Going to see my Endo today...

By DJ Latest Reply 2009-04-07 14:14:52 -0500
Started 2009-04-02 08:29:08 -0500

I have an appointment with my Endo today, and it is stressing me out Big Time!!Last time I saw her was last August and she prescribed Metaformin and Prandin and they both made me soooo sick I eventually had to stop tkaing them and rely on my Lantus Insulin to treat my diabeties…so, I am not sure what kind of horrors she has in store for me this time.I just don't think she hears what I tell her, as she thinks that just because so many others are on Metaformin that I should be able to take it too..but I just can't be that kind of sick 24/7.The Lantus helps but lately my BS numbers have not been great and I am sure that is all she will see..and I have gained back all the weight I had lost before seeing her last time, so that won't help either..so I am dreading this visit!!I just wish we had more Endos in my area so I could find another one who is willing to listen to me, when I say We are all different and what works for one doesn't always work for everyone. Sigh..Sorry, just needed to vent a bit..Hugz,*DJ

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2009-04-07 14:14:52 -0500 Report

DJ, I am a few days late. I've been away and just catching up on the discussions. By now, you have been to the endo. How did it go? Not as bad as you feared I hope. My thoughts and prayers are with you. Hugs, Angie

lipsie 2009-04-03 18:58:03 -0500 Report

Just wanted to say sorry about your rough times with your Endo…that really sucks. I don't have one at this point just a regular md…From hearing others..I don't think I want one either, lol I just hope and pray it'll pan out for you some how, some way…good luck Sheila

DJ 2009-04-03 07:13:06 -0500 Report

First let me say Thank-you all for your thoughts and comments and I hear what you are saying.I am not used to a Doctor who doesn't listen to me,who talks so fast I can't even understand what she is saying most of the time, who asks questions and then steps on my answers before I even get them out of my mouth!!
My appointment went pretty much as I feared it would..I did have things written down Robin..My questions,my Meds,my perscriptions that needed to be refilled..etc.,but the questions were never answered,(heck, I didn't get to ask but one or two) and all through the meeting it just seemed like she was annoyed that I was even there taking up her time.I have tried soooo hard to eat right,test enough times a day,take my Insulin as perscribed but yet Since my Numbers aren't in the low 70's and my A1C is only 7..not 5 or 6 then I am a Bad patient I guess.They wonder why people just give up…it seems like everything I have worked so hard at these last 6 months,has gone for nothing. Oh wait…One bit of good news..I actually lost 5 lbs(since last week),of course the Doctor concentrated on the 26 lbs I have gained since our last visit, and there I agree with her it needs to come off and it will.
So, she wants me to take Lisopril for my kidneys and blood-pressure(she said my Blood pressure was 160/80..kind of high for me since I usually run low!) and then get my blood work done in 2 weeks and then she says she will call me and we will talk about a course of treatment with-out Oral meds…Maybe.I think that is what has her annoyed with me, the fact that I am questioning her treatment…she acted once again like I wanted to fly in the face of how as she put it,"99% of all her paitients are being treated!" to which I commented "You can't Possibly think that all people with Diabetes are the same or can be treated with the exact same Drugs or perscribed therapy??" She agreed that was not the case, and that people reacted differently to treatments..but still held the course that most took some form of Metaformin and made me feel like a big baby because I couldn't conform to that mold.
Ok, so bottom line..I travel over an hour to see this Dr., but She is moving her Practice to an Area about 10 mins away from me…and she will be the Only Endo in this area, so she will be even more busy and rushed, and maybe even less concerned with care..I am not sure what to do,or if I can do anything since there aren't alot of options in the Endo department..Is it me..Is it her?? I know this morning I have more questions then I had before I went to see the Endo, and I don't think that should be the case.

Judimar 2009-04-03 10:50:48 -0500 Report


I hate to see you in this type of situation. I am not sure what to tell you concerning your doctor's attitude. Perhaps you are right about her being so busy having something to do with it.

Congrats on losing the 5 lbs! It sounds like you may have scored a small victory with the oral medications. It sounds like you handled that very well. Remember you have nothing to feel bad or guilty about because the treatment didn't work for you. We are all different therefore what works for most doesn't work for all.

