Do I belong here?

By lipsie Latest Reply 2009-04-11 22:24:58 -0500
Started 2009-03-26 17:18:47 -0500

I find some people here can be I will be nice, very diturbing to me. I know I have issues and am FAR off from others BUT I am here for help, support, ideas, etc. I dunno, maybe I am in the wrong site? Please give me feedback cuz a lot of you have got a idea of what I am like…am I in the wrong place cuz these people that put me down, I dunno I just am not strong enough some days for it and it just makes things REAL bad. Thanks! Love ya all! Sheila

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Two painful feet
Two painful feet 2009-04-09 00:44:23 -0500 Report

I just wanted to say I enjoy your enthusiasem and openness. You lift my spirit every time you post. I wish that there were away we could live close to each other. I know we could be best of friends.

Your Friend JoAnna

lipsie 2009-04-09 09:20:29 -0500 Report

Awww, ty VERY much and I wish so as well!! Love yassssssssssss so much! Sheila

lois hutchins
lois hutchins 2009-04-09 12:51:49 -0500 Report

U belong HERE with all of us!!!
I read your dissusions and I am learning from them.
Please STAY
JESUS loves U,and so do I/WE!!!!

Judycee 2009-04-08 10:23:55 -0500 Report

Why would you think you should not be here am I missing somethig, I havn't been on here very long but most of what I have read has been great

Lanore 2009-04-08 06:48:57 -0500 Report

Why do you question this?? OF COURSE you belong here, we all do. The ones that should not be here are the ones that cause the trouble. Are we not ADULTS here, lets act like it ppl!! I love this site, but not the crap that seems to go around every once in a while.

roshy 2009-04-08 06:13:08 -0500 Report

I think everyone has gone thru this stage of feeling "do i belong here" i know i did but stay and learn and contribute as much as you want!! this site belongs to all of us so ignore the insults and negativity and embrace the information and friendship!! x x

ELLEN1948 2009-04-04 16:49:00 -0500 Report

glad your sticking around like they say there are a few in every bunch that trys to make everyone misserable.

lipsie 2009-03-31 05:24:12 -0500 Report

Thank you all for your support, I am definately sticking around! There are too many good people here, great support, great informatio, etc. Nah…ya all gotta deal w/ me,lol Thank you all though on the real. I totally appreaciate it!! *Hugs* Love yas! Sheila

Anonymous 2009-04-04 17:09:26 -0500 Report

i am glad your sticking around there is not that many new people here i am a recent diabetic i was diagnosed in jan. i have learned a lot reading ,it is nice to know that other people have the some of the same problems with this.

caspersmama 2009-03-30 11:15:20 -0500 Report

Please stay and just ignore those that put you down. They must be having problems that are far greater than we know and some people are just by nature mean. I too have had problems and have had many talks with John. I am type 2 for over 14 years and I still find things on this site that have helped me or giving me inspiration. Most people on here are truly helpful and nice. And they want all of us to succeed. But as you read more and more posts and discussions they will stand out on their own and the "others" will too. I now just ignore the "bashers" and the put downs. Also, if I am feeling bad or down during the day I will not post anything for awhile in case my post comes off as critical or mean spirited. I wish all of us to be happy and have great numbers today. Please stay and you will find most of us can be here for you to ask your questions and we will provide you with what has worked for us.

Frustrated mom
Frustrated mom 2009-03-30 11:09:23 -0500 Report

Sheila, I think that you are in the right place, please don't leave. I am sure others do not mean to put you down..All in All this really is a great site, there are so many caring people, maybe the ones that put you down you just need to ignore. Please think about it…


JessEli 2009-03-30 09:00:33 -0500 Report


Like everyone else, I suggest that you stay on the site. You have asked some questions that I have found very helpful. I am newly diagnosed as well and am always coming up with questions and fears. Those who you eel are putting you down may simply have forgotten what it is like to be newly diagnosed and scared. Please don't let the opinions of a few speak for the majority!


lipsie 2009-03-29 01:49:23 -0500 Report

Thank you all very very much! I do appreciate everyone here who has been supportive for Ty n myself. There is NO way I could leave, LOL I love you all WAY too much, I really do! I am truly addicted here inno, maybe too much but at the moment I am okay with it, aha…I have a excuse…Doctor is making me stay off my knee and basically do nothing. Not that that that's the case, cuz Sheila cleans the house, Ty cooks, I won't live meessy. He will help but he's got school that I am pushing him to do, two not broke fingers..but they bandaged up, and ELEVEN teeth just yanked out so we just work together I guess. Okay, rammbling, sorry get my point love yas Sheila

alwaystryin 2009-03-29 09:45:04 -0500 Report

My word,thirteen teeth gone, at once, about a month ago. I go tomorrow to try on my first set of uppers!

