Annoying questions/comments diabetics get:

By pancreas_fail! Latest Reply 2009-12-30 12:13:47 -0600
Started 2009-02-22 11:45:52 -0600

This started from a post at the diabetes mine site about AAD, ambiguity about diabetes.

I'd like to hear what other people have to offer. Here's a regurgitation of my post there:

My list of annoying conversations/questions in no particular order:

1) Just because I’m diabetic, my feet won’t fall off.
2) Yes I’m diabetic and not fat. It happens.
3) Yes I’m diabetic and not old. It happens.
4) No, don’t give me insulin when I have low blood sugar. Please don’t give me CPR either.
5) Because I’m diabetic does not mean I need to eat candy all day.
6) Just because you know someone with diabetes who eats junk food all day doesn’t mean I should.
7) No I don’t wear special socks.
8) Yes I’m aware of sugar free candy. I’m also aware of the affects on my bowels. I appreciate the offer of sugar free candy, but would rather just have a piece of regular candy and bolus myself.
9) ….and the candy is “sugar free”, not “diabetic”. There is no such thing as “diabetic gum”.
10) No the finger pricks, needles, infusion sites don’t hurt.

Anyone else?…

61 replies

tweetynj62 2009-12-30 10:40:27 -0600 Report

Thanks for all the comments, quips and stories. I'm sitting at my desk, giggling out loud. Can't wait to share some of these with my mom and sister-in-law this weekend, both of whom are also T1.

Sarguillo 2009-03-09 18:50:59 -0500 Report

The one that makes me laugh is "its sugar free, you can have all you want" (said with the best and un-knowing intentions).

pancreas_fail! 2009-03-11 21:17:23 -0500 Report

That's when I show them the back of the package, "Excess consumption may have a laxative effect." Then I explain that it should read, "If you eat more then one you will shart yourself. Bring extra underwear before you eat this."

tira 2009-02-26 06:13:54 -0600 Report

1. i'm eating my fav foods ( biscuits/cookies/bread), and my friend will ask, " i thought diabetic patient couldnt eat that?"——> "err…*
2. i'm overweight,n both my sisters r not!
3. "she couldnt eat that pity her, do u need fruit/ or anyting unswetened?— cmon for once , being a diabetic doesnt meand I CANT EAT what other ppl eat!
4. hv u injected urself?
5. why didnt u bring ur insulin pen?? were going to the cafe~
6. i dont wana eat, for ive eaten, and my fren will ask " u dun wana eat?, said ur gonna join us for lunch?

roshy 2009-02-25 10:06:01 -0600 Report

myself and a few class mates were talking about diabetes today!! well icouldnt resist!!

they were all very aware that i had dibetes and starting askinhg me the usual questions

so i started off slow, you know the usual " a condition were people must try and keep blood sugars under control" and all that jazz.

Then the conversation got a little deeper and the personal questions came out " so how do you find your diabetes and how did they discover you had it"

I stopped and then smiled to myself and thought well im gona have some fun with this one!!

So i said wll i was 16 and went to the hospital with a pain in my side. The doctor done a few blood tests and could tell by my appearance that something wasnt right.

Then i added did you know "Type One Diabetes is mostly common in young very attractive and intelligent people??

The three girls just slightly nodded their heads from side to side and eventualy said "no i didnt actualy know that"

he he he!! well that put a big smile on my face as i laughed to myself as i walked to the next lecture!! its amazing what things you can do tho amuse yourslf with!

GabbyPA 2009-02-25 14:31:46 -0600 Report

There you go sad they fell for it, even if for a moment. LOL

Debe Pendice
Debe Pendice 2009-02-26 01:49:22 -0600 Report

Roshy, Good for you!! I am the type of person that likes to leave comments like that and just let that person keep guessing…Debe

2009-02-26 05:43:57 -0600 Report

Roshy, you and Ken(Meridian) could have a laugh out match. Where do you people get your sense of humor.
My brother is a quick responder, but I am more like Gabby; never can think of great comebacks often enough.
For me, they have usually moved on through three subjects while I am still thinking of a comeback on the first.
I wish I had all the quick with I see

