By DonnaAnn Latest Reply 2009-03-21 21:44:31 -0500
Started 2009-03-19 06:06:53 -0500

Some people just thrive on competition. and I am one of them! I have learned that my recently new X-husband is trying to loose wieght. I already have lost some. But, now, I want to loose it like never before!
For those of you who find divorce a bit extreme for a motivation (nor do I advise it!), might I suggest that you find a freind, like you neighbor or perhaps someone on this board, and see who can loose the most, the fastest. Or make a goal for the both of you. Once you have reached your goals, go out and celebrate. Go shopping for something new like clothing, shoes, something you really want.

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jsd2005 2009-03-21 21:44:31 -0500 Report

Whatever motivation moves you. It would just be nice if it ends in a positive for you. Divorce is difficult. Having been there I know and unfortunately, bitterness can motivate you, but in the end it still leaves you empty. good luck.

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LadyDi - 26259Miller 2009-03-19 12:05:58 -0500 Report

People are motivated by different things, so it is important to recognize what motivates YOU to take action. Competition is certainly one good way to get motivated, as are little "prizes" or gifts to yourself along the way. When it comes to losing weight, or any self-improvement endeavor, you have to get to that point where you are truly ready to commit to it and JUST DO IT.

When it comes to our health, unfortunately it is often fear that motivates us to do a better job of caring for ourselves. But that's okay too, as long as the outcome makes you healthier. Fear can also depress you and overwhelm you and make you give up if you let it, and that certainly is counter-productive.

Good luck to all of you as you work to better yourself in any way at all. Sometimes it's just that first step that is the hardest (or the first few) - then you're on a roll!

GabbyPA 2009-03-19 10:48:13 -0500 Report

There is a small group of us here who do this already. I guess not really on a competative basis, but I do think that no matter what you always want to loose the most. LOL We do it based on 15% of boby weight at a time and per our quarterly visits to the doctor. So each of us has a different amount, but the same percent. It is nice to know that someone is out there doing the same thing as me, and we share our ups and downs in the diet and exercise posts.

roger 2009-03-19 08:33:24 -0500 Report

the x must be recent? try to leave him out ? that is the reason for him being x i got an x wife 20 years ago and if i was in comp with her i would hace gone coco long ago . stick with the friend thing for your health and mind !

lipsie 2009-03-19 07:33:06 -0500 Report

Its always great to have something to push for, other than you just should, like you said, I am the same though to a degree so I can sew why you are doing this, just remember though, in the end though…you really are doing it for yourself…not him! Good luck! Sheila