -0500
Started 2014-08-02 20:41:03 -0500

As many of you know, I had a saliva gland removed due to a large stone in the gland. Since I have ended up with a partially paralyzed tongue, swallowing was an adventure.

I have had to regroup. The doctor told me last week that it could take a year for the nerve to heal. I still sound funny and my tongue gets tired if I have to do a lot of talking. I wondered what I was going to do and thanks to Steve (Haleoboy) who gave me information that will help me with swallowing, things are a little better. I wish I could hug him for that advice.

I was beginning to get frustrated and when I was called for a job interview and told I should apply with the company again in a year, I was done for a few days. I can't blame them for not hiring me. If you don't know me or haven't heard me speak, it can confuse you because some words are slurred.

I had to regroup and let go of feeling frustrated. I was beginning to get on my own nerves. I know I will not have an ice cream cone this summer because I cannot lick one. I won't be eating peas for a long time because that was an adventure in my mouth. I was getting frustrated when it came time to eat because eating was a problem. I don't view it as a problem, I now refer to eating as an adventure in my mouth. I have no idea what will happen with foods until I eat it.

I left the doctors office regretting having the surgery. The site is still sore and numb and I can't wear anything with a collar. Then I thought, would i rather be in pain from trying to eat or doing the best I can after having the surgery. I opted for doing the best I can. No I can't eat a lot of things but I can eat some things. I can only sleep on one side but that is okay for now. I always have a dry throat so I am drinking a lot of water. The doctor said that will improve.

Even though I still have a problem with some foods I am managing to keep my blood sugar between 85 and 98. I have lost 30lbs since May. I never in my wildest dreams imagined this would happen to me however, I know that losing the weight is great for my diabetes and that no matter how frustrated I was getting, frustration was not the best road to travel.

I am going to live with this new addition to my life. Just because the road got a little rough doesn't mean I can't continue down that road. The obstacle was put in my path, I got through it and I am going to keep forging ahead. I am going to enjoy my summer.

19 replies

ReaderReader12 2014-08-04 20:16:12 -0500 Report

Hang in there it will get better and better, and look at you with a 30 pounds off your body. And your bs between 85 and 98 thats great. Keep looking for the positives in your life and before long things will be so much better. I like how you call eating an adventure in your mouth. That is cute. Drinking lots of water is a very good thing. I am a huge water drinker myself. Keep up the positive attitude. You rock.

KCsHubby 2014-08-04 16:55:27 -0500 Report

Sounds like you have a great attitude. Keep up the good work. Enjoy your "adventures". You will be a stronger person for all this.

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2014-08-04 21:52:01 -0500 Report

Having a positive attitude surrounds you in positive energy. Negative energy us very draining which is why I don't spend time with negative people. life. I don't let life live me. Things are not always going to be the way you want them to be but if you change how you view things you learn the just maybe it will not be as bad as you thought it would be. I have my moments when I don't think things are not going right. I just keep going. Win or lose, at least I know I tried.

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2014-08-03 21:27:20 -0500 Report

Hey Joyce,

I really appreciate this update.

So great to hear that you received some helpful advice from Steve. That's an excellent example of the kind of support members on Diabetic Connect give to each other.

You have such an incredible attitude. Life on life's terms. I agree, adventure in my mouth is a great phrase. It describes your optimism to a tee. I can only guess at what this must be like for you. You are an inspiration.

Wow, 30 pounds. Amazing. I wasn't sure if you wanted this much weight loss or not. Yes, good for your diabetes. But I suspect a lot of clothes to take in the waist.

I am hoping you heal quickly, that you feel better and better.

Thanks for sharing this!


Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2014-08-04 11:47:38 -0500 Report

Thanks Dr. Gary.

When you face life on its terms you are living in a real world. With Steve's help, swallowing is a little better. I am not frustrated about eating. I still have to use my finger from time to time but not half as much as I use to. I look at that as an improvement.

Losing weight is going to cost me money. The advantage is my sister has a lot of free size outfits that are now way too big for her. Since she is a clothes horse I am inheriting clothing from her closet that she has never worn. This is better than Macy's…lol.

I had to end a meeting because my tongue got tired and it caused a lot of pain. I had no choice but to come home and take my pain medication which knocks me out. Since I had the surgery, I was interviewed by a newspaper reporter on an article she is writing about the Effect of Crime on Children. A reporter called me for an interview the night of the day I had surgery. I am back in the swing of things and am going out with officers tomorrow night to visit all of the National Night Out events in our district. We have a blast doing that.

I have decided this is not going to get me down. No I can't eat some things because It is just to tiresome trying to eat it. This means I have something to look forward to as the nerve in my tongue heals.

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2014-08-05 16:26:25 -0500 Report

Hi Joyce,

It must be nice to have a sister who can hand off some great clothes. Very nice.

