How Do You Stay Positive?

By GabbyPA Latest Reply 2014-08-09 12:59:48 -0500
Started 2014-07-31 06:31:52 -0500

I was reading a great article this morning by a type 1 diabetic and how she focuses on keeping positive in her continued battle with diabetes.

Here was one of my favorite parts. "This next one is probably the key to living a positive life. I laugh. I laugh a lot. While I owe a lot of this to my hilarious husband (I always say he should have been a comedian), I also like to try to make him laugh as often as possible. Just the other day I pretended to be leaving for work without wearing any pants. I walked right through the living room half dressed with my purse on my shoulder, saying goodbye while acting totally serious to get him to crack a smile. Making others laugh is huge for your soul. I know it was a silly thing to do, but those silly things, they really make me happy. Allow yourself to be a little silly and see how much happier you are. Humor is right up there with insulin in keeping me alive and smiling"

I think it struck a cord because it's so true. My husband always asks me if I'm ready to go while I'm half dressed. I think one day I might pull this on him to return the laugh favor.

So what are your ways to keep positive? What helps you face every day with pep in your step instead of doom and gloom? Do you have a routine? A favorite way of doing something that just keeps you on the up?

52 replies

Stuart1966 2014-08-09 12:59:48 -0500 Report

I LIKE HER IDEA… oh sweetheart… darling, honey bunches… sweetums… -wg-

I am unsure that being UP is the right place to be. Once up, one comes down again. Seeking contentment, neither up, nor down.

Michael_1960 2014-08-04 21:31:26 -0500 Report

I always crack people up at work, because I always like to make people laugh, I tell jokes, act silly, and do crazy things. It makes their day go by a lot better.

Rose67 2014-08-04 00:03:43 -0500 Report

So very true. Laughter is great medicine. It is wonderful to have a hubby to help make you smile and laugh. If you are alone, go to utube and look up comedians. Their are quite a few of clean ones out there. I do it a lot, and soon I forget my pain and other health problems. It relaxes you like nothing else, except for my love for God. God created laughter, knowing we will need it through our journey of life.

Sweeties mom
Sweeties mom 2014-08-02 15:46:08 -0500 Report

I think a lot of us use laughter as a way to keep ourselves positive. I also try not to take too many things as serious as I did before I was diagnosed. I think having this diagnosis has shown me what really is important and taught me not to get down by the day to day small stuff.

TLTanner 2014-08-05 12:04:43 -0500 Report

It took kidney failure for me to see things differently. But I think any change to our life, be it health, financial, etc., shows us what's more important and to not sweat the small stuff.

When I was a newly wed at 18, I was hospitalized and diagnosed with an ulcer. That taught me not to take things quite so seriously and especially not so personally.

My kidney failure and heart problems were diagnosed at the same time. They taught me that my life and my loved ones were more important than anything else.

My disability after a triple bypass taught me a whole new respect for people who have to fight to get back to where they started before an injury and disabled people in general. My son has cerebral palsy and it put us on more of an even keel, so to speak, and I understood more of what he had to go through growing up.

Each of our experiences teaches us more and better ways to deal with the issues we face as diabetics or whatever might be "ailing" you. I think humor helps the most as it not only lightens the mood of you, but those around you and helps to alleviate the situation. And, who doesn't love to laugh? :-)

TLTanner 2014-08-02 12:06:56 -0500 Report

Like a lot of the commenters below, I too, use laughter. I CAN find the silver lining to ANY cloud and I CAN find humor in ANYTHING!

I can also laugh at myself and do so often which makes others around me laugh too. I talk backwards, A LOT, and it's not intentional, but it sure is funny! Spoonerisms are one of the things I do too. LOL I can easily say, "Is that pictures of you wall hung on your kids?" Or, "Here comes Trickey's Muck!" See what I mean? :-)

I figured out a long time ago, that being depressed, mopey and gloomy doesn't appeal to many people and they don't want to be around you. I have always been a positive person, so I took that into my "disease" as well and, well, here I am today!

