Yesterday we were invited to an Easter Dinner, something we hadn't planned for until we got the call and were asked to come late yesterday morning. I knew there would be all sorts of sugary foods at this get together and when Laura was making her plate I cautioned her against certain foods or to only take small bits of it, such as chocolate dip for fresh strawberries, sliced strawberries and kiwi's that had been coated in sugar to bring out the juices, and sugary kool-aid. She did pretty well getting her food and for dessert she only had 2 bite size cupcakes with no icing. While at this dinner one of the other adults there had made goody bags of candy for each of the kids that were there, most of what was in the goody bag was chocolate candies of all shapes and sizes. When Laura was given hers she brought it to me and asked if she could have a piece of it. All the other kids (including her brother) were tearing into the candy like it would disappear if they didn't gobble it all up in 2 minutes. I told her she could have 1 of the kisses for now but she should probably not have more than that right now. So, she ate the kiss and put her goody bag in my purse. Over the course of the evening temptation took over and piece by piece she eventually ate nearly all the chocolate candy in there, I'd say maybe 12-15 kisses and mini hershey candy bars, along with a fun dip mini bag. I knew it was going to send her blood sugar up and I wanted to tell her no but then the more I thought about it I decided to let her learn on her own just what eating all that chocolate was going to do to her. I felt guilty for not being meaner and enforcing the fact that she shouldn't have it and if we had been at home, just our family it wouldn't have been a big deal, but I also want her to feel like just another kid at times too. She has done so well since diagnosed and lost nearly 15lbs. by doing the right thing and eating the right foods…at least that is how I justified not scolding her for eating more of the candy than she should have. When we got home around 10pm she checked her BGL and it was at 160, she normally runs between 76-90. She immediately thought it was a false reading and asked if she should check it again. I told her no and explained that she had eaten too many sugary foods and that is why she had a higher reading than normal. This morning when she got up and did her fasting BGL it was 181, she cried a bit and asked me why it was still high, so, I sat her down and explained it all to her. I told her that I could have stopped her last night from eating all that candy but that I wanted her to see just what having that much would do to her, that I was sorry it gave her a high reading and that that is why I tell her "no" so much when she asks about having certain foods and candy. She didn't say much then and went off to watch a new DVD she'd gotten for Easter.
She came back to me about 20min later and told me that she was sorry for eating all that candy but it had been so long since she'd had a lot of chocolate and she just couldn't help herself. I told her I understand that, that even I have trouble saying no when it is right in front of me. She told me she didn't like having her sugar that high and that she was glad we didn't buy her a bunch of chocolate and candy for Easter here at home because she didn't know if she could stay away from it that it is too hard.
I just wonder, was it wrong of me to let her eat all that candy and find out for herself just what it would do or should I have been the mean mommy and taken it away so she didn't have the option on her own?
I sorta feel I did it the right way and she learned why all that candy isn't good for her but part of me wonders if it was a good idea to let her live and learn.
Some of you reading this may not know that Laura is 7yrs old and was just diagnosed in early February not too long before Valentines day and we avoided the goodies then because of that reason, so, this is the first "chocolate holiday" since being diagnosed that wasn't in a controlled environment.
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