GabbyPA 2009-02-24 09:09:13 -0600 Report

I wish I had your quick wit when I hear stuff like that. I read the whole post and laughed my butt off. Good ammo here, thanks!! I hope I never have to use it, but I am sure I will.
Yeah, education is the best...but if they are going to be jerks and say stuff that they know nothing about, then have at it. Totally different if they ask, then if they tell.
Thanks everyone for a good laugh. Oh, and yes. Passing on diabetes is WAY better than passing on Stupid! LMAO

jsd2005 2009-02-24 02:06:52 -0600 Report

Yes. I agree. People tend to stigmatize diabetics in general. It i something that is out of our control and we do our best to manage what we re dealt with. Good for you for verbalizing what many say and feel. Many who don't have a clue to what it's all about.

These things are assumed and said and just don't apply. The old saying "walk a mile in my shoe, ring true here."

I understand your frustration. Be proud of yourself for voicing it.

SkipT 2009-02-23 19:49:58 -0600 Report

Yes, the questions can be annoying; but I actually take this as a change to really explain what diabetes is all about to the person asking the question. Remember the only really dumb question is the question that isn't asked.

sparkysmom 2009-02-23 20:26:11 -0600 Report

I'm with you Skip. When people say things that aren't true I try to explain the reality to them. I find most of the time they just had their facts wrong. I have the same problem with my Fibro. A lot of people have said "Oh That's what Drs say when they can't figure out what is wrong with you." I just try to explain to them.

2009-02-24 06:36:19 -0600 Report

I am with you; I have phlibosis, and people do not understand that either, but can see the swelling and lumps.

Ian P
Ian P 2009-02-24 10:32:30 -0600 Report

I have been diagnosed for less than 1 year and being an information junkie, and having a big mouth, I have found the best way to stop people asking stupid questions when you tell them you're diabetic is to launch in to a diatribe in minute detail using as many medical and technical terms as possible until their eyes glaze over, then I just keep talking, sometimes just making stuff up to annoy them.
This only ever happens once with each person.

2009-02-25 22:26:55 -0600 Report

Ian, you are SOOOOOOO right, when people ask how my pump works, I launch into the technical stuff, and by the time I get halfway done, they have lost interest. By that time, they are distracted, and smiling and nodding. I could tell them that at this point, and elephant is going to come through the door, and they would accept it!

dyanne 2009-02-23 00:19:00 -0600 Report

I have some things said to me when they find out Iam diabetic. Oh isnt that serious cant you go blind or loose a
leg if your not careful??? Just what you want to hear !!!! I think most people mean well they are just a little stupid !!!!

pancreas_fail! 2009-02-23 19:17:16 -0600 Report

Yes, those are the most common responses. I can only guess as to why that happens. It comes down to a lack of education about the subject, but why would a non-diabetic need to learn about diabetes? Really I guess it's more about the person just not thinking before they speak… if someone told me they had lupus (of which I know nothing about), I wouldn't spout out something off the top of my head…maybe I'd ask something along the lines of, "Oh, I don't know much about lupus, how does it affect you?"…just a simple genuine amount of concern.

Well I feel like I'm rambling…

roshy 2009-02-24 06:26:53 -0600 Report

I agree!! i wouldnt make a swift negative statement like

"isnt that the disease where you eventually go blind or loose your legs???"

I would treat it as a sensitive issue/discussion and ask a neutral question, one that wouldn't offend or upset anyone. Even a small attempt to empathize wouldn't go a miss!! i know its hard for people to relate to conditions like diabetes but being polite and open minded to another human being is something we should all be able to manage as an adult!

2009-02-24 06:34:22 -0600 Report

Even would be nice if people, instead of being afraid or alarming; would say "Remember that I am your friend, if you need me just call", and if they are not close friends, if they react out of caring instead of fear would be great.

roshy 2009-02-24 06:41:51 -0600 Report

yeah i agree!! i think because we have the condition ourselves we are more able to relate and deal with the subject and others alike in a more sensitive manner. kinda like
"an elephant that grew up in a chicken house will be able to act like a chicken better then other elephants!!"

