Motivation Comes From the Heart & Soul. This time I need To Go Deeper

markjohn1
By markjohn1 Latest Reply 2009-03-16 13:15:31 -0500
Started 2009-03-09 23:20:55 -0500

I have written about this subject so much. I have lectured about this subject over and over and I live it day to day. That subject is MOTIVATION.
I host a radio show where I tackle it daily and even with kids I talk about being motivated with what we have and how to deal with it daily. I have some kids calling me up or texting me. Some chat with me on the site. I have adults also contacting me and I love being there for everyone, but what happens when I need it like now.

Today I ran into the most upsetting, depressing, bizarre incident ever. I received an email where first I was declared a jerk and then it was said to me, I'm type 2, I'm not interested in most of the efforts to cure diabetes, as I am quite sure it is not curable." Now as a type 1, I was so upset and ready to do war, but ever loving Patti, my wife said leave it alone and write about your feelings and what was said. Get others take on it and make sure it isn't just the way many type 2's feel.
Well Patti, as much as I love her isn't diabetic. She knows how much this hurt me and how deep I felt it go in but to be a diabetic and hear tis just goes deeper then anything has ever gone. To be called a jerk, isn't as bad since I know for a fact I have been called worse in life, too many times to count. Plus I know the person I am and what I do for the people I care about.

At this point I am just deep in thinking about this but was asking for opinions from all of you out there. Like I said, I am usually the one giving the advice, this time I am looking for some and opinions on how you would handle it.

I look forward to your answers.

And by the way if I can ever help anyone with motivation as I usually do please ask. I would love to be helpful to someone.
Mark


19 replies

2009-03-12 23:35:33 -0500 Report

Mark,
I feel what you are saying, your wife isn't diabetic, neither is my husband. They love us beyond compare, but they are there. We love them for caring so much they bother to bother with us!

As for calling you a jerk, that my friend, is what I call, "doing battle with an unarmed person". Anger is an ugly thing, and attacking someone because they angry is really kinda foolish, what are they to gain by this? Surely not winning friends and influencing people, eh? Consider the source, and balance the good emails and this ONE.

I look in the mirror every morning, and see a very special person, ME! I figure I was given this for a reason, whether it's good or bad, I've yet to discern. But I try to make it a positive thing, like it makes me eat somewhat better, makes me wanna beat the odds with every step, and everytime I test and get a good number, I smile, because I've won at least ONE battle! I may not win the war in the end, but hey, I'm givin it one HELL of a fight, and that's what we all are in the end, FIGHTERS!!!!

markjohn1
markjohn1 2009-03-13 01:00:39 -0500 Report

Thanks for the encouragement. You are so right about it all and the days have passed and I have calmed down, to a point. I used my hosting the radio show to let off some steam the other night and get the final feelings out in the open and that helped. Now it is past and time to go on and fight the war. Everyday it's a war of wits isn't ti in dealing with this thing. It never is the same, which makes for an exciting life is how I look at it now. Never boring and always something to look forward to tomorrow or even a minute from now.
I thought living back east was something where the saying was wait 5 minutes the weather will change. I only have to wait a minute somedays and my entire world changes.
Talk to you later and than you
Mark

Blooter
Blooter 2009-03-16 11:31:37 -0500 Report

Hey chin up buddy there is one thing that is incurable and that is peoples ignorance…they alone have the cure to it and most don't want a cure. What you are doing far outweighs his comment. I was just attacked by one of those ignorant people who leaped before thinking and jumped to some rather weird conclusions, but you have to consider the source and let it go. Your motivational input is far more important and does so many people good that you can't let one bad apple spoil the whole cart. Go forward, knowing that what you have is a God given talent that is special to so many. Thank you for you special kind of help.

markjohn1
markjohn1 2009-03-16 13:15:31 -0500 Report

Thank You.
I have moved on and doing my normal thing which is helping others. I wouldn't let that stop me. It bothered me but it wasn't going to stop me from doing what I do. I always try to see the best or in this case I tried to settle the problem only to get called names and threatened So I walked away with my head high knowing that I was the better person for not going down to that level, but in the same breath I have never backed down from a fight and this was hard given the circumstances.
I thank you and I won't quit or give up. You will see me continually going at it and motivating others.
Mark

JClover2262
JClover2262 2009-03-11 22:25:28 -0500 Report

Good for you!! Without motivation, we can become overwhelmed with so many negative and destructive behaviors… Especially having diabetes. I am also a type 1 diabetic and I have been for 45 years. I can totally understand why you are so upset with the person with the negative attitude towards a cure for diabetes. They DO NOT understand how it is to have dealt with the disease for the majority of our lives and the side effects that it has on our whole bodies. Type 2 diabetes in my opinion could and would be unheard of if we as a society would take care of ourselves. I could go on and on but, I won't. I am experiencing a lot of health problems right now and most likely will end up having to have a feeding tube surgically implanted because of the stomache problems I have. If people could only understand they would have a little more compassion and desire to find a cure and most of all, WANT TO FIND A CURE!! I loved your article by the way!! God Bless You Richly!!