lipsie 2009-03-29 20:18:43 -0500 Report

yeah, he JUST had them taken out, and now it seems he could have a dry socet…not sure yet though. First set of uppers eh? Yeah, I have a full set of dentures, I just hardly use them. Sheila

lipsie 2009-03-31 05:19:37 -0500 Report

Everytime I try to get use to them, I don't stick w/ it. It's just getting use to them I think, not sure really though. Sheila

lois hutchins
lois hutchins 2009-04-09 13:03:19 -0500 Report

whenI first got my uppers,I had them put in the same day
though it was painful I endured because of vanity.The thought of going around toothless for 6 weeks was more than I could bare(bear). Now after 15 yrs.I gotta do it all over again!!! lol diabetes and teeth(another dissusion)
keep me on my toes girls!!

roger 2009-03-28 19:11:59 -0500 Report

this reply is for every one!!!!!
some of you may have seen the discussion i started to bring att to the people putting others down. the discussion was taken down after a talk with john. the way to bring att to this is flag as inappropriat. this way they can see who is doing what and take care of it!or copy and past what bothered you and send it to john letting him know where it is posted.then sit back and talk to the rest of us hope this helped ?

Ashalka 2009-03-28 14:09:57 -0500 Report

Hang in therenand try not to let it bother you, remember that those who spend time being negative are the ones with a problem not you. Always ask if you want to know because the only stupid question is the one NOT asked.

BeckyJ 2009-03-28 13:18:20 -0500 Report

You have brought such great conversations to the forefront that we would all be sad to see you go. Sorry that you have had some negative comments here. Just remember that most of us are genuinely thrilled to have you here and want to be of help. Hope you and Ty are both doing better. Stick with it girl. Gotta have someone "real" here to talk to. LOL

GabbyPA 2009-03-27 07:25:53 -0500 Report

Every Schoolyard has a bully or twol

It breaks my heart that things like this keep popping up. This is a GREAT site, and I love being here. I have forged some great friendships here that I hope to keep for a life time. I have learned so much here that has really saved my life. Anyone who wants to learn, whether they have diabetes or not, should be welcome here.

Then there are the "others". LOL Some people just have to make others feel bad to make themselves feel good. So when you run into that you have a choice to make.

A. Argue with them and raise your blood pressure.

B. Kill them with kindness understanding that maybe they are having a bad day too.

C. Ignore them and just move on. Avoid their posts or reading their comments.

Don't let other people badger you. Find that confidence in yourself. Then you won't get too high on compliments or too low on critisism. Just know that you are a valuable person here, and have much to share and give.

Now, if they are exceptionally beligerant and attacking you. Let John or Amy know about it in a private email. They have helped many people get some stuff straightened out. But usually is just fixes itself.

daniel velazco
daniel velazco 2009-03-27 18:35:08 -0500 Report

Sheila, This the place for you to be. I hve ben t2 for 25 years and have learned a lot from the people on tis site. You don't only learn but the support you get is great. Just don't pay attention to does few, don't let them get to you. We enjoy having you here.

lipsie 2009-03-27 18:40:35 -0500 Report

Well thank you very much, I appreciate that. I will be sticking around too. I wsa just having a weak moment with someone and it'll be okay, I can handle this. Thank you again! Sheila

lipsie 2009-03-26 23:19:15 -0500 Report

Thank you ALL! You all are right. I guess I needed that pep talk to help get myself together per say. Somedays I just am not emotionally strong and its hard but I WILL NOT let him bother me like that, and I Know you are reading this so you may as well get used to me. Nice try, didn't work cuz I'm NOT going anywhere!
Again, thank you all soooo much, I really needed this! Sheila

dyanne 2009-03-27 02:21:17 -0500 Report

Sheila I have no idea what happened but dont let anyone make you leave. Maybe they should leave !!!!! You are a good person and dont let anybody upset you thats not what we are here for. So just dont pay attention to negative people… thats their problem…
Hugs dyanne

Robert C. H.
Robert C. H. 2009-04-05 20:30:31 -0500 Report

Sheilia, I have been a member of this site for about a year,And have had a few run ins with what I call ignorant people.I filled out my profile as honestly as I could, and was told it was a mistake because, people with nothing too do with there time will use it against you,I on the other hand want people ttttto see who I am, what I have gone through,and if they see somting that relates to what they are going through, then I am here to talk to.I will try and give support, friendship and and share my problems,and hopefully give support to those who need it from me. This site has helped me in many ways, and all in all the people have been very generous with there time,The ones that feel that they need to feel superior, should find another site that will show them just how stupd theyare. stay with the site and benefit from it as I have Sincerely Robert

2009-04-06 23:57:45 -0500 Report

Robert, you are SO right!! I've filled in most of my profile, probably opening myself to a barrage of insulting comments, but ya know, I consider the source.

roger 2009-04-07 16:39:14 -0500 Report

just a side note if some one replys with some thing you do not like or made you feal insulted just flag as inappropriate . and the site will check in to it . it worked for me

2009-03-26 21:42:48 -0500 Report

Please don't leave, the site would lose a great addition.

People who attack people on this site have nothing better to do. You are a wonderful kind hearted soul, and you bring with you to this site, a ray of sunshine, so please don't let some idiot run you off


2009-03-26 20:49:46 -0500 Report

I get so angered by this type of thing happening that I want to scold someone, but I don't know who's doing it so I can't and wouldn't anyway.