You always manage to stay active. Glad you got to participate in that interview, I am sure you were a big help to the reporter. And that night out sounds like fun.

Nothing gets you down. I will look forward to hearing about what you are able to add to your diet once you are all healed up.


Glucerna 2014-08-03 15:15:45 -0500 Report

I love the phrase "eating is an adventure in my mouth". Reframing your feelings about the surgery, swallowing, eating, and talking is helping you look at all of the positives in your life. I know it hasn't been easy getting to this point, and I give you a lot of credit for working through difficult situations. Your positive attitude is going to carry you far! ~Lynn @Glucerna

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2014-08-03 15:42:18 -0500 Report

Thanks Lynn. I was beginning to feel sorry for myself. I realize it could be worse. Feeling sorry for myself was not the path I needed to take.

Peas were out of control in my mouth. Lol. I could not get them under control with my tongue.

jigsaw 2014-08-03 10:13:23 -0500 Report

Joyce, sorry I haven't been around much lately! I've been out taking advantage of my new found freedom. I just wanted you to know, I haven't forgotten you. I'm pleased to see that you are holding your head high through your dilemma. It's nice to know that Steve was able to offer you some valuable info. If he was in reach, and you were hugging him as you mentioned, I would also be hugging you! We'd have a huggable trio!

Anyway, keep on forging down the road, as I'm sure your situation will improve!

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2014-08-03 20:52:55 -0500 Report

Thanks Jigsaw. I am moving forward. I was beginning to feel sorry for myself and I had to get rid of that. Feeling sorry for myself would have only dragged me down.

I am doing pretty good. I even did a phone interview with a newspaper reporter. She only had to ask me a few times what I said. People who talk to me regularly can understand me. I have a problem with the letter "S" and some numbers.

At any rate, I am keeping my head up. Okay I have to ask "Freedom", from what?

jigsaw 2014-08-04 06:09:47 -0500 Report

I'm pleased to hear that your doing well, and not allowing yourself to be consumed (understandably) by negative feelings. I sense that you are an emotionally strong woman, and you will find your way. A warrior poised for battle if need be!

My new found freedom, is unfortunately due to the passing of my dog. She could not be left in a kennel, if we wanted to travel. She was dog agressive, and besides, she couldn't bare to be without my wife for very long. She disliked strangers also, but she loved her family, and was extremely affectionate to household members. Near the end of her life, she needed help to go outside, because there are stairs that lead out of our house. At age 16, and with spinal arthritis, she was having a difficult time.

So, now that she is gone, and left my wife and me broken hearted, we can travel. Not to sound like a celebration, because she was a very special dog, but she is gone, and with her, the responsibility of taking care of her is no longer. My wife and I have been on the go lately, and I haven't been home too often.

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2014-08-04 11:36:19 -0500 Report

Jigsaw I am so sorry for your loss. It is never easy losing a beloved pet. We had the same problem with Jack. He hated everyone but my sister and I and we could not put him in a kennel. I do hope you enjoy your traveling.

Young1s 2014-08-02 22:25:24 -0500 Report

Oh Joyce, I am sorry to hear about the new troubles in your life but applaud you in the way you're handling it. Obstacles are just that, but it doesn't mean they have to stifle us. Push hard and then push harder if necessary. I feel for ya. My last doc appointment wasn't a happy one but will continue to fight cause it's in my nature. We can't let this annoyance beat us. We own this disease and control what we can, but it really is in our control…always! It's just a matter of how and what we do to deal with it, plain and simple. It's a get on board and proactive type of thin to me. Now I will admit, some days i get down and/or give up, but then I come to my senses. I love life and love my family ans friends. I want to be around for the new and exciting things that life is gonna bring them. I will admit, not as gungho as I used to be but am trying to get back there. It's trial and error with this. We will deal the way we deal. Hopefully it's in the betterment of a healthier lifestyle. Well wishes going out to you and your sis.

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2014-08-02 22:50:21 -0500 Report

Young thank you. I do not view diabetes as an annoyance. I view it as a chronic disease I have. This us why I don't have to struggle, fight or deal with it. I chose to control it. Because I chose to control it, I no longer have to test everyday, can eat what I want and do what I want to do. I was sick for over a month which is why I am testing frequently. I need to get back lost ground.

When you label something it becomes what the label says it is. So until you stop thinking it is an annoyance, you may never move past the obstacle. This us why I don't have to push to hard.

haoleboy 2014-08-02 21:06:32 -0500 Report

glad I could help my friend.
not a doubt in my mind that you will successfully navigate this little rough patch in your journey

rolly123 2014-08-02 20:52:06 -0500 Report

Hope u have good summer ! Thanks for sharing how u doing! Hearing what u going thorough makes my problem durable the road gets tough I heard makes u stronger to handle next tough road travel easier! Keep updating how u handling things !Congraduation for loosing weight u doing good!

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