So.... my Mother brings me lunch, an extra large chocolate shake, a double cheeseburger and a large fry

By Antique-Dave Latest Reply 2015-08-21 11:50:17 -0500
Started 2009-04-08 17:49:35 -0500

She gets out of the car and goes to hand me the shake,I brought you lunch says she, I didn't know what to get you so I got a chocolate shake. Mother says I, its not good for me, OH… should I have gotten vanilla, do you mean you can't have chocolate?

She looks at the shake, and then at me, strawberry? Umm no Mom its a extra large shake, I haven't been to McDonalds for 3 weeks now.

Well, here's a double cheeseburger, she says, I'm not eating white breads anymore,says I, besides the buns probably worse then the shake for me.

Well you can have the french fries, I brought extra catsup and salt. UMM… Ma, too many carbs, too much salt, I can't really have them, I'm trying to stay away from fast food.

You've got to have something says she, I brought lunch to work, I'm okay, really, Well, do you want a pop, I can go back and get you some pop,

13 replies

Kalisiin 2015-08-21 11:45:25 -0500 Report

LOL. She's trying to love you, but doesn't seem to have a clue that she is offering you things you can't really have.

I had a situation recently where I was invited to a neighbor's for BBQ chicken…I did not stop the cook in time, and the chicken got smothered in Bull's Eye BBQ Sauce, 13 grams of carbs in a teaspoon, and high fructose corn syrup is the number one ingredient!!

Of course, I don't want to be rude, so I go ahead and eat, knowing I am gonna DREAD my next BG reading…and was I right!! I nailed a 158! I decided then and there I was damned if I was EVER AGAIN gonna eat something to be polite…I will make sure in advance to ask these kind neighbors and friends to please not put BBQ Sauce on a few of the pieces of chicken.

Sarguillo 2009-04-09 13:08:00 -0500 Report

Dave. got to love our mothers. Sorry to hear she is T2 also. Hope she is more careful of what she eats. My mom is T2 and brings me Suger free candy and stuff all the time, says, "its sugar free, you can eat all you want" and she does. Its heartbreaking to tell her that her sugar free candy has sugar acohol and watch as she puts some back knowing she wants to eat them. Good luck always.

Antique-Dave 2009-04-09 16:57:27 -0500 Report

No it was grandma that was T2 and my mothers brother. She just told me the other day that GGpa was Diabetic as well.

If she were computer literate I'd have her visit the forums. I've learned a lot in a short time.

Tested my oldest son yesterday AM his fasting glucose was 109. Going to have to work on him too. He's 25 and I don't think its a good sign.

2009-04-08 22:52:21 -0500 Report

My well meaning mother brought me frosted brownies.. LOL

Mine is a different story and a different reason why she didn't get it… Long history of low blood sugar (6 years old) and suddenly it goes the other way.. she was confused.


Antique-Dave 2009-04-09 10:50:38 -0500 Report

My darling wife brought me this huge 4 inch square mega frosted brownie the first week, it had walnuts so she thought it would be okay. The other day I turned around and she popped a teaspoon of homemade caramel in my mouth.

She is a great baker, her pies are to die for, even the crust melts in your mouth. Her goal is to have her own candy shop so as you can guess I've been eating for the past 30 years.

The holiday tables are loaded with all of the goodies she would make for her goody baskets that she passed out. Easy to walk by and pick up a home made chocolate covered cherry, caramel filled eggs, cookies, you name it.

She is in full production now for Easter, oy vey..

vgarrison 2009-04-09 12:05:32 -0500 Report

Oh how I do not envy the temptation that you must have right now. It's great that you have the support of your family, even if it's misguided.

I got around my friends trying to bring me sweets by saying to them…"hey aren't I sweet enough for you yet?" It worked everytime.

I know this is kinda over the edge, but when a cookie or a sweet is staring at me, I just think about how much dialysis would suck or how much I love to walk around and stuff like that. Like I said I know it's extreme, but so is my sweet tooth.



Kalisiin 2015-08-21 11:48:41 -0500 Report

Hence my idea for a T-Shirt slogan: diabetics Are Sexy…AND SWEET! (We don't need more sugar, thanks!)

2009-04-08 19:35:20 -0500 Report

Your mom sounds like a sweetie, just like mine, lol. Problem is nobody in my family is diabetic. After I was first diagnosed, she cooked everything that I couldn't eat, but I ate it anyway because I didn't want to hurt her feelings. I finally got her to read a lot about diabetes and the diet we should follow and she is slowly learning. I too laughed reading your story, I was in the same boat a few months ago! Take care, Angie

Kalisiin 2015-08-21 11:50:17 -0500 Report

My mom totally re-learned how to cook for me. She did this from jump street, right after my diagnosis. She's still learning, but she has been a marvelous support to me. She, herself, has lost 35 pounds to go along with my near 60 pound loss.
I love Mom. She drives me nuts sometimes, but I love her all the same (we live together in my house)

Sarguillo 2009-04-08 18:14:34 -0500 Report

LOL, atleast her intentions were good if not mis-guided. Eat a few fries, Dump the rest when she is not looking. Just say you are going to save them for later. then dump them. take off the buns from the hamburger and get a fork and knife. Have at it. Dump the extra salt and the katsup. Take one sip of the shake and then throw it away. It was good she was thinking of you. This is a good time to educate her. Tell her what you can eat. What you want to eat. Otherwise, make do with what is in front of you. I am a big beleiver in that all is ok for us to eat in moderation. Got to love mothers. Mine is a T2 also but is older and I think loosing her mind. She takes descent care of herself as far as she knows, but her eating habits are terrible. Think of your mothers feelings, Present a good front, then do what you have to do. Good luck.

Antique-Dave 2009-04-08 18:49:47 -0500 Report

She is a sweet Mom, and her intentions were golden, but her Mother was a T2 Diabetic, and her brother who lost all of his fingers and toes before he died.

She is currently taking insulin because she is taking Prednesone (sp?) and will soon be off from it as the doc stopped it this week.

I am rarely speechless, but I was absolutely dumbfounded. I had to turn it down or she would not have stopped, plus I have not gone below 187 yet on my BG in spite of everything I've done with my diet.

Judimar 2009-04-08 19:06:44 -0500 Report


I can tell she is a sweet and well meaning mom. I had to chuckle reading it. I could almost picture you squirming with the discomfort of having to say no to her good intentions.



John Crowley
John Crowley 2009-04-08 18:10:08 -0500 Report

Wow. As one of my all-time favorite work cartoons says: "Danger, Learning Curve Ahead." :-)

Sounds like you have a very sweet mom with a whole lot to learn about diabetes.


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