Sheila please just ignore whomever it is that is bothering you, that kind of behavior isn't worth your time. You are better than that. You hold your head high and ask whatever questions you want to ask here. Those of us that are here to help others and to be friendly will always be here for you regardless of the behavior of some.


alwaystryin 2009-03-26 21:02:33 -0500 Report

And at the end of the day remember, you are that much stronger for being joyful of another day to be you, that what appears to most to make you weaker, only provides fortitude to make you shine.

2009-03-26 18:31:16 -0500 Report

Lipsie: I, for one of many, don't want you to leave. I, too, have gotten aggravated at some of the things that have been said, but I have learned to overlook it and go on. There are too many nice people on this site as well as too much good information to lose out on if you were to leave. Ignore the negative people!! Concentrate on the positive.

rbergman 2009-03-26 18:19:40 -0500 Report

As in life, there are those that disappoint us on the site. Although I am sorry to hear that you have been made fun of here. I would also add that don't let a few bad apples spoil the barrel as you said we all aren't that way and again as in life we have to take the bad with the good and learn to overcome. It isn't always easy and I too have had issues on this site, but it isn't the site doing it , only a few select people. Nobody gains a thing by running people away from the site and why would that make anyone feel good to know they did such a thing, so I say…Hold your head high and don't let them get to you. If it is someone on your friends list you can send John a private message and he will remove them from that list as he has said he would do in the past if someone is being rude to someone else. I would hate to see you go and let them have the satisfaction of knowing they ran you off!

alwaystryin 2009-03-26 18:36:32 -0500 Report

I want to be clear. And without looking closer at the numbers, it is now estimated that 48 million Americans are without medical insurance. And last I heard, more than half that number are suffering from this 'illness'.

It is not in my mind an illness, it is a disease. And one that carries with it a profound impact on INDIVIDUALS.

But let me also reference the 'ripple effect' associated with the economy. And there will always be the unknown factor that will, and can, expose this fact. When a Family is faced with this, it is overwhelming.

If I sound vague on this, it is only because this effect has to my satisfaction, not been explored.

This is not a typical Supply and Demand issue with economics as we know it. This is not a new issue.

But if we do not have this type of forum to explore what needs to be done, without the negative, we will not have a chance of having the opportunity to be engaged..

And if that happens, we can loose touch with the 'prize'. And if those whom may portray a negative persona, attitude, or suggestion, not only here, but in life, have no other outlet, than maybe so be it.

alwaystryin 2009-03-26 18:10:19 -0500 Report

I have been a friend of this site for only a week or so, but this disturbs me. I have no other interest here than to gain knowledge. But what I have found in this short period of time are people, ideas, suggestions, but most of all, exposure to more information.

If I were to be a mean person, I would ask you for those whom might have given you the wrong vibe. I then would first ask them, what their intentions are?

Mt first inclination would to ban them from further activity on this site. But I would first ask them to explain why they are here in the first place?

bigjrm45 2009-03-26 18:01:31 -0500 Report

Hello Lipsie we all try and help each others out some times we are right and some times not, it's the same way in most families ,if you don't get along whit your sister at home are you going to leave home or work it out? we all get pat's on the back when we are good and put down when we are wrong,believe in your self and let negitive stuff roll off,the only one you need to make happy is you. stay around and be happy,cause we all need each other James

lipsie 2009-03-26 18:09:20 -0500 Report

Thank you very much, and yes you are right. I just get frustrated and have had a high stress level lately. Thank you very much. Sheila

2009-03-26 17:45:45 -0500 Report

Sheila, my dear girl. You are open, honest, and you know I love you to death. I too am here to learn, not get into a fight with somebody that has nothing better to do. This site has more than helped me. The events of today have NOT helped me. In all these months here, this has only happened one other time. The people who are serious about this site are friendly, nice and helpful. You will find a few bad apples on this site or any other site. You have a lot of friends here who need you, including me. Don't get down, this will pass. Hugs my friend! Angie

2009-03-28 10:42:32 -0500 Report

I am sorry but I have also taken my share of harassment and did everything to protect my privacy; even change my profile and name. Yet the harassment was not averted.
My husband got an email last night that joked about my change(obviously already found) and started up again. I now know I have to fully delete my profile and existence in order to save face at my home and to get any peace from harassment.
I will write John right away as he told me this was an option. Sorry to say that you are the only people I talk to. and I am very upset about doing this, but I must for my own sanity.

lipsie 2009-03-28 13:08:04 -0500 Report

Now this bothers me so dearly. I hate to see you go, well you probably are gone already. I am staying strong though its not always that easy I know. Sorry to hear this Good luck to you though. Sheila

jsd2005 2009-03-26 17:42:19 -0500 Report

This is a great site to gather information regarding diabetes and the people are so friendly. Don't leave.

P2putt 2009-04-08 09:28:15 -0500 Report

I have only recently joined this Community . I enjoy and have benefited from the comments of FRIENDS and articles.

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