deppression on top of it all

soda lover dan
By soda lover dan Latest Reply 2009-04-04 09:39:46 -0500
Started 2009-03-25 20:42:56 -0500

I am a49 yr. old male. I was diagnosed with diabetes on my 47th birthday,Also high blood pressure.I,m also a smoker, (but trying to quit),I,ve started Chantix last night.I like a few drinks now and then after work, but knows what it does(beer)to my sugar,and blood pressure. I,ve read where people have gotten depressed after learning they got diabetes.I know diabetes+high blood pressure+smoking is like playing russian roulette.I,m starting not to have the zest for life like I've usually had. I kinda don't believe in depression, it's just a form of feeling sorry for onesself.I do understand certain cimcumstances like a death in the family, or a breakup with a loved one. I,ve been thru those and other life changes that i,ve madse it thru, but I've never thought that getting diabetes would depress me. I mean it helped change my lifestyle so far for the better as far as exercising, eating habits,and stuff like that, so why would it bring me down? I figured it would only make me stronger.I do worry though, and some days I don,t even wanna deal with my disease.I would appreaciate comments on what to watch for, or anything to keep myself from feeling sorry for myself.Thank You

18 replies

Antique-Dave 2009-04-04 09:39:46 -0500 Report

Dan, everyone gets depressed but if it continues too long it can become a serious problem in your life and affect the quality of your life.

I spent 2 years on antidepressants and in counseling when I was 44 and although I fought it going in initally, once I started the medication and counseling I was able to get my feet back up under me, learn some new skills and was able to get off the meds.

This winter though was my worst time for depression in a long while, and now I attribute it to the Diabetes because just in the past 3 weeks now since I've been making changes I have more energy, and am more focused.

I would really suggest that you learn a little more about depression and if it does not subside that you call your local Mental Health Clinic for an intial appointment. Most services are on a slidng fee scale based on income if you do not have insurance.

Your GP will probably just give you an anti depressant, thats not enough, you have to work with a counselor and take charge of your treatment or it won't give you the results you want.

JessEli 2009-03-27 10:42:32 -0500 Report

Hey Dan,

I was recently diagnosed in January and am still struggling with everything. Granted, diabetes is not a death sentence but when you are first diagnosed you feel so restricted that it feels like it might as well be.

Are there any support groups in your area? We do not have any here and I am considering starting one… Just a thought.


daniel velazco
daniel velazco 2009-03-27 20:43:49 -0500 Report

Dan, I know how you feel, There are time's I get to the point where I don't want to test but I know I have o control
my BG. My wife and daughter are t2 also so we have a good support system going. s it was said take to your Dr. and let him know how you are feeling. This is not a death sentance, my mom and dad were
both diabetic and they lived long lives.
My dad lived to be 99 and mom lived to 92. So just hang in there and you will get to the point where it all fals into place. I wish you the best.

lipsie 2009-03-27 02:34:39 -0500 Report

I deal w/ depression all the time, even before my diagnois. I know you question if it is real, you are feeling it right? Anyhow, like everyone said though at first you will have a phase to go thru and maybe things will feel better but in my opinion if not, like jd said seek professional help, maybe a medication could help you, that is if you are willing to go there…be open minded, its okay. Good luck! Sheila

jsd2005 2009-03-26 17:53:04 -0500 Report

Depression can be totally disabling. It's difficult to explain, but a general overall feeling that overwhelms you. It's a hard ti figure out and even more difficult to conquer. Life consequences effect you consciously and subconsciously.
Seek help.

alwaystryin 2009-03-26 17:52:05 -0500 Report

The last hospital visit for my Wife uncovered many things. Firstly, it was one of the most surreal experiences of my recent memories. But specific moments stood out. One of the MD's went into a monologue forever about smoking. He was rude, condescending, and flat out had no curbside manner, let alone bedside.

Point being, smoking. Blood vessel restriction, Blood Pressure, whatever.

I'm out on this, because the experience made me grow an extra layer of skin.

Did I mention that both my Wife and I have smoked for 60 years between us.

alwaystryin 2009-03-26 17:45:15 -0500 Report

I have been a 'Technologist' for almost three decades. I say this only because my sense of 'logic' forged by those years has allowed me to use this serial logic in many aspects of my life.