In His Love,

Vicki

markjohn1
markjohn1 2009-03-11 22:33:13 -0500 Report

Hi Vicki,
Thank you very much. Sometimes I can get a bit long winded. I did tonight on the radio show I host. I got back into type 1 and 2. I gave everyone the low down from my heart that diabetic is diabetic. Type 1 or 2 you are still a diabetic. End of story. Sorry to hear of your situation. I know I am not there and I am sure you keep hearing he same thing that ,someone wants to help, so all I can say is that if you need someone to talk to that gets pumped up often as you can see and loves to get others pumped up, let me know. I love a challenge.
Good luck and keep in contact.
Mark

Gabby
GabbyPA 2009-03-11 19:43:37 -0500 Report

Motivating the motivator, that is sometimes a hard thing to do. I bet if you look at the 100's of great emails and thank you's that you get every day, this one will melt away. It is so upsetting when people attck anyone for any reason, and it is usally stupid and usually the other person's problem.

Patti may not totally understand the "diabetic" end of things, but she understands the human end of things...and that is what it all boils down to. That person is feeling no hope, and needs to lash out at something, someone...you are out there, heart on your sleeve...easy target. That person probably doesn't even know the extent to that which they pain themselves with that kind of thinking.

It is also a painful reminder, that even among us, those who suffer with this disease, there is a LOT of misinformation and lack of education. It can become a "hopless" disease, because it is so daily, and every moment of the day sometimes.

When people get ugly with me, and they do. I just turn on the "nice" machine and kill 'em with kindness. It ethier softens them up, or makes them mad enough to leave me alone. Either way, good will win.

Keep up the great work. You do make a difference, and for some people, that is what makes them mad, because they know they are doing nothing.

markjohn1
markjohn1 2009-03-11 21:23:22 -0500 Report

Thank you Gabby,
I know Patti can feel what I feel. She come to know me so well, my ups and downs. Sometimes better than me. She'll come running in and know I am gong low when I won't admit it being the MAN I am.LOL. That's when I shrink down like a little puppy and than her for caring. Without her I would have bottomed out for good.
This woman just attacked and attacked over and over I finally walked away being threatened that if I didn't she would go on the web and let everyone know I am a jerk. So I walked away leaving her to her own hell.
Sorry but that isn't me but in this case I had too.
Thanks again and I am glad you responded
Mark

gma
gma 2009-03-11 18:35:38 -0500 Report

I have type 2 and only weigh about 133 and what really gets me is when they tell you to stop eating the sweets it will all be better!! if they really understood what we have to go threw my feeling is type 1 or type 2 we all still have to make changes in our life but at least I can say my choices with being a diabetic are betterones now and I will live alot longer with my healthy choices then those who make fun of my diabetes

rbergman
rbergman 2009-03-10 19:34:31 -0500 Report

As a Type 2 with a daughter currently Type 2 I have issues with people "putting down" Type 2's whether it is meant that way or not, for instance, a mother of a Type 1 at my daughters school had heard through the grapevine that our daughter was diagnosed with diabetes. She, (as so many other do) assumed that Laura was diagnosed Type 1. Now I know that it used to be the "norm" that if a child got diabetes it was ALWAYS Type 1. Well, I corrected her and said "No, she has Type 2"… and before I could say another word she pops off with, well, they do say overweight kids are more at risk for that"…I again corrected her politely and said " Laura has 3 autoimmune diseases and diabetes is only 1 of them, she gained weight because her Thyroid was the first to go causing the weight gain rapidly, although she is Type 2 they suspect she will be Type 1 because the antibodies are still attacking her pancreas" She shrugs and says " Well just hope she stays a Type 2 because it isn't near as bad as Type 1" and walked away.
Here is my problem, OTHER than the fact that Type 1 is a life of insulin with no other med option HOW is it worse than Type 2????? Type 2 can go blind, need amputations, need transplants, have highs and lows that eventually they don't feel the warning signs of AND we can't just eat whatever we want then bolus for it, so HOW exactly is Type 2 better than Type 1?
This always burns my butt that people think Type 2 is NO BIG DEAL and that we brought it on ourselves because of weight issues. Why are there tons of commercials that talk about Type 1 but none for Type 2?? We didn't ask for this disease anymore than a Type 1 asked for autoimmune triggered Type 1 yet everyone feels sorry for a Type 1 and want to blame a Type 2 for getting it.
These are just my opinions but I know I'm not the only Type 2 that is tired of the stereotyping of us as the FAT PEOPLE DIABETICS.