I have had doctors tell me that they wish they could bottle my attitude and sell it to some of their other patients, but I tell them that they don't need the extra income, I DO! LOL

Anyway, my family, my friends and especially my son, all help me in my journey with diabetes and it's complications and even when I am having a bad day, they can make me laugh if I can't seem to do it.

Michael_1960 2014-08-04 21:35:16 -0500 Report

I balk tackward tall the ime, and deen boing it lor a tong fime, ahahahah!

TLTanner 2014-08-05 12:08:50 -0500 Report

Well, Michael, I would say welcome to my world, but seeing as you are older than I am (LMBO), I guess I should say I have joined yours! LOL

ReaderReader12 2014-08-02 11:07:46 -0500 Report

I love being a positive person. I have friends that are fun to be around, I laugh as much as i can. I love music videos and I am always trying to force my person to watch just a couple of videos with me. I try not to act my age pretty much ever. I shop for all sorts of cards it always gets me out of my own head and soon I am laughing thing about sending this card to this person or that one to a friend. I try and move, because it is very hard to be depressed when I am moving. I am cooking so many new recipes from DC and finding some really, really good ones. Some really easy ones. I love to do our laundry. I put music on and just have a good time. I too believe that our minds are so very powerful and can help or hurt us given the thoughts we let in. I think that self talk can help or hinder us. So I choose to only positive self talk.

Hops 2014-08-02 08:02:58 -0500 Report

I believe we harm ourselves by thinking of diabetes as a battle in which we use the terms for fighting a war. I stay positive as a Type 1 since 9/21/1968 by visualizing myself working with my body's natural system to preserve its health. I feel fortunate there are so many deliciously healthy natural foods available to make us healthy.
Sometimes it raises my spirit to write a letter to a family member or a friend.
The delight of having access to dvd's is you can quickly find a briefly hilarious scene in a great comedy. You can even find great LOL movie scenes on youtube. My all time favorite is Donald O'Connor performing Make 'Em Laugh.
Speaking with friends, going to church, walking around out of doors enjoying the beauty of nature all help.

Trudie Ann
Trudie Ann 2014-08-02 02:02:45 -0500 Report

Thank you Gabby. What keeps me feeling positive is love and faith. I love God, my husband, my children, my grand children, my dog, my home, my life, my friends (including you and DC). I am thankful for my life. I probably don't laugh enough, but I do try to find something to laugh about every day. I do smile a lot and I have made it my mission to smile, because when I smile at someone I almost always get a smile back. If I start to think about my medical problems, I stop and realise how much better off I am than some and I cry when I read about what's going on in Africa, and I pray for them. Yes my Faith and Love keeps me positive.

grandma sila
grandma sila 2014-08-01 20:17:14 -0500 Report

When I am working in the yard, I feel good and when I feel good, I laugh more often .I have a good sense of humor which helps too. I try to think positive as much as I can. Dr. is changing my diabetic medication which is a challenge. I have to set a timer for 30 minutes so I eat because the medication really drops my blood sugar. I try to find things I like to do, to keep me from getting stressed or depressed.

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2014-07-31 22:06:34 -0500 Report

Hi Gabby,

I also rely on my sense of humor. I can be a little snarky so I have to be careful. Mainly, I have learned to laugh at my own quirks and to encourage others to laugh along with me. And I have a lot of them. I like to joke that I probably more issues than the National Geographic.

I also try to give myself 30 minutes a day of just time for myself. That might mean 15 minutes with my newspaper in the morning and 15 minutes with my Kindle before I go to bed. But I get a lot of mileage out of that 30 minutes.

Sometimes I annoy my clients with my positive attitude. I can't help but ask how is the cup half full and what's working in your life. There is always something to feel good about, even if you have to look around for it. Bitter, angry people who are stuck in an old story and don't want to get out of it usually don't stick around for long. I have had a few of them stomp out of my office over the years.

What am I grateful for today? I try to answer that before I leave my apartment every morning. What's good today?

Thanks for the great discussion!


GabbyPA 2014-07-31 22:14:04 -0500 Report

I am going to have to remember your quote, "I probably have more issues than the National Geographic" That is classic, and helps me remember I am human, quirks and all.