My Wife was admitted from an ER because of massive nosebleeds that would have horrified many. After the Triage and tests were done, and the methods used to diagnose what was going on, it was found that T1 was an (unrelated) diagnosis.

Anyway, the point is as was so profoundly told, at the end of the day, you will look yourself in the mirror and say I am the ultimate solution to all the bigger issues in my life. Because when we tackle the bigger issues first, all the others seem to fall in place much easier.

God bless, and he will…

2009-03-26 17:24:04 -0500 Report

Hi Danny… I can relate with you, I was diagnosed with Type 1 in December. I didn't know what diabetic even meant. I don't have one family member, parents, aunt, uncle or cousin with diabetes. To top that off, none of my friends were diabetic. I remember being in the hospital and the harsh talk the doctors gave me about how serious this was. I still couldn't believe it was that bad. I left with a meter, a few syringes and a script for insulin. After about a month of the daily routine, I literally wanted to scream. I don't have a history of depression but I can tell you, I became depressed and mad. I couldn't understand why, at 43, boom, diabetes. I lived a healthy life style, still can't figure out what went wrong. Now it's almost 4 months later and it's easier. I would prefer NOT to be diabetic, but I've accepted the fact that I am and I want to live a long life. I can't understand how people like Debe and Richard can be so positive, living with this all these years. But, they are and they give me strength and hope. You'll be okay. I was feeling really sorry for myself but have gotten past that. You will see, it does get easier and you don't have to stop every single thing you once enjoyed. I'm learning to mangage it better and I'm better because of it. Hugs to you! Angie

jsd2005 2009-03-26 10:32:37 -0500 Report

Diabetes control can get frustrating. The goal is to control it and not let it control you. Take control and learn as much as you can. Speak with educators if needed. You are doing a good job.

Momto3 2009-03-26 10:00:27 -0500 Report

Hi Dan, I was just diagnosed last week as T2 and it is already a bit overwhelming - reading labels, turning down cocktails, sore fingers etc. But is that really a reason to want to quit? This should be a challenge for you - it is for all of us - and believe it or not you ARE stronger for having admitted your feelings and asking for help. The one person you may want to talk to is your doctor and explain to him/her what's going on and they may have some suggestions! It may be as simple as a med change…if you are on more than one they may be causing this reaction without you knowing it - it's your body, your mind and your spirit - please don't let any of these be broken by this!

LadyDi - 26259Miller
LadyDi - 26259Miller 2009-03-26 10:14:27 -0500 Report

Welcome to the world of diabetes. Although not a place you would choose to be, I'm sure, you seem to have a good attitude and be up for the challenge. I wish you much success.

As a side note, and with respect to Dan's comments, don't be surprised if at some point you become discouraged and experience the "burnout" that many of us have. After years of dealing with it, we sometimes just feel like not dealing with it…just saying to heck with it. Most of us soon recover and get back on track. So if that should occur, remember that it is normal. You'll soon be back to doing what you're supposed to do and feeling better.

LadyDi - 26259Miller
LadyDi - 26259Miller 2009-03-25 22:35:31 -0500 Report

Hi Dan,
All of the comments made thus far are right on. There are other good discussions that have already taken place on the site, so you might want to check some of those out as well. There are some folks on here that are dealing with more than I can imagine having to deal with, and with such bravery and grace - real inspirations.

You'll find, too, that folks on here will tell you not to expect that you will ever be perfect - not slip now and then. That is perfectly normal and to be expected. We've all done that at some point. The thing is to begin again tomorrow, and to pick yourself up each time you fall and keep working at it.

When you consider the complications that lie before you should you not make an effort to take care of yourself (loss of eyesight, limbs, etc.), I believe you'll see that doing without some of the things you love just is the better choice and makes the most sense.

While doing the things we're told we should do to control our disease, I also think it's important not to become consumed with the fact that you have diabetes. Read and learn, try to work on diet, exercise, etc., but don't just dwell on the fact that you are a diabetic. Keep doing the things you love to do. Don't shut yourself off and worry. As much as possible, think positively and remember, as you'll hear folks on here repeat time and time again, your life is not over…just changed. As you said, you're already eating better and exercising, trying to stop smoking, so you're on your way. You may have to start over a time or two (or 3) to get on a roll, but you can do it. Will you be perfect? Not likely. Will you never experience problems? Not likely. But don't stop trying. It really does become less of a hassle as time goes by.