Do you have a primary care physcian or is that your endo? I see an internal medicine doctor for my primary and she is the one who referred me to my endo who lives 45 minutes or so from me in El Paso. I see a difference in how these two doctors work with me (yes, they are both female too!).

My primary care physician views our relationship as a partnership. She is extremely busy as well but she takes the time out to answer my questions and she asks me about my life not just my health. She has built a rapport with me and the rest of her patients because she realizes that we are the best source of information for her. To me she is the eptiome of what a doctor should be… even a busy one. My endo is a bit more reserved with me and if I ask a question she seems to have the same attitude as your endo does. Why am I questioning her about her prescribed care her body language seems to say to me, however she will listen and she seems to give thought to answering my questions. She is a bit rushed in her responses but I just write that off as her being rushed in general. Like my primary doctor she has stopped seeing new patients.

I am not sure what your options are here but I am keeping you in my thoughts and prayers. If you have more questions write them down and bring them with you on your next visit or call and speak to the nurse perhaps? The doctor/patient relationship is an ongoing process. Like any relationship it takes work and dedication on both sides. I am glad you are being proactive about your care.



Sarguillo 2009-04-03 13:58:13 -0500 Report

So sorry to hear how your visit went. Dont get discouraged. Keep you your chin as if you loose it now, you are the one to suffer later for it. At least you will save on gas going to see her. I would rather spend more and have a doctor I knew cared about what I thought and took the time to answer my questions. I lucked out finding a doctor who i like and takes the time to talk to me. Antoher thing I like about my doctor is that he is in a network of doctors and he emails me, instead of me having to go see him eveytime I need an answer to a question. Its good because the emails become part of my medical record and he cant change anything after the fact. If its part of the record, its there for all who need to see. So he cant not answer me But then agin, he does answer on a timley basis. It was recomeneded that you see your primary care doc and ask that doc your questions. Hope all works out for you.

Sarguillo 2009-04-02 12:13:39 -0500 Report

I hate doctors that either dont listen to us or disregard what we say. I kept looking till I found a doc that I not only respected, but he listens to me and offers me options. he allows my input in how my treatment will be accomplished. Tells me what will happen or not happen if I do this or not do this, as it may be. Good luck with yor visit. Hope it all works out well.

Judimar 2009-04-02 13:57:58 -0500 Report

I hear you! It took me a long time for me to get it through my head that I deserve a doctor that treats me with respect and who listens to what I have to say. I came to a point where I actually hated doctors, then I found the woman I see now. I wish there were more doctors like her around.

DJ best of luck with your appointment. Please let us know how it goes.

kdroberts 2009-04-02 08:47:49 -0500 Report

That's sad, a doctor visit should be something you look forward to.

Write your questions down and take them with you. Keep asking them until they give you an answer that you understand and are happy with. From what I've seen, most doctors will give you the standard treatment and explanations because that's what the masses want. If you start to get more involved, really question them and hold firm on what you think they will change the way they deal with you and you will get a lot more out of your appointment. If they want to prescribe something your first question should be why? when you have a satisfactory answer the next ones should be what is it? how does it work? what are the down sides to it? and what are the alternatives? Sometimes it's also helpful to take a printout of diabetic, blood pressure and cholesterol medications, testing supplies and insulins that your insurance will cover. That way if you do need something extra you will be able to show them what's covered.

If it really is that bad after you've tried to get them to talk to you, as hard and uncomfortable as it will be you have to just come out and say that you are unhappy with the way they are treating you and you feel that your experiences and opinion are being ignored.

Judimar 2009-04-02 11:39:03 -0500 Report

I hate you are in this situation.I agree with KD though. You need to speak up and make it known that you are unhappy. You have a right to say no to the treatment if it is making you ill and you know your body better then anyone. I can understand wanting to avoid conflict but this is your life and no one can speak up for you but yourself.

I also understand about having limited choices due to insurance or the area you are living in but try to remember that you have to be your own advocate. No one can speak for you but you.

I wish you luck and will keep you in my thoughts and prayers that perhaps your doctor is just not hearing you and will be willing to listen.