Just Joyce
Just Joyce 2014-07-31 20:49:06 -0500 Report

I find that laughter is the best medicine. I believe that if I can't laugh at myself, I shouldn't laugh at others and I am always laughing at myself.

Staying positive is easy for me because I give back to my community. I listen to my neighbors and help them solve problems they are having with city agencies. I listen to the officers who stop by my house or call me on the phone just to chat.

I got rid of all the negative people in my life. I Do Not have time for people who create drama or always have some kind of major catastrophe going on in their lives. Negative energy is very draining.

I also don't view diabetes as a struggle, battle, or something bad. I do not label it in any way. I have diabetes, it does not have me and it has not caused me to stop doing all the things i enjoy doing. If I want to spend an evening riding with a police officer I do that. If I want to spend time with friends and family at a restaurant or family dinner I will do that. I do not ask people who invite me to dinner to change their menu to suit my needs. I go to at least 5-6 meetings a month and I don't stress out over most things. I prefer to live my life not sit back and think about how much diabetes changed my life.

robertoj 2014-07-31 19:32:12 -0500 Report

Supporting others, gratitude, Keeping open minded. I also balance expectations not creating limitations without losing sight of reality. I try to stay informed and make adjustments with little or no resistance. I read motivational quotations daily. I enjoy a good laugh silly songs and movies, laugh at myself and act silly when the feeling strikes.

crazeknot 2014-07-31 18:46:22 -0500 Report

I stay as positive as possible by reading , crocheting or gardening. that's what makes me happy. If U have a positive outlook & doing the things that make U happy your attitude tends too stay positive.

rolly123 2014-07-31 16:28:11 -0500 Report

That's good subject I never was serious I make people laugh for silly things! I have a lot health and depression and days real serous but a lot not! Some my friends don't know when something wrong because joke a lot ! I take after my dad but I learning got take my health seriously like dibeties! I pray for help talk to God a lot and read how his son died for us ! But I can make people smile and that makes me happy!

robertoj 2014-07-31 19:45:28 -0500 Report

Laughter has always served me well. I even laughed when I severely injured myself at work. I pictured what the accident looked like.Faith has never been lacking even through years of depression.

GabbyPA 2014-07-31 22:10:36 -0500 Report

That kind of visualization can really be funny. I have one of my hydroplaning down a hallway on flip flops that pops back into my head every now and then.....from high school. LOL

TopazDee 2014-07-31 16:24:27 -0500 Report

Yep it's Live, Love and Laugh all the way with my guardian Angel on my shoulder guiding me, This last year life has been a real bitch to me throwing one thing after another at me, it's seems to be one consultant after another but I meditate and refuse to give in I have kicked D tablets into touch my high BP tablets, Water tablets and a few others refuse to age beyond 39 so growing old disgracefully.
I face every adversity head on with the attitude it won't beat me yes have some scary moments when I don't know what's wrong, do have a good howl in the bathroom to get it out f my system wash my face and laugh at myself in the mirror for being stupid then get on with it.
Next week will be a biggy for me have to see a spinal consultant to find out how long before I have to order a wheelchair (I was told 40yrs. ago it would be within 6 months) still as long as I can drive what the heck, I also have to see a consultant in the breast clinic I'm sure it's just a fatty lump due to weight loss but going to air on the side of caution as the big C in my family, Oh! well sel-la-ve, I'm still smiling.
Stay Safe dear friends.

robintellis 2014-07-31 13:36:45 -0500 Report

I smile a lot and love to laugh on the out side. It is when I am alone with my thoughts that I get into trouble. I still feel new with my type 2 diabetes. I watch my carbs, but still do not lose weight. I gain a pound, the lose a pound, etc. I am in an arthritis chair exercise class twice a week. Maybe I should also be watching my calories, too. I look forward to all of you writing in the discussions. Thanks so much.

Sly Kitty
Sly Kitty 2014-07-31 13:22:48 -0500 Report

I'm with you on this, Gabby! It never hurts to smile and/or laugh. I do so many silly things such as you so many times it has become second nature. Sometimes you have to do everything in your power to stay positive and laughter is always a great way to recover. I spend most of my time watching comics and comedians on TV and even go out sometimes in the evenings and go to the comic improv or stand up comic shows locally. It is truly my favorite thing to do. I am always entertained by being around funny and positive people. Who doesn't want to be happy.

