I need Help

By PoppyMae Latest Reply 2009-03-31 19:30:04 -0500
Started 2009-03-29 03:05:38 -0500

I am not only diabetic, I have a terminal heart disease. I am the worst diabetic, I cannot seem to get control of eating better foods because, first of all I feel sorry for myself because of all I have to deal with, 2nd, I am unhable to cook for myself and I eat a lot of tv dinners and junk food. I cant do my own cooking or shopping. I had a diagnoses of 5yrs to live and that was 8yrs ago, so I figure I had better take care of what life I have left, any suggestions out there?

13 replies

Leigh Marsden
Leigh Marsden 2009-03-29 14:28:44 -0500 Report

I would suggest perhaps buying Jenny Craig or Weight Watchers tv dinners.
Start trying to have a positive outlook on your diabetis. Once your in check, your life will improve. You'll be in good health and able to do more things…
Your Friend, Leigh

LadyDi - 26259Miller
LadyDi - 26259Miller 2009-03-29 14:56:52 -0500 Report

Good advice, Leigh. Not always easy to keep a positive outlook, although it certainly is healthier. I'd been wondering how you and your daughter were doing. Are things looking any better? Maybe you can send us an email and update us. Doesn't seem like we've heard anything in a while, or maybe I missed it. Good to see you on here.

Leigh Marsden
Leigh Marsden 2009-03-31 12:32:50 -0500 Report

Thank you for your support. I truly appreciate it. We are having a problem getting her transferred to here. She is feeling like she will be in a hospital room for the rest of her life… she is depressed. Please remember is prayer her bed sores. They are causing a much concern. She is unable to travel with them at this time.
Once again, thank you for your prayers!
Your Friend, Leigh

LadyDi - 26259Miller
LadyDi - 26259Miller 2009-03-31 12:54:17 -0500 Report

She's so human, isn't she? There's not a one of us that would not find what she's going through depressing and horrifying. She's been dealt a nasty hand, and we all pray she will come out of this much better than expected. I know you must be so anxious to have her there near you, altho it will be a challenge for you. Hopefully this will be possible soon.

Anything I say just seems so trivial, in light of the issues you're all dealing with, but my heart, thoughts and prayers are with you all. May God continue to provide the comfort and strength you need to get through it all.

Hugs & prayers,


maxcats 2009-03-31 19:30:04 -0500 Report

I have to say what LadyDi said. What a hand to be dealt. She has tried through this website to learn to be positive. I hope she can continue to do that in the face of all she is going through.

Please let her know my prayers and thoughts are with her always. I am not giving up on her, she has beaten them so far! But my heart goes out to her and she will be in my prayers.


maxcats 2009-03-29 09:53:59 -0500 Report

First of all, I think you ARE doing well to be alive when you were given such a short life span! I understand your problem with eating the right things since I live in a place where lunch and dinner are part of living here! I don't have a lot of control over my diet. BUT, I do have control over eating deserts and any snacks I choose to eat. I don't eat the deserts and am learning from people here what good snacks I can have. Do you have someone to do you shopping who will pick up the snacks you want? Watching the carbs is important and you can do that with your snacks and junk food. Don't give up, you've beaten them so far and you can continue to build yourself up and get stronger.

2009-03-29 09:31:09 -0500 Report

Everyone has already said everything that I would say here and I agree with all of it, friends, family, meal on wheels. etc…
From me, I am sorry that you have lived with this for so long but you've beaten the odds so far. My advice and I've mentioned this in discussions before is to find the gifts in each day. For starters when you wake up in the morning, look in the mirror and realize truly that you have beaten the odds one more time.. every day you need to reaffirm that you won even if only for that day and then find a gift for yourself, even something as simple as seeing a bird through the window. Make each day an adventure, even if it's only from your chair or a bed. Read a book, a fantasy or something, take yourself someplace else if even for an hour. Coping skills are important and these are a few of mine that I'd like to share with you. You sound like you know what you should be eating and it's difficult when you are not able to do things as you'd probably like to I know and given the prognosis that you've been given you probably think to yourself 'why bother'… well you are worth the bother. Making each day count and feeling good about yourself both mentally and physically is sooo very important.
Look to others for support at home just as you have here. Asking someone 'Can you please…' takes so much effort (I know I'm an independent cuss lol) but at the end of the day, despite it all you will still be you whether you ask or not, maybe a happier you because you did.
Sorry to babble on here but you are worth the effort to give yourself a wonderful day… if it's one more day or 1000000 more days you are still worth it.