2009-02-22 20:04:01 -0600 Report

Here's a couple for you:

My oldest sister is pissed at ME for having diabetes, because she's afraid SHE will get it now!

Before a holiday, I get a call about what 'special' food they should make. And there's a whole table full of sugar free jello, yay.

The best one is:
Them: Is that a huge beeper?
Me: No, it's a device that delivers my
anti-psychotic meds, and the
batteries have gone dead.
Them: Oh.

Another one, whilst I am on a roll:

You shouldn't have tattoos, ok.
I have 42 and still am alive.

rbergman 2009-02-22 20:19:16 -0600 Report

Our 10yr old son, Wade, has heard a lot of the conversations about genetics and diabetes in the family and so he wanted to know if since his little sister got it if that meant him and his older brothers (half-brothers, 2 on hubby side 1 on mine) were "safe" from catching it. For a 10yr old this wasn't an ignorant question by any means. Adults who have the same mentality about it have no excuse though.

roshy 2009-02-22 17:09:03 -0600 Report

i have friends like that who think just because i dont feel like goin out its automaticaly got to do with my diabetes. It hasnt got anything to do with the fact i dont feel like it or i just dont feel like it!!

and then theres the people who will offer you chocolate or sweets and then quickly pull back and exclaim

"ohhh gosh i completely forgot you have diabetes, you cant eat sugar ooh dear what was i thinking!!!"

Well for starters id like to think i could decide for myself whether i would like the chocolate or not and then is the dramatic show necessary??

rbergman 2009-02-22 17:57:25 -0600 Report

Life is like a box of chocolates…you just can't have any because your diabetic!! LMAO

I'll repeat what I've stated before that my father always said…
The old phrase… " It takes all kinds" my father would add "No, there just IS all kinds!"

Thanks dad, this has been proven time and time again.

Debe Pendice
Debe Pendice 2009-02-22 16:59:22 -0600 Report

This happened to me right before the holidays last year. I went to a party with my friends. Some guys walk over to us, and said to me why are you such a party pooper. I said "What are you talking about," He said your not drinking or having fun. I said I am having fun! My friend said shes a diabetic. Oh, he said. The kind that has to take shots and eventually will lose a leg and go blind and problably need an organ and then die? I said yes, I take shots, lost my leg 12 years ago, got a new kidney 2 years ago, but maybe next time I "see" you, if I am not blind, maybe you'll be a recovering alcoholic. We all laughed…

roshy 2009-02-22 15:49:09 -0600 Report

ahhhh!! i feel your frustration!!
I have an aunt that causes such a fuss about when i have to eat or what i have to eat. She treats me as if im a special case but doesnt realise that i can clearly take of myself !! She parades my diabebtes to everyone

Oh roisin cant have that she has Diabetes


Oh Roisin will have to eat now because she might go low"

Roisin knows what she can and cant have and would wish you would just take care of yourself !! i am quite capable of talking out ! !

rbergman 2009-02-22 15:57:54 -0600 Report

Wade, our 10yr old son, says to me the other day that one of his friends said they felt sorry for his sister because she can't drink regular soda, that she would die if she couldn't have her coke, Wade says he told her he didn't feel sorry for his sister because she gets to miss school and it doesn't count against her and she gets to go to the city alot! lmao… out of the mouths of babes.

roshy 2009-02-22 16:10:19 -0600 Report

ya see i dont really mind when kids make those comments!! But its teens and adults that should no better then to say something like that!! Those comments are are just completely pointless!! I know people who still say

"Oh my god how do survive without chocolate"

It just shows how mature and understanding they are.

I had a biology teacher once and she pulled me up over eating a glucose sweet in class (i was trying to treat a low) and she made a big deal about it and eventualy realised i was eating it for a reason. The following week the class was having a party and infront of the whole class she announced that she bought me a special bag of glucose sweets for me to have for the party because diabetics cant eat normal sweets !!Now she was supposed to be a biology teacher and she expected me to eat a bag of glucose sweets so i could join in with the party!!! what the hell!!

i hate that comment

Oh you have diabetes, !!! you dont look like you have diabetes!!!