Tony5657 2014-07-31 10:49:13 -0500 Report

Dear Gabby, I LOVE this discussion. You hit the head on the nail, OR something like that! LOL Laughter is a wonderful medicine! I just might try the "no pants" thingy and see if my wife EVEN notices! Laughter releases powerful positive/healing things in our body/minds. What do I do to stay positive? I pray at least an hour a day and with my God given "gift of humor" (some call it BS AND that doesn't stand for blood sugar!), I do my best to cheer my depressed wife and others out of that negative "crapola." Today we are going to go to a beautiful clear running river, lay/sit in the water and watch the tourists float down the river (this is a tourist town). The rapids cause some to lose their tubes/floats/flip flops & their children! I've helped many recover their lost "thingys" and with my God given sense of humor they always leave laughing except for one guy who just wanted to stay angry. I prayed for him. (You never know what the other person is going through and I try to be sensitive to them.) I have no routine, I'm just being spontaneous when I feel the situation warrants it. - sometimes it does not.
I do hope we can someday meet you & Rodger and have some laughs. Hey, we have a small one unit B&B and you both stay for free! (and we can watch the tourists float down the river and lose things). LOL BUT please don't bring your dogs, snakes, bees or other pets!!!!!! Even in Winter here, we can often play in the H2O. ol' Tony5657 in New Braunfels, TX gettin' ready for the river.

elizag1 2014-07-31 10:40:36 -0500 Report

When I see my 92 year old Mom, I can tell you she is an inspiration.
Going out without pants was super funny!! I have a routine to get up and walk every morning…laughter helps but, I pray while I walk, I Trust in Jesus, like many here do too, one day at time is something that I have to remember too.

Pegsy 2014-07-31 18:30:08 -0500 Report

I love to walk to relieve stress and it usually brings my glucose down. I try to make a point of enjoying the scenery. There is so much beauty in the world that we often miss unless we make a point to notice and appreciate it. Lately I have started using that walking time to pray or listen to music and sermons on my phone.

Another way that I stay positive is to remind myself how far I have come. I've lost a lot of weight. I have brought my glucose down a lot, even though it isn't where it should be yet, it's getting there. I do have bad days but try not to let them get to me. Troubles come and go. I just try to go with the flow.

Tony5657 2014-07-31 11:03:22 -0500 Report

elizag1, I do the same thing - in my early morning hour walk, I pray the entire time. BUT I do wear shorts!! LOL Thanks for your comment!!!!! Tony5657 in New Braunfels, TX

jangel407 2014-07-31 10:22:54 -0500 Report

I have an extremely strong faith in God. I have been through many things in my life that would have sent many of my friends "over the edge" but being able to turn to God is what has been my "saving grace". Yes there are times that I may be a bit down but I have been blessed to be able to sit back and reflect on what it is that I'm going through at that moment and if I need to talk to someone I will. But most of the time I have been able to work through the issue on my own. I get up every morning and I thank God for another good day. It can be a good day, a bad day or an indifferent type of day but I am alive and breathing so to me that's enough. I have been confined to my bed at some points during my life but I have been able to breath and communicate with my family and friends and that has always helped me stay positive.

Heavenly Angel
Heavenly Angel 2014-07-31 09:31:57 -0500 Report

I agree, laughter is the best medicine. But I find that JESUS is the best way to stay positive in every situation!!! My faith in Him keeps me going!! He is the great Physician n Healer!! It's not easy having diabetes n other health problems, but Jesus died on the cross for my sins, sicknesses, n diseases!! I have a wonderful church family who pray with me n for me n I know God has it ALL under control!!! I stay grounded in Him n that's how I can smile n be positive throughout my day!

4mouseketeers 2014-08-01 14:49:29 -0500 Report

I wish I could have such strong faith in Him as you & Jangel407. I want to; I pray for more, stronger faith but I struggle with it all the time. I think maybe my depression has a lot to do with it. Pray for those of us who want to just always trust that Jesus does have our best interests at heart but have difficulty with it.