Best wishes and blessings as you deal with this. Don't be too hard on yourself for feeling down in the dumps now and then either. Also very normal. What matters is that you climb up and out of that dump and keep on keepin' on.


2009-03-25 22:20:02 -0500 Report

I think you have reached a point that we all reach called 'Diabetes Burnout'. I've been there, I think every one has to some degree. Now is the time to step up and challenge yourself too get off the 'pitty pot' as I call it and see what life has to offer. I know it's tough, I just quit smoking myself, still trying to lose that last bit of weight, eating right, and exercise. All the things that help us to manage this disease but you know what? it's ok to say it sucks, it's ok to feel sorry for yourself but only for a little while. Then once you grieve for whatever it is you think you are losing remember what you have left and pull up your boot straps and get back in the saddle.

You'll do it, I know you will, I did, been there done that a couple of times now… but each time it gets less and less time and each time it's easier to pull yourself back up. Sometimes I think in all the 'do this, do that, take care of yourself', it gets forgetten that despite Diabetes and all we need to do everyday.. we are still human with wants and needs and desires and fears… Look at the man in the mirror tonight.. He is your best friend. he'll tell you what to do. :)

Hang in there

rbergman 2009-03-25 21:58:53 -0500 Report

I too gave up on my diabetes care at one point, I first started telling myself, and everyone else, it was because I couldn't afford to take care of it right so why bother. In February of this year our 7yr old daughter was diagnosed Double Diabetic, she is consider T2 right now but they feel she will be T1 before long. In September of 08 she was diagnosed with Hypothyroidism, then came the diabetes, then she was diagnosed with Addison's Disease at the end of last month. She was my wake-up call and is my inspiration. I now take care of my diabetes because of her, I can't very well expect her to do the right things for all of her diseases if I myself don't take care of mine. I don't know that I ever became depressed but Anger was a constant friend of mine when it came to diabetes. Because I had a lapse in judgment and didn't take care of my own diabetes for so long I now have other issues that are linked to it, some of these may have happened to me anyway but I know they came on quicker by my not taking care sooner.
This site was also a wake-up call for me, to know that I wasn't the only diabetic that ever gave up and made mistakes and had tantrums and all the other emotions that go along with being diagnosed with a lifelong disease. I come here for support I can't get elsewhere because of where I live there just aren't any support groups within 100miles of me, but I have DC and the awesome people that are here to listen and give advice and not judge me for what I have done in the past as far as my diabetes is concerned but encourage me now and in the future.
None of us are perfect, I too am a smoker, I don't drink alcohol but I never did before diabetes either, never found an alcohol I liked the taste of lol. I still cheat on diet at times and I don't exercise as much as I should, the weather and my location have something to do with that part right now but that should change soon too, well the weather part not the location.
As the others have said, we are here for each other and we may not always agree on our opinions but at least we are all willing to give them and receive them.


Debe Pendice
Debe Pendice 2009-03-25 20:55:36 -0500 Report

Dan, This is my personal opinion. Don''t get mad at me but I am going to give you tuff love. First this is my saying I live by daily: YOU can control diabetes, don't let diabetes control you.
Next diabetes is not a death sentence unless you don't listen and do what you want to do. Yes, it a new lifestyle but can be managed. It has to be had to start at the age of 49. Little experience of my own. I started at 6. I have had diabetes 46 years now. It was like a death sentence back then, but modern medicine has made it livable. I had a below the knee amputation went in to renal failure. Did my time on dialysis, and had a kidney transplant. Who would of thought 46 years ago I would be here today and have a second chance to live and be living with someone elses kidney. So Dan, its hard to adjust to and you have wonderful friends on this site like me, that are willing to help get you through this. I am here anytime you need a shoulder. It is scarey to new diabetics . It was scarey for me as a kid and I just grew up that way so I know no difference that living with diabetes. Take a deep breath, relax and we are all here to get you through this. I just want you to know you will get through this.

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