Cheating/Sneaking

rbergman
By rbergman Latest Reply 2011-03-07 13:50:18 -0600
Started 2009-02-28 10:02:03 -0600

As many of you know Laura was recently diagnosed Type 2 ( 22 days ago) and put on a strict diet. I found out 2 things on Thursday from the school. First, at lunch they left the cookie off of her lunch tray and I later found out she had gone back to the kitchen to get her cookie (that she knew she wasn't supposed to have). Second, for being a participant in the Spelling Bee all the kids that qualified got a candy bar, including her, and she of course ate it.
What I would like to know is how each of you deal with Cheating/Sneaking food? As I said I know we are just getting her going with all of this and I know it's a lot to take, especially for a child. Any suggestions on ways to approach her about the cheating and sneaking without scolding her and having her resent me and the fact that she has diabetes? Nothing I try seems to work, she cries if I try to explain she can't have this or can't have that or can only have a small portion of this or that and it kills me to make her cry but if I give in it isn't doing her any good either. I'm so frustrated.

~Robin


7 replies

Beverlydolls
Beverlydolls 2011-03-07 13:50:18 -0600 Report

Aww bless her heart!!!! I bet it is so hard for a child to having diabetes… it is hard for me not to eat sweets… we all do get frustrated too cus we trying to cope what to eat or not to eat…I just hate seeing kids has illness now days when i was a child i never hear any kids having what kids has now days.. it is just soooo sad! my 16 yrs old was born with heart problems… so it is hard to see a child go threw illness…Too bad that schools dont have something for kids that is sugar free for us diabetes. To make her feel good…

2009-02-28 14:24:17 -0600 Report

I'm not going to be much help on this since I don't have kids, but I do have a suggestion (question). Have you talked with her teacher about her condition? Maybe they can help montitor her and the school can come up with some alternate snacks, or "prizes" for her. I'm sure she isn't the only child in the school that is either diabetic, or has some other medical issue as to where they should not be eating these types of foods.

firefightermom
firefightermom 2009-02-28 11:31:44 -0600 Report

we count carbs and my daughter eats a well balanced diet but we also include some sweets into this plan. While some kids eat 20 cookies she can have 3-4 with her meal or a candy bar she can have one that diabetic diet thing did not work for us no child wants spinach and whatever for lunch!! If you compare any "diabetic sweet food" to the regular kind you will see they almost all have the same carb count I have found some things that actually have more carbs in the "diabetic" one!! It works for us and she doesnt feel left out of anything or deprived and she doesnt sneak things.

rbergman
rbergman 2009-02-28 11:36:11 -0600 Report

Yes I found that "fat free" can actually have MORE carb grams then "regular" food, so what is the point in that?? We do okay at home but that's because I'm here with her and she hasn't figured out how to cheat/sneak here (hope she never does). But at school it's more up to her to not cheat/sneak because nobody is watching over her, or, like in the case with the cookie, the head cook fixes her lunch tray and leaves off what we previously decided on, but, if she goes to the kitchen and finds someone else to ask, she's gonna get that cookie. And granted I don't feel its every adult she comes into contact with at school's responsibility to keep her in line so to speak, but controlling her BG at home doesn't work if she isn't doing it at school.

Amy Togtman
Amy Togtman 2009-02-28 15:09:17 -0600 Report

Hi Robin,
I have tried those Jello sugar-free pudding cups they r only 60 calories and 1 fat gram. I like the duche de leuche vanilla sundea. It's vanilla pudding with like a caramel topping. They r delicious! They do not taste like they r sugar-free. I think Laura would like them. The only thing is , is if she wanted to take one to school to eat at lunch u would probably have to buy an ice pack and put it with the pudding cuz they need to stay fridgerated. That's just something she might like to try. Cuz I also do not like to not be able to eat junk food especially sweets!

Gabby
GabbyPA 2009-02-28 11:18:54 -0600 Report

I don't know in dealing with a child. That has to pull at so many heart strings.
I know when I was first diagnosed, I took out some obvious things right a way. But I kept some. I worked on it a little at a time, eliminating by testing to see what my body did. You may also find that there is a "forbiden" food that she doesn't react to, and it can be allowed. For me I love icecream. I tried a lot of variations and eventually found that plain vanilla with some chopped walnuts and cinnamon on it worked great. I was so happy to keep on thing amongst all I had to forgoe.
As she learns what her numbers mean, and tests for feeling good or bad...she will begin to make the connections. It is not going to be easy or smooth, but I know the more you tell her "no", the more she is going to do it behind your back, and that is worse than doing it where at least you are aware.

There is such a balance of learning it all, and it is all so new. In the begining for me, the more I thought about what I couldn't have, the less I wanted to try. So I focused on the things I could have and do, and that helped me a lot.

Maybe she would be willing to trade something so she could keep a favorite snack? Perhaps when you offer her a choice...like 1 cookie or an apple with peanutbutter...a 4 pieces of dark chocolate versus 1 hershy's kiss. There are ways, if you work them out together with her, perhaps she will feel it is her decision and choice too, and stick to it better.

Mean Granny
Mean Granny 2010-06-12 23:19:15 -0500 Report

My doctor told me to reward myself, when I stuck with my diet. If I wanted that candy bar then have just one or one snack size. Just try to understand most of us felt the same way scared and hurt not sure what's going to happen next

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