markjohn1
markjohn1 2009-03-10 20:36:45 -0500 Report

You are so right. Last night on the radio show I told everyone that diabetics either 1 or 2 are still diabetics. It doesn't matter whether you are skinny, fat or anything else. If you are a diabetic, you are a diabetic. No matter race, creed, or anything else type 1 or 2 we are a diabetic and that's that. Now if people can't understand that then they need to go back to diabetes 101. Then if that doesn't work I don't know what to do.

My thin is simply this, we are all equal as far as I am concerned. Whether you take insulin or just oral meds we as diabetics face the same fears and hope and pary for a cure from this hell.

momwith juvie
momwith juvie 2009-03-11 18:08:30 -0500 Report

i am with you on this one.type 1 or 2 is horrible to be diagnosed.unfortunatlly i am one who was diagnosed with type 2 because i am "fat".lol.but you all are right type 2 have the same chance to go threw what a type 1 can go threw.the problem is ppl are one minded who dont know about the different types.my son is type 1 but i will continue to fight for all who have it.diabetes is one,and if you know about it you dont seperate we are all one just fighting to survive this hell of a battle.

Judimar
Judimar 2009-03-10 02:36:30 -0500 Report

Hi Mark,

First I want to thank you for always being there for people, even people who call you a jerk or worse. I am glad you aren't afraid to ask for encouragement and motivation yourself. Often people in that position may have a hard time asking or accepting help.

There is any number of reasons this person maybe feeling the way they do. Perhaps they were recently diagnosised and striking out in anger. Perhaps they themselves are pessimistic in nature and are resentful of anyone who is positive and reaching out to others. No one knows the reasons why this person has reacted so negatively to you, and they may not be willing to share the reason with you. Simply put, it is up to you whether or not you decide to communicate with him/her. If you decide to answer I know you will continue to be encouraging and supportive, but please remember that it is up to the other person how they react to you, just as it is up to you how you react to them. You can try to educate them more but they may chose to remain with their own beliefs about diabetes.

Trust your instincts, Mark. I have a feeling that they will not lead you wrong when it comes to how to handle this. And listen to Patti. I think she gave you some great advice. She herself may not be diabetic but she lives with one! :) She may not walk in your shoes, but she walks beside you every step of the way and she loves and supports you.

As for how other type 2's feel, I can only speak for myself. I do not feel the way this person who wrote you feels. I am interested in how the fight for a cure is going. Even if it turns out this disease is incurable (and I don't think that is the case) we will learn better ways of managing it. What harm is there in trying to cure it? Knowledge is power.

I wish there were more people like you in the world. People who care and want to make a positive difference in other people's lives. Please don't ever stop being you. This world needs more love and kindness.

Sincerely,

Judi

markjohn1
markjohn1 2009-03-10 11:02:41 -0500 Report

Thank you Judi. I am glad to hear how you feel being a type 2. I guess in some ways I can understand some people felling this way but in another way I don't. I go on my radio show 4 days a week to make a difference in adults, I spend another day on the radio talking with kids and I don't say say anything about type 1 or 2. This is the problem with so many people and communities on the web. One community deals with type one the other with type 2 and they can't seem to find a happy medium.

I think both diseases need to be treated the same. They are both harmful to us and they both need to be deal with now not tomorrow.

I see people who can't get insurance help for both diseases. It doesn't matter. I started as type 2 and was completely re-diagnosed at type 1 weeks ago but the problems still are there for either type.

Thank you for your support and I will never give up the fight that I have started. I will keep going till there is a cure or I can't do this any longer.

Mark

momwith juvie
momwith juvie 2009-03-10 17:18:49 -0500 Report

all i have to say is thank you for being there for anyone.my son is type 1 and it is hard.people can just be bull headed.as i will qoute my son,they will cure type1 ,it may not be in my life time but it will happen.so u can tell people that came out of the mouth of a 9 yr old.he has lived with this for 5 yrs know,he is legally bling in his left eye,glacoma in his right eye and know we found out his liver is failing due to medacation he was put on.he lives everyday better then i do.he is my sunshine and i think any one who can call u a jerk needs to look in the mirror.(sorry how i feel.)continue to do what you do .thank you.

markjohn1
markjohn1 2009-03-10 20:37:34 -0500 Report

thank you and maybe you can come on line one day and speak on the radio show or join the community and be part of us also

markjohn1
markjohn1 2009-03-11 21:24:35 -0500 Report

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