Heavenly Angel
Heavenly Angel 2014-08-02 07:55:06 -0500 Report

I'll be praying for you that God will give you the faith n strength you need to make it through your day!! God is so good n He'll help you with everything!! I'm believing for healing for you from depression, diabetes, n whatever else is going on in your life!! Trust God, He knows what He's doing!!! GOD BLESS YOU!!!

Trudie Ann
Trudie Ann 2014-08-02 01:45:59 -0500 Report

4mousketeers, Every day is a struggle for me also, but my faith is strong and I believe through Christ all things are possible. I am sending up prayers for you and me right now. And if it is ok, I would like to ask you for a prayer for me also. We can all use more prayers dear friend.

jangel407 2014-07-31 10:26:29 -0500 Report

I agree 100%. There are some days however that I may as God to just let me take a few deep breaths and then I will be able to continue on. But there are times that He says no to thedeep breathsand I will continue on no matter what. I know that God is beside me with every step I takeand that's all that matters to me.

Tony5657 2014-07-31 10:21:22 -0500 Report

Heavenly Angel, I totally agree. My wife and I do the same as you. I love your last sentence!!!!!!!!! You made my day.
ol' Tony5657 (now 70 years young LOL) in HOT New Braunfels, TX

daizie 2014-07-31 09:07:26 -0500 Report

I think I was just BORN that way. I had a hard time coming into this world back then so I think the idea of I MADE IT makes me positive.
I am an optimistic. I get stressed out lately with Mom who has dementia and lives now in Assisted Living and got INJURED by the hospital who won't admit it, but I see the care they are giving her in spite of the injury and that makes me happy. Of course, that stress raises my glucose. The injuries I have had since Sandy hit NJ, that has raised my glucose. There isn't much I can do about it but let go and let God so when I give it up to him; I let go.
I have a great group of friends and a neighbor that is terrific. I belong to my twp seniors and we look out for each other. I'm not alone.
I have a support therapy and individual therapy for what I feel with Mom.

evaziem 2014-07-31 09:05:45 -0500 Report

Life has many stresses and when a disease adds to it it's not a good picture.
My husband made an observation that we do not laugh much anymore as we used to. He has no problems, only I for a few years now.

I am trying to talk about good things keep a half-full attitude.

His mother is 88 and has NO diseases. When we call her every Sunday, she is always POSITIVE and she was like this whole her life. Perhaps that is why she is so healthy.
She is my inspiration!

Anonymous 2014-07-31 08:53:24 -0500 Report

I am having a difficult time staying positive right now. When I am so stressed I just want to eat - and eat junk! I fought it yesterday & the day before. But wound up eating a lot (LOT) of cookies the first day & at 9:30pm last night there I was at Dairy Queen. Not good, not good at all.

Sly Kitty
Sly Kitty 2014-07-31 13:30:50 -0500 Report

It happens; we all have made a mistake just like you have, but you have time to reset and do it better. Stay positive, stay well & focus on being more diligent at making better choices. Here's to having less Oops moments and more WTG moments. Stay strong and positive and know you have the support of so many others who share your experiences.

jangel407 2014-07-31 10:32:03 -0500 Report

That's OK Anonymous. We all fall off the "wagon" as they say from time to time. But we all go through what you are going through but realize that we can start fresh the next day. It's not worth beating ourselves up about taking a few steps backwards because we know that we can start over even if it's going to take a little bit more that day. Hang in there. We have all gone through this at some point in our lives.

jedabolin 2014-07-31 08:43:21 -0500 Report

Gabby I like your discussion. I can't think of a thing that gives me the up except spending time with my family. Debbie

MaChteld 2014-07-31 07:16:14 -0500 Report

I agree. I always try to be positive and I also look for something to laugh about. Its not always easy though. With diabetics sometimes comes depression. When that happens I put on some happy music and sing and dance to the music.

jedabolin 2014-07-31 08:48:37 -0500 Report

I do have a lot of Depression and for a long time I Didn't Know It Was CAUSED By Diabetes. I also have bipolar disorder so it's hard to determine whether the depression is caused by the diabetes or bipolar. I just try to live one day at a time and hope the depression isn't to big of a factor. Debbie