Well what do diabetics look like?? i never got my special diabetes badge or label when i left the hospital!! really annoying though at times!! ahh but you have to laugh!!

pancreas_fail! 2009-02-22 16:39:05 -0600 Report

Yeah, they should remake "The Scarlet Letter", only with a D. Hester Prynne (sp?) could be a diabetic that eats candy.

Makes me think of the "she's a witch" scene from The Holy Grail".

rbergman 2009-02-22 16:51:14 -0600 Report

Lest we forget the ever popular…If you knew you were at risk for diabetes why did you gain so much weight to cause it…umm hello????
I MUST admit I was one of "those" people who would look at heavy set kids and wonder why their parents allowed it to happen, why didn't they just control their kids' diet…then my daughter went from 57lbs to 111lbs in 4 months because her Thyroid stopped working…needless to say I don't think that way anymore, now however, I do tend to look at overweight kids and wonder how many of them could have a similar condition as my daughter (the thyroid one not the diabetes one) and it isn't detected because sadly now-a-days overweight kids' are becoming the "norm".

rbergman 2009-02-22 15:38:35 -0600 Report

And I wasn't going to post this one because it pisses me off more then ANYTHING I've ever heard in my life…
After our daughter was diagnosed and I had heard the old myth that "Children just don't get Type 2 Diabetes" a thousand times over, someone that works at our kids' school had the balls to ask "Why would you have kids if you knew YOUR diabetes is genetic?" OMG!!!! You know all the old comic books of batman and the likes where you see the words BLAM, WHOP, THUMP and such…I sooooo wanted to make all those noises come to reality. Instead my reply was…" If every human being that has some debilitating condition was afraid to have children because it "might" be passed along YOU probably wouldn't be here to question me about my having children." She gasped like she'd been shot and before she could say another word I continued with " What's the matter, cat got your tongue..I hear that's contagious too among people who are truly ignorant about Diabetes." and I walked away.
Mean girl strikes yet again!!!

pancreas_fail! 2009-02-22 16:36:58 -0600 Report

yes, foot to the head, THWAP

I have replied to that exact comment:
Me: "Why did you have kids?"
Them: "What do you mean, I'm not diabetic?"
Me: "But you're stupid, aren't you worried your kids will be stupid like you."
Them: "You're an ***hole"
Me: "No doubt, but I'm not stupid."
Them: They walk off

I think I was in a bad mood that day. =)

2009-02-22 23:12:46 -0600 Report

You are someone that I need to know!!! :) Love the sense of humor

DiabetesDiva 2009-02-24 10:49:03 -0600 Report

Good for you! I can't have children due to endometriosis since I was 18 (I'm now 58). The worst is You don't like children? I look really really sad and explain I love children and why I don't have them. There's an awkward pause and the person rapidly changes the subject.

Anonymous 2009-02-23 04:58:45 -0600 Report

What about those people who are not honored to know their genetic make up, or their family history. Is it fair to even call that out? How wrong, and how rude.

I was raped and single, and had a daughter because of it. Does that mean that I was stupid and should have aborted her because of the risks.
I thank my lucky stars everyday for having her; Her life has gone far beyond my hopes and dreams; she is a true treasure, and I love her more than Ican say.

By the way; I did not hear of my moms diabetes until I was about 38, and she was diagnosed and treated 2 years for depression before they found out they were treating the wrong thing. Doctors can be stupid, too, but does that mean all doctors'. He was a small town family doctor, from the old ages,lol.

pancreas_fail! 2009-02-23 19:11:29 -0600 Report


I think we were only referring to people who think that we (diabetics) should not procreate for the sole reason that there is a greater chance that our child(ren) would have diabetes.

