Teenagers & Stress

By Ainjel Latest Reply 2009-03-27 01:33:43 -0500
Started 2009-03-26 10:02:11 -0500

My brother was just put in the phsyc ward the diagnosise was not able to deal with stress I think it is an act to get attention!!!!! Any oppinions????

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lipsie 2009-03-27 01:33:43 -0500 Report

My son was a patient in the pysch center at one point, he REALLY needed attention though. Like they all said its so hard to help you cuz its not clear whatcha mean. I really hope things work out well for you though, good luck. Sheila

lipsie 2009-03-27 01:27:07 -0500 Report

That is just suck a remarkable story. You and your son have gone trhu so much, and now look where he's heading, great job for the both of you!

rbergman 2009-03-26 18:48:57 -0500 Report

I have to agree with a few others here as well, we cannot come to any sort of definite answer for you, nor would I attempt to try, without knowing your brother personally. Stress is not something you can just look at a person and decide whether they are truly stressed or faking it.
Personally my stress level has gotten so out of hand at times that anger takes over and I have done things I NEVER would have done, unfortunately I also didn't realize it was an issue until it was too late and the anger took over and I did something I regretted after the fact.
I would suggest to you however, instead of pointing fingers and accusing your brother of faking it to get attention to be supportive not negative, whether it is real or an act by you treating him as if he is lying for attention it could prove to make things much worse. Be a loving sister and keep your thoughts of it not being real to yourself and don't direct the negativity toward him. Just my opinion, take it for what it's worth.

My oldest son was in a horrific car accident a couple years ago, he nearly lost an arm and a leg and his head was split open from forehead all the way across the top and down back of his head…88 staples. He was the only person in the vehicle that had a seatbelt on and the only person not ejected from the vehicle, and the only one that had to be extracted with the jaws of life equipment and the only one flown by emergency helicopter to a hospital capable of taking care of his injuries. He stayed in the hospital much longer than the other 3 involved and then was transferred to a rehab center to learn to walk again and to use his arm again, they replaced his knee cap that was cut off with a prosthetic one and his all the bones in his upper arm had to be removed and replaced with rods and pins and mechanics. They had to put him on a blood pressure medication because his stress level was so high it was affecting his body. He was 17 years old when this accident occurred. His whole stress level wasn't because of the accident, but because of what his injuries meant, no more football, no scholarship to college if he couldn't play any longer and no education without the scholarship, granted the accident was the root cause of his stress but it was the future being altered that stressed him out the most.

rbergman 2009-03-26 19:02:01 -0500 Report

I should have finished my son's story. After he was able to return to school he was a year behind so therefore he was not able to graduate with his classmates from high school. He worked hard and was able to make up the credits and will graduate this year. He also found a new passion, cooking, and has since decided he wants to be a professional chef. As a result of his hard work he was accepted into a major culinary institute and will also be doing an internship on a disney cruise ship as a chef apprentice. I am very proud of the fact he was able to overcome the many obstacles including the stress he felt because he thought life as he once knew it was over.

2009-03-26 19:08:02 -0500 Report

Robin, I am so sorry you and your son had to endure this. I'm very proud that he fought his way back and is now a Chef! That's awesome. My ex-husband played professional football and lived in pain every single day. I think he's much better off as a chef! Can you send him to cook for me? You know I'm very limited in that department! Love n hugs, Ang

rbergman 2009-03-26 19:12:46 -0500 Report

To heck with him cooking for us, I just want free cruise tickets! LOL
Actually, yes, I am glad for the career choice change as well. Sure he was excellent in football, but cooking was something he always dabbled in anyway and he said it was a no brainer once he realized his football days were over. The only bad thing…for me not him…is there won't be any more visits from him for the entire summer and I will miss that time with him, but he is becoming a man and it is time to let him lead his own path.

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LadyDi - 26259Miller 2009-03-26 19:12:30 -0500 Report

Both a terrible and wonderful story at the same time. The human spirit never ceases to amaze me. What a guy. But there's no doubt in my mind that much of his success can be credited to his parents as well. You are so supportive and loving with Laura, and I know you are the same with him. What a horrible experience for anyone to have. You would have to worry if he was NOT overwhelmed and depressed. But it looks as though he just grabbed up his lemons and plans to whip up lemonade! God bless him. A truly inspiring story.

There are so many gripping stories from people on this site. One cannot help but be amazed at the things that we are forced to deal with in life and how we - hopefully - find the strength and courage to persevere and get through it.

rbergman 2009-03-26 19:16:19 -0500 Report

Something else about him that some don't know, at age 9 he had a brain tumor and developed epilepsy. On Valentines day just weeks after he turned 11 he was pronounced cancer free and eventually even the epilepsy went away once the tumor was gone. Jason had to grow up at a very young age and I know it has made him a better person because of it. Laura is a lot like Jason, once she makes up her mind thats just how things are going to be. Yes I have to take some of the credit but, we as parents can only lead it is up to them to follow.

roshy 2009-03-26 15:13:38 -0500 Report

Teenagers area totaly different type of species altogether!! if he has been admitted there is high chance he does really need to be in the psch ward, they wouldnt take him in for the fun of it if you know what i mean.
Every teen deals with stress in different ways and some deal with it in less productive ways. Your brother needs attention form professional medicals who know what they are doing, if he is seeking attention they will know about it after all this is what they have trained for.

Support him as much as possible and hopefully he will gain the strenght he needs to recover. Best of luck to you and your family.

BeckyJ 2009-03-26 12:24:20 -0500 Report

I have a cousin who a couple of years ago went through something similar. She was under a lot of pressure to do well on some final exams and SAT was coming up. She desperately wanted to do well because she knew it would affect her college acceptance. We thought she was overeacting when she claimed to be so stressed. How much stress can a 16 yr old have? Well we were wrong. She ended up in the hospital with a bleeding ulcer. After talking with her school counselor and close friends we got a clearer picture of what exactly it like for a teen to deal with these issues. They may seem minor to some but to them at this juncture in their life they are BIG…life and death big. I would suggest talking with his Doctor's to get a clearer picture. It may be a bid for attention yes, but why take a chance. The teen years are when a lot of psychological disorders come to the fore-front. Speaking from personal experience I was 15 when I first started having serious depreseeion but was 27 before I was diagnosed as bi-polar. Compassion and sensitivity are crucial right now. Also this has obviously caused you some added concern. Be careful to monitor your stress and don't become too overwhelmed. Wishing you both the best and Praying that your Brother is doing well now that he is getting help.

jsd2005 2009-03-26 11:43:48 -0500 Report

I'm not sure what you are asking. I hope you don't have to much stress. It's out of your hands. Pray and hope for the best.

LadyDi - 26259Miller
LadyDi - 26259Miller 2009-03-26 11:02:13 -0500 Report

I'm not sure what you're asking. None of us know your brother at all, or anything about his personal life and situation. There's no way we could possibly respond to your question as to what's going on with him. I'm sorry to hear about that, however, and would hope that his family and friends would be supportive and understanding…help him deal with whatever it is that is causing the stress (seems to be teenagers). Teenagers can and will cause stress…no doubt about that.

Be patient. Speak with his doctors. Try to learn more about what's going on and how you can help him. We live in an extremely stressful world today. Way too many of us are crumbling under it.