GabbyPA 2009-03-29 09:36:36 -0500 Report

Yes! Judy is so right...you are worth it. We all are. Isn't it amazing that we always tell ourselves that we are not.

rbergman 2009-03-29 09:22:06 -0500 Report

First I would say…you've proven them wrong once, 3 years longer than expected IS a big deal. You did that, you can do this!!! If someone else does your shopping, make a shopping list with more veggies and fruits instead of tv dinners and junk food, as you said. Check to see if there are any support groups near you. Do you have any sort of public transportation available to you, or something like a "Handy Bus" for those who could otherwise not get out and about?
You cannot change everything all at once and it isn't easy, I know, but, little steps towards healthier eating can still help.
Are you able to do any sort of exercising at all, walking maybe? If you cannot they do have exercise routines from a sitting position for your legs and arms.
I cannot begin to say I understand your situation because not having experienced it myself there is no way for me to understand it completely. I did however give up on taking care of my diabetes for quite some time and only recently changed my way of thinking and decided to get back on track. It is very frustrating because now that I am actually trying and working on getting my numbers down by eating right, exercising and taking my meds, I'm still out of control as far as my numbers show and it makes me want to give up all over again but I won't… I have to do this or else…is what I remind myself every single day and many times a day.
I also wonder if you would possibly qualify for some sort of home health care, where someone comes into your home and cooks and cleans for you, some do it only a few days a week others every day, is this something you can check into for yourself. If someone could come in and cook for you and prepare the meals ahead of time then all you would have to do is heat them up, much like tv dinners only better foods.
These are just a few suggestions I have and you may have already tried them all and I'm sorry if that is the case and I was no help at all.
I wish you all the best,

GabbyPA 2009-03-29 09:16:15 -0500 Report

Do you have a friend who goes shopping for you? If so, then have them bring you healthy foods instead of junk foods. That could be a start. Many grocery stores offer online shopping and even delivery now a days, so you can choose for yourself healhtier options.
There are tons of things you can do in a microwave. Maybe get a cookbook for microwave. That might help reduce the TV dinner thing. Those taste pretty crummy anyway.
If you have a friend who can prepare some things that you could freeze. Like soups and stews. Even prep up a few entree meals that you can just pop in the freezer. A lot of us do that for ourselves to keep us true to what we are eating.
This is going to sound mean, but it is intenede to help...no more pitty parties. You should be thrilled that you have lived longer than the doctor said, and now get on a mission to prove him wrong again and again one day at a time. Put a little fire in your heart. (and I don't mean heartburn!LOL)
You have come this far by not taking very good care of yourself. Just imagine how you will feel when you ARE taking care of yourself. I see that smile....

LadyDi - 26259Miller
LadyDi - 26259Miller 2009-03-29 06:36:42 -0500 Report

Life can be tough, can't it? I am so sorry about all that you're dealing with. Hopefully you have relatives and/or friends that provide you with support and assistance. Living alone (divorced), I find that I have lost much of my desire to cook, so I tend to do whatever is quick & easy. (I still work too.) I'm on the go, so it's not always convenient to eat properly. I do a better job at times than I do at other times, as is the case with most of us, I'm sure.

I'm not sure why you're not cooking much, but I sense that it might be because of health reasons, since you say you are "unable" to cook for yourself. Have you considered looking into something like Meals on Wheels? No idea what their criteria is, but that might be a resource for you.

Again, I pray that you have someone to assist you and do your shopping for you. You certainly do need food in the house, and do need to be taking good care of yourself.

You might check with the local hospital, and your doctor, to see what type assistance is available to you in the areas where you need help. God bless you.

lipsie 2009-03-29 03:23:02 -0500 Report

First I am truly sorry that you are going through all of this. Now, to me it sounds like you need some outside help like a case manager or something to help to learn to cook, shop, get around, etc. Do you know how to get a hold of any organization of that sort? Now, do you not know how to cook? Or just don't like to? Or a little of both? Cuz I am a little of both..lol If you don't mind, are you type 1 or type 2?

lipsie 2009-03-29 03:25:43 -0500 Report

You have me very concerned because you mentioned quite a lot there. Do you have family or friends involved also? I know I am asking a lot, but I am TRYING to think of ways to help you like you've asked okies? I will be back in a while to check on ya. Take care. Sheila

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