Anonymous 2009-02-24 06:30:33 -0600 Report

I understand, all I am saying is that whether I knew or not; if I had gotten pregnant willingful or not, never would have given up the chance to have my daughter

MeiMei 2009-03-09 12:00:00 -0500 Report

I have t1 diabetes. I have a family h/o t2, and parkinson's disease (yes folks it can be genetic). Does that mean my parents should not have had the three of us (myself and my brother and sister)even if they had known they had the genes? Yes I think dumbness can be genetic and it is spreading.

rbergman 2009-02-22 15:30:28 -0600 Report

Let's not forget the all time favorite…Is "It" contagious??
I'd like to reply," no, not unless I sneeze directly on you", then fake a sneeze and watch them run lmao…mean girl strikes again!!!!!!!

roshy 2009-02-22 15:14:07 -0600 Report

ooohhh roisin is going to let rip right now!!

people who are afraid of needles!!!!
If you cant say anything nice don t say it at all!! the amount of eejits who remark when you tell them you need to take four shots a day, and they have the stupidity to say it to your face

"OOh id rather die then take needles everyday like that"


"i dont think i could stick needles in myself like that"

Well they develop type one and when your doctor says you need to do this so you can live a healthy life see would you rather die then!!

Diabetes has made me learn alot about people-

1) they can be very stupid
2) very closed minded
3) and hurtful because of this

But Diabetes made me stronger and come to the realization that these people have a problem and not me!!

I remember when i was first diagnosed (16 years old) a friend wanted to talk all about her dead nanny and how she died of her terrible diabetes!! HELLO !! are you serious?? how does talking about this supposed to be constructive for me!!! you have to learn to hold back and walk away!! i felt like smackin her one!!

I remember being a little drunk once!! my friends were convinced i was low and kept shoving coke in my face!! I hate those people who think they know more about your own condition then you do!!

Oh and one time i was really amused when somebody asked

"When did you catch Diabetes then??"

haha absolutely clueless!!

pancreas_fail! 2009-02-22 16:32:15 -0600 Report

catch diabetes, lol.

Most also seem to think that me drinking Mountain Dew 10 years before I was diagnosed probably caused my diabetes, not the fact that almost everybody in my family has it…wait, maybe it's the water!

roshy 2009-02-22 16:38:09 -0600 Report

oh yeah!! then theres the comments of what caused your diabetes!!

"well maybe if you didnt eat so much sugar you wouldnt have your diabetes!!

After being dianosed with type one my mam once said to me

"ya know your looking very well lately, maybe you dont have diabetes anymore!!

Ah thats just a serious case of wishful thinking!!

2009-02-22 23:11:14 -0600 Report

Oh I heard this one for years from my Mom too.. She's a nurse and didn't want to accept that I have this. She's still in denial sometimes I think.


2009-02-23 20:13:16 -0600 Report

Love it when people say a person died from diabetes! Instead, it should be from COMPLICATIONS of diabetes!

BeckyJ 2009-03-09 11:58:32 -0500 Report

Love it when my Dad's family blames my Mom…Nobody in OUR side of the family had diabetes, must be those bad irish genes. Makes me want to scream. Also get a lot of heck about our diet as kids. Both my brothers lived on the same diet and neither of them are diabetic.

rbergman 2009-02-22 12:04:04 -0600 Report

No, shaving my legs is not dangerous, if I nick myself I do the same thing everyone else does, put toilet paper on it till the bleeding stops, sure I have to watch for infection but it DOES NOT mean they will have to amputate my leg.

Yes, the needle hurts going in but that pain is nothing compared to death if I don't do it.

Yes, a high blood glucose can cause me to be bitchy…wanna see just how much?

No, having sex does NOT lower my blood glucose to a dangerous level, but it does burn calories!

Yes, I can eat everything you can eat, I just can't eat as much of it, so don't NOT invite me to a party just because I'm diabetic.

No, checking my blood glucose constantly is not a pain in the ass…but you are.

roger 2009-02-22 12:52:54 -0600 Report

as far as shaving the leg thing do like i did. stop! then see what they all have to say.hahaha

dragonwar/unicorn 2009-12-30 12:13:47 -0600 Report

ok im not a diabetic hubby is but im on blood thiners and im not suppose to shave but who wants a bearded woman to be there cashier or in bed with them and after a while your legs get so itchy your scarth your self bloody so just be carefull and stop the bleeding with presure and clean it so